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We All Suck At Success, Until You Do This

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Here we go that word “SUCCESS” again. Aren’t you freaking sick of it?

Frankly, it doesn’t matter if you are. You can’t avoid success and the yearning to want its rewards.

Success is like your dream partner that you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with. Now that sounds about right. It explains so much.

You have to have success at some point in your life. You have to feel like you have climbed a mountain and done something that others have only dreamt of.

You can’t live your life being unsuccessful. You need success. Success is like the oxygen your lungs need to keep you alive. Fall in love with success. Then, you’ll start to suck less. You’ll stop ignoring this universal truth called success.

We all suck until we detach ourselves from the outcome

If you sit in your fancy Aeron office chair every day, being obsessed with the outcome of your life’s work, you’re going to suck! Big time!

I know you want success right now: so do I. Rather than thinking about success as the outcome of your work (these outcomes take time), try thinking about the daily progress you are making towards your life’s work, as success.

Tell yourself that success is going to happen for you, you’ve just got to keep going. When you hit that major challenge, don’t give up. See that challenge as the only way you will ever get your goal of success.

“Know that the challenges are ensuring you become successful, rather than the other way round”

Overnight success takes years

If I had a dollar for every time I hear about so-called “Overnight Success.” HAHAHAHAHA

I’ve studied success like a mad man over the last five years. Every autobiography I have read has told me one thing: success takes years.

I see people evaluating their success all the time. The look on their face when they see the results of the three months they spent on their startup makes me laugh. They can’t work out why they don’t feel successful. I’m not sure why they think this way.

It takes years to build a brand in business. Customers don’t just wake up one day and all decide to buy your solution.

News travels slowly even with all the 101 social media channels that you can overindulge on, and pig out on for hours like a Big Mac Burger. I remember failing at least seven times. It was attempt number eight that finally helped me see some success. That success was years in the making.

“Hollywood has a way of making everything seem like an overnight success” – Kevin Hart

At the start we all suck

I re-published the third article I ever wrote on a blog the other day on Medium. I went back to re-read it and check for spelling and grammar issues. Holy crap it was bad. No wonder nobody read it. Even though it was about an interesting topic such as attempted murder, it wasn’t well written.

Did I edit it and still post it? You bet ya. It’s still worth a read, it’s just not perfect.

“At the start, we all suck at our passion”

For years no one read any of my blog posts. I can remember seeing one like on Facebook and nearly wetting my pants.

The first cars Henry Ford made were total crap. I got to ride in one many years ago at a car show. God, it was bad!

The first IBM laptops were total trash. The user interface called “DOS” required me to type in codes to start programs. I kept forgetting what these codes were so I could never play half the computer games I wanted to.

I know you’re probably shedding a tear for the former spoilt brat that couldn’t play his games with chicks in bikinis and run people over. Poor kid.

The first job interview I ever did totally sucked. I wore a lime green shirt that was too big and had sweat patches around the armpit area from all of my nervousness. Halfway through the interview, the nice lady said: “Tim, sell me this pen.” I nearly started crying. I had never been hit with this interview trick before.

“How do I sell a pen?”
“It’s just a pen,” I thought.

The second job interview ever was a bit better. I played a Tony Robbins tape beforehand and pumped myself up. I then got into the room, and saw the hot girl over the desk from me and froze.

I forgot all the kick-ass lines I was going to say about why I’d be the best candidate to work in the stock market. There went my Wolf Of Wall Street fantasy right out the window!

The reality is I had no idea about the stock market. Still to this day I bump into this hot girl at least once a week in the corridor. She still looks at me like I’m a loser and remembers the nervous kid who froze and sounded like a total moron.

The point is we all suck at the start. Remember that next time you think about your own success.

Change your approach

When it comes to success, I feel like we get a good idea and then we keep executing with the same bad strategy even when it doesn’t work. It’s important to stick to your goal (say blogging), but you’ve got to change your approach.

In the first year of blogging, I wrote listicles. Then I started writing articles starting with the word “Why.” Then I wrote articles that had a bit more humor. Then I stopped being a perfectionist and wrote whatever I wanted.

The goal is still the same: be a blogger and help people. What’s important is to keep changing how you achieve that goal, and therefore reach your own personal version of success. Throwing the same right hooks in a boxing match that have no impact will, not make you successful.

Success is yours and nobody else’s

This is a quiet reminder. Your success is yours. You define it, you live it and you get the results. Therefore, who gives a rats what others think about your success. Throw a party once in a while. Write something that you know you shouldn’t. Chuck in the word burrito into a serious business meeting.

Over the last few weeks on Medium, I’ve gained a few more smart-ass comments than normal on my posts. More than 90% of comments are fantastic, but there’s always somebody who’s having a bad day and wants to ruin your success. I chose to ignore it.

No one owns my success or your success. Remember that when you find yourself getting lost in opinions.

So how do you not suck at success?

Try this:

– Fall in love with failure
– Accept you will suck at the start
– Know that success takes a long time
– Be okay with looking like a nervous wreck
– Keep having a crack
– Try new stuff regularly

If you want to increase your productivity and learn some more valuable life hacks, then join my private mailing list on timdenning.net
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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator

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Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.
 

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.

 

2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.

 

3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.

 

4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.

 

5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.

 

6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.

 

7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.

 

8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.

 

9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.

 

10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.

 

11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.

 

12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.

 

13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.

 

14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.

 

15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

 

16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.

 

17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.

 

18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.

 

19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.

 

20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.

 

By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at AweBliss.com so you can master your life with more success.

 
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