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3 Guaranteed Ways to Change Your State and Get Out of That Funk

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One of my mentors Les Brown once asked a question in my presence, and the question was, “who motivates the motivator?” What he was really saying was even though I am known as the world’s #1 motivational speaker, I need to be motivated sometimes too.

It doesn’t matter who you are. Whether you are the one that is always the go to person for your friends and family, or whether you inspire and motivate people for a living like myself and Mr. Les Brown does, we all get down in the dumps sometimes.

We all get in that funky mood that just hovers over us like a cloud, and follows us around keeping our moods dark and grey like a Seattle winter. It is not always a bad thing, because sometimes it gives us clarity, or allows us to focus on our self and it can give us a true to life perspective of what’s really going on in our life.

The trick though is not to live there permanently. We do not want to be in that space for too long, because soon it will be affecting every person we come in contact with and it becomes contagious and affects our decision making skills. We cannot make positive life changing decisions when we are in a state of negativity.

The trick then is to change our state to one that will guide us in the right direction, and out of that funky state of mind into a positive state of mind, because that is the only place where positive growth happens.

Here are 3 guaranteed ways to get you out of that funky state of mind, regardless of how you got there:

1. Get in a state of gratitude

This is not hard to do, and I know this to be a fact not just for me, but also for you. I know this, because if you are reading this right now, then you are obviously alive, regardless of the health condition you are in. According to worldometer, at this exact moment of writing this article 78,079 people died today so far, and you are obviously not one of them.

Gratitude is not just about the material things in life, because those things can always be replaced, but the things that can never be replaced are usually the things that we take for granted. Things like waking up this morning, having a family regardless of how big or small, having the opportunity to change your current circumstances regardless of how dire it may seem right now.

Can you walk? Can you talk? Do you have all or some of your limbs? These are all things to be grateful for. I know sometimes thinking about others and how much better off you are doesn’t soften your situation, but the biggest thing that you have to be grateful for is the fact that you have the opportunity to change yours.

“I try to be grateful for the abundance of the blessings that I have, for the journey that I’m on and to relish each day as a gift.” – James McGreevey

2. Right vs what is wrong thinking

This will definitely help you shift your state dramatically. Our minds can and will only think about what we command it to think about. So when you focus on what is right in your life vs what is wrong you will see how blessed you really are, and this will create a shift in your emotional state.

Here is how this works best for me. On a piece of blank paper at the top on each side, write what is going right for you, and on the other side at the top also write what is going wrong. Start with what’s going wrong first, and get it all out of the way, write until your heart’s content.

On the other side, write all the things that have gone right for you in your life. Start with being alive, being a brother, sister, uncle, friend, having a roof over your head, clean drinking water, then start on your achievements. The trick to this is to write down EVERYTHING that comes to mind, and once again write until your heart’s content.

If you truly took the time and did this exercise you will see that there is absolutely no comparison about what is right in comparison to what is wrong. The right side should outweigh what is wrong. Work from there, and use that to help you build momentum.

3. Write down how you feel

Taking time to physically write down how you feel will help you understand why you feel the way you do. It’s one thing to have a thought, but when you put that thought on paper you are now forcing yourself to express exactly how that thought feels.

Before the pen touches the paper a thought has to go into what you are about to write, and if it doesn’t feel right, you will erase or cross out, and put down what it is that you are really feeling. This forces you to think about the state of mind that you are in, and if forces you to face it, because it is right in front of you.

We cannot hide from our thoughts, they will eventually come out in the words we say, and in the words that we write. Once you have your thoughts in front of you, read them out loud, and even better if you have someone to read them to, and ask yourself why am I in this state right now?

“Whether you’re keeping a journal or writing as a meditation, it’s the same thing. What’s important is you’re having a relationship with your mind.” – Natalie Goldberg

What are some ways you’ve helped yourself get out of a funk? Leave your thoughts below!

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Whether you are a seasoned entrepreneur or just starting out, my expertise is helping people like you develop the mindset and strategies that you need in order to take your business to the next level and achieve massive success. Check out my website www.clifftownsend.com or connect with me through my Facebook page.

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    Very Nice Information. This is why it is good to keep a gratitude journal and write in it everyday.

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      Yes Paul definitely. I truly believe that gratitude is the beginning of all good things in life, how can we ask for more if we’re not appreciative of what we already have.

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The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

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  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

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1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

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