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4 Ways Responsibility Can Lead You To Greatness

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Can responsibility ensure greatness in our lives? We are held responsible from a young age to ensure we provide results. From being held responsible to do our homework, then when we grow up we are held responsible to be on time at work, it has been part of our daily lives without us realising.

Bearing this in mind, when did you last hold yourself responsible for your life? We can get back into the habit of using responsibility in our everyday lives to ensure that we reach a high level of greatness.

Here are 4 ways responsibility can lead you to greatness:

1. Be responsible for your own actions

Whatever action we take, we must take responsibility if we want to reach greatness. If it doesn’t go your way then don’t blame anyone else, or outside forces, take 100% responsibility for everything you do in life.

Get obsessive with it, if you’re late for work when you’d normally blame the traffic, realise that if you’d have left 5 minutes earlier you’d have made it. This may sound harsh on yourself, but it gives you the mindset that everything happens due to your actions.

Then when the successful times roll around you know that it was your actions that got you that deal or that raise and it was never down to lady luck. These actions might mean you fail at something but get back up, brush yourself off and learn from your mistakes, don’t shift the blame.

““In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

2. Be responsible for the change you want to see

As Ghandi said “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. There are no truer words spoken. You are the one that can change the world around you, hold yourself responsible to make that change.

If you want to see more positivity in your workplace, then hold yourself responsible to be the most positive person in your office. You are holding yourself accountable to take action and you don’t want to let yourself down.

 

3. Be responsible for your inner voice

We all have an inner voice, this will determine your path in life. Your inner voice will bring up your doubts, fears and insecurities.

Whenever a negative thoughts arises, write it down in a notebook or in your phone. Then next to it write three reasons as to why that thought isn’t true. Use past experiences where you’ve overcome that fear, or how you can overcome that insecurity.

There is a beauty in writing your innermost thoughts down as they become measurable and more importantly manageable. If we nip every negative thought in the bud as soon as they arise, we know we are staying on the right course to greatness.

 

4. Hold someone else responsible for their success

Once you have mastered holding yourself responsible then you can hold other people responsible. A mentor is one of the pillars of success. Be the mentor that holds them responsible and checks up on their success. Have an email conversation every week, holding them responsible for the goals they had set the week before.

People are more driven to deliver when another party is holding them responsible. We learn so much more when we teach subjects, so teach your student how to hold himself or herself responsible and have greatness in their lives.

These four action points will give you control over the direction you want to take in life. We can make a conscious effort everyday to guide ourselves in the right direction by holding ourselves responsible.

“Leaders..should influence others..in such a way that it builds people up, encourages and edifies them so they can duplicate this attitude in others.” – Bob Goshen

How else do you hold yourself responsible? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Chris Targett all about helping people to help themselves through blog posts and online services. He helps people find accountability partners and is a co-founder of Accountability Buddy, where people can find an accountability partner for free.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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