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5 Habits To Drop if You Want To Be Successful

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Most people believe that a lack of success is due to their own personal faults. They think that not being the best, the brightest, or the most intelligent will stifle their growth, and make going after their most prized aspirations futile.

The Truth? Not being the smartest, or the most talented won’t hinder your success, but hanging on to destructive habits will.

 

Habit #1: Expecting yourself to live up to others’ expectations

Your girlfriend? Your friends? Your boss? They’re all people who don’t have to walk a single day in your shoes and will never know what it is like to live your life. So, why is it that their opinions hold so much weight?

When you focus on meeting other people’s expectations, you’re forced into a position where you have to meet all the conditions associated with those expectations, and if you don’t you can end up ruining valuable relationships, and important connections.

Setting your own expectations will force the people around you to see you as an individual, and will allow you to define success on your own terms.

 

Habit #2: Obsessing over things that don’t matter

You feeling like a hotshot in front of your lady friends? Doesn’t matter.

You experiencing true happiness, and having the ability to pursue any dream possible? Now, that matters.

It can become so easy to fall into this treacherous habit, and start to worry about what others think of you, or and what you should be doing with your life, but at the end of the day only you have to live with yourself. Don’t worry about your friends, and family; they have their own lives to live, and their own problems to bear.  Worry about yourself, and about how you can go to bed every night happier, healthier and more content than the last day.

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Habit #3: Dwelling on past failures

It’s normal to hate yourself sometimes, but it does you absolutely no good to provoke that self-hatred by dwelling on your mistakes. When you feel down on yourself, look at it as an opportunity to learn.

If you fail, instead of tearing yourself apart, tear your failure apart. Rip it up and destroy it, then take a long, hard look at the pieces. When it’s all laid out there before you, you have the chance to transform your negative thoughts into insightful questions. Turn, “That was a crappy decision.” into “What led me to think this was a solid decision?” While a certain amount of negative thinking can drive us to become better and stronger people, it is much more beneficial to adopt habits that lead us to question why we failed rather than dwelling on failure itself.

 

Habit #4: Bragging about your big dreams

Nobody cares that you want to be an actor until you’re on the big screen and they can say, “I knew that guy when he worked at Taco Bell.” Until that day, you’re just slinging tacos, and any attention you direct to your optimistic future will be met with doubt, and pity.

The more time you spend talking about your dreams, the less time you’re spending going after those dreams. In a lot of ways, dreams are like children: they’re something that you should be proud of, something that belongs to you, but when you start unfolding that picture folio in your wallet, everyone groans.

Just like children though, you’ve got to take care of your dreams and you’ve got to take steps to ensure they have the necessary means  to develop. There’s nothing wrong with carrying constant reminders of your goals to keep you focused, but keep them to yourself.

 

Habit #5: NOT being a sore loser

Anger is very often portrayed as a negative emotion, but it doesn’t have to be. There’s a virtuous quality to anger that very few realize is present: When people are angry, in their minds they are right, and to rectify the situation they blow up. Or curse out their boss. Or punch a wall. Or lock themselves in their apartment, and spend three days shouting obscenities and drinking beer.

The good news is, blowing up, getting angry, and feeling like the world is against you is perfectly healthy, and is an essential part of eventual success. While dwelling in your anger for too long can impede your personal development, basking in your righteousness for a few days after a defeat can motivate you to try harder, and work smarter.

Humans are creatures of habit, and the behaviors that we display on the daily basis define who we are, and what path ous lives take. This means that true success comes from implementing the right habits, and dropping the ones that hold you back.

Author bio:  Nonconformist, freedom enthusiast, and part-time Trekkie, Trent is a professional life coach that helps free-thinkers live amazing lives, and encourages everyone to challenge the status quo, and think outside the box when it comes to: Work, success, love, and freedom. Drive by helloimtrent.com sometime, or follow Trent on Twitter.

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12 Comments

  1. Carlos Andres Zazueta

    Oct 21, 2016 at 7:48 pm

    Nice article, it´s amazing how we can somentimes fall into some of this habits without noticing.

