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3 Ways to Instil Mindfulness and Peace in Your Daily Life



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Sometimes, we might feel like our life is rushing through, overloaded with duties and responsibilities. Life’s hurdles make it appear like it is more of a chore, and ‘living in the moment’ seems like a tough business. Especially in 2020, ever since the undesired Covid-19 virus has turned the world upside down, finding peace, calm, and happiness amongst all the chaos can be tricky.

However, we can learn how to dodge these bullets and shun the constant need to achieve success by following some steps. As the adage goes, “The pursuit of inner peace is more important than the search for happiness or success.” We must give time for ourselves and find the inner calm to move forward.  

In this article, we have mentioned three ways by which you can teach these values. Read on!

1. Meditation

By now, it is safe to assume that meditation has a plethora of health and psychological benefits. Some of these include decrement in anxiety, depressive thoughts, and reduced cortisol levels. If work or your personal life has you stressed out, meditating can go a long way in bringing you peace and calm. 

It’s a method where you can spend a silent period in concentration and smooth out the jumbled thoughts making a mess in your head. One of the best things about meditation is; you can practice it anywhere, whether you are waiting for an appointment at the doctor’s, traveling in a car or bus, or when you are sipping some evening tea on the balcony.

You can perform this technique by spending a short time of ten to fifteen minutes in a simple seated stance, with your eyes closed. Follow that up with some steady inhalation and exhalations before you open your eyes again. If you are new to this whole topic, you can follow a guided meditation video with a calming background soundtrack on YouTube to lull you into a blissful state of mind.

“Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless – like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” – Bruce Lee

2. Gratefulness and Contribution

The concept of being grateful can help anyone achieve satisfaction and a happy state of mind. It allows you to understand and appreciate your blessings instead of distressing over the things you don’t have. It shows how you are luckier than the people who have it worse and eliminates the idea of self-pity, which is indeed destructive to our minds.  

You can practice gratefulness by listing down all the skills, loving people, and material possessions you have. Constantly go through that list to remind yourself about the positivity in your life.

You can also learn gratefulness by contributing to those in need. Take out some time to volunteer in a charity or pay a visit to an orphanage or nursing home. If you love animals, you can stop by an animal shelter or adopt a few abandoned pets!  

Putting your time and energy into helping someone else gives you a sense of positivity, and you can indirectly help yourself. Doing something kind for someone without expecting anything in return is therapeutic in a way. While feeling at peace, you might also find your purpose in life!

3. Activity

Spending some time in leisure and activity with peers and family can also help you become more mindful and cheerful! Whether it is a long walk on the beach in the warm sand and mesmerizing sunset with a close one, a soothing, healthy family dinner, or a bike ride across the scenic part of town, it will give you a break from your usual routine and unclutter your headspace. These might sound a tad bit cliche, but they are effective. You can also indulge in some entertaining activities that involve communicating with other people. You can have a fun dance night, or attend a yoga class with some friends. You have creative liberty!

As long as those activities promote meaningful conversation and allow you to break free, they can drain out your stress and make you feel more optimistic.

“Do every act of your life as though it were the last act of your life.” – Joseph Goldstein

If you find peace in solitude, you can ride to a scenic destination like a lake or hill station (that is not crowded) and bask in beautiful sights of nature as you recollect positive thoughts and memories. According to experts, a good relationship with nature and its beauty has a deep connection with happiness.

Peace is a passive state of mind and not a destination that you have to chase. No matter what situation you are in, you can strategically let go of your stress and anxieties if you put in conscious effort. There are countless ways to achieve this great sense of mindfulness and harmony, and these three ways are a few of them. Practice the steps given in this article consistently, and you will find yourself calmer and collected in a short period!

Charlotte Lin is a content creator at She’s a passionate young woman, mother to an amazing nine-year-old, and an avid reader. Over the years, writing has helped her explore and understand the world as well as her own self. She loves to travel, meet new people, and spend quality time with her daughter.

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.



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How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.



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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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