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3 Tips To Overcoming The Plateaus Of Success

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3 Tips To Overcoming The Plateaus Of Success

Learn to love the grind. That’s probably the only thing you should take away from this short post.

As we get closer to the goals we have set for ourselves, our standard for happiness simply rises along with our achievements. This is called “the hedonic treadmill

We will always measure our life in contrast to where we were yesterday and not in the totality of our achievements.

We often think that life has an “end-game” – That illusive pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that’ll make you feel fulfilled & happy for a lifetime.If only you could reach $100k/year. If only that attractive girl would date you. If only you got those amazing abs

Then everything would be different, right? Different in a fundamentally life-changing way? Yeah… no. It doesn’t work out that way. Don’t get me wrong; It’ll make you somewhat happy – just not for a long time.

No matter where you are in life, there will always be that “extra something” you think you need, to become truly happy. Something you already know but needs reminding once-in-a-while. It’s easy to lose track of what really matters in our daily grind.

“Aim for an arc of small, consecutive victories throughout your entire life.”  Owen Cook

Relative Vs. Absolute Happiness

As we progress in life our “happiness-level” simply rises with us. Meaning every-time we achieve something great, we create a new “baseline” for happiness. As we achieve more we’ll need increasingly greater achievements to get that same “high” again.

As long as we are on the “up ‘n up” in life we’ll feel engaged and content. Conversely, when we’ve reached a certain plateau where we’ve stopped growing we’ll become less happy.

  • If you get rejected today, it will still hurt – although you might have had it work out great in the past
  • If you get a little bit chubbier you’ll still be displeased – although you might still be in better shape than a year ago
  • If you lose a large amount of money you’ll still feel like crap – although you might be earning more money than ever before.

Frantically speeding towards the finish line is like a dog chasing its own tail.

 

There is NO finish line – only progress

If you stop progressing – you stop being happy. You can also see this in people who achieved great successes early on in their life;

Buzz Aldrin – The second man to set foot on the moon fell into depression and alcoholism when “coming back down to earth”. His baseline of achievement was set so high that everything simply faded in contrast.

“I really think that was the result of inherited tendencies which showed up in my mother’s side of the family,” he says. That was combined maybe with the intensity of the notoriety and then the aftermath of that notoriety and decisions as to what I was going to do next.” 

What do you do after walking on the moon eh?

William “The Fridge” Perry – After plagued with insecurities because of his weight, he resorted to proving his self-worth through athletics. He battered his way up to the NFL and played for the Chicago Bears. After performing some remarkable athletic feats, (especially for a guy his size – 300lbs) gaining some incredible fame, he did advertisements for Kraft Macaroni and Cheese, Coca Cola & McDonalds. He joined pretty much every talk show you could imagine. Heck – He even got his own G.I. Joe action figure.

Yet what’s the man who “has got it all‘ going to do next?

“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning”. – Benjamin Franklin

People, after reaching a high degree of success, often fall into a void and get detached from their own sense of self. They’ve linked their own worth with their achievements. Yet – what happens when all that falls away? No more money, no more fame, , no more..Self?

Especially people who have reached an excessive degree of success can fall down the hardest. This leads to depression & escaping in drugs, alcohol, video-games, tv and food. The questions “what’s next? ” & “How am I going to beat my last performance” remains unsolved.

 

Redefining Success

Don’t aim for excess – aim for progress. It’s not the absolutes that make you happy, yet we live in a society where it’s common to glorify “ideals“, especially where social media is so abundant and you constantly see fabricated images of how perfect everyone else is. Coined “The facebook-syndrome”

Todd Essig states that; “Trying to find worth by looking further up the ladder is pretty consistently a self-destructive endeavor.” So don’t. I’m not saying you shouldn’t chase big achievements & high benchmarks. You definitely should.

How else are you going to measure progress without some arbitrary benchmarks? It’s how we keep score when we’re playing this game called “life

I’m saying you should focus on doing your best at playing the game and not the score. Focus on taking the actions that are necessary to grow yourself consistently and not the absolute outcome you might get.

  • Focus on going to the gym consistently
  • Focus on writing on your website consistently
  • Focus on reading consistently
  • Focus on building up your skills consistently

Just spread them out and don’t set your baseline impossibly high. Learn to love the process of growing and not frantically looking towards the end. It will only make you restless if you do.

