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10 Actions You Can Take That Will Dramatically Change Your Life

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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Someone once said “experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards.” However, it can be difficult to figure out exactly what that test is. We are not going to go into the usual jargon about taking up a hobby, going for a jog, or joining a self-improvement group. Changing our lives can be complex. Nonetheless, the flow of life is onward and upward irrespective of our need for self adjustment.

Here are the actions you can take to create dramatic change in your life.

 

10 Things You Can Do Right Now To Change Your Life

 

#1 Get over It!

Yep, that’s it. Get over life. Stop making life more complicated than it is. Everything happens for a reason, and when one door shuts, another one opens. Once we stop resisting life and live it, we will see dramatic changes take place. One famous and wealthy actress who once lived in a homeless shelter stated “I learned that I could live through any situation. I grew into a person who knew that they could always make their own way.”

Learn your lesson, get over it, and move on.

 

#2 Change Your Outlook

Dramatic changes calls for employing that stint of courage that propels us to make positive changes in our lives. Prepare for positive and new things to enter your life. A shift in consciousness is all that is needed to make the changes you seek.

 

#3 Go for it!

If you are dreaming of something bigger, it won’t come to you. You will have to go out there and get it. Jenna Fischer, an actress on the hit TV show “The Office,” made a trip from her hometown to Los Angeles expecting to land a super job within a year. However, it took much longer. But patience paid off and she eventually landed movie roles and started producing.

 

#4 Don’t Give Up

Good things come to those who do not give up, not to those who wait! Change requires action but those changes won’t usually happen over night. In 1983, Dewey Bozella, then an amateur boxer, was convicted of a murder he did not commit. It took over 20 years for his name to be cleared. Free to continue pursuing his dream of becoming a boxer, he was 52, stepped into the ring against a 30 year old fighter and won! At the end of the night he said “Don’t every give up.” Lesson learned.

 

#5 Go on a Diet

Many of us have tried various diets whether to loose weight or gain it. But those are not the types of diets we are referring to here. In order to make significant changes in your life you should try a “mental diet.” Get out all the clutter that’s been stuck in your brain for eons. That means releasing yourself from the negative thoughts that keep you from being the person you wish to be.

 

#6 Be Thankful

Instead of wondering through life like an ungrateful tormentor always wanting more, more, more, maybe its time to appreciate what you already have. It may not seem like much, but making this type of change in your life will help you feel better about yourself, thereby, changing your outlook on life.

 

#7 Chill Out

Today, it seems so difficult for people to simply relax. Beating the walls and making a big hoot about everything will only make you a nuisance, and no one will want to be around you. Former US president Ronald Regan once stated “its true, hard work never killed anybody, but why take the chance.”

There’s a difference between hard work and working hard. If you have the “all or nothing” attitude, change it.

 

#8 Become Less Sensitive

Sometimes changing ourselves requires “seeing ourselves as others do.” If you are one of those people that others feel the need to “walk on eggshells” whenever they are around you maybe they are on to something. Our own thoughts about ourselves are always the most important, but delusional musing is a great obstacle to change.

 

#9 Have a Broader Sense of Humor

Nothing changes the heart and mind like a good laugh. Laughter creates an opening where tension and fear once closed the door. Even while alone, have a few funny quotes you read that generates a deeply rich honest chuckle. A humorous quote by political satirist and entertainer Mark Russell says “the scientific theory I like best is that the rings of Saturn are composed entirely of lost airline baggage.” It’s imaginative and funny.

 

#10 Love

The love being referenced to here is not the clinging, dark, jealous, possessive love that makes you hate yourself and causes others to run away from you. Love in general is the modus operandi referred to here. It’s easy to point the finger at others but love understands because we are not perfect ourselves. It changes you because you become more perceptive.

 

You can probably think of a few other ideas that can result in dramatic changes in your life or someone else’s. All that is required is the desire to change.’

 

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I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 200 million lives in the last 10 years.

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19 Comments

19 Comments

  1. Stephanie Figuerado

    Jun 7, 2016 at 4:07 pm

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this article. Great examples of real life stories mixed in too!

  2. Emmanuel S. McDaniel

    Mar 19, 2014 at 4:44 pm

    Great list but typos in almost every paragraph take away from the articles credibility.

  3. Chetz Togom

    May 9, 2013 at 9:16 am

    Great list. I think # 1, 3, 4 ,5 ,6 and 7 are a must if you really want to change your life.

    Chetz

  4. WorkWithJoey.com

    Apr 21, 2013 at 4:15 pm

    Great article

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    Mar 6, 2013 at 6:25 pm

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  6. Ivan

    Mar 6, 2013 at 3:24 pm

    Everything happens for a reason? If that is so, ¿why would i want to improve my life?

    • Burton

      May 8, 2013 at 1:54 am

      Because as you change your life to create what you want out of it, than the reasons things happen to you will be more in line with who you really want to be. The things that seem to just happen will be more amazing than you would expect.

      You have to try to improve your life because that is where the beauty is. Thats when we are content enough to enjoy all the small things in life. Its a beautiful thing and you should try. You will be surprised at what you are capable of.

    • Kimberly

      Jun 22, 2013 at 11:36 am

      This is a good question! You would want to work on yourself so you can get through those tough seasons… When life happens for a reason we become better or bitter. That’s the why we work on ourselves. So we don’t turn bitter!!

  7. Lisa Levine

    Feb 25, 2013 at 7:14 pm

    Joel, you are one wise man. Your right in that attitude is altitude. It can be so easy to get stuck in the mental rut, where you think ‘why me’, but everyone has their ups and downs, its just they may not let it grind them down as much as the next person. And once you get stuck in the role where you feel everything is against you, it can get harder and harder to escape from the vicious circle.

  8. Pat

    Feb 21, 2013 at 4:10 pm

    Nice concise article with good content. Like most worthwhile things, simple!

  9. akilispensor

    Feb 7, 2013 at 3:59 am

    Well put! I think the big takeaways are that small shifts in perspective can make a world of difference.

  10. Bliss Magazine (@LivingUrBliss)

    Feb 4, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    Gratitude is the big one for me. Not only does it bring me back to the present moment but also brings about a mental shift from lack to abundance, from fear to love. “Gratitude for the abundance you have received is the best insurance that the abundance will continue.” Mohammad

  11. joe

    Jan 26, 2013 at 5:09 pm

    Well said…most of the them i need in this life

  12. 3paysmembers

    Jan 23, 2013 at 4:23 am

    10 simple but powerful steps. Thanks.

  13. Terry

    Jan 20, 2013 at 7:57 pm

    Great advice. Although I’m thinking how far can this sort of advice get people. For example can people be less sensitive by trying to be less sensitve?

  14. Wolf

    Jan 20, 2013 at 8:36 am

    Love #4: “Good things come to those who do not give up, not to those who wait”

  15. Soal

    Jan 18, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    Namaste, Thanks for the amazing post! I live by these values every day. One of the most important is being thankful every day, we are very lucky to have what we do and appreciation humbles the soul.

  16. Catherine White

    Jan 15, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    You make some great point and start with the strongest one of all:
    “Get Over It”.
    Many people are too busy dwelling in the past to think about the future. Every situation – good or bad – can teach you something. Take your new knowledge and move toward the future.
    Thanks for sharing these points.

  17. rakeah saha

    Jan 13, 2013 at 11:45 am

    Very well said – Thoughts become things and reality happens twice -first in mind and then in reality, hence learn to switch pattern from your problem state to resourceful state whenever it is required and feed on to your subconscious mind.

    Get yourself conditioned to what you want to be and unlearn what you do not want to be .

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

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Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

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As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

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