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10 Reasons Why Your Alpha Personality Will Bring You Success

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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Here we explain the traits of an Alpha male and Alpha female.

How your Alpha personality type will give you an advantage in your business and life and how you can become successful by channeling your alpha traits.

 

The Alpha Male

Well, hello there, Mr. Popularity. How is life as the leader of the pack? Do you find yourself always deciding where your office crew will enjoy happy hour? Or are you constantly determining the best way for your team to get those long-term work projects done? Those roles you seem to always fall into are natural predilections of your alpha personality. You probably find it easy to take charge in a multitude of situations because you have always been so outgoing. To you, choosing a happy hour locale is no different than when you used to pick the pizza place where your little league would celebrate after you scored the winning homerun. You have always been programmed for success. You are an enterprising individual who is practically destined for a lifetime of fulfillment  If you have not been realizing your potential lately, it could be because that same charm and charisma that has worked wonders on your many lady friends is not working as well on your colleagues. Read on to see how you can adjust your machismo meter to ‘just right’ for a lifetime of reaping the rewards.

 

The Alpha Female

And you, Miss Confidence, how does it feel to dominate an entire office full of women? Probably, pretty similar to the feeling you had in college when you quickly rose to the top of your sorority’s who’s who list. Yes, your alpha personality has led you to the apex of nearly every social circle you ever obliged with your friendship. Your competitive spirit has landed you a career position some women can only ever dream to attain and you want to know how to make the best of it. Like your alpha male counterpart, though, you are wondering why not every one of your superiors is as taken with your ambitious, can-do attitude. After all, you excel in every task they designate to you. Beware of the potential setbacks that can come from your alpha personality. You will sometimes have to remind yourself that you are not necessarily the boss in every situation. Maybe the best thing you can do to win the promotion that will lead to a lifetime of financial security is to just relax a bit. Try to show your superiors that you can be nurturing and understanding, two traits that can be necessary in higher-level management positions. They often don’t see this side of you when you are acting as the social chair and competing to turn in the best work, solo. Below, we have the key to ensuring your alpha personality will bring you success.

So, now you know who you are, Mr. Popularity and Miss Confidence. Your only question should be how do you channel your alpha personality traits in order to take control of your life and continue to be hugely successful. In knowing those personality traits of yours that help you achieve success and those that others may be slightly turned off by, you are miles ahead of your alpha competitors. Take a look at the ten reasons why your alpha personality will bring you success that we have listed below and then use them to take control of your future success.

 

10 Reasons Why Your Alpha Personality Will Bring You Success

 

1. You are Popular

Your family, friends and colleagues actually like you so, you can expect that they will hope for your success as much as you do. It is as if you have your own personal cheering squad and when things are not going your way, you can expect these people to jump in and help.

 

2. You are a Leader

People naturally want to follow others with alpha personalities. Because others are following your lead, they will work harder to contribute to your success knowing that their own success is dependent on you and your plan.

 

3. You are Enterprising

Since childhood you have been one of those people that seek solutions to whatever problems arise. You have practiced this skill so often that any problems you may run into seem simple.

 

4. You Possess Charm and Charisma

Part of being successful relies on your ability to share your success and the rewards of it with others. People want to be a part of your success because you are just so appealing, warm and welcoming.

 

5. You are Confident

New opportunities are constantly presenting themselves and you have enough confidence to make yourself available for all of them.

 

6. You Dominate in Social Circles

A key to success in business is networking and you are naturally inclined to be good at this. In terms of success in life, large and varied social circles will allow you more opportunities to find hobbies that you love.

 

7. You Have a Can-Do Attitude

You can handle anything that is thrown your way. New tasks are easily tackled and, because you’re you, they are completed with poise.

 

8. You are Ambitious

There is not much worth to being enterprising if you don’t have the ambition to make progress. Your alpha personality makes you want to do more in every aspect of life.

 

9. You are Competitive

You turn everything into a competition. And you have to come out the winner. Turn your ambition for success in business and life into a competition and you will surely end up on top.

