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4 Lessons You Learn About Humility While Ambitiously Chasing Success

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Success is everything but not only about you. It is about people, teamwork and staying humble. Nowadays people respond to your heart. They respond to your generosity and genuine interest in them where having the right sense of humility is the key.

When I started blogging, I thought that I simply write an article and everyone is going to read it because, excuse me, Mrs. Important has something to say. I posted my first few articles, and you know what happened? Nothing. Why should someone come and read it? Why should people be interested in me when I haven’t shown interest in them?

Of course, the quality of the content (product, business, service) is important but being a human and interacting with people and not forgetting where you came from is even more important.

Maybe you are just starting out, and maybe you are fully on the road to reach your goals. Either way, you’ll learn a lot about yourself and the importance of others in your life and why humility has such an impact on the entire process.

Here are 4 lessons you learn while reaching out to those ever wanting goals of your life:

1. Being Humble

As I mentioned at the beginning, people will feel your soul and what’s inside of it, and they will respond. Out there is a countless amount of individuals who made it big and their ego rose to the same proportion. But what in this life is for sure? How do you know that you are safe? When is the time that you honestly know you’ve made it?

I don’t think there is ever a time like it. Shit can hit the fan, and you are back where you started. The most successful people on the Earth have failed big time. It doesn’t matter where you get or how high you reach, you should never look down on others from the top because you were once with them.

“The seeker after truth should be humbler than the dust” – Gandhi

Humbleness will be one of most valuable lessons you will learn while overcoming hardships and breaking barriers. Never forget your beginnings, where you started or the obstacles you had to overcome. Keep this in mind, and you will appreciate every person and every little accomplishment along the way.

2. The Magic of Communication

Many of us heard of a book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” from Dale Carnegie. For everyone who wants to win in life, in any area whether your personal or professional life, this book is a must read no matter what.

I, personally, went through so many useless arguments and silly exchange of opinions just because none of us could communicate effectively. Both minds were speaking not rationally, but emotionally. It doesn’t matter, whether you are at home, at work or the CEO of the company. Once you learn how to communicate adequately to anyone you meet in life…

3. You will have to swallow your pride

How hard is it for you to say “I am sorry” or “It is my mistake”? For me, it’s the toughest thing in the world so don’t feel bad. The good news about this is that no matter how hard it seems when you are speaking those words into existence, it makes you grow rapidly as a human being. Mistakes are part of life, and everyone is “guilty” in this area. But not knowing when to take responsibility is a true tragedy.

I believe that pride is more of a mind game. It isn’t real. Pride is a perspective on yourself and who you are. If you see yourself too high, of course, your pride is much higher. But let’s be honest here. How far do think you can get with this mindset?

“A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you.” ― C.S. Lewis

There is nothing more devastating in relationships when one side can’t admit they were wrong. This situation is exactly where most of the relationships end. Don’t let people walk over you, but don’t become too difficult to communicate with. Stay humble and listen up.

4. Sharing is Caring

Anytime you have an opportunity to help others, do it. Do it with all your heart because you never know when it’s going to be your turn. Sometimes you can go to Twitter and simply retweet someone’s post and hit them with a comment that you loved it.

They will remember you forever because you took action towards them and benefited them. That’s how you build relationships. That’s how you can show people that you are a down to earth person who is on their level, who speaks their language, who is fun to interact with.

Sharing and communicating with others will be the biggest part of your journey because people are business, people are a market, and people are results. But in order to benefit from it, you must create a genuine respect and care for them with all you got.

Once you understand that you aren’t bigger than anyone else that we all are on the same level here, you can create an amazing community around yourself where people love you and respect you because they believe you deserve it.

What have you learned about humility on your journey of chasing your dreams? Leave your thoughts below!

Silvia committed her life to many things but one of them is helping people in turning their pain into power and teach them how to find benefits in the most difficult events of their lives. She is a motivational speaker and founder of CourageWithinYou platform.  She has written well over 200 articles oriented on personal development, success, and healthy mental growth. You can connect with her on Facebook or on her personal website www.silviaturon.com.

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  1. Adonye Pepple

    May 10, 2017 at 4:05 pm

    This is for me. I disappointed people yesterday; led them to making bad decisions and plans vital to their lives. And everything turned out to be mess, my prestige dropped and I can’t tell how they’re perceiving my personality right now.
    I know deep down that I have to grab my gut and go apologize to everyone in their numbers by am gripped by fear.
    I didn’t plan it to result so bad, I thought I was being helpful by passing an info to them, not knowing my source was a scam.
    I couldn’t bear it. I almost cried, I lost trust here. my topic is what’s making the headlines right now.
    Thank you Silvia, I’d have to put up myself and go say sorry.

  2. Silvia Turonova

    Nov 9, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    Tomisin, very happy to help. I don’t know what had been bothering you, but if this article helped you to resolve a problem, that’s all that matters.

  3. Silvia Turonova

    Nov 9, 2016 at 2:48 pm

    Hello, Ben. I also believe that helping others give us what we want. Of course, we shouldn’t help them and expect something in return, but karma always works and what you put out will always come back. Being humble and have a sense of humility is very important because you never know what can happen and you end up where you started. I appreciate your comment and point of view. Also, I am glad that we have some personal development values in common.

  4. Ben Spurway

    Nov 7, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    Thanks Silvia,

    really nice post, resonating some of my own thoughts towards personal and professional development. I would certainly argue that helping others is a far more powerful development tool than focussing purely on oneself.

  5. Tomisin

    Nov 6, 2016 at 11:21 pm

    This article has really taught me how to go about what has been bothering me fir long…thanks

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  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

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Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

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You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

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