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14 Tips Joel Brown Taught Me For Contacting And Interviewing Influential People
Before I became an author on Addicted2Success, I didn’t really know much about contacting influential people. Joel Brown taught me the art, and now I am teaching you. Most of what Joel told me made sense, but I just wasn’t consciously aware of it. Having done hundreds of interviews now, Joel has mastered the art of contacting people that are normally quite hard to reach, and he is at a world-class level.
Below are the fourteen tips Joel Brown gave me on how to contact influential people.
1. First contact is crucial
Always try a warm introduction first
– Before attempting to contact any person of influence, it’s always best to see if you know anyone in common first. When someone is in common with the influential person you are trying to contact, you can ask for an introduction. What this does is almost guarantee you a response and provides leverage. When someone who you know asks for a favor, you feel obligated to at least hear them out even if you can’t meet their request because of the connection you have. Reaching out cold doesn’t work because there is no leverage or obligation for the influential person to respond to you.
The best way to find out if you know anybody in common is to have a look on LinkedIn. If you haven’t already learned yet from previous articles, LinkedIn is the key to almost any form of networking or connecting. Once you identify someone in common, reach out (ideally via phone or worse case, email) to that person and ask for an intro. Try and offer something in return if you can and always give them an out in case they’re not comfortable.
Don’t forget to ask them how well they know the person. I had a situation recently where the person introing me hadn’t spoken to the person of influence in a while, and it was awkward. Given how famous the person, was though, I was willing to take the risk.
If the mutual connection says yes, then get them to send an intro email and CC you.
Ring their personal assistant
If you can’t get a warm introduction because you don’t know anyone in common, try and find the number of their office so you can talk to their personal assistant. Always be respectful and acknowledge the influential person’s time and then do your spiel about why they should get the influential person to be interviewed by you.
If all else fails, write to them in this format
Once you have tried the above methods, if you haven’t been successful, try and write to them via LinkedIn or email. Like with previous methods, make sure you mention anyone that you know in common.
The subject line should is very important and should outline the opportunity and grab their attention. Something along the lines of “Exposure for your new book Sales Mastery in front of an audience of 5000.”
In this short sentence, you have explained how you can help them and what your reach is which is the most important thing. It’s a good idea to mention their name or product title in the subject so that it doesn’t come across as a generic message.
In the body of the message, you should keep it to three short paragraphs. In the first paragraph, you explain who you are, and your audience reach. In the next paragraph, you mention a few names of people that you have interviewed before to help build credibility. It’s also a good idea to give them a link to a recent interview that you feel best represents your work.
In the final paragraph, you mention your ask and state the time commitment. You will find that if you start out asking for 20-30 minutes, you will get a lot more responses. You can always ask for more time later, but a small amount of time (like twenty minutes) is almost rude to decline someone who wants to promote your brand. Out of the entire paragraph, the thing you should spend most of your time articulating is what’s in it for them.
Be clever and write something like “I saw you have a new book coming out in a few weeks, and I would love to line up our interview in line with that so we can promote the book and help get you more readers.” The key is to tie the interview into something they are doing that’s important to them. They may not necessarily be selling something; it could be simply helping them to get exposure for a charity they work with. You then finish the paragraph with “let me know if this is possible and I look forward to your response.”
In your email signature, you must clearly list your full name, email address, direct phone number and ideally a link to your website or Linkedin page to give some further credibility. Write the message a few times and get a friend or partner to look over it for you to make sure it reads well.
Tell them why you do what you do and what inspires you
Throughout all your communication with a person of influence, it’s important to articulate why you do what you do and what inspires you. If a person of influence believes that you just want to talk to them because they are famous or so you can promote yourself, they probably won’t be that interested.
2. Your first reply needs to have the detail
In your first reply you can be a lot more detailed with your response. Often at this stage, your request may have been forwarded to a PR person or marketing firm so you have to communicate with that in mind. Highlight again the benefits in more detail and send more of your previous work.
