Success Advice
You’re Getting In The Way Of Your Own Success – Here’s How You Can Fix It
I truly believe we can only reach our fullest potential when we’re challenged.
Challenges are often described as barriers or brick walls that get in our way. I say, those blockades are your greatest opportunities.
As I sit in a leadership conference in Arizona, my thoughts are confirmed and perhaps better articulated as the speaker references the late Randy Pausch, a professor and author of “The Last lecture.” Pausch said, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.”
If you’re like me, your brick wall is what you see when you look in the mirror—You get in the way of your own progress. You are your greatest barrier.
Just like all challenges, you have an opportunity for growth when you face the barrier, or the mirror, stare it down and shatter it.
I find most business leaders have difficulty admitting that their leadership style may be their biggest barrier, and even more difficulty tearing it down for two reasons:
- Leaders are accustomed to identifying and remediating external challenges like profit margins and HR matters, they often fail to reverse the focus on internal reflection.
- Leaders don’t want to identify themselves as the brick walls because that’s akin with identifying a weakness, and leaders can’t be weak, right?
This second reason brings me back to my original point—Tackling a growth opportunity does not make you weak, it makes you strong. Stop limiting yourself and start becoming the best version of yourself you can be.
Here’s how to shatter that mirror:
Ask – Pose to your team members this question: What do I need to do to be a better leader? Set “Vegas-style” rules, what you say here stays here, so you create a safe zone where truth can flourish.
Yes, asking the question is simple, but the answer, especially if it’s truthful, may sting. Actually, if it doesn’t sting, ask again.
Listen – When you feel the pain of the truth, don’t react. Don’t make excuses, tighten your fists or clench your jaw. Instead, let it sink in. Once absorbed, ensure the messenger that you appreciate his or her candor.
Randy Pausch also said, “Your critics are the ones telling you they still love you and care. Worry when you do something badly and nobody bothers to tell you.”
In this process you’re soliciting criticism, so it’s a bit different, but the message is the same. When a member of your team is honest with you and gives you constructive advice, take it as a compliment. It’s those team members who don’t offer valuable feedback that may not feel invested in the future of your team or company.
Act—Actually take the advice of your team members and act on it. Dramatic change to your leadership style may be needed. This is the actionable step that will fulfill your ultimate goal of tearing down the brick wall or shattering your mirror to achieve personal and company growth.
Pausch continued his statement on brick walls by saying, “The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
Many aren’t strong enough to shatter their mirror, BUT YOU ARE!, which is why you’re going to take your business and you’re leadership abilities to the next level and your competitor will not.
Entrepreneurs
The One Brutal Mistake That Keeps Most Entrepreneurs Stuck at Six Figures (And the Fix That Unlocks Seven)
You built something real. Customers are coming in. Revenue is growing. But no matter how hard you grind, it feels like you’re hitting an invisible ceiling. The business owns you more than you own it, and scaling feels like a distant dream instead of the next logical step.
I’ve seen it destroy too many sharp founders. They’re doing everything “right”—working longer hours, chasing every opportunity, saying yes to every client. And yet the growth stalls while their stress skyrockets.
The mistake isn’t effort. It’s identity.
Most entrepreneurs still see themselves as the indispensable hero who has to touch every single part of the business. They built it with their own hands, so they believe only they can run it at the highest level. That belief is exactly what caps them at six figures.
The shift that changes everything is deciding you are now the leader of a system, not the worker inside it.
You stop being the best operator and start becoming the best owner. That means ruthlessly auditing where your time is spent and handing off everything that doesn’t move the needle on growth. Yes, it feels scary. Yes, it feels like you’re losing control. But the entrepreneurs who break through are the ones who trust the process more than their ego.
Here’s what that actually looks like in practice.
First, identify your $10,000-an-hour activities
The ones only you can do that truly grow the company. Everything else gets documented, delegated, or deleted. Most founders I know are shocked when they finally track their time for two weeks straight. They discover they’re spending 60-70% of their week on things that could be handled by someone else at a fraction of the cost. The ego loves to whisper that “no one can do it as well as me.” That voice is expensive. It costs you leverage, it costs you time with your family, and it costs you the mental bandwidth to actually think strategically about the future of the business.
Second, build repeatable systems for the rest.
Not fancy software. Simple checklists, processes, and people who own outcomes. Your team stops waiting for your approval on every little thing. This is where most entrepreneurs get stuck—they hire help but never actually transfer ownership. They create bottlenecks because every decision still funnels back to them. The fix is to document the process once, train someone thoroughly, then step back and let them own it. Yes, there will be mistakes in the beginning. That’s the cost of building something that can eventually run without you. Every mistake becomes a better system.
Third, measure what matters.
Revenue per employee. Customer acquisition cost. Lifetime value. Stop celebrating busywork and start obsessing over leverage. I’ve watched founders go from celebrating “we’re so busy” to celebrating “we added three new team members and revenue per person went up 40%.” That’s the shift. When you start measuring the right things, your decisions change. You stop hiring to offload tasks and start hiring to multiply output.
The hard truth is that most entrepreneurs never make this transition.
They stay the bottleneck in their own business. They become the ceiling. And the business grows to the exact size that one person can manage with heroic effort… then it plateaus. The ones who break through are willing to feel uncomfortable for a season so they can build something that actually scales.
You didn’t start this journey to trade one boss for another… especially when that boss is you. Let go of the need to be the smartest person in every room. Your job now is to build something bigger than yourself. The ceiling isn’t real. It’s just the point where your old identity stops serving you. The question is whether you’re willing to let that old version of you die so a new one can lead.
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