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10 Powerful Ways to Build Unstoppable Confidence

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10 Powerful Ways to Build Unstoppable Confidence

It’s a scary thought isn’t it?– “I don’t have what it takes to make my dreams come true” Success, fame, wealth – all your dreams might remain…well, just pipe dreams. You wish you were more confident. Like all those really successful people you have heard about.

Newsflash – these people are not fundamentally more confident than you are. They have developed it along the way. You, yes you, can do the same! Where does tis confidence come from? Confidence is a feeling, an emotion, that helps you take challenges head on, gain the respect of important people and become more productive.

But what’s the source of this confidence? True confidence that comes from taking actiondoing the right things that get you real results. It’s having the knowledge that you are on the right track. And here’s the best part…Taking these confidence boosting actions is far easier than you think.

Here are 10 powerful ways to build unstoppable confidence:

1. Find your tribe

Are you trying to win this on your own? Wouldn’t it be easier if you had friends who share your dreams, as well as your fears and frustrations? People who will support you through your ups and downs. To find your tribe, join a community of ambitious people who are on the same path as you are. If you have a start-up, go to entrepreneur meetups; if you want to be a successful blogger, join an online blogger community. You will gain access to the collective experience of dozens of smart people. You will pick up amazing hacks and avoid unnecessary mistakes. You will also realize: If other people like you can become successful, why can’t you too? Your tribe will be an enormous source of confidence that will propel you towards success. You are not alone!

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” – Peter T. Mcintyre

2. Choose the right battles

Do you spend too much time trying to ‘fix’ your weaknesses? For example, you might be great at marketing, but technology is your worst nightmare. Trying to solve tech problems might make you feel helpless and you could end up procrastinating. Devoting time and energy without results will affect your overall confidence levels. Instead, why not just outsource or delegate it? Sometimes, the key to better confidence is to avoid something, rather than do something. Focus on your strengths and you will see your confidence soar!

 

3. Embrace failure

How many times did Edison fail before he succeeded in inventing the light bulb? Over a thousand! All super-successful people have experienced numerous failures. They won because they persisted. They learnt from their mistakes, changed their approach and kept trying until they got it right. Simple fact: Anytime you do something new, you are bound to make mistakes. Accept this fact, and you will transform failure into a source of determination, not disappointment.

 

4. Take tiny steps

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by your goal? Does it seem too difficult? The best way to deal with a massive undertaking is to break it up into smaller goals – small projects that you know you can achieve. Jack Welch, GE’s legendary former CEO, used to stress on the importance of small daily achievements. These small wins will fire up your confidence to take on bigger goals head on!

 

5. Start right

How you start your day has tremendous influence on your mood for the rest of the day. Begin your day by tackling the most important task. Decide what you want to work on the evening before, so that you can kick off first thing in the morning. Scratching off the most important task is like scoring the first goal of the game! It pumps you up for more action!

“Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker

6. Get real

Are you trying to do too muchOne of the biggest blows to your confidence happens when you continually fail to meet your own targets. Instead, set targets that you know you can accomplish. As Steve Jobs used to say, “rather than try to do everything, focus on a few things that yield the maximum results”. It’s important to push your limits, but don’t push yourself (and your confidence) off the edge!

 

7. Make a movie

Is the thought of an upcoming project, client meeting or presentation giving you the jitters? Try this hack that helped Michael Phelps win 22 Olympic medals. Close your eyes for 2 minutes and play a mental movie of the upcoming task. Anticipate the challenges and visualize yourself tackling them successfully. Michael Phelps used to do this every time before a swim. This simple visualization can fill you with a champion’s confidence.

 

8. Get physical

Your body has a powerful influence on your mood. Whenever you feel the pangs of doubt, get up and do a few pushups or spot jogging. Pumping adrenaline into your system is a sure-fire way of switching on your fighting mode. If you really want to notice a permanent improvement in confidence, start exercising for just 10-15 minutes a day. The Eastern Ontario Research Institute concluded from a study, that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more competent in several areas of life – socially, academically, and athletically. No wonder billionaire Richard Branson swears by exercise.

