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How Your Level Of Success Can Change In A Heartbeat

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We’ve all been knocked flat on our face from a life event. What I know is that you can’t let that destroy you. You were put here to do something special, and only you can unlock your potential.

This post is all about how I went from the lowest of lows (even though people think I’m Mr. Success) and worked my way back to the top again. It’s not really about me so much but how you can implement the same thought patterns and mindset to your situation.

The point to understand is that your success can change in a heartbeat. We all sometimes are tricked into thinking it takes five years to come back from a major problem but I’m living proof that it doesn’t. It can be one small change that you make to your life that brings about the abundance you’ve always wanted.

“As well as taking action you have to have an unlimited hope that no matter what, you’re going to be okay and crush your goals”

Here are the 5 lessons I learned when my success changed in a single heartbeat:

1. All it takes is a chance encounter

We all meet new people on a regular basis, and many of them seem to have no influence on our life. Then somehow, you meet someone extraordinary and buck the trend. Chance encounters are fundamental to your success changing in a heartbeat.

It’s because people, not things will change your success. People are what make you successful, and they are probably what brought you down in the first place. I was lucky enough to experience this first hand.

A mentor of mine needed me to attend an event in their place but insisted that I had to engage someone else to come with me. He left me with a very challenging problem for someone like me who at the time was at rock bottom.

How do you solve a problem so significant that only has one outcome? You embrace your fear and do what you have been putting off. The truth is that you already know the answer to almost any problem, it’s just you can’t solve the issue until you choose the solution that has significant fear attached.

So I took a risk and reached out to the person whom I knew could solve my issue. There was a high chance of failure and it could have destroyed this friendship that had formed – I did it anyway. To my surprise, the question I asked was one that I think they were always waiting for me to ask.

While I may never be sure of that, I know in my heart that it’s true. Call it a gut feeling, but I think our lives were meant to cross and we were meant to inspire each other.

“Our lives are impacted by the questions we don’t ask”

Having a sense of curiosity and asking questions that come to mind is yet another way our success can change in a heartbeat. In my situation, the worse thing that could happen is that the person said no.

If they were upset by me asking then that would have shown me that they were probably the wrong person to ask in the first place.

2. You have to hit rock bottom

For your success to change in a heartbeat, you need to experience rock bottom at least once. Coming from rock bottom will help you to appreciate what it’s like when you climb up and conquer the mountain again.

The lessons you need to learn about yourself are on the way up, not at the summit of the mountain. When I was at rock bottom I used the time to improve myself and re-educate my mind yet again. At rock bottom, I learned to survive on my own with no real help from anyone.

I got to see what it was like standing at the front of the battlefield and being right in the firing line of a sniper. Having this sniper pointing at my head forced me to change direction and re-think what I thought I already knew (I learned that I really knew nothing).

Surprisingly, it’s very crowded when you’re at rock bottom, and plenty of people want to share stories of struggle, defeat, and hopelessness. Unfortunately for them, I wasn’t having a bar of it. I knew that rock bottom was temporary and I insisted on enjoying the hardship while I could.

Once you’ve been covered in trash and booed at, while being at rock bottom, you figure out why you never want to be there again. It gives you the fuel to bounce back and say, “never again, I’m better than this and I am in control of my destiny.”

3. Passion can lift you up again

What got me back up from rock bottom was my passion. It was my passion that made my level of success change in a heartbeat. As it turns out, my passion for blogging and inspiring people is infectious. Everyone wants to be a part of something positive, and when you are at rock bottom, people can tell.

They somehow feel like they owe you something because of all the inspiration you gave them for free without asking for anything in return. We only get back what we put out. All those unused favors amounted for something, and one of my mentors saw their calling.

Their calling was to take control and create serendipity in my life and do so almost without me knowing. While I may have figured out the game plan, I’m so glad that they did what they did. Your passion is so important, and you have to let it bleed out of you.

Use your passion to inspire you when it feels like you have nothing else. Instead of being hopeless, use your passion to bring hope. It’s by you bringing hope to others that you will rediscover hope in your own situation.

4. You must be positive no matter what

Success will never change in a heartbeat unless you remain positive. Negative people fail and fail permanently until they become positive again. Unless you believe that anything is possible, you’ll never achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself.

I used a positive mindset to tell myself that winter was going to come to an end, the blizzard was going to stop, and I would get to feel the sunshine again. I became obsessed with not knowing the answer and wanting to be surprised (and boy was the result a surprise).

I knew that if I kept doing what I do and didn’t lose hope that I would get to experience happiness again. I allowed myself to be happy with the little things and not to focus on the major dramas of my life that from a distance could seem insurmountable.

Even when more challenges and problems kept being added to the pile, I used each of them has a mini-university course. By taking all the grease and dirt that was building up in my life, I was able to blast it all away with one squirt from the high-pressure hose of my mind.

5. Enjoy the journey back to the top

When the tide changes in your favor again, it’s so important to enjoy the journey and fly your kite high again in the sky. It’s only been a few weeks since my success changed in a heartbeat and I already feel that I am not being as grateful as I need to be.

That’s why; practicing gratitude is so crucial to your success. I’ve loved the journey back to the top and the fact that I get to inspire all of you with my own struggle. I now have more strategies to help all of us succeed together, and they came from putting the rubber to the road and allowing things to get a bit out of hand.

Who knew that I would be sitting here just a few weeks ago and writing about how my success has changed again in a heartbeat. That’s right; this is the second time in a few years.

What if you knew success was right around the corner? What would you do differently today if you already knew all the good that was about to happen? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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