6 Ways To Make The Story Of Your Life Impactful

6 Ways To Make The Story Of Your Life Impactful

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Make Your Life Impactful To Reach Success
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All of us dream of having a life that is impactful and forms a story that may one day be turned into a book or movie. The story of your life is made up of many elements that are also the fundamentals of success.

Unless your life is impactful, no one is ever going to care greatly about your story. Your story is owned by you, and only you can create and determine how much impact it will have. Ask yourself the question right now, does your life have a significant impact? If it doesn’t, then it’s time to change it.

It’s time for you to create something that everyone will remember you for. It’s time to turn that dream that you have always had into a reality. This all starts with a decision and often you need some major, painful event to trigger this desire.

Think about the emotions you would feel if the majority of people respected you and were inspired by you. You would be on top of the world, and your life would have meant something. Your name will forever live on, and generations of people will live their lives in dedication to what you stood for.

That sounds like a real vision, and that sounds like a common goal that we should all strive for.

Below are the six ways to make the story of your life impactful.

 

1. Do something outstanding

Life stories that have a major impact all involve someone doing something outstanding; something that no one thought was possible or that would ever be done. Have you done something outstanding already?

If you haven’t, that’s okay, but start thinking about what major task you could achieve that would be outstanding. Start thinking about what you’re great at or what you could be great at.
This first step is the most crucial and you need to decide on it before you proceed.

There are so many people that never realise that they need to do something outstanding, so just this realisation alone can be empowering in itself. Given the size of this task, it’s not going to happen overnight.

When you come to terms with what you are going to do, it will begin to manifest itself in your life. Doing something outstanding ties together passion, giving back, purpose, fulfillment, and many more success attributes that we have all heard before.

The fact that doing something outstanding covers so many of these attributes is the reason why you should dedicate your life to this one task. Once you achieve it, then you have the very rare task of doing it all over again with a new task.

Tim Denning Quote - One Defining Moment
 

2. Teach Others

Any great story involves some form of learning. Before you can teach other people something, though, you need to teach yourself first. I like to begin with lots of reading across a broad range of topics. This will give you the foundations of what you can teach others.

For me, what I want to teach other people is all about self-development, entrepreneurship and how to reach success. This is no easy task for me but I have devoted a large amount of time to it, and I can see progress every week now.

In the beginning, I didn’t see any progress but my mentors told me that eventually I would, and they were right. At the start, I was the student, but now I am becoming the teacher. Each day I get to teach people ideas I have learned myself and translate it into my own language.

Google has meant that education and information is easy to find, but the real task now is for someone to curate and translate the information.

It’s this translation of the learning I have done that allows me to create value. The language I speak in is unique, and the ideas are curated by my own mind. When you can begin to do the same thing, then you two can teach others (if you’re not already).

I recently got the opportunity to work with a graduate. Initially, I wasn’t that excited about the task, but as things progressed, I realised that I had the chance to completely shape his career, which in turn, would shape his life. Anyone can do this and even if it starts with just one graduate, you have the chance to begin to make an impact.

 

3. Share your story

Once you establish your story and start to create an impact, it’s time to share it with others. This doesn’t just mean that you share the good moments with some happy Instagram photos – there is much more to it.

The key to sharing your story is that it’s about being vulnerable, and sharing the negative moments and failures, and then balancing these out with the positive successes. As you share your story in this way, you will begin to compound the impact your story has on the world.

There are many ways to share your story and I have found the easiest way is online first. As you become more comfortable in sharing your story, you can then start sharing it through video, and then later in person.

With my own story, I am about to start sharing it on video, and then the next step will be through public speaking. I am happy to tell you though that I am not great at public speaking so expect to see me at a local Toastmasters shortly. If you are an expert in public speaking and can help, then feel free to reach out to me.

 

4. Live your dream at all costs

The only way your story will have any impact is if it is directly hardwired to your dream. You will need to move every obstacle out of the pathway of your life and agree to live this dream no matter what.

