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The Main Reason Why You’re Consistently Losing Sales




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These words are such a killer! You hear them from other people, and you even use them. If you’re in sales or you have a business and you need to get sales, using those critical filler words, um or uh, will kill you and your business. Do you think people will trust you more because you use the words um or uh in sales? Sure, you may get some people to buy from you that have very low awareness, but when you run into someone who is a high income earner and he’s your big ticket to the big commission…you’re going to run into trouble.

Um and uh are one of the biggest unconscious spoken words in the English language, and it’s killing your sales. It didn’t hit me until I was in a sales meeting selling social media services, and I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why the guy didn’t want to buy when the service matched his needs.

But, of course a reality check came in when my mentor told me I speak as if I have no confidence in myself or my work. Yikes! Now I know why that one guy didn’t want to work with me.

Um…No Confidence!

When you’re using the word um in your daily conversations, you show a lack of confidence on your end. Whoops! Were you offended? If you were, then good because this article is for you.

Um is the filler word that kills your credibility, but it also kills your confidence. Additionally, it can show that you’re a liar and you’re not as trustworthy.

In a sales meeting, instead of using filler words like um or uh, go silent. The power in silence gives you more of the advantage in sales than using your filler words. You want to influence your prospects to buy, not make them feel like they can’t trust you. Tell yourself this right now, “it’s ok to be silent.” Gain confidence when you no longer use um or uh.

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” – Arthur Ashe

Uh…You’re Making It Up!

It looks bad when you’re with a prospect and you have to pause, say uh or um, and proceed to continue your conversation. With your friends, they won’t care because they do it too, but with your prospects, you look like a straight up liar and you’re just making stuff up!

Even worse, if you’re saying it in person during the sale, chances are your eyes are going to roll up and you’re going to look like you’re thinking of the next magic word. Again, take a second to pause and be ok with an awkward silence. It’s powerful that way and your prospects will trust you more. If you want to kill your sale in a flash though, use the words um and uh and see how long they will last with you.

Little To No Influence

You have little to no influence on your sales if you are using the words um and uh. You may think that when you use filler words, your prospect doesn’t care because you’re finding a solution, but it’s better to be prepared than to think of something on the spot where you impact with little to influence.

As a guy and coming from my own opinion, how much influence does a girl leave on people when she says um, uh, like? I can tell you one thing for sure, no one would take her seriously. Judge me, hate me, or don’t like me, but you know it’s true. When you’re selling to people, they want someone that they can like, someone who is confident, and doesn’t use filler words to avoid awkward silence.

Those silent moments can be used to think strategically to make your prospect more at peace dealing with you. In addition to that, you are perceived as someone who has more power. Don’t be that person who has to use the filler words to avoid awkward silence. You’ll lose that sale in a flash.

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Suzy Kassem

In conclusion, you have to understand that when you’re selling, you have to look the part, be the expert, and know damn well what you’re talking about even if you’re not familiar with the product or service. Um and uh will not save you and if you closed a sale using those filler words, see how long that works with you and see how long people stay with you.

Leave them loving you, not questioning you the next day. I can tell you from my own experience that when I speak on stage and I use those words, I begin losing my audience. I am losing my sales. I am losing my business. Remember, if you want to influence and get a sale in a flash, use that energy right and don’t use the words um and uh. You’ll kill your sale and business.

Do you ever catch yourself using filler words? If so, what advice do you have for people trying to change that habit? Share your opinions with us below!

Dominic Cruz is a dating coach that specializes in helping men and women get over their breakups. So that they can be more at peace and be fulfilled to find hope in relationships again. Dominic thought of helping others, once he realized that sharing his stories was helping people. Today, he continues to help young men and women with his YouTube videos, keynote speeches, and his new book, 10 Simple Tips To Get Over Your Ex.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not




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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch




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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance




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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show




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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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