Life
6 Life Changing Things You Must Do Before You Die
There are some magical things that you can experience in life that most never do. Our existence on planet Earth is not forever even though our minds don’t allow us to focus on this guaranteed reality. You can either be the shinning light or the lonely darkness in the way that you choose to live.
There are lots of things we are told to experience in life before we die and I thought today it was worth pointing out a few that are less commonly spoken of. I’ve experienced each point below, and it has changed the way I see reality.
These life-changing experiences will shape who you are for the better, and they’ll make you a kinder, less selfish, inspirational, humble, compassionate, unstoppable, and memorable person. Not a bad list of things to do before you die huh?
Before you die, here are the 6 life-changing things you must do:
1. See the real beauty of who you are
As humans, we are phenomenal beings, and we don’t even realise it. Before you die take some time to sit somewhere out in nature like a beach, and really feel in your body just how much capability we have. We can do absolutely anything we put our mind to, and we have so much power to love almost anything we want to.
You’ve been through so much, yet you’re still here, breathing, and giving it 110% each day because you’re driven by your passion. Once you realise your beauty and everything that it is possible for you to achieve, your life will never be the same again.
You will never waste another minute, and you’ll stop feeling sorry for yourself.
2. Hug a stranger
We have so much compassion that is wasted and never used. Before you die, I want you to hug a stranger at least once and see what it feels like to give even when you’re not being asked for anything. See how you can be the person you always wanted to be just by starting with a small and simple action like a hug.
There doesn’t need to be any special reason for this hug other than you feeling like you’re ready to hug someone you don’t know to try and get the lesson I’m telling you. Go ahead and try this one out, it will forever make you more compassionate.
3. Coach one person
As we get older, we gain so much experience that is valuable to the younger generations. Rather than keep all of these golden nuggets of knowledge for our self, I want you to coach at least one person, for free, before you die.
Take this person aside once a week and hear about everything that they are struggling with. Be there for them at their lowest of lows, and their highest of highs. Help them to understand who they truly are and for them to discover their purpose.
Once you’ve helped them find their purpose, I want you to assist them in casting the biggest vision they can possibly ever think of. Help them to dream big and give them the confidence that anything is possible when we work hard and focus.
Throughout this coaching exercise, you’ll probably grow more than your mentee. This is normal but remember; it’s not about you. We spend so much time trying to change our state through, alcohol, drugs, and sex, that we forget how simple tasks like coaching can be far more powerful.
4. Tell your previous lovers what they meant to you
In our lives, each of us has many lovers that come and go. When we speak of past lovers we all feel something even if we don’t admit it. Just thinking of someone we used to love is enough to make us feel entirely different. In life, nothing is forever and sometimes we are not meant to be with someone long term.
It’s so critical that before we die, we tell our previous lovers how grateful we were for the time we spent with them. These lovers helped us grow as a person, and they loved us, even if it wasn’t everlasting. Through the sadness, we’ve moved onto new horizons but always kept them in our hearts forever.
Nothing can change the past, and all you can do before you die is learn from these ex-lovers. The trouble is that often these former partners have no idea how much we still appreciate them. My challenge to you is to be bold and tell them how special they still are.
Tell them all the things that you appreciated about them, and let them know you’re always there if they ever need to talk. These conversations will make you feel a wave of emotion, and you’ll never be the same person again. It takes a fearless person to do this very difficult task, and that’s how heroes are born. Embrace your former lovers and never forget where you came from.
5. Forgive all the people that wronged you
Many people go to their graves full of hurt and regret. Don’t be one of these lifeless zombies and before you die, forgive the people that wronged you in the past. Forgiving people helps take a massive weight off your shoulders.
“When you’re grown up enough to realise that everyone makes mistakes and that we’re all fearful, you begin to realise that we’re so alike”
This particular point is the most difficult for me as I have practiced forgiveness a lot, but still, have not forgiven some key people.
It’s my goal in life to finally get over what these people did and forgive them for what they’ve done. When you focus deep down inside, you’ll realise that the people who wronged you did it out of a brief moment of selfishness, not out of hatred for you.