Even when all your close friends are out having dinner, there will be times when you will be required to not take the easy route, and not attend so that you can work on your dream. The temptation in these situations will be great which is why your own individual dream needs to be something you have thought about and truly care about.

Your dream is linked to your passion, and when you are in a state of mind where you are doing something you love, you experience high levels of happiness. Happiness then becomes a fuel for your mind, and you subconsciously start to create your story and make an impact without even thinking about it.

 

5. Show some emotion

To make the story of your life impactful, it needs to contain some emotion. Emotion is what draws people in, and it’s what makes it your story. When it comes to the story of your life, the word impact really just means emotion.

You can’t fake emotion in your own story. The more real and the rawer the emotion is, the more people will be drawn to it. If your story is full of made up elements, then people can spot the fakeness a mile away.

As I have said before, your pain becomes your success, and your success is often determined by the impact you are having. There is nothing like seeing someone give it all they have got and sharing every amount of emotion they have with you.

You get tingles down your spine; you feel unstoppable, and you want to spend more time with them. These are all things that our brains think about subconsciously all the time. If a thought pops into your head about something you are going to do, and you start thinking about what people will think of that action, just do it and don’t think twice.

The chances are that if that action is something that you are worried what others will say about it, it’s probably because it has some form of emotion attached to it that requires you to be vulnerable. It’s these actions that you should commit to doing if you want to have an impact.

 

6. Learn to control your mind

The one element you have 100% control over when it comes to the impact of your life story is your mind (assuming you learn to control it). This is no easy task and so many people never master this art. It requires you to study some basic elements of psychology and really understand yourself.

You need to work out what you love, what you hate, what motivates you and what stops you. If you practice this art form every single day, your brain becomes like a muscle and starts to grow. Your ability to make tough decisions becomes easier, and you’re drawn closer to your purpose.

“Once the human mind is understood and put to proper use, your impact can become more widespread. You can begin to move closer to the things that you care about most and stay clear of the things you have no interest in” – Tim Denning

The people who have controlled their mind the best usually go on to become leaders in their field. From Warren Buffett, to Tony Robbins to the Dalai Lama; all of them live their life at the highest level.

People from the outside will observe the way you control your mind and begin to be drawn to you because it’s such a rarity to have your mind under control and working for you, instead of against you.

Everything I have just mentioned starts with a decision: a decision to be great, a decision to be the example for others rather than let your life waste away to something that no one will remember.

Will you be the person who has the funeral that the whole world stops for, or the person whose funeral has less than twenty close family members there to see you off?

How are you going to make the story of your life impactful? Let me know in the comments section below or on Twitter and Facebook.
Tim Denning is a former entrepreneur turned intrapreneur, working daily with fast-moving tech companies. He is passionate about what makes startups successful and is a thought leader/ game changer via the use of social media. Tim uses personal development and success as a platform for greatness. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook and Twitter.

17 COMMENTS

  1. I recently discovered that telling your story, a good story is empowerment. I always told my three sons, when you find your passion you will find success and then, over the years, encouraged each of them to use their talents and develop their passion and success would come. Knowing their back story, their history is an important part of that discovery of achieving a life of meaning and success and, working as a family, we were able to start making positive change and impact. We have just started. We want to be the example of how everyday people can make impact full change.

    Your article fills in some of the holes that I feel is necessary to take it to the next level. Thank you.