    I do agree with Somali and Granville on #4, but I think that every one has his/her own way to keep him/herself motivated. For some, sharing their dreams and ideas constantly to others helps them feel like a real and beneficious contribution to others, I will call them extroverts. For others (like me), keeping hardwork and big dreams in silence is their way to stay focused and concentrated in their habits, performance, and level of happiness (introverts).

    I think it could go either way, there are plenty of roads to success, not just one, you should just take the one that aligns better to your personality and the one that makes you feel better about yourself.

  2. Chu Nam

    Dec 22, 2014 at 4:00 am

    Thank great and inspiration post.
    It is very clear mind about in fact. Most of time people do these habits and them hold them back. This post will help people understand how it work and affect to people and then people can avoid them to get better things.

  3. gurpreet

    Nov 17, 2014 at 8:38 am

    than for such an encouraging article…I hope this will prove helpful in my success in coming years

  4. Abby

    Sep 15, 2014 at 2:03 am

    Although I believe that past experiences help you learn, I cannot agree more that we must let go of our failures and move on. I think all too often people continue to brag about their successes, I’ll admit that I’ve been that person on multiple occasions. They may find that those are the only things to brag about in their life and just want to be noticed. Lets work together to dish out compliments to people so that they do not brag selfishly only searching for approval.
    Thank you for this encouraging article!

  5. Emmanuel

    Sep 14, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    This is so practical and true. Thanks for the advice. Didn’t think much of the fifth habit (NOT being a sore loser) as being bad.

    Thanks

  6. Chris Callahan

    Sep 8, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    Another way of turning Anger into a positive force is to channel the rage toward getting work accomplished.

    Energy is what you make of it. The energy generated by anger can be used to break stuff or as fuel to finish off that last big project and go to the next one. I’ve done both, and the feeling of release was the same both times.

  7. ERICK WERE

    Sep 8, 2014 at 7:10 am

    Revenging the wrong done to you is another that definitely leads to failure. Forgive, forget and concentrate on your goals.

  8. Harry @ GoalsOnTrack

    Sep 5, 2014 at 11:31 pm

    Another habit of failure: not having a major life goal to work toward, big or small.

  9. Granville Louw

    Sep 4, 2014 at 7:03 pm

    “Not being the smartest, or the most talented won’t hinder your success, but hanging on to destructive habits will.”

    I totally agree with you. Destructive habits can hinder the success of some people. But for others some of these habits can serve as a motivator or fuel for their success.

    #1 Sometimes living up to other people’s expectations can make one very successful, especially if the standards you have for yourself is low.
    ” They’re all people who don’t have to walk a single day in your shoes and will never know what it is like to live your life. “- Yes i agree, but sometimes they do know what its like and sometimes their opinions carry more weight than the opinions you have of yourself. Why? Because they might see something in you(that can lead to your success) that you might not see in yourself. There are many stories where people had to raise their standards and meet the expectations of people closest to them. Think of Bob proctor and Jim Rohn. Both of them had to meet their mentors expectations to become successful.

    #4 “The more time you spend talking about your dreams, the less time you’re spending going after those dreams. “- This is not always the case. I think it was Jim rohn that once said: talk more about the things you want to do(your dreams), than you will feel more obliged to do it. It works like a charm. There is nothing wrong to talk about your dream as long as you take consitent action every day. The only time bragging is bad is if you talk about your dream, but do nothing about it.

    Dont keep your dreams to yourself, tell others about it, motivate them and let them hold you accountable. Now like you said, not everyone will support your dream or want to hear about, but in most instances, people actually do.

    • melvinmorrow31

      Sep 5, 2014 at 1:38 pm

      This is so true practice this n ur n my life will be better. Everything starting with self first

      • aca

        Sep 7, 2014 at 2:40 pm

        Absolutely

    • Somali K Chakrabarti

      Sep 8, 2014 at 7:53 am

      Nice article, though I tend to agree with Granville on #4. Bragging about your dreams does not make sense, and people often say ‘Work in Silence and let Success do the talk’. However there is a difference between bragging and sharing your ideas. Sharing your ideas and dreams with others may motivate you to work harder towards your goals. Additionally you get different perspectives, which you may miss out on your own.

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