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10 Things You Must Do to Live Your Best Life



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People often tell you to “do your best” or “be your best”, but how do you really do that? In today’s world, the standards are rising and everything has become more complex and competitive. So how do you do your best and live out the best version of yourself?

Here are 10 effective tips you should consider:

1. Be purposeful

First and foremost, if you want to live out your best life ever, you must define it. How does success look to you? What has to happen so that you will feel like you are living the best version of yourself? Understanding what kind of life you want to live is like identifying the bull’s eye. When you know where the target is, you can then fly straight to hit it. Stop being vague and don’t let others influence your life. This is your life and you are the one who gets to choose the kind of life you want to live.

2. Always on the move

Once you have identified your purpose in life, the next thing you need to do is to always move forward towards your targets and goals. Don’t just dream about what you want. Thinking about what you want but doing nothing at all is as good as having no purpose in life. Your purpose shows you the direction, but in order to get to your destination, you must walk the path. There is no way you can live your best life without taking action. So do it. Take massive and consistent action to live your best life now.

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” – Thomas Jefferson

3. Set your priorities right

Next, set your priorities right. You need to understand there are many things you can do in life, but not all of them are created equal. Life is like filling a jar, if you put in small stones and sand into the jar, you will have no more space for the big rocks. Hence, fill your day (jar) with high-impact (big rocks) tasks first. Once you have done that, only then you fill in the smaller stones and sands to fill the cracks between the rocks.

4. Learn and improve whenever possible

You can’t live the best version of yourself if you don’t commit to learning and improving. You are where you are right now because of what you know. Hence, if you don’t strive to learn more and improve, you will be stuck where you are and never be able to move forward. Successful people who have accomplished extraordinary results in life are constantly learning and improving themselves. They understand that the more they learn and improve, the better they can be and they more places they can go.

5. Challenge yourself

Do something to challenge yourself regularly. For instance, if you have always wanted a slim and fit body, challenge yourself to do it. Sign up for a gym class and commit to a trainer. The same goes for every other area of your life. If you want better health, challenge yourself to eat healthy foods for the next 30 days. If you want to get more sales in your business, challenge yourself or your team to do some creative marketing to attract more clients. Whatever you do, you must force yourself to venture out of your comfort zone from time to time.

6. Surround yourself with extraordinary people

This may be something you have often heard about, but are you doing it? Do you surround yourself with extraordinary people already? If not, go and get to know the titans in your industry. You can join a networking group or attend seminars to get to know others who share the same vision. Whatever you do, expand your network because you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

7. Take care of yourself

Besides pursuing success in monetary terms, you must also take care of yourself. You can’t be your best version if you are always sick, weak or depressed. Thus, take good care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. Exercise regularly and maintain a positive mental attitude. You can’t live your best life if you are always negative. Always look at the bright side of life. And if you want to learn to live a positive life, read books such as Chicken Soup for the Soul and The Power of Positive Thinking.

8. Live with passion

Have you ever seen someone who lives life without zest? They don’t have a dream, a purpose or motivation for anything in their lives. They become a ‘walking dead’. Never let this be you.Feel the excitement and all the great things that are coming to you. You have to always look forward to something great in life and feel the enthusiasm each day. This is why having a dream and a purpose in life is so important. Remember, every day is a brand new beginning, so live with passion.

“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” – Oprah Winfrey

9. Help and inspire others

In order to unleash your best version, you must help and inspire others. Now, don’t get me wrong by thinking that you need to donate a million dollars to help others, you just need to make someone’s life better. When you meet someone in the neighborhood, just smile and greet them. Let your smile brighten up their day. Or when you are in the lift, perhaps, you can help by holding the door for someone. When you help someone and inspire them, you indirectly make yourself feel good too. And this is the kind of positive energy you need to feel and to make your life better.

10. Reflect and review

How can you tell if you are moving forward or if you are living the life you want? Simple, just take time to reflect and review your life. Every month or every quarter, take some time to reflect on your life and review the results you have achieved. Are you doing good and are you going in the right direction? Do you love your life so far and you love what you are doing? If yes, continue to improve and deliver even a better job. If not, it tells you that something is not right and you need to change it.

Life is a journey and not a destination. And to live out the best version of yourself, you must do more than just “be your best”. Use these 10 tips above as a guideline to living your best life.

Shawn Lim is the creator of ( and he’s a passionate blogger in the personal development industry who has inspired thousands to pursue their dreams and follow their passions. You can learn more about him plus download a free copy of his guidebook, Reach Your Goals on his website.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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