  2. Hi Tim,
    I find this article fascinating as it something i’ve been thinking about and discussing for many years. You’ll see by the holding page on my website that I haven’t quite got there. Friends and family tell me that I have an impactful story but I haven’t worked out how to translate that into something yet. I’m going to spend sometime going through these points and see if it will help me move it forward.
    Also, I would highly recommend Toastmaters i’ve been a member for about 4-5 years I’m currently President of the Bicester Speakers club in UK. I really enjoy public speaking and am always happy to volunteer to speak in public even if its on the spot. The skills i’ve learnt at toastmasters has contributed to me getting jobs and progressing in my career.
    Thanks

    • Thanks for reading Kerry-Anne and for your comments. I am very keen to see how Toastmasters goes for me and congrats on all your success so far. I look forward to seeing the holding page turn into your website 🙂

  3. Tim,

    Thanks for this article. And thank you for having an impact on my life! As I am on this journey it is good to know that others are there to help. Your words about pain becoming success are powerful! Forgive me, your first success principle is powerful! I have recently embraced this idea of failure and it is amazing what impact it is having on my life. My writing is clearer and my goals are more defined. I can not wait for the new year to take the next steps to help others and be impactful in a major way.

    Thank you!

    • Jodie thanks for the feedback. Tip number one is also my favourite because unless we do something outstanding, then not much else can happen in our life that will shape our overall story. I will make sure I check out your writing and thanks for reading!

  4. Tim, Thanks for the follow on twitter! Great post.

    The point that really sticks out to me is #4. Not giving in to temptation is very hard to do, but once you can control that temptation you can get a lot of stuff done.

    In order to be successful you have to make sacrifices and if that means not hanging out with friends or not catching up on your favorite tv shows then you do what it takes.

    • Not a problem guys I love what you are doing and regularly read your Twitter posts. I have just sent you a tweet 🙂

  5. Thank you for your work. You write good articles and I enjoy reading them. They’re very thought-provoking. However, I don’t think that making an impact on the world to achieve fame and glory is what life is or should be all about. I’d rather have no one show up for my funeral than not be true to myself. I think it is written in Christian scripture that “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?” There can be more important things in life than making an impact on others or on the whole world.

    • Hey Peter, Good point.

      Its all about what you feel and what your want to be known for.( not a general thing) If you want to impact people without the fame thats fine. But I also believe you can impact way more people if you have a bigger audience or platform.

      At the end of the day impacting anyone to do positive things is great.

    • Peter thanks for leaving your view and I appreciate where you are coming from. My viewpoint was more about having a positive impact than fame. I agree though that you need to remain true to yourself.

  6. Impactful story of your life, a dream for many and reality for so little. Packing my things now and moving into new place, I cannot help but think how I want and enjoy to travel and love to see different environment as often as possible. Going through isolation at my job has helped me to see and better inderstand my faults and work on them, transform them. I love that point about vulnerability, as in the past I usually wanted to avoid it at any cost and show everyone how strong I can be mentally. But again, was I living my own life or someone else’s ?

    Oh, and emotions. I am quite curious about them as well. Recently my emotional attitude lead me to big mistake. Fortunately, I took my time to relax and meditate and then ‘sleep with it’ thus in the morning I realized the solution I knew was the right one, and by taking the immediate action, that puzzle was solved. It was a good lesson your emotions may cost you big deal and that clear mind and confidence is your better ally.

    I understand the power of emotional story but I think you should find a balance. Right now I still have some emotions over my head and not sure what to with them. But I’ll get there one day.

    Once again, thank you so much Tim for you time and attitude for providing great food for our minds. I’ve rarely comment on somenthing but your articles gives me the drive to communicate and give back some feedback. Also, your response means a lot for me and gives me additional motivation to keep going. I appreciate it!

    Have a wonderful day and stay well!

    • Toño you always share great insights and take the time to be bold and share your story. I would love to connect with you on Facebook to hear more.

      Your feedback is very much appreciated!

    • Toño can I send you a message and chat sometime? The way you just portrayed yourself in this comment above is really well illustrated, quite similar to my own pursuit of success and I was hoping we could share stories sometime and maybe help each other?

  7. Having traveled the world, worked in the outdoors, and now am able to work from my laptop from anywhere I choose , I can say that I have an impactful story. Now, I just have to tell it! 😛

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