We can all be selfish at times and these moments shouldn’t define whether we choose to forgive someone. Forgiveness is a choice, and it’s the hardest thing you will ever do before you die. You can never really be free until you choose forgiveness over hatred.
Think carefully about all your so-called enemies, and try to see them as being just like you. Because guess what? They are identical to you and come from the same place you do. Don’t ever forget that!
6. Inspire the world
Inspiration is what is missing in our lives. No matter how uncomplicated or seemingly boring our stories are, we can all give inspiration to others. Before you die, I want you to try as many times as you can to inspire people to do something that will help them in life.
“If all you do is live out your existence focusing on your own selfish needs, you’ll have this gaping hole of regret begin to form”
You won’t know where this regret comes from until you experiment enough and understand it’s formed through a lack of helping others.
There’s no need to experiment though because I’m revealing the mystery to you right now. Get on a stage somewhere and share a story that can inspire people. Take your boring Facebook page full of selfies of you on holidays or wearing a new outfit, and fill it with messages that can inspire your friends and followers.
Once you live a life where you will stop at nothing to inspire people and squeeze out the juice from everything you’ve ever done, you will start to live a life that is worth remembering. Even when you’re gone, the people life on this planet will remember your name for years to come, and you’ll become one of the greats. Now that’s something worth doing before you die, isn’t it?
What life-changing task are you going to do before you die? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.
Entrepreneurs
The Brutal Truth About Entrepreneurship with ADHD (And Why Most Advice Is Making It Worse)
You’re not lazy. You’re not undisciplined… and you’re definitely not broken.
You’re an entrepreneur with ADHD, and right now you’re probably sitting on 19 unfinished projects, 47 open tabs, and a brain that feels like it’s running on 12 different radio stations at once.
You’ve read the books. You’ve tried the planners, the Pomodoro timers, the accountability groups. You’ve even hired coaches who promised to “fix” your focus. Yet here you are — brilliant ideas, massive potential, and a business that still feels like it’s one step away from collapsing under the weight of your own mind.
Here’s what almost nobody in the entrepreneurial space will admit:
The real struggle isn’t your ADHD. It’s that you’ve been trying to run a neurodivergent brain inside a neurotypical business model — and then beating yourself up when it doesn’t work.
Most advice for entrepreneurs was written by people whose brains work differently. They preach consistency, routines, long-term planning, and steady execution like those things are universal truths. For the ADHD entrepreneur, those “truths” feel like trying to swim upstream in cement. You can force it for a while (and you have), but eventually your brain rebels, the burnout hits, and you’re left feeling like a failure who just needs to “try harder.”
That cycle is quietly destroying more talented founders than cash flow problems or bad hires ever could.
The deeper layer most people never reach is this: your ADHD isn’t a bug in the system. It’s a different operating system entirely. And when you stop trying to install Windows on a Mac and start building everything around macOS, the game changes completely.
The Hidden Addiction That Keeps ADHD Entrepreneurs Stuck
You already know the surface symptoms — time blindness, rejection sensitivity, starting strong and fading fast, shiny object syndrome.
But the real trap is more insidious.
It’s the addiction to chaos and novelty.
Your brain is wired for dopamine. New ideas, big visions, last-minute sprints, high-stakes pressure — these things light you up like nothing else. The boring, repetitive, systems-building work that actually scales a business? It feels like torture.
So unconsciously, you keep your business in a state of controlled chaos. You say yes to too many things. You chase the next exciting opportunity. You avoid building the boring infrastructure because “I work better under pressure anyway.”
And every time the pressure gets too high, you crash, swear you’ll get organized next quarter, and repeat the cycle.
Meanwhile, the neurotypical advice keeps telling you to “just build better habits.” As if your brain is a poorly trained dog that needs more discipline instead of a high-performance race car that needs the right fuel and track.
This isn’t a character flaw. It’s neurology.
And until you stop treating your wiring as something to overcome and start treating it as your greatest strategic advantage, you’ll stay stuck in the same exhausting loop.
The Identity Shift That Changes Everything
The entrepreneurs with ADHD who finally break through don’t “fix” their brains.