The purpose of this second message is to secure a topic for the interview. I will usually put forward three topic ideas and then ask if they like any of mine or whether they had one they were keen to do. Ultimately, it’s important that you make the final decision on the topic. Tell them that the wording of the headline might change later but the topic won’t.
You then want to end this second message with a request for a date and time to do the interview. Make sure you find out where they will be on the date in case the local time is different to yours. There are lots of websites that will convert the time for you to your local time.
Tell them the means in which you will do the interview (phone, Skype, Facetime etc) and request for their contact information. The moment you get their contact details make sure you save them in your phone so that you are pre-prepared for the interview and not looking around at the last minute to find their details. Some of the people you contact might be a bit more old school and expect a face to face interview, so consider doing this if they are local to you.
3. Your second reply is the interview confirmation
Now that you have your final reply from the person with a topic and time, send them back a third and final message thanking them for doing the interview and make sure you reconfirm the time. It’s a good idea to send them a calendar invite as well so they don’t forget about your interview. A day or two before the interview, you can choose to send them another message to reconfirm the time. I generally don’t do this but if they are really famous, it’s a good idea.
It’s good to consider telling them what they need to do on the day of the interview. I tell them that I must call them so that the conversation is recorded and that they need to be in a quiet area with a strong Internet connection. While talking about Internet, mention that it’s always best to be hardwired rather than use wireless, to get the best possible quality audio.
4. Send them the questions in advance
You will still need to send one final message to them with the questions that you want to ask. This is quite important because it helps give them some background on what you will be talking about. I find that when you send the questions before hand you get much better responses. The other reason you need to do this is that depending on how famous they are the questions may need to be checked with a marketing or PR team beforehand.
The other reason you need to do this is that depending on how famous they are the questions may need to be checked with a marketing or PR team beforehand.
5. Use the right tools
To conduct interviews Joel taught me to use these tools:
– Ecamm Call Recorder for Skype or Facetime
– A lightweight laptop so you can do interviews on the fly
– A Blue Snowball Microphone
– A pair of comfortable headphones so you can hear the other person
– A quality internet connection with a major provider
One tip that I will give you after doing lots of these interviews now is that Facetime quality is a lot better than Skype, and it’s much less likely to drop out. Always try and use Facetime if you can.
6. Be prepared on the day
Make sure on the day of the interview you are prepared. Have your laptop battery charged, do a sound check, make sure you have their contact details and know exactly which quiet spot you are going to be doing the call from. It’s also critical to be on time to the interview so be ready to hit record five minutes beforehand.
Have a bottle of water with you in case you get something in your throat, you don’t want coughing to end the interview – this happened to me once before.
7. Research beforehand
It almost goes without saying that you need to research the person before the interview. What you want to find out is the basis of their story so that the person does not have to tell you the basics, which they will expect you to know already.
I like to listen to other interviews that they have done so that I can try to cover things that haven’t been mentioned before. There is nothing worse than an interview that covers exactly the same ground as previous interviews.
8. Ask great questions
I usually have three paragraphs of questions. The first lot of questions is about them and the massive success they have achieved in their field, the second is the questions for the topic, the next lot are questions around the particular thing they want to plug and then finally, I ask them their favourite book and their favourite quote.
Joel taught me to have one final killer question that is the best question you will ask. His is “if you were to deliver your last 30-second speech to the world, what would that last 30 seconds sound like?” Try to narrow your questions down to a few gems rather than lots of short questions that are not interesting. Keep them as open as possible so the person you’re interviewing has a chance to direct their response in their way.
9. Think on the fly
Joel taught me that the best interviews are the one’s that occur on the fly. There is nothing worse than a pre-rehearsed interview. Even though I have the questions ready beforehand I always change them on the day and think of a few on the fly. You will also find that sometimes more than one of your questions gets answered in a response, so nothing ever goes to plan. It’s this spontaneity that makes the interview interesting.
10. Keep the interview on time
As the interview is occurring make sure you keep an eye on the time. If you find that you’re halfway through and haven’t even got onto to the topic questions, politely get things back on track. Assume that if the person has told you that you only have 45 minutes that you must stick to this.
