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4 Clues That Will Unlock Your Power Zone and Allow You to Live Your Best Life



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People want fuller lives and more meaningful work, so they search for tactics and strategies to give them an edge. From goal setting planners to online courses and morning rituals, we’re hungry for purpose and power.

While strategies and tactics are helpful in the doing of our day to day, it’s our being that gives life to our doing. When we live from a certainty in being, we activate an energy not found in strategies and tactics alone. This is called your Power Zone.

Your Power Zone is that place where work doesn’t feel like work and results seem to come effortlessly. Peak performers in business, sports and life understand the X factor of their Power Zone and spend tons of time and money to develop it.

If you know where to look, you can quickly find your Power Zone too and unleash the X factor in your life as well. See below:

1. Passion

Passion is the first clue to finding your Power Zone. Passion is a word that is used a lot, and for good reason. Passion lights up your life, it brings with it vision and courage. With passion you will take risks you otherwise would have avoided.

Passion is more than happiness. The energy of passion is stronger and deeper than happiness. It makes us come alive and when we come alive, work doesn’t feel like work and the energy we exude is infectious, attracting all kinds of opportunities to us.

Each of us have passions in our lives, but in the busyness of life we often forget about them. They sit dormant for a future day when we have time to pursue them. To activate your passions, simply take time to journal or meditate in the presence of what inspires you. Write down the things that make your heart sing. They’re already inside you. All you need to do is remember them and feel them rise up in you.

As you head out into your day, look for how to bring your passions into your work, your goals and relationships. This is the beginning of cultivating your Power Zone.

“I have to face life with a newly found passion. I must rediscover the irresistible will to learn, to live and to love.” – Andrea Bocelli

2. Feedback

Feedback is the next place to look for clues from your Power Zone. We often miss important pieces to our Power Zone simply because we can’t see them. But you have a lifetime of feedback from friends, family and the world around you. Others often see what you’re good at and where you shine. So look back on your life for the feedback you’ve received.

What awards did you get? What compliments do people always give you? Look at your performance reviews. Even go back to highschool and remember the good things your teachers and friends said about you.

Write these clues down in your journal. Look for similarities from your passions. Feel the good feelings that come with the feedback you’ve received and know that where you’ve received positive feedback in your life is part of your X factor.

Move forward in your day looking for what the world reflects back to you about your Power Zone. Look for when you make people smile. Notice what you’re doing when people compliment you. These are all clues to your Power Zone and suggest you should be incorporating more of that in your life.

3. Complaints

Your complaints are the third clue to your Power Zone. This is not a pass for whining or being a victim, but it is an access point to what you value. Complaints and values are two sides of the same coin. The only reason we complain about something is because we value something.

Values are harder to access. When we journal about values it comes out like an impersonal mission statement. However, when we think of the things that frustrate us, we have immediate and powerful emotional access to our values.

When you access the convictions that come with your complaints, you tap into an energy that propels you further than when you work from your head. This too is an X factor in living a fuller life.

In your journal, write out your complaints, but don’t edit and judge what comes to mind. Just write them down and look for clues. We’re turning over puzzle pieces and the more pieces we turn over, the clearer the picture becomes about what our Power Zone is.

“There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela

4. Strengths

Marcus Buckingham said that “a strength is something you do, that when you do it, you feel strong.” There may be a lot of things in life you’re good at, but most of them don’t make you feel strong. There are only a handful of things you do, that when you do them, you feel strong.

Write these down in your journal. Don’t edit or judge what comes up. Just write it down. Imagine your life where everyday a majority of your time is spent inside of things you feel strong doing.

Begin to cut back on activities and responsibilities that aren’t your strengths. Invest your time and energy into the things that make you feel strong. In this place, you step into your power and the world gets to know you this way.

Living from what makes you feel strong, opens up opportunities you couldn’t have predicted. Life is full of joy in this place and you will experience yourself as the powerful person you’ve always known you are.

Finding your Power Zone is a process, just like a puzzle. As you turn over more pieces inside these four areas, you will see a picture of who you are, emerge. This is how you quickly step into your fullest sense of being.

It is from that full sense of being you can now do the strategies and tactics you collected along the way and use them effectively. Your Power Zone is the X factor you’ve been looking for and it is the key to unlocking your fullest life.

Which one of these 4 clues can help you most in unlocking your power zone? Let us know below!

Chris Angell is a consultant, speaker and podcaster. He’s the founder of Groundswell, a digital marketing agency that produces web shows for businesses that make lasting connections with their audiences so they can grow their revenue and market share. You can find his agency’s shows on YouTube and Facebook. He lives in Spokane, WA with his wife and two kids. Follow Chris on Facebook at

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

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This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
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These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

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