They redesign their entire business to work with their brains.
They stop trying to become the consistent, routine-loving founder the gurus talk about. Instead, they become the architect of a system that leverages their natural strengths — hyperfocus, pattern recognition, creative problem-solving, relentless drive under pressure — while outsourcing or automating everything that drains them.
This is the layer most ADHD entrepreneurs never reach because it requires something terrifying: accepting that you are never going to be “normal” at entrepreneurship… and that’s exactly why you can win bigger than most.
Your ability to see connections others miss. Your tolerance for uncertainty. Your capacity to go all-in when something lights you up. These aren’t liabilities. They’re unfair advantages in a world that rewards speed, creativity, and bold moves.
The shift is simple but brutal:
Stop trying to manage your ADHD. Start designing your business around it.
How to Actually Build a Business That Works With Your Brain
- Stop fighting your energy cycles — weaponize them. Most ADHD entrepreneurs try to force 8-hour focused days. That’s insane. Instead, track when your brain actually works best (for many it’s 10pm-2am or random 4-hour hyperfocus bursts). Build your schedule around those windows. Protect them like gold. Do the deep, high-leverage work then. Use the low-energy periods for admin, calls, or recovery.
- Build “chaos containers,” not rigid systems. Traditional project management tools feel like cages. Create loose but effective structures that give your brain freedom. Use tools like Notion with massive flexibility, or body-doubling (working alongside someone virtually), or even hiring a “chaos wrangler” — an assistant who thrives on turning your scattered ideas into executable plans.
- Turn your rejection sensitivity into rocket fuel. That intense fear of letting people down or looking stupid? Channel it into creating ridiculously high standards for your customer experience or product quality. Use it as fuel instead of letting it paralyze you.
- Outsource the parts that make you want to die. The execution, follow-through, and maintenance phases are where most ADHD entrepreneurs lose. Hire or partner with people who love the details. Your job is vision, strategy, and big swings. Let someone else own the spreadsheets.
- Create external pressure on your own terms. Deadlines and public commitments work wonders for the ADHD brain. Use them strategically — announce launches, create beta groups, or work with coaches who understand neurodivergence instead of fighting it.
The entrepreneurs with ADHD who are quietly crushing it right now aren’t the ones who finally became “disciplined.” They’re the ones who stopped apologizing for how their brain works and started building empires that are specifically engineered for it.
They have teams that handle the boring stuff. They have systems that flex with their energy instead of fighting it. They’ve turned their “flaws” into the exact reasons their businesses stand out.
Your ADHD brain is not the enemy. The enemy was trying to play the game by rules that were never designed for you.
The moment you accept that and start designing everything… your calendar, your team, your offers, your processes — around how you actually operate, the struggle doesn’t disappear… but it becomes manageable, even exhilarating.
You were never meant to fit the mold. You were meant to break it and build something better.
The world doesn’t need another cookie-cutter entrepreneur. It needs the chaotic, brilliant, all-in, slightly unhinged visionaries who can only operate at full power when the game is built for them.
That’s you.
Stop trying to fix yourself. Start building the business that was always meant to be run by a mind like yours.
Your next breakthrough isn’t going to come from working harder or being more consistent. It’s going to come from finally giving yourself permission to work differently.
And when you do that? Watch what happens.
The same brain that once felt like a curse becomes the exact reason your business becomes unstoppable.
You’ve got this. Not despite the ADHD. Because of it.
If you want to learn more from me or send me a personal message I’ll respond to you on Instagram at https://instagram.com/iamjoelbrown speak soon!
Health & Fitness
The Health Planning Habits That Support Long-Term Success
Most people think about health planning only when something forces them to.
A medical bill arrives unexpectedly. An insurance issue appears during treatment. A diagnosis changes how future care needs are viewed. Suddenly health planning becomes urgent instead of preventative.
The problem is that long-term health stability is usually shaped by smaller habits built quietly over time, not just by major decisions during emergencies.
That includes physical health habits, of course, but it also includes how people approach insurance coverage, preventative care, financial preparation, and long-term healthcare planning before problems become immediate.