 

10. You Can Control You

We noted above some alpha personality traits that may not be perceived as well by others as your charm, charisma and social popularity is. Take control of your tendencies of being bossy and non-supportive and ultimate success will be yours.

 

 

10 Confident Quotes That Alpha Personalities Live By

 

“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Bernard M. Baruch

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

“Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.” ― Bertrand Russell

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ― Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

“When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.” ― Karen E. Quinones Miller

“Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” ― Coco Chanel

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ― Carlos Castaneda

“If you dont have any shadows, you’re not standing in the light.” – Lady Gaga

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” – Marie Curie 

“All you need is ignorance and confidence and the success is sure.” – Mark Twain

 

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances. I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 100 million lives in the last 6 and a half years.

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  1. Legendary Kitten

    Mar 7, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    People who run around calling themselves ‘alpha male’ or ‘alpha female’ are in fact, very far from it.

  2. santhosh paul

    Jul 29, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    very useful to develop my alpha level….

  3. rosarian65Ana

    Jul 10, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    My Mom is an Alpha female. She is 80 years old today. Due to the times, lack of education and social situation, all she could do was be a super Mom and wife.. She ran a house of 8 children and a husband like a pro. She was always on top of things, from bills, cleaning, cooking, checking homework, settling arguments. She just always had a go get it attitude. And she also worked and all this while always looking awesome even to this day. She never wore anything that wasn’t ironed first. Her house and her garden was the nicest in the neighborhood just because. I always said that if she had been born under different circumstances, she would had been a CEO or something big. On the other hand, I have a masters degree, and I am kind of lame in so many ways. Sigh. I always wished I had inherited her personality type.

  4. Loriot

    Jul 1, 2013 at 12:23 am

    There are many alpha females throughout history. Cleopatra, Catherine the Great, Margaret Thatcher, to name just a few. To think that alphas have to be male because males are physically stronger is ignorant and shallow. More than that, people of this opinion clearly don’t understand what the expression alpha means. Even a physically weak person is perfectly able to lead.

    • olix

      Sep 10, 2013 at 4:47 pm

      Exactly. The level of shallowness demonstrated in some of the comments is too high. The only explanation I can think of is people who don’t have enough life experience or haven’t been particularly curious about the world & its history.

  5. Kayumochi

    Mar 6, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    Eleanor Roosevelt was included in the quotes section. She certainly was not *alpha* in any sense of the word. Instead, she was an introvert who used her innate traits to make change in the world. One doesn’t have to be *alpha* or an *extrovert* to be *successful.* What a shallow article.

  6. Dan

    Jan 9, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    There certainly are Alpha Females. Largely due to the decline of the Alpha Male. I am an Alpha male and I see it all the time. Alpha women seem increasingly abundant. I love the article and the site thanks.

    • Veritas

      Jan 11, 2013 at 4:51 am

      You clearly don’t grasp the concept of an alpha personality. It is one who will dominate those around him without requiring law or structured society. An alpha personality will rise to the top in a condition of total anarchy. No female, not even a three hundred pound butch Lesbian will be capable of such a thing. It requires physical strength, endurance, intelligence, determination. When woman can compete on an equally basic in something like an iron man competition you might find an alpha female.

      Many woman are strong, intelligent, capable. I admire such women, but to call them alpha females is pointless – they aren’t.

      • Kude

        Jan 15, 2013 at 6:13 pm

        And what about Oprah? Hillary Clinton? Lady Gaga? Angelina Jolie? J.K Rowling?

        If they’re not Alphas, do u think they’ll be where they are today?

        With all the Alpha male’s physical strength, endurance, intelligence, determination to compete with them, do you think that an alpha woman would thrive in this “iron man competition world”

        Just look within your family and who controls everyone? Your mom.

        • r3rnfi

          Apr 8, 2013 at 8:15 pm

          maybe your Mom rules the house
          I have noticed that homes run by the Woman are 99 percent of the time are poorly run homes. Not that homes run by Men are perfect, but the natural order of things is Men run things best. “let us not be drawn into your next response on how men start wars or whatever .”