 

9. Get a coach

Do you have someone to guide you personally? Someone who will help you set the right goals and targets, support and push you to execute those goals and correct you when you are going wrong? Eric Schmidt, former CEO of Google said that his best advice to new CEOs is to have a coach. A coach can give you the confidence that you are on the right track, help you make far fewer mistakes and seriously speed up your success. Why not try this?

 

10. Make fear your friend

Ever heard of ‘Productive Paranoia’? It’s a term bestselling author Jim Collins uses in his book, ‘Great by Choice’. It means that if you are afraid, you will take action to address the cause of fear. Bill Gates said that he used to worry about what an unknown teenager might be working on in his garage that might make existing technology obsolete. He channelled that fear into working even harder. Use your fear to take action. You will no longer feel helpless, but in control. That’s when your confidence will take a huge leap. You can take it on!

“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” – Tony Robbins

Confidence doesn’t come out of thin air. It’s earned by the things that we do, by the small actions that we take every single day. You can build unstoppable confidence. You do have what it takes to make your dreams come true.

Which of the above actions will you take today to supercharge your confidence?
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16 Comments

16 Comments

  1. sachin

    Mar 9, 2016 at 4:27 am

    hey peter u helped me a lot to set my goal and get out of the well of fear

  2. dungeon hunter 5 hack 2015

    Dec 19, 2015 at 9:18 am

    I enjoy reading posts that can make people think.

    Furthermore, thank you for letting me comment!

  3. Mel Wicks

    Dec 12, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    Hi Peter, I think you were referring to me in your second point! You are so right. I spend way too long struggling over the technical hurdles when I could be outsourcing them and getting on with what I’m much better at. Mel (a fellow SBO member)

  4. Joanna Jast

    Dec 8, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    Excellent article, Peter.

    Making fear your friend is really an awesome strategy. If you approach it right, you can fight fear (of putting yourself out there/fear of failure) with fear (of not achieving your dreams)!

    thanks for sharing

  5. James Hughes

    Nov 26, 2015 at 5:55 am

    Great post. Confidence boosted!

    Thanks for sharing this.

    James Hughes

  6. Evan

    Nov 25, 2015 at 10:45 am

    Peter, excellent article!

    Make a movie is an extremely good idea, and I don’t always utilize that one. Thanks for reminding me how important it is.

    I believe my unshakable confidence has been one of the biggest factors in helping me achieve what I want. These are nice practical tips to keep anyone who is serious about their work focused.

    Thanks a million!

    – Evan

    • Peter Banerjea

      Nov 26, 2015 at 8:18 am

      Hey Evan,
      The visualization technique can work really well, if done right. Just make sure you anticipate the challenges during your visualization.
      Thanks! Peter

  7. Rose Costas

    Nov 25, 2015 at 5:55 am

    Thanks Peter for the reminder. They all seem so simple but most times it’s the simple things that causes us to lose our way.

    • Peter Banerjea

      Nov 26, 2015 at 8:21 am

      Thanks Rose! Good luck applying these techniques.

  8. Rohit

    Nov 23, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    Hi Peter,

    Great article. Loved the read.

    Thanks

    Rohit

  9. Addicted 2 The Grind

    Nov 23, 2015 at 3:04 pm

    Great Post , Confidence is something most need to be successful. you have to have thick skin , great work ethic and confidence in yourself and whatever you’re doing.

    • Peter Banerjea

      Nov 24, 2015 at 12:52 pm

      Yes – confidence gives us the strength to succeed in really challenging situation. Thank you for dropping by!

  10. Peter Banerjea

    Nov 22, 2015 at 11:05 am

    Hey Debbie,
    Each of us have our strengths and weaknesses. We will reach our goals a lot more quickly if we focus on what we do best, rather than feel bad about what we can’t do.
    Thanks for commenting!
    Peter

  11. Debbie

    Nov 22, 2015 at 2:39 am

    Hi Peter. Number 2 is so practical. I spend a lot of time doing things that are better off delegated. I will definitely apply this. Deb

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