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15 Secrets to Creating the Best Version of Yourself

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You have reached the point in your life where you want to change many things and become a better version of yourself. You are not completely satisfied with how things are going at this particular moment and you know that you can be much better. What can be done to make sure that you are becoming the better version of yourself?

Here are 15 ways to create an improved version of you:

1. Ready to start

When you decide to make changes in any sphere of your life, starting usually is one of the most difficult stages. However, to begin doing something means that the job is half done, no matter how difficult the task may be.

2. Be prepared for hard work

Yes, changing your outlook and habits that were forming for many years will not be easy. But if we do want to improve ourselves, we need to realize that a significant amount of effort will be required for a successful outcome.

3. Don’t get overwhelmed

It is great to make a decision to work on yourself and improve your life. However, the idea of doing so might be quite daunting and even seem impossible. The secret is to move in small steps in a determined direction. Along the way, you will get more experience, so you will move faster and more confidently.

4. No fear of failure

The realization that you have made a mistake sometimes is hard to accept and can be devastating. However, you must understand that a mistake is actually a good thing, as it gives you a great opportunity to shine next time, as you already know how to do it right.

5. Give up your pride

If someone is telling you that you’ve done something wrong, it might be difficult to accept those negative comments. Obviously, you want to be viewed as invincible and someone who never makes mistakes. Nonetheless, refusing to accept criticism very often means losing a chance to improve your work.

6. Get rid of unhealthy perfectionism

Striving for excellence in everything is great, but it may become an obstacle. The obsession of being the best in everything is meaningless, as we are all imperfect and sometimes good is more than enough in reaching your goal.

“I made decisions that I regret, and I took them as learning experiences… I’m human, not perfect, like anybody else.” – Queen Latifah

7. Leave the job you hate

The idea of leaving a job for many might sound insane, as a refusal from a stable income seems like an unreasonable thing to do. In fact, what is unreasonable is to stick with the job you hate because of money, as time is actually the most precious currency.

8. Get rid of the toxic environment

Your decision to change yourself for the better will inevitably lead to conflicts with people from your surroundings. There might be many of those who are unhappy with you changing. They will try to drag you down to the previous state of things, so you might need to cease contact with such toxic people.

9. Take time to deal with addictions

If you want to become a better version of yourself, addiction is something that will be one of the biggest obstacles in your way. It deprives you of energy and completely changes the focus of your life. You must deal with it if you are determined to see a better you.

10. Move away from your comfort zone

The feeling of stability and security is great, but moving away from your comfort zone can bring you an immense satisfaction, as you will be able to see yourself from the unknown side. It is obviously frightening and uncomfortable, but you might unleash many amazing traits you never expected to be within you.

11. Start exercising

Yes, we all have heard it for a million times, but exercising is so important that it must be in the list of actions that can make you a better version of yourself. Regular physical activity is one of the factors that changes your mindset and makes your body healthier.

12. Do not wait for the perfect moment

Waiting for the stars to be perfectly aligned is a destructive habit. Time is finite and too precious to waste. There is a chance when you think it is the right moment that it might be too late. Do not hesitate for too long. Act.

13. Take responsibility

We might blame our surroundings and circumstances for what happens in our life. Sometimes we might be inclined to feel that someone can come and make us happy. However, it is important to realize that it is all up to us. We are in charge of our destiny and our happiness depends only on ourselves.

“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” – Abraham Lincoln

14. Ditch the habit of trying to be in control all the time

If you have the habit as trying to control everything and everyone, you will need to get rid of it. Life is too unpredictable, so trying to be in charge of everything is meaningless and will only get in the way of your personal development.

15. Learn to be positive

Staying upbeat is by far one of the most precious habits you could ever have. Hard times might be inevitable, but the greatest solutions to a problem usually arise when you are looking at a it with a smile.

It is scary to let go of your previous habits and routines which you have become used to over the years. However, if you made a firm decision to change yourself for the better and turn your life around, nothing will stop you. We hope that with the listed ways of improving yourself you will be able to reach your goal and become the best you can be.

Which one of the 15 secrets above will you now implement everyday? Let us know in the comments below!

