Even the happiest man on earth will fall into the negative emotional state sometimes. But staying in the negative state throughout the day isn’t a productive and efficient way for us to perform well.
The best way to stay at the peak state is by mastering our thoughts. But, what’s thought? Most people never realize it but everything that appears and runs around in our mind is simply the answer to the questions we’re asking ourselves.
Let’s say when you’re telling me you’re feeling excited right now, what just happened in your subconscious mind? You’re asking yourself – “What am I feeling excited about?” And the answer is what delivered the intense emotion of excitement to make you believe that you’re indeed feeling excited.
But what if your mind keeps asking questions like “Why am I feeling upset?” or “Why am I not successful”? Your mind will automatically seek for those answers to prove them right too. That’s why most people are living in a devastating state, feeling that everything in this world is against them.
Fortunately, we can change and control our thoughts. As I mentioned above, your brain will automatically seek for the answer, we will just need to ask the right questions.
Ask these questions every morning before anything else to set your mind right for the day:
1. What am I feeling happy about right now?
Most things we want in life are our mean goals, and it always lead to the universal end goal – Happiness. Why we want to make more money, live healthier, be more intelligent, and make more friends? Because we think those will make us happy, but then we’re feeling upset by not having what we want just yet.
Rather than seeking for happiness from our external world and focusing what we don’t have yet, we can actually find happiness within ourselves. Asking yourself why you’re feeling happy will force your mind to seek for things that we already have.
You will start to notice there are actually many things you can feel good about – your relationship, your house, your career or even your beautiful memories.
What if you can’t think of anything that makes you happy right now? Decide to feel happy for no reason then. We don’t need any reason to feel good about ourselves and our life.
2. What am I feeling excited about right now?
Next, we need to feel the excitement and passion for pushing ourselves throughout the day. We can gain more energy and fulfillment from excitement to perform better and achieve more in life. Asking yourself what makes you excited allows you to have a clearer picture of what matters the most in that day.
It doesn’t need to be a huge thing such as changing the world or transforming your life because your subconscious mind will automatically seek for the answer (even if it’s small).
You can be excited for small things in daily life:
- The on-going design project
- The coming dinner with family
- The workout routine for today
“I cook, I create, I’m incredibly excited by what I do, I’ve still got a lot to achieve.” – Gordon Ramsay
3. What am I feeling proud for right now?
Knowing what you’re feeling proud for now is powerful. Most of the time we focus so much on how far we still need to go and feeling exhausted and upset about it. But by asking this question, you’re looking back on how far you already came with the achievements and accomplishments.
Besides, this question also helps improve your relationship with others, especially with the closer ones. You can be proud of your spouse, your siblings, your son or daughter. Your subconscious mind will then ask why? With that, you’re now focusing on their strength rather than their weakness and imperfections.
4. What am I feeling grateful for right now?
This is the last question to ask yourself every morning – What am I feeling grateful for right now? Appreciation and gratefulness make such a big impact to those who practice them. You can never feel grateful and hatred at the same time.
When you’re asking yourself this, you start to see people and things around you as a gift, start to see every event in your life is how it should be rather than complaining about how unfair life is. Besides, you will start to learn how to forgive as well.
“When you are grateful – when you can see what you have – you unlock blessings to flow in your life.” – Suze Orman
5. You get what you ask for
If you haven’t noticed, this is how it works – you get what you ask for. When you’re asking why or what makes you good, your subconscious mind will answer your questions with evidence and references that make you feel good.
So, stop asking questions like “Why such bad things happened to me?” If you want to turn things around. Master and control your thoughts by being aware and adjust the questions you ask yourself.