          • olix

            Sep 10, 2013 at 4:45 pm

            You might think that but statistics says otherwise. Even in developing countries homes where women call the shots are more successful. Women pay more attention to education, health, finances & general well-being. You’d better do some reading on the matter, and not just rely on anecdotal evidence.

      • Ash

        Jan 22, 2013 at 5:11 am

        I think you are mixing up alpha male and alpha female by sizing the alpha female to the alpha male. A man who dominates men is a alpha male and a woman who dominates women is a alpha female. Your saying because a woman is not a male or doesn’t dominate males she isn’t an alpha female. When clearly if you read, an alpha female dominates mainly females, we’re not talking about males.

        • Aaron

          Jun 8, 2013 at 8:10 am

          I don’t think it’s a gender thing at all. Just a personality type. Why try go make it a gender thing? Just because you run a household, doesnt mean you’re alpha. An alpha could run a household and an alpha child may not follow orders and never get along, because they too are alpha. Being alpha doesn’t mean you’re always on control, but you have the need to be. Alphas can become very irritated or depressed when they cannot dominate, influence, and succeed.

  7. Veritas

    Jan 7, 2013 at 11:31 pm

    There is no such thing as an Alpha female. So much for this nonsesne.

  8. Martin

    Jan 5, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    I’m an alpha male and I think this is a stupid article, I don’t know who wrote it but I suspect It was a gay man. Just a hunch.

  9. The Money Man

    Jan 5, 2013 at 2:53 am

    Absolutely love this post, I certainly like to think I’m an Alpha Male haha!!

    Good Job!!!

  10. curtis c

    Jan 3, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    failure is certain if we give up and dont try but sucess is never a certainty in the same manner if we dont so therefor sucsess can only be defined by not failing e.g. never quitting. you can never fail to achieave a dream if your always trailing behind it.

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Are You Really a Leader? 3 Questions That Will Help You Find the Answer

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Being a leader is a lot of responsibility. People look to you to make decisions, direct them, provide support, and get results. A true leader is an amazing presence: a humble yet confident person who inspires those around them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think they’re leaders, but really aren’t. In fact, according to talent scientist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, 80% of people believe they are better-than-average leaders, which is objectively impossible. I see people claiming to be leaders all the time, but they’re all talk and no substance.

What is Leadership?

A lot of the people I talk to seem to think that you become a leader just by having a job managing people. That’s simply not true. Leadership is a balancing act that would make a master juggler impressed.

True leadership involves making sure that there is a happy balance between employees’ needs and the company’s needs. If only the employees’ needs are prioritized, the company won’t be profitable. Likewise, if only the company’s needs are considered, employees will leave.

True leaders have the self-awareness and strategic skills to understand this delicate balance and understand their role in creating those key compromises.

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” – Ken Blanchard

Can You Be a True Leader?

Although there are a number of different leadership styles and theories out there, leadership boils down to a few essentials. Leaders need the emotional intelligence to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations while being able to inspire others to take action. There’s a big difference between saying you’re a leader and acting like one.

If you want to increase your self-awareness and find out if you’re a leader others can rely on, start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Do you want to be a leader?

It may seem unfair, but in my experience, the people who make the best leaders don’t necessarily want to be. You only want what you don’t have, and same rings true here. If you want to be a leader then you probably aren’t focusing on the right aspects of leadership.

True leaders are natural trail-blazers, but they don’t set out to lead anyone. People just happen to take note of their talents and confidence and look to the person for advice and guidance.

2. Do you have an original vision, or are you just power-hungry?

Why do you want to be a leader? Is it so you have the final say, or do you have actual goals you want to accomplish with a team? True leaders don’t feel threatened by others—they’re too busy getting stuff done. Leaders typically don’t need to test or confirm their power.

If you think good leaders give directions and just want others to listen, you’ve got it wrong. The best leaders often don’t need to speak a whole lot—they listen and observe, they think deeply, and when they do speak, it’s meaningful.