Essence

Here’s some practical advice to take away;

  • Set benchmarks for your life but focus on the process needed to get there. Focus on playing the game. The benchmarks are simply there to keep score.
  • Measure your own life in absolutes by keeping a log of your life. I recommend a simple paper journal.
  • Aim for small wins with visible, controllable results

Don’t think: “Where’s the end?” – since you’ll never really get there. Always think: “What’s next?” Just like Aesop’s fable goes; Slow and steady wins the race. And in this case…You win at life.

 

Thanks for reading this short article. If you’re having some more thoughts or questions about this post – feel free to leave those in the comment section below.
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    aspecialist

    Nov 15, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    This indeed is a good article to read. I think keeping your eye on the price too much and thinking about the end result will make you more likely forget about the little things you gain in the process of achieving success. Learning is a continuous process, and so should growth.

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    Tim Denning

    Aug 7, 2015 at 10:07 am

    The small wins are one of the most important things. Most of us do little things every day that affect our overall success but because the actions could be deemed small, we take no notice. These small actions compound over time and can help us, or hinder us.

    Thanks Simon for sharing your tips.

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    Lawrence Berry

    Jul 28, 2015 at 8:08 pm

    You are absolutely right in that progress is one of the defining factors in remaining happy. This not only applies to your overall level of happiness, but to having long-lasting relationships as well. You need to be progressing in someway. Everyone should aim for progress on an everyday basis, no matter how big or small that progress is. This will make you feel alive, and like you are accomplishing something. They should also have a clear aim for what they want to obtain from this consistent progress, that will help them obtain more productivity in reaching success.

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      Simon Somlai

      Aug 2, 2015 at 8:28 pm

      Hey Lawrence,

      I’m glad you liked the article man and that it resonated with your own experiences 🙂

      Take care,

      S

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It has been said by Robin Sharma, “5 AM is the time of least distraction, highest human glory, and greatest peace.” This also happens to be the central idea or the core value he has discussed in his book, ‘The 5 Am Club.’ Speaking of early mornings, at what time do you wake up? Are you annoyed by the fact that you wake up on the edge of time and then rush to work in haste? 

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1. The vigor of waking up early

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To add, the early morning peace is priceless! You can schedule your most important tasks of the day between 5am, and 8am. This book teaches us in the simplest way, how we can train our mind and strengthen it to deliver the highest productivity by waking up early. This energy that you have when you wake up in the morning and the few additional hours in your day are what serve as perfect ingredients for success.

“The secret to productivity is simplicity.” – Robin Sharma

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The book talks about a precious lesson of finding the right balance within. We often talk about the need for mindfulness and achieving the right mindset to perceive things. But this book goes a few steps ahead of our usual approach to life. It highlights the vitality of mindset and introduces the concepts of heartset, healthset, and soulset.

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3. The iconic 20/20/20 modus operandi

What is the first thing you will do if you start waking up at 5 am every day? Did you ever spare a thought about it? This book has the answer to this question, and you will be convinced that it is a great way to begin your day!. The author suggests that you should split the first hour of the day into three equal parts of 20 minutes each.

In the first 20 minutes of the day, you should prioritize your physical fitness and exercise. In the next 20 minutes, you should energize your soul and spirit via self-reflection and soulful meditation. This will prepare you for the rest of the day and will enable you to bolster your commitment and focus. In the last 20 minutes of the first hour, you should read and learn. But what are you going to read about in those 20 minutes? Read about successful people and their inspiring journeys to the pinnacle of success.

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In this book, there is a mention of ‘a ferocious global sleep recession’, which is intriguing and enlightening. It hints at the state of sleep deprivation that this world is sinking into gradually. We often associate success and hard work with the notion of staying up all night and testing our endurance beyond limits. But that is not the right approach to accomplishing success, or rather, it is a flawed methodology.

Sometimes even if we do not have any critical work, we keep whiling our night time on social media or television. What are we gaining from it is the real question, and I am afraid the answer is nothing! We learn from this book that it is critical to look after your sleep cycle and start your day at 5 am afresh. Sleep and rest are indispensable for mental and physical well-being, or your productivity will decline.

“If you want to have the results only 5% have, you must be willing to do and think like only 5% do and think.” – Robin Sharma

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