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3 Simple Ways to Start the Day a Winner



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The alarm clock startles you, and for a moment, you don’t know where you are. Then you realize that despite feeling like you didn’t sleep a wink last night, it’s time to face the day. Whether you’ve got an important meeting or need to take the kids to school, use these 3 powerful techniques to ensure you start the day with a bang.

1. Jump out of bed immediately

As soon as the alarm rings, immediately jump out of bed. Don’t wait 5 minutes. Don’t idly lay there coming to terms with the new day, get out of bed. As soon as your feet touch the ground, I want you to powerfully swing your arms out whilst looking upwards and howl “WHOOOOO”.
Put all of your energy into it and go through the whole sequence three times.

This simple mind/body technique that I call ‘I Have The Power’ will instantaneously alter your internal state by immediately sending a signal to your brain and nervous system that you are awake, alert, and ready to rock.  Just make sure to do it silently if someone is sleeping.

“Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” – Benjamin Franklin 

2. Take a hot and cold shower

You might be afraid to try this, but once you give it a go the results will speak for themselves. Following your announcement to the world that you are here “WHOOOO”, jump in the shower and turn it up as hot as you can take it for 2 minutes. Don’t scold yourself but make it hot enough so that you have to move the spray to different body parts.

After 2 minutes, turn the shower to maximum cold. I know what you are thinking, why on earth would you ever want to take a cold shower first thing in the morning? Here is why. By taking a hot shower, immediately followed by a cold shower, you will literally jump start your nervous system in such a powerful way that it will oscillate every cell in your body.

Not only will it thoroughly wake you up and improve circulation, it will stimulate your lymph; an internal sewer system responsible for pulling waste away from your cells. It’s like jump starting a dead car battery, cleaning out the air filter, and injecting nitrous, all at the same time. You will leave the shower tingling and invigorated with life.

Congratulations, you just super charged your system. Now it’s time for the final part of this wake-up call.

3. Prime yourself

You are going to dedicate 9 minutes to what Tony Robbins calls ‘Priming’. Sit down in a quiet place, close your eyes, and concentrate on this simple 3 stage process:

Stage 1: Gratitude

Spend the first 3 minutes focusing on 3 things that you are extremely grateful for. Dedicate the first minute to something simple such as giving thanks for your legs, or the roof over your head. Now spend the next two minutes being grateful for 2 more things that you hold dear to your heart.

This could be a recent business success, achieving your dietary goals, a financial win, or rekindling an old relationship. Make sure that they really mean something to you, and really step into it. Really give thanks and experience the feelings of gratitude.

Stage 2: Prayer

This isn’t religious at all. It’s ok if you want to make it religious, but for the nonreligious out there, like myself, it’s not necessary to attach a religious connotation. Spend 3 minutes sending positive vibes to 3 people dear to you, dedicating 1 minute to each of them.

Send thoughts of goodwill to family members, friends, even clients. It could even be an enemy if you’re feeling particularly empathetic. Pray for their abundance, good health, material wealth, or that their operation will be a success. Send as many positive well wishes their way as you can.

Stage 3: Visualization

Finally, I want you to think of 3 things that are of high value that you are most committed to achieving.  It could be losing 10 pounds by Christmas, completing an important business deal, or rekindling the spark and zest in your marriage.

Devote your attention to 3 things that are precious to you, 3 things you are driven to achieve, and visualize them as already done. Envision yourself as slimmer, healthier, and super sexy. Create a movie in your head where you see the major business deal being a huge success. Walk yourself through the whole process, visually signing the contract and shaking hands.

Use the power of your imagination to chase your ideal partner along the beach. Create every detail in your mind, from the color of their hair to the clothes they are wearing. Make it as holographically real as possible.

Do these ‘three to thrive’, meditation techniques every morning after your shower. Spend 3 minutes on each section for a total of 9 minutes. Or longer if you’re really getting into it.

“To accomplish great things we must first dream, then visualize, then plan… believe… act!” – Alfred A. Montapert

By using the ‘I HAVE THE POWER’ technique, followed by a hot/cold shower, and then spending around 9 minutes harnessing the creative power of your mind to give thanks, love, and positive affirmations, you will have literally primed and wired your nervous system for success.

Within 15 minutes of waking up, your body and mind will be running at maximum velocity. You will be an animated, laser sharp, supreme machine. While the other zombies are putting on their slippers, you’ll be out the door moving mountains.

How do your start your morning out? Please leave your thoughts below!

Drew Drake is a lifestyle success writer who dedicates his work towards helping people to wake up from a deep sleep, get themselves out of a rut, follow their hearts to freedom, and fulfill their maximum potential. If you would like to inspire and motivate your audience with articles and blogs that will enlighten, entertain, and help your visitors unleash their best selves, then connect with him via You can also follow him on twitter at



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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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