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4 Lessons You Learn About Humility While Ambitiously Chasing Success

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Success is everything but not only about you. It is about people, teamwork and staying humble. Nowadays people respond to your heart. They respond to your generosity and genuine interest in them where having the right sense of humility is the key.

When I started blogging, I thought that I simply write an article and everyone is going to read it because, excuse me, Mrs. Important has something to say. I posted my first few articles, and you know what happened? Nothing. Why should someone come and read it? Why should people be interested in me when I haven’t shown interest in them?

Of course, the quality of the content (product, business, service) is important but being a human and interacting with people and not forgetting where you came from is even more important.

Maybe you are just starting out, and maybe you are fully on the road to reach your goals. Either way, you’ll learn a lot about yourself and the importance of others in your life and why humility has such an impact on the entire process.

Here are 4 lessons you learn while reaching out to those ever wanting goals of your life:

1. Being Humble

As I mentioned at the beginning, people will feel your soul and what’s inside of it, and they will respond. Out there is a countless amount of individuals who made it big and their ego rose to the same proportion. But what in this life is for sure? How do you know that you are safe? When is the time that you honestly know you’ve made it?

I don’t think there is ever a time like it. Shit can hit the fan, and you are back where you started. The most successful people on the Earth have failed big time. It doesn’t matter where you get or how high you reach, you should never look down on others from the top because you were once with them.

“The seeker after truth should be humbler than the dust” – Gandhi

Humbleness will be one of most valuable lessons you will learn while overcoming hardships and breaking barriers. Never forget your beginnings, where you started or the obstacles you had to overcome. Keep this in mind, and you will appreciate every person and every little accomplishment along the way.

2. The Magic of Communication

Many of us heard of a book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” from Dale Carnegie. For everyone who wants to win in life, in any area whether your personal or professional life, this book is a must read no matter what.

I, personally, went through so many useless arguments and silly exchange of opinions just because none of us could communicate effectively. Both minds were speaking not rationally, but emotionally. It doesn’t matter, whether you are at home, at work or the CEO of the company. Once you learn how to communicate adequately to anyone you meet in life…

3. You will have to swallow your pride

How hard is it for you to say “I am sorry” or “It is my mistake”? For me, it’s the toughest thing in the world so don’t feel bad. The good news about this is that no matter how hard it seems when you are speaking those words into existence, it makes you grow rapidly as a human being. Mistakes are part of life, and everyone is “guilty” in this area. But not knowing when to take responsibility is a true tragedy.

I believe that pride is more of a mind game. It isn’t real. Pride is a perspective on yourself and who you are. If you see yourself too high, of course, your pride is much higher. But let’s be honest here. How far do think you can get with this mindset?

“A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you.” ― C.S. Lewis

There is nothing more devastating in relationships when one side can’t admit they were wrong. This situation is exactly where most of the relationships end. Don’t let people walk over you, but don’t become too difficult to communicate with. Stay humble and listen up.

4. Sharing is Caring

Anytime you have an opportunity to help others, do it. Do it with all your heart because you never know when it’s going to be your turn. Sometimes you can go to Twitter and simply retweet someone’s post and hit them with a comment that you loved it.

They will remember you forever because you took action towards them and benefited them. That’s how you build relationships. That’s how you can show people that you are a down to earth person who is on their level, who speaks their language, who is fun to interact with.

Sharing and communicating with others will be the biggest part of your journey because people are business, people are a market, and people are results. But in order to benefit from it, you must create a genuine respect and care for them with all you got.

Once you understand that you aren’t bigger than anyone else that we all are on the same level here, you can create an amazing community around yourself where people love you and respect you because they believe you deserve it.

What have you learned about humility on your journey of chasing your dreams? Leave your thoughts below!

Silvia Turonova is a mindset coach who teaches women how to develop more self-trust and inner confidence while learning how to bet on themselves. She hosts a podcast Courage Within You and is passionate about teaching others how to coach themselves. Get her free self-coaching worksheet here.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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