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3 Practical Ways to Leave Your Legacy When You’re Gone

Do you wish you could live forever, enjoy your life without a thought of dying? You can live a hundred years and more, fresh and sound – but, of course, in a different way – by being unforgettable.
By taking certain actions while we’re still alive, death would mean nothing other than two doors from which you pass through one and come out of the other. Your body won’t be physically available, though, everywhere your traces are found. You live in the hearts of people. How do you achieve that?
Below are the 3 practical ways you can leave your legacy when you’re gone:
1. Give more than you receive
Affecting the lives of people around you is a sure way to be unforgettable. When you make people happy by being responsible and responsive to them and their needs, you’re creating a timeless life for yourself.
Rather than turn on your heels anytime a friend asks a favour of you, why not show at least you care, even if you cannot render that assistant at that moment. Sometimes, only a little smile is worth more than gold you give as gifts. And you don’t have to be rich or influential to make an impact, you just have to develop a sense of giving. Often times, we give out what we value most to people not knowing that we’ve received manifolds in return.
Life is give and take. When you stretch a hand of goodness to others, tens of thousands of such hands will stretch towards you too. Even if you don’t live to receive it, your family one day will. To make an impact is indeed to live.
“When you love people and have the desire to make a profound, positive impact on the world, then will you have accomplished the meaning to live.” – Sasha Azevedo
2. Write a book
Books, the most powerful tool for positive change, can make you eternal. As you still read Shakespeare and Donne and Keats, even though they are long gone, so will you forever remain fresh and alive on the lips of people whom your ideas through books have impacted.
So, would you like to live forever? Write a book. Memories can fade away, but memories of authors remain indelible in the minds of their readers. Having your name imprinted on a book as the author can make you live longer than your time.
In classrooms, at intellectual workshops and in many places you could never have been to, your name is being pronounced, your ideas being discussed and your impact being felt by people who never met you but learned about you through your book. That’s the power of writing.
3. Teach what you know
No, I don’t mean you should be a professional teacher to do this. The truth is, believe it or not, you’re a teacher. It’s just that we don’t know that somehow somewhere people are watching our steps. They’re following our examples. We just might not realise it, but it’s happening.
For instance, has anyone ever opened up to you about how you inspired him or her? Told you of how following your steps has helped them achieve something? If that happens to you, congrats! You’re on your way to becoming timeless. This is because even when you are no more, people remember you for good things.
Let’s now take a look at the real deal – teaching people what you know. Ask teachers to tell you the amazing things about teaching, and you’d probably hear something like, you receive just as much as (or even more than) you give. And that is the plain truth. When we teach others what we know, we do not only help them grow, we’ve also helped boost our own confidence and printed our names in their hearts.
In the end, what matters isn’t why we lived, what matters most is how we lived. But between living and leaving this wonderful world, a thin line exists – impact. Impact lives now as you live, so that when you eventually leave, rest assured that your memories live on.
“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” – Audrey Hepburn
How are you trying to impact the world? Leave your thoughts below!
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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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