If you get some bonus time at the end, that’s great but often they will have another meeting straight after so be conscious of the time otherwise you will have no good content at the end.
11. Try and get one light bulb moment
During every interview I aim to get one light bulb moment. Some that I have had so far are – when the person I was interviewing didn’t know their age, when I learnt that you had to be truly dedicated to social media for it to work and respond in real time, to when Andrew Morello taught me that sales is even more human than I thought it was. When you have found the light bulb moment in the interview, it’s best to highlight this later when you write your article and perhaps put it as your first, most important point.
“The key to good interviews is to try to think of yourself as a gold miner looking for golden nuggets that you can bring back to your audience”
The interview should be a reflection of what you have learned. I often like to ask things that I know the audience will be interested in or even just information that people haven’t had presented in a logical way before.
12. Request the interviewee to post on social media
At the conclusion of your interview you should ask the interviewee to share the final result on all of their social media platforms. One piece of advice I will give you is make sure that you double check they actually post it as sometimes they can forget. The other thing I have found is that sometimes they only post it on one social media platform or the one that doesn’t haven’t a very large following.
It’s important to insist when you’re setting up the interview that you get them to agree to post on their company page, not just their personal page.
13. Ask for original photos
To top off an excellent interview you need to have great visuals to complement the article. At the end of the interview ask the person how you would go about getting photos of them that haven’t been used before. If you want to be really bold, ask them if it’s possible to get a photo of yourself with them (if they live locally to you) to use with the article. A photo with you in it makes the content just that little bit more original and shareable.
I usually ask for a few photos of the interviewee, a photo of their office and one more photo of a proud moment in their life. The last thing I do after asking them for photos is to end the interview with, “is there anything you want to ask me?” Sometimes they will be dying to ask a few questions about you so make sure you let them do that if they choose and then say thank you and let them move on.
14. Send them a first draft
I don’t do this for every interview but if they are someone that is well known and have a very high profile brand, you are really best to send them a draft copy of the interview before you release anything. It’s very easy to get a few things wrong about their life, and you want to give them a chance to remove anything they don’t like. Surprisingly, I would be lucky to get more than three changes on the times that I have had to send a first draft.
***Final note – what I get out of it
I wanted to share with you the best part about interviewing other people. What I have found is that you get to learn things that you would never of known. By the end of the interview, you find that you have a bond and a permanent connection with the person.
The interview also helps you to believe that things that you thought were impossible are actually possible. Unconsciously you start to pick up new ideas and new beliefs, and it begins to change you as a person. You start to find the roadmap to success, and you now have references to back up your new beliefs.
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Why Efficiency is Overrated (And How to Actually Get Things Done)
If you look at someone like Tim Ferriss, you might assume he is a hyper-productive, super-optimized efficiency machine. After all, he authored The 4-Hour Workweek and built a massive empire around deconstructing world-class performance.
But according to Ferriss, if you were to act as a fly on the wall in his house, he would often look like he is “doing a whole lot of nothing” or flailing like a “drowning monkey.”
The truth is, Ferriss isn’t obsessed with efficiency. He is obsessed with effectiveness. And there is a massive difference between the two.
In a recent deep-dive interview, Ferriss broke down how he structures his life, why he relies on “mini-retirements” to prevent burnout, and the exact protocols he uses to pull himself out of a low mood.
Efficiency vs. Effectiveness: The Ultimate Trap
Most people are trapped in the default mode of the universe: productivity theater. They do things that pass as productive to themselves and others (“Look at how busy I am!”), but they aren’t actually moving the needle.
- Effectiveness is what you do.
- Efficiency is how you do it.
As Ferriss explains, doing something well does not make it important. If you choose the wrong task and execute it flawlessly, you have wasted your time. It is far better to choose the absolute highest-leverage task (the “lead domino” that knocks over everything else) and execute it at a B-minus level than to efficiently accomplish tasks that don’t matter.