A true leader acts and others follow those actions because they trust and respect the leader. It isn’t about a power battle or an ego trip. Leaders have a true vision.  

3. Are you willing to do the dirty work?

You don’t get to be a leader if all you do is sit around, give orders, and let other people do the dirty work. Real leaders are humble, and no work is “beneath” them.

They want to know what’s going on at the ground level, and they want to help their people when they’re struggling. If you’re not willing to talk to a customer or back your employee up in a bad situation, you don’t get to call yourself a leader.

“Leadership is a choice, not a position.” – Stephen Covey

Becoming a Self-Aware Leader

How did you do? Maybe you’re not cut out to be a leader. Maybe you are. Maybe you need to work on a few things first.

Real talk: being a good leader isn’t easy. However, becoming a true leader benefits everyone around you and can be extremely fulfilling. If you’re more determined than ever to become the best, most self-aware leader you can be, that’s great news: we need more leaders out there.

What are the characteristics of a great leader in your opinion? Share with us below!

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Capitalize on the 80% of Business That You Are Missing Out on Right Now With This Method

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Most of us are aware of Pareto’s Principle, the 80/20 rule. This principle states that 20% of the input gives us 80% of the output. The top 20% of your salespeople account for 80% of your business. The top 20% skills you have, account for 80% of your success. The top 20% of our customers will give us 80% of business. When we use this principle it allows us to narrow in and focus on the most important clients who are in our target market.

You’ll find that most people tell you to focus on your top 20%. Here’s the big question: What do you do with the other 80% of people who you do not work with?

Most of us let this 80% of potential business fall to the wayside because they are not our target market and we have no system set up to still do some form of business with them. However, this is not the case for Tim Johnson.

Just last year, he generated $11 million dollars from REFERRALS! He is the master of building a referral based business. By sending clients that he cannot work with to his friends and referral partners, he is able to receive commission for the introduction and new business.

Imagine having the potential to make money from EVERY business conversation! Tim speaks to about 3,000 people per year, and if he cannot help them personally, he knows someone in his Global Renegade network who can.

The thing is, we can all do this if we are intentional about it. As Tim puts it, “We need to date our referral partners. We put so much time and effort into people that do nothing for our business, yet we do not build strong relationships and invest time into our referral partners.”

Tim is a speaker, author, real estate developer, and business coach who is well known around the world. He starts each business conversation by saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during this conversation I realize that I am not the right fit for you, I introduce you to someone in my network who is?”

Each time he is met with a resounding YES! Who would say no to this offer? This strong referral network has built Tim a net worth of over $4 million dollars. Tim uses a framework called SOLD and if you use this framework you can build a strong referral network as well.

Below, is the exact SOLD framework Tim uses:

Strategy

According to Tim, everything is mathematical. He approaches each conversation looking to learn and serve. When you approach conversations in this way, you focus on relationship building instead of feeling like you have an agenda to do business.

Ask great questions here and give the person you’re speaking with an opportunity to share their situation and what they are going through. Tim always asks, “What do you need and how can I serve you?” This is a powerful question that most people neglect and it’s the reason they are not experiencing as much sales success as Tim.

“Here is a powerful yet simple rule. Always give people more than they expect to get.” – Nelson Boswell

Objections = Opportunities

As the old wise quote states, “We were given two ears and one mouth for a reason.” This means we need to speak less and listen more.

Too often, people pitch and become salesy instead of being human and having a conversation where they are listening to the person they are sitting with. When you are listening, you give yourself the opportunity to learn their problems, obstacles, and needs in order to identify new opportunities.

Leverage referral partners

As you are gathering information you will identify if you are able to provide the solution that your prospect needs. If you cannot, it is time to leverage your referral partners and make the introduction.

By starting out the conversation saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during our conversation I realize that I am not the right fit that I introduce you to someone who is?” you have already pre-framed yourself appropriately to leverage your referral network if you cannot provