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9 Ways To Reclaim Your Happiness In Whatever You Do

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9 Ways To Reclaim Your Happiness In Whatever You Do

Its the age of virtual living; you could easily feel defeated and depressed by just watching some pictures of your friends holidaying in an exotic location.  

Sometimes, our motivation to do something could be just to post that selfie on Facebook. Some days, our self-worth plummets because nobody commented on our status, or worse; the status update burgeoned into a war of words in the virtual world.  Even though it is the virtual world, the effects can be very real.

It doesn’t take much to go down the rabbit hole in a spiraling combination of self-doubt and low self-esteem. In this day and age, how do we safeguard our levels of happiness and motivation? Turns out, it can be done through a series of small, incremental changes in your life.

Here are 9 ways to reclaim your happiness:

1. Being aware of physical triggers

Start by paying attention to your body. Many health experts suggest that your mood and motivation levels are in direct correlation with how your body feels. If your stomach is heavy, or you have a nagging backache, its unlikely that you will be highly motivated to go out of your comfort zone and try something radical. So, first step, fix the physical.

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” – Marilyn Monroe

2. Being aware of emotional triggers

Take time to understand yourself. You might be a person who derives energy from moving, or thinking or simply cooking. No one thing is better than the other, so throw comparison out of the window. Avoid things that make you annoyed with yourself. For example, if you feel good after ticking off everything on your to-do list, you should take care not to over-schedule yourself. Try to get all important things in your to-do schedule list-  like “dinner with family”, “30 minutes of long walk”, “time with children”.

 

3. Being aware of your reactions

Develop the mindset to look for fixing the problem rather than fixing the blame.  Most things do not go 100% as planned, factor that skewness in your plan as well.  And once they go wrong, don’t go back to “if only”, ” Why didn’t you?”  Focus on the problem at hand and fix it, not the blame.

 

4. Following a ritual

Science shows that following a ritual can provide an immense amount of stability and grounding.  Also, surprisingly, following rituals increase your chances at good health and more happiness. Families that follow certain rituals are found to have higher self-esteem and better bonding. The best part is, there is no one prescribed ritual. Any ritual that you make and keep will give you the same effects.

 

5. Smiling more

Annoyed? Smile it off! Depressed? Smile it off! Unhappy? Smile it away! But,  we smile when we feel we are in the right mood, right?  Well, here’s something we should know. Studies have shown that frowning less makes you less anxious. Smiling more makes you happier. In short, your external expression feeds your internal feelings.  Which is why,  most happy people seek the company of kids, or music or comics or dancing when they feel the blues. Its hard to frown when you are with a 3-year old or dancing away to glory!

“I am beginning to measure myself in strength, not pounds. Sometimes in smiles.” – Laurie Anderson

6. Dressing the part

No matter how you feel, dressing well makes a huge impact on making it better. Dressing well also does about half the job of getting your audience’s attention. Wearing well-fitted clothes makes you feel more in control – almost instantly. So, take time to groom well.

 

7. Keeping in touch with people who matter

Most people overlook this, but the importance of keeping in touch with people from your past cannot be emphasized enough.  It’s easy to let life take over and lost touch, or just limit interactions to “likes” on Facebook. Studies have shown that friendships increase resilience and can go a long way in countering feelings of depression and disconnectedness.

 

8. Being kinder

Kindness makes better relationships. Kindness obviously makes the recipient happier. That’s pretty obvious! However, scientists have studied the effects of kindness on the brain of the perpetrator and it is shown to increase happiness and a feeling of connectedness and belonging. The good thing is, it doesn’t even have to be material exchange. A gentle email, a call to check on somebody will all leave you feeling happier.

 

9. Making that decision

If you are on the brink of a major decision, putting off that decision can be a major impediment to your happiness. Decision-making is an important skill and the earlier you make that decision, the more enthusiasm you will have to carry out the idea. Most successful people will testify to the fact that making informed decisions require significant will-power and sometimes it’s the most important part of anything- both in personal and professional lives.

“What you do today can improve all your tomorrows” – Ralph Marston

Being aware of these seemingly small things can have a huge cumulative effect on your sense of well-being and self-esteem. The secret to motivation is increased mindfulness and the art of knowing yourself begins with you today.

Which one of these do you need to do more of? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Devishobha is the founder of www.kidskintha.com - a resource repository for creating happy childhoods touching upon two important facets of a child's life- Parenting and Education. Watch out for her soon-to-be-launched merchandise collection, entirely inspired by kids- and their everyday take on life!

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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