“If you’re running a marathon, you’re not going to take a taxi from point A to point B. Sure, that’ll be efficient, but that sort of defeats the purpose of the whole exercise,” Ferriss says.
How to Choose the Right Projects (The “Successful Failure” Method)
If what you work on is more important than how you work on it, how do you choose what to tackle? Ferriss uses a very specific filter for evaluating 3-to-6-month projects: “Can I succeed even if I fail?”
When evaluating opportunities, he chooses the projects that will allow him to develop rare skills or deepen valuable relationships, regardless of the external outcome.
When he launched his podcast in 2014, people told him it was too late. But he didn’t care about immediate external success; he used the podcast as a tool to reduce his verbal ticks, improve his interviewing skills for future books, and build deeper relationships with friends. Even if the podcast had “failed” commercially, he would have succeeded in leveling up his personal operating system.
The Architecture of a High-Leverage Day
Ferriss doesn’t rigidly structure every minute of his day. Instead, he focuses on a weekly architecture. By setting rigid days for specific tasks (e.g., all team calls on Tuesdays, all recordings on Mondays and Fridays), he creates a scaffolding that absorbs the chaos of daily life.
When it comes to his daily routine, he follows two main rules:
- Do Not Rush the First Hour: If he feels rushed in the morning, he will feel rushed all day.
- State, Story, Strategy: To change his mindset, he starts with his physical state. He uses a 3-to-5-minute cold plunge immediately upon waking to release norepinephrine, followed by a hot tub for hyper-dilation. This state change creates a more enabling internal “story,” which allows him to formulate a better “strategy” for the day.
“If you can single-task for two to three hours a day… you’re going to be ahead of 90% of the population,” Ferriss advises.
Managing Low Mood and Hypervigilance
Even top performers battle anxiety, rumination, and low mood. Ferriss refers to his mind as a “border collie”—if you leave it inside too long, it will chew the couch.
To prevent depressive spirals, Ferriss relies on a few non-negotiable protocols:
- Prophylactic Scheduling: An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Ferriss schedules regular group dinners with friends and multiple week-long group trips a year to ensure he always has something to look forward to.
- Identity Diversification: If your podcast, startup, or job is the sole barometer of your self-worth, you are incredibly vulnerable. Ferriss diversifies his identity through rock climbing, archery, writing, and investing. If his business has a terrible week but he hits a PR in the gym, his overall week is still a win.
- Protecting Sleep: Ferriss notes that his low moods are almost always preceded by compromised sleep and excessive caffeine intake.
Beware the “High Achiever Complex”
When operating in a permissionless environment (where you can work whenever and wherever you want), the biggest risk is that you will end up working all the time.
Ferriss combats this by taking mini-retirements—scheduling 3 to 4 weeks where he is entirely offline.
“If you do that, you have to set up systems and policies that will persist after you return,” Ferriss explains. If your business requires your constant input, it is broken. Stepping away forces you to build systems that scale, ultimately saving you from your own desire to constantly be in control.
In the end, you are going to die with items left on your to-do list. Stop trying to efficiently clear the deck, and start focusing on the few critical actions that actually make you feel alive.
I had the pleasure of interviewing Tim Ferriss 11 years ago:
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How to Achieve Massive Success Without Crushing Your Soul
Most highly ambitious people suffer from a dangerous illusion: the belief that if they can just achieve one more milestone—a funding round, a promotion, an exit—they will finally feel like they are enough.
Entrepreneurs and leaders will sacrifice their sleep, relationships, and sanity to reach that distant horizon. But when the big payday or the massive accolade finally arrives, a terrifying reality sets in: nothing changes. The external world shifted, but the internal emptiness remained. Trying to find internal validation through external achievement is like drinking saltwater to quench your thirst; it seems like it will work, but it only leaves you thirstier.
High achievers are always playing two games in parallel:
- The External Game: Your career, your income, your accolades, and your status.
- The Internal Game: Your relationship with yourself, your peace, and your self-worth.
