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3 Reasons Why Walking Away Can Bring You Greater Success

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Success is something we all love and want. It can also be massively allusive, and often when things seem tough, we feel that we have to persist in order to get the success we desire. If you have read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, as I have many times, along with various other self-development books, then you will know that persistence is a big key to success. A great many personal development courses help install the knowledge that persistence is a key to success as well. But it can be seriously counterproductive, which very few people will ever tell you.

Why? For a start, being able to see things through is crucial when you are going after a goal or a dream. Ask any coach, or any entrepreneur who has achieved what they set out to. Things often get challenging, and the unexpected usually comes up. So persistence can be good. It can however also bog you down in something you would be better walking away from. And walking away can bring serious benefits in terms of actually achieving goals and dreams faster.

1. Allows you space to learn and adapt from your experiences

One of the 3 incredible reasons why walking away can bring greater success, is that it allows you space to process experience. When you are stuck in events, and they are unfolding around you, they tend to take over in your mind making things challenging from a point of learning. Being able to step back, or remove yourself entirely allows you to gain a far wider view of things.

Unless you are a Zen master, and are able to completely transcend the emotions, doubt and everything else that can fly around when things are going sideways, then creating space so you can gain the learning is crucial.

This is why a lot of coaches create a very different environment for their clients during sessions. It is also why a lot of people have breakthroughs during meditation sessions. Because they have at the very least been able to mentally, and emotionally, step away from situations.

2. Allows you room to process and release negative emotions

Negative emotions, anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt being the big 5, seriously cloud effectiveness. Beyond more than just day-to-day work, negative emotions cloud relationships. They bring questions to mind about dreams and goals, and trigger a descent into lower self-esteem, which brings various other issues.

While meditation and other personal development techniques can help with release, the cause of those negative emotions is either removed or negated, which means any release work just keeps you ticking over, rather than allowing you to move forward effectively. Walking away from a negative situation, allows you to process things in a way that can lead to happiness and real success.

3. Sends an unconscious signal to your mind that you deserve better

Perhaps one of the most important of the 3 incredible reasons why walking away can bring greater success, is that you are giving yourself a very solid signal that you deserve better. This is really important. Yes, persistence is important. Though banging your head on a wall does nothing productive for you.

Even when you’re walking away, you never have to give up. Just read that again and let it sink in. When you walk away from something, you have the opportunity to actually go and do things fresh. Sticking to something, just because you feel you have to persist is crazy. If you keep building on quicksand then it doesn’t matter how high you build, it’s always going to sink.

When you walk away from a negative, or unsupportive situation, then you have the opportunity to build in a better location. One where you can create solid, lasting results, that can measure up to your dreams.

And if you have to walk away again? Fine, you are refining that process of getting your location right. You giving your mindset clear indication that’s how things are, is unacceptable. You need to send your mind the message that you will only accept proper definition of your goals and dreams, and that compromise is unacceptable.

While compromise has its time and place, allowing for smoother flow, compromise also indicates to your unconscious mind that you are happy to accept less. Which it will happily continue to deliver for you.

Walking away can help you to achieve your success with far greater strength

When you bring together the way you can pick up learning, release negative emotions and stress more effectively, plus give yourself reinforcement over what you are truly wanting and creating in life, then you give yourself greater ability to create success, in the way you wish it.

Yes, think about whether walking away is going to be good for you in whatever situation is going on. Never be afraid of walking away though. It can empower you to actually create and have the life and success you want, and deserve.

Sometimes that business you started, or that partner you began dating, or that city you moved to, may have seemed right at first. It could well be that those things were just warming you up so you could gain something greater. Giving you a mechanism of feedback in the physical world that things in your mindset needed a tune-up.

With that following mindset change empowering you to actually create your vision fully, walking away never means failure, unless you give up. Walking away means that you are giving yourself the opportunity to start again, and do things better next time.

Stephen Frost is a coach and personal development expert who helps people revolutionize their lives and businesses. He is the founder of Surging Life as well as the founder of Online Coaching Coach, author of the bestselling book ‘Life Unleashed’ and working on his vision of changing the lives of 1 billion people worldwide.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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