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10 Stellar Qualities Of True Winners

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Some say winners are born, others say they are made. However you term it, winners have admirable qualities that separate them from the many. They are rare and unique.

To be a winner you have to understand what winners do to succeed. And it all starts from their habits or admirable traits which help them navigate the hurdles and uncertainties of life.

Here are 10 stellar qualities of winners:

1. They are solid

Winners don’t rely on luck or believe in accidents. They make their own luck. They know that at the end of the day what is required of them is not in bits or parts. Winners are all in and consistent to the core.

 

2. They retain their values

What people will admire in a winner at the end of the day, may not be their looks or talents. It could come down to their character and what they truly represent. What’s their identity and what core values do they uphold.

 

3. They are mentally strong

Winners stay on top of their game by retaining mental acuteness and staying strong despite the odds they are faced with. They would delay gratification and discipline themselves so they can succeed at what they do.

 

4. They connect

True winners know that victory is not about them. It is about everyone on their team and even people who cheered them on when they were fatigued. They connect with their team, their audience, supporters and even those who they have defeated.

“Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence win championships.” – Michael Jordan

5. They listen

True winners are not adamant or stubborn. They listen. They know the importance of adapting and swimming with the tides. If it doesn’t object with their core values, true winners will listen and see how they can modify their way to success.

 

6. They know their strengths and flaws

True winners are best at what they do. They do not deal with cards that they do not have. They know what they can take and what they cannot take. Importantly, such knowledge helps them make decisions they can solidly stay with.

 

7. They contribute

They are not selfish. True winners are always looking for ways to improve their environment. They want to contribute and participate rather than just stand on the sidelines. They would do what is necessary to make sure their environment feels their impact or efforts.

 

8. They are optimistic

True winners are not negative. They know that things could go right if they stay on course and develop the right strategies to tackle problems. They are believers in possibilities rather than impossibilities.

 

9. They assume responsibility

They do not shy away from responsibility or the mantle of leadership. They would always step up to the plate and do what is necessary for the greater good of all. They do not make excuses or accept such, rather it is about taking charge and fixing whatever they find is wrong.

 

10.They seek support in other winners

They know that to be a winner you need to establish the right relationships with others who have a winning mentality. They seek support and walk in strides with people who recognize and can strengthen their cause. At the end of the day what will take you from where you are to where you should be will be reliance on the right network of support, especially when the chips are down.

“You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.” – Zig Ziglar

Winners may be rare, but they are present in our society. It all starts from acknowledging what greatness is within you and the desire to step up your game. Winners do not accept mediocrity or tolerate average, they continually strive for excellence in what they do.

Yes you could add that they are passionate and enthusiastic in this regard, but what matters is that they are willing to do what is necessary to always reach their goals.

Do you have the qualities of a true winner? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Casey Imafidon is the Managing Partner of Venus Media Ltd and has written success advice for several online publications from Lifehack.org, under30ceo, pakwired.com and many more. He has also developed written content for top brands like Flightnetwork, Iwrite, Archetypes and many more. To succeed requires just more than talent, but grit, the right attitude and desire. Never miss a post! Visit his website  or follow him on Twitter.

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Why Do We Have An Unconscious Bias and How Can We Manage It?

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.  

Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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