5 Mindset Traps That Will Halt Your Motivation

5 Mindset Traps That Will Halt Your Motivation

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5 Mindset Traps That Will Halt Your Motivation
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Living an amazing and successful life will mean something different for each of us. There is one common theme that many of us would love to have in our life, and it can best be described in one word: Freedom.

We long to live life on our terms and wake up each day doing the things that are important to the kind of life we want to live.

For 12 years, I delivered bread in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I was 170 pounds overweight, and our family was $180,000 in debt. I could never dream of a successful life because my self-limiting beliefs convinced me my life would never be more than what it was. I was stuck and woke up every day hating life.

In 2011, everything came crashing down on my head at the same time. At my lowest point, I was crying on the living room floor of a friend’s house. After two days of feeling sorry for myself, I made a decision. I realized that if something was going to change in my life, I had to be the one to change it.

When I made the decision to change, there were five mindset traps that tried to keep me from the life I wanted to live. These traps are common and keep too many dreamers from living a successful life.

Here are the 5 mindset traps that will halt your motivation and success:


1. “I’m not strong enough”

You may not be as strong as some other successful person you know, but you don’t have to be. You have the strength inside of you waiting to break free. Strength comes when you clearly identify your “why”—the reason you’re chasing a dream. When you can look past your circumstances and focus on your goal—you become stronger.


2. “I’ve failed in the past”

If you trace many of the people we consider heroes: Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Bill Gates, and so on, you’ll see a story of overcoming failure. Everyone experiences failure, but not everyone handles it the same way. Don’t let previous failure keep you from future success. You can and will overcome failure if you choose to.


3. “It’s too hard”

It would be easier if life worked out like the movies, but it doesn’t. Life is hard and messy. Circumstances never work out as planned. Making big changes and chasing dreams is hard work. It takes hustle, determination and overcoming self-limiting beliefs. The hard work will help you appreciate the dream once you make it a reality.


4. “People won’t understand”

Change is scary. It scares those around you because all of us are afraid to move outside of our comfort zone. We have been conditioned to stay within a certain path for most of our life, so when we deviate, people around us try to convince us to conform. They may mean well, but they don’t have to walk a mile in your shoes. This is your life, and you have to live it for YOU.


5. “I have more time”

Life is short. Each of us can look back on a memory that felt like it was just yesterday but was actually years ago. Life can pass us by quickly. Assuming you will have more time is a slippery slope. All we have is today, and we should live each day as if it were the last.

“Don’t aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.” – David Frost

It took three years, but I lost the 170 pounds, I quit a job I hated for 12 years, I self-published two books that have sold over 100,000 copies. The book sales allowed us to pay off all of the $180,000 in debt. The cherry on the cake was moving our family from Milwaukee, Wisconsin to our dream destination of Maui, Hawaii. We have been here for 15 months now.

I’m not different. I didn’t win the lottery or get any lucky breaks. It took three years of hustle and hard work, but I made my dreams a reality. I was a bread guy from Wisconsin who beat his self-limiting beliefs. You can, too. You can live whatever a successful life means to you if you take action. You will fail, you will want to give up, but if you can rise above what you feel at that moment, you can achieve success.

Have you let any mindset trap keep you from success?
I used to deliver bread for a living, now I write. You can see my words in cool places such as the Huffington Post, Entrepreneur Magazine, Mind Body Green, the Good Men Project, Fox News, and many more. My books have sold over 100,000 copies and my new book, Stop Chasing Influencers, drops later this year. In the last three years, I’ve lost 170 pounds and moved our family to Maui, Hawaii. My goal is to help you create freedom in your work, health, and relationships and live your dream life. Join me at KimanziConstable.com and Kimanzi Constable on Facebook.


  1. Thank you for those tips, Kimanzi. I am familiar with your inspiring personal story through Dan Miller at 48days – it’s amazing!

    I struggle to stay motivated. Results of my efforts are slow to appear. I believe the first item on your list above will help me endure. Thank you for the reminder that the key to perseverance is the strength that comes from knowing my ‘why.’

    I’m curious… as you started out on your journey of transformation 4 years ago, how did you make sure your ‘why’ was always front and center?

    I have heard the suggestion to create a ‘why board’ full of images, quotes, and whatever other items remind you of your “why.” Did you use something like that to carry you through the difficult moments?

  2. Hi Kimanzi,
    I love this post. #4 is, I’ve found, probably the most limiting one for me. I’ve totally changed my career and to say some people have been negative, scathing or downright confused, is putting it mildly. Thankfully, there are also people who have been incredibly supportive – but it is hard to make a change in the face of doubters. Especially when they are people whose opinions I’ve trusted in the past.

    Inspirational story – glad I read it today!

  3. Thank you for this encouraging article! Especially the last point “I have more time” was inspiring, the message is “do it NOW”. Congrats for turning things around, that must have been an incredible challenge! Are there any strategies you could share concerning self publishing? Maybe in another blog article? I would love that!

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