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3 Ways to Start Your Morning to Achieve Peak Performance



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As an entrepreneur, I learned that to give yourself the greatest chance to succeed, it starts with what you do in the morning. I’ve learned quite a lot about achieving peak performance from spending over $300,000 on my own personal development. Peak performance is simply not something many people achieve in their own life and that’s something that saddens me.

I had never been one for corporate culture and wanted to impact the world, but I knew that wouldn’t happen with the lifestyle I was currently living. I came off of having two failed businesses and decided to start studying those who are successful and see if there were any outliers other than the average common folk. I learned quite a deal, but more importantly, I learned that living your best life ever starts with what you do in the morning.

The average person gets up in the morning and maybe they take a shower and grab breakfast, possibly reading the newspaper for the day, but that isn’t enough to get you to where you want to go. You can’t expect to do what everyone else is doing and get ahead. The difference between those who are successful and those who aren’t is miniscule.

Here are the 3 things that the most successful people do every morning that the average person doesn’t do:

1. Meditate

Those who have achieved peak performance in their life start their day off with a meditation session. If you can’t find five or ten minutes during your day, then you don’t deserve to become successful. When you decide to meditate, you’re clearing your mind of your thoughts and allow yourself to think clearly for the day ahead.

We can move so fast in our lives that we never take a second to stop and take a breath. Meditation isn’t something that takes a lot of time, it’s something as simple as five minutes each day that can have a profound impact on your life.

According to an article on Psychology Today, some of the benefits of meditation are increasing positive emotion, decreasing depression, anxiety, stress, boosts your self control, and increasing focus and attention. All those benefits for five minutes of your time, it’s no wonder all those who achieve peak performance meditate.

“When you are at home, even if the chicken is a little burnt, what’s the big deal? Relax.” – Jacques Pepin

2. Take Cold Showers

If you tell someone that you take cold showers, they will think you’re crazy. They’re the crazy ones for not understanding the benefits. According to an article on Medical Daily, the benefits of cold showering are: Increases alertness, improves immunity and circulation, eases stress, relieves depression, speeds up muscle soreness and recovery, and stimulates weight loss. You can get those benefits from the turn of a dial when you’re in the shower.

If you’ve never taken a cold shower before, it can be quite intimidating. I’d recommend that you take your normal warm shower and then end your shower with it being cold for at least one minute. Over time, you’ll develop a resiliency to the cold and you’re able to take your entire shower cold!

Another reason the successful take cold showers besides all the benefits mentioned is that it allows them to develop a stronger mindset. You won’t make it far in the world as an entrepreneur if you have a weak mindset. You always need to look for ways to strengthen your mindset. No one likes to take a cold shower, but forcing yourself to take one will strengthen your mindset.  

3. Have a Gratitude and Goal Journal

As you will have noticed, I’ve only added five minutes to your morning routine. This next exercise might add another five minutes to your routine. If for ten minutes each day, you could live a better life, why wouldn’t you do it?

In my search for how to achieve peak performance, the last common occurrence I noticed between those who are successful is that they have a gratitude and goal journal. With their gratitude journal, they’d briefly write three to five things in which they were thankful during the previous day. The reason they do this is that no matter how bad their day is going, they can always pull something positive from their day. It’s easy to get ahead of yourself and forget all the good in your life.

Along with their gratitude journal, they always keep track of the goals they’ve set for themselves. They check in with their goals every day and track their progress to make sure they’re heading the right direction. You need to set goals for yourself because if you don’t you will be living a passive life. When you set goals for yourself, you need to track it to understand if you need to fix something or if everything is running smoothly.

“All who have accomplished great things have had a great aim, have fixed their gaze on a goal which was high, one which sometimes seemed impossible,” – Orison Swett Marden

To achieve peak performance in your life need not be difficult. You need to make small changes to your daily habits. These changes may seem insignificant in the moment, but they add up overtime to get you closer to your ideal life. The same can be said if you implement bad habits as life is but a collection of daily routines. Are you willing to make the necessary changes to live a better life, or will you fall back into your default habits and a life of mediocrity? The choice is up to you!

How do you start your day? Comment below!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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