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Ester Brierley is a graduate student, junior QA Engineer in software outsourcing company, an enthusiastic freelance writer. She adores researching cutting-edge trends and sharing them in her writing pieces for EssayWanted. You can follow her on Twitter.

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  1. Nigel Ikechukwu

    Nov 11, 2017 at 9:16 am

    Wow.. Awesome post Ester. I recently wrote a similar article titled “10 Reasons why you still suffer” on my personal blog. Ester

    I hope to see more of your articles for addicted2success.

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3 Simple Tips to Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

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Relationships are challenging. They make you examine yourself from all angles, and that can be triggering. For example, have you ever had a friend or significant other say something that sparked an argument instantly—only to find out you misheard what they said in the first place? (more…)

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If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

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You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it. (more…)

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3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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3 Inspiring Lessons We Can Learn From Jim Carrey About the Law of Attraction

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You’ve more than likely heard of Jim Carrey before. Over the years, he has starred in many popular films including The Truman Show, The Mask, and Bruce Almighty (just to name a few.)

But his personality goes a lot deeper than just his comedic persona and movie star charisma. In fact, Jim Carrey is probably one of the most philosophical individuals on the planet

Although he isn’t in the spotlight as much anymore, throughout the years, he has credited his success and fortunes by applying the Law of attraction into his life. What’s even more inspiring is that Jim Carrey, like you and I, came from humble beginnings. No silver spoon or easy ticket. In fact, his family was very poor throughout his childhood. So what made him so successful in attracting such an extravagant and self-fulfilling life?

Here are 3 lessons you can learn from Jim Carrey when it comes to manifesting your dreams into a reality:

1. You Have To Take Action

You can’t just visualize then go eat a sandwich”, Jim Carrey says. It goes without saying that the law of attraction does require action. You cannot simply rely on visualizing and expect to see results, especially when it comes to manifesting desires that other people would like to achieve also. E.g. Careers, scholarships, competitions, anything that involves another individual.

Visualization and positive thinking are crucial when it comes to using the law of attraction, but you have to meet the universe halfway with the steps you take as well. We are physical beings that require physical steps to get physical results. The real key is to make daily plans/goals in order to get you closer towards achieving your desires. So after that sandwich, make sure start taking action toward your dreams!

This could be working on your hobbies or passion, applying for that dream job or studying to get better grades. As long as you are moving toward your goals then there’s no reason why it can’t happen. So get out there and kick some butt.

2. Double Down On What You Love

My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

If this story of Jim Carrey’s father doesn’t pull on your heartstrings and inspire you at the same time, nothing else will! This is such an undeniable life lesson that everyone needs to learn. A lesson to take risks, push comfort zones and go all-in on what you love doing. So if your dreams, hobbies or goals seem far fetched to the majority, then you are already beating the other 99%.

Be that 1% that’s willing to dream big and rise above the norm. Unfortunately, in today’s society, our ancestral instincts still rule our everyday life. Fear is one of them and controls the majority of our population. It’s scary to push comfort zones and try something new, the thought of failure is often paralyzing to many. But my question to you is, will you look back one day and regret the chances you didn’t take?

3. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it, while letting go of how it comes to pass.” Holding onto every little detail when it comes to manifesting, can conjure up more harm than good. The reason is that the universe will deliver in ways you might not expect.

If you are too busy wondering when your desires will manifest, comparing yourself to others, or ignoring every sign that doesn’t look like your detailed plan you’ve written down, then you may be missing out on opportunities that are right in front of you! Your visualizations don’t have to be perfect, in fact, it’s better to just let go altogether and focus on the result itself rather than dwelling on every little detail. This doesn’t mean to simply forget about what you want but instead having the confidence it will happen in time. 

An example of this is when Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for 30 million dollars. The only detail he knew was that he would earn it through his acting career, and he did indeed achieve this goal! So make sure to tell the universe what you want, but try not to hold onto every little detail!

Jim Carrey is just another person like you and me, with his own personal ups and downs in his road to success. He is someone to look up to when applying the law of attraction in your life too. It doesn’t matter if your goals or desires are different because the core foundation will always stay the same. You can and will do this if you think, feel and act as if it will happen!

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