You can have white-hot ambition, make incredible money, and build a meaningful legacy without burning out. But to win without crushing your soul, you must master metacognition—the ability to reflect on and control your own thinking.
Here are three profound internal shifts you must make to beat high achiever burnout and build a life you actually enjoy.
1. Fire Your Internal Coach
Most ambitious people are driven by a ruthless inner monologue. This internal “coach” constantly whispers that your value is strictly tied to your performance. If you fail, you are worthless.
Many high achievers justify this abusive inner voice. They believe it gives them their edge and keeps them motivated. But if you step back and truly observe that voice, you will notice something profound: your inner critic rarely offers actionable solutions or brilliant ideas. It only offers fear.
That toxic internal coach is simply your own fear incarnated—fear of failure, fear of rejection, and fear of not being enough. Worse, this doesn’t just hurt you. When you operate from a place of self-loathing and fear, you project that negativity onto your team, your business partners, and your family.
You cannot cultivate healthy relationships with others if your relationship with yourself is toxic. To reach the next level of leadership, you must fire that coach. Give yourself permission to stop beating yourself up, and consciously shift from being your own harshest critic to being your strongest ally.
2. Pull the Nails Out of Your Head
Imagine a person complaining about a blinding, chronic headache while completely ignoring the obvious iron nail sticking out of their forehead.
In business and in life, we all accumulate metaphorical nails. Your nail is the obvious problem you are actively avoiding. It might be a co-founder relationship that has turned toxic. It might be a failing product line you are too stubborn to cut. It might be a destructive personal habit, or a deep-seated trauma you have refused to address.
We leave these nails in our heads for one simple reason: pulling them out hurts.
To reach the next peak of success, you have to realize that growth is not a straight upward line. To get off a stagnant plateau, you must first traverse a valley. If you fire a toxic client, you will face temporary financial stress. If you quit a bad habit, you will face temporary discomfort.
Something has to get worse before it gets better. But everything you truly want is on the other side of that temporary valley. Facing your fears and pulling out the nails is a superpower. Endure the short-term pain, and watch how fast you elevate once you are finally free of the friction.
3. Trust Your Second Voice
The voice of fear and criticism is not the only voice in your head. You have a second voice—your intuition.
Unlike your inner critic, your intuition does not speak through panic or fear; it speaks through energy. Energy is the language of your true ambition.
When you think about a project you feel obligated to do out of societal pressure, your energy lags. You feel a heavy sense of dread. But when you think about an idea you are secretly terrified of but deeply passionate about, your energy spikes. You feel electricity.
In almost every major business or life decision, you already know the answer. Your intuition has already told you what to do; your hesitation is simply a negotiation with your fear.
How do you conquer that fear? Write it down. Fears are incredibly dangerous when they lurk as nebulous clouds in your subconscious. When you put them on paper, they lose their paralyzing power. They cease to be monsters and simply become standard problems to be solved. And as an entrepreneur, you are an expert at solving problems.
Stop Waiting for the Destination
It is easy to look at the grind of building a business and think, “I’ll be happy when I finally sell this company,” or “I’ll relax when we hit $10 million in ARR.”
But the point of the journey is not the destination. The point of the flight is not simply to land; it is to experience the magic of being in the air.
Stop postponing your happiness for a future that is not guaranteed. Fire your toxic internal coach, do the hard work of pulling out your nails, and follow the energy of your intuition. You have already arrived. You are living in the “good old days” right now—make sure you are actually present enough to enjoy them.
Here is a great speech by Graham Weaver about How to Win Without Crushing Your Soul
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Why Your Morning Routine Needs a Document System, Not Just a To-Do List
Most morning routines are built around a mindset. A journal entry, a cold shower, ten minutes of stretching, or a fixed order for coffee and email, each one designed to start the day with focus. What almost never makes that list is the paperwork already sitting in your inbox from yesterday: the contract still needing a signature, the invoice a client asked you to resend, the intake form HR needs before nine o’clock.