The families who navigate healthcare stress most effectively are often not the ones avoiding every issue entirely. More often, they’re the ones who built systems early enough to make difficult situations feel more manageable later.
Consistency Matters More Than Perfection
A lot of health advice still revolves around extreme change.
Perfect diets. Aggressive routines. Complete lifestyle overhauls.
In reality, most long-term health success comes from consistency people can realistically maintain for years instead of months. Small preventative habits tend to matter more than dramatic short-term efforts that collapse under pressure.
That principle applies financially too.
People often spend more time researching investment strategies than understanding their healthcare coverage or preparing for future medical costs. But healthcare instability can disrupt long-term financial plans surprisingly quickly when households are unprepared for how expensive even routine care can become over time.
The practical side of health planning is becoming harder to separate from overall financial planning now than it used to be.
Preventative Planning Reduces More Stress Than People Realize
One overlooked benefit of health planning is emotional stability.
People who understand their coverage, maintain preventative care routines, and think ahead about healthcare decisions often describe feeling less overwhelmed when unexpected situations happen. The goal is not eliminating uncertainty entirely. That’s unrealistic.
The goal is reducing how chaotic healthcare decisions feel under pressure.
That’s one reason broader conversations tied to healthcare and health insurance have expanded significantly over the last several years. Rising costs, changing coverage structures, and increasing healthcare complexity have made long-term planning more important for average households than many people expected.
Healthcare is no longer something most families can comfortably approach reactively forever.
People Underestimate How Quickly Healthcare Costs Compound
One reason health planning habits matter so much is that healthcare costs rarely arrive in one dramatic moment alone.
More often, they build gradually:
- recurring prescriptions
- specialist visits
- ongoing treatment plans
- insurance deductible increases
- long-term care considerations
- unexpected procedures layered on top of existing expenses
Families often absorb these costs incrementally until they realize how much financial pressure accumulated over time.
That gradual buildup is part of what makes proactive planning valuable. People who think ahead about coverage structures, emergency savings, provider networks, and preventative care tend to adapt more smoothly when healthcare needs eventually increase later in life.
The difficult part is that many households delay these conversations because they feel healthy right now.
Healthcare Decisions Have Become More Complicated
Another challenge is that healthcare systems themselves continue evolving quickly.
Insurance structures change. Telehealth expands. Employer-sponsored benefits shift. Prescription pricing fluctuates. Patients now carry more responsibility for understanding deductibles, provider networks, and out-of-pocket exposure than previous generations often did.
That complexity creates decision fatigue.
Even relatively organized households sometimes feel uncertain about whether they’re making good healthcare choices because the systems themselves are difficult to navigate confidently. A lot of current health insurance trends discussions reflect this larger issue, healthcare planning is becoming less about isolated medical events and more about long-term sustainability across entire households.
People want predictability, but healthcare systems increasingly feel harder to predict.
The Most Effective Health Habits Usually Feel Boring
One thing people rarely admit is that good long-term planning habits are often not particularly exciting.
Scheduling preventative appointments. Reviewing insurance annually. Building emergency savings slowly. Staying physically active consistently. Maintaining realistic routines instead of dramatic cycles of burnout and reset.
None of those habits feel dramatic at the moment.
But over long periods, they create stability that becomes incredibly valuable once life gets complicated. The people who navigate healthcare stress most effectively are often the ones who built ordinary systems early instead of waiting for perfect motivation later.
That applies financially and physically at the same time.
Why Long-Term Success Depends on Adaptability
Health planning is ultimately difficult because people’s lives keep changing.
Careers shift. Families grow. Aging parents require support. Medical needs evolve. Financial priorities change over decades in ways nobody predicts perfectly in advance.
That’s why the strongest long-term health planning habits are usually flexible rather than rigid.
The goal is not building a flawless plan that never changes. It’s creating enough structure, awareness, and preparation that future adjustments become manageable instead of overwhelming.
Most people cannot control every future health outcome. They can, however, build habits that make uncertainty easier to navigate when it eventually arrives.
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