A checklist can remind you these tasks exist, but it cannot tell you where the file lives, what format it needs to be in, or how many versions sit on your desktop already. That gap is why a document system matters more than one more app for tracking tasks.
The Piece Most Routines Skip
A to-do list can capture a single line such as send the signed lease, but the real work behind that line is gathering three or four separate files into one place first. A simple habit handles this well: before opening email, pull yesterday’s scans, forwarded attachments, and signed pages together into one working file. Open a PDF combiner to merge those pieces into a single document, and the visible task, actually sending the file, only takes as long as it should.
This is not just about signatures or contracts. Recurring items such as monthly reports, vendor invoices, and reference documents pile up the same way, and a five-minute pass each morning keeps them from becoming a bigger cleanup later in the week.
This is not a small pocket of wasted time either. The most recent Bureau of Labor Statistics time use data groups tasks like filling out paperwork together with other household management activities such as cooking and yard work, and finds that adults spend close to two hours a day on that broader category. A five-minute document habit each morning is a modest trade against that total, and it moves the drag to the start of the day instead of letting it bleed into everything after.
A Three-Layer System That Fits in Fifteen Minutes
A working system for morning paperwork does not need folders inside folders. Three layers cover almost everything:
- Needs action today: Anything someone is waiting on, like a contract to sign or a form due before noon, gets handled first.
- Reference only: Files you might need to check but do not have to touch, such as a signed agreement from last month, stay in a folder you can search instead of one you have to scroll through.
- Archive: Anything finished and no longer active moves out of daily view completely, so it stops competing for attention with today’s work.
These three buckets take less time to sort into than most people spend deciding what to have for breakfast.
Three Small Habits That Make It Stick
None of this needs new software training or a rebuilt inbox. A few small habits carry most of the weight.
- Keep one working file: Combine incoming pages into a single document each morning instead of juggling several attachments across separate emails.
- Check who needs access, not just who has the file: Confirm the person waiting on a document (a client, a coworker, a new hire) can open it under their own account, since being able to share a PDF on any device matters more than which laptop or phone you used to finish it.
- Close the loop by noon: Move anything finished into reference or archive so tomorrow’s list starts smaller instead of longer.
Each habit takes under a minute on its own, and together they keep paperwork from stacking up into a Friday-afternoon problem.
Different Roles, Same Morning Problem
The specifics change by job, but the underlying gap stays the same across roles.
Freelancers often start the day with three or four client threads open at once, each with its own estimate, contract, or invoice version, and a quick merge each morning keeps those from scattering across a downloads folder.
HR staff run into a version of the same problem multiplied across every new hire moving through onboarding at the same time, since offer letters, tax forms, and identification copies all need to land in one file before anything gets filed.
Designers hit it from another angle: client feedback often arrives as a photo of a printed mockup or a screenshot of a marked-up page, and turning those images into one proper document is the real first step before revisions can begin.
None of this calls for a full overhaul of how you work. It just means treating documents as part of the routine instead of an afterthought that shows up once the coffee is gone. Fifteen minutes spent sorting real files into a real structure each morning saves more time by lunch than another motivational routine ever will, and it is the difference between reacting to paperwork all day and starting ahead of it for once.
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The Psychology of Power: How to Win the Mind Games of Business
You might think that your business is driven by data, analytics, and perfectly optimized algorithms. But beneath the spreadsheets and KPIs, the business world is driven by something far more primitive: human psychology.
Robert Greene, the mastermind behind The 48 Laws of Power, has spent decades studying how top executives, historical figures, and entrepreneurs navigate strategy. His conclusion? Human behavior is compulsive, obsessive, and entirely predictable if you know what to look for.
Whether you are scaling a startup, navigating corporate politics, or trying to understand why a competitor is outmaneuvering you, success rarely comes down to who works the hardest. It comes down to who understands the social game. Here is a breakdown of Greene’s most potent strategies for mastering the psychology of business.
1. The Art of Concealing Intentions
Is honesty really the best policy in business? According to Greene, the answer is a resounding no—at least, not with everyone.
When dealing with your internal team, transparency is essential. A leader must have a clear vision and communicate it directly so the organization can execute without chaos. However, when it comes to your competitors, complete transparency is a fatal flaw.
If your rivals know exactly where you are headed, what your next product launch looks like, or what your strategy will be in six months, they will mirror you and counter your moves. The game of power is subtle. To win, you must keep your competitors—and sometimes even your clients—on their heels. By concealing your true intentions, you force your rivals into a defensive posture, leaving you in control of the offensive.
2. Why Silence is Your Greatest Leverage
In the corporate world, there is a misconception that the loudest person in the room is the most powerful. Greene argues the exact opposite: talking less creates an aura of power.
When writing The 50th Law with 50 Cent, Greene observed the rapper in high-stakes business meetings. 50 Cent would sit in absolute silence while others talked, causing everyone else in the room to over-explain, backtrack, and ultimately reveal their insecurities.
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The psychology behind it: When you talk constantly, you signal insecurity and a lack of self-control.
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The power of silence: When you remain quiet, people project their own anxieties onto you. They wonder what you are thinking. It makes you appear larger, more mysterious, and more authoritative than you actually are.
Every word you say should be strategic. If you cannot control your own mouth, you cannot control your environment.
3. Formlessness: Adapt or Die
Many leaders rise to the top based on a specific strength—maybe it is ruthless aggression, brilliant public speaking, or a populist touch. But holding onto the trait that made you successful is the fastest way to become obsolete.
Borrowing from Machiavelli and Sun Tzu, Greene emphasizes the law of formlessness. The business landscape is shifting constantly; what worked three years ago is likely irrelevant today. If you are rigid in your brand, your personality, or your strategy, the world will pass you by.
Consider a brand like American Apparel, which thrived in the early 2000s on a very specific, nostalgic, 1980s aesthetic. When consumer tastes shifted in 2009, leadership refused to adapt. They clung to the form that brought them initial success, and it ultimately led to their downfall. True power belongs to the leader who can reinvent themselves and change shape to fit the times.
4. Never Outshine the Master (Navigating Ego)
This is arguably the most critical workplace law to engrave into your brain: everyone has an ego, and everyone has insecurities.
If you are an employee working under a boss, your natural instinct is to work incredibly hard, do a brilliant job, and take all the credit to prove your worth. But if you try too eagerly to impress and you end up soaking up all the attention, you will trigger your boss’s insecurities. Unconsciously, they will start viewing you as a threat.
To survive and advance, you must master the nuanced art of letting the person above you take some of the glory.
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Do the heavy lifting.
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Present the wins.
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Let your superior feel as though it was their visionary leadership that made it possible.
It might feel unfair, but reacting emotionally to this dynamic drains your energy. Accept that taking a strategic backseat is simply part of the power game. By stroking the ego of the person above you, you secure your position and quietly build your own leverage.
5. Despise the Free Lunch (and Appeal to Self-Interest)
In business, free is the most expensive mistake you can make. When someone offers you something for free, they almost always want something far more valuable in return. On the flip side, being cheap with your money—refusing to pay your employees well or constantly seeking a bargain—signals weakness and a lack of abundance.
When you need something from a powerful person, do not appeal to their mercy. Do not remind them of a past favor or ask for help out of the goodness of their heart. Instead, appeal strictly to their self-interest.
Powerful people lack two things: time and attention. If your proposal can save them time, organize their chaos, or solve a specific insecurity they have, they will be eating out of the palm of your hand.
The Ultimate Shift: Outward Focus
The single most important skill you can master in business is shifting your focus outward. Stop obsessing over your own needs, your own emotions, and whether people like you. Instead, become a master observer of the social game. Watch the trends, study your competitors, and fiercely analyze the unspoken needs of your clients. When you stop acting out of emotion and start acting out of strategy, the entire game changes.
Here is a powerful breakdown with Mark Brazil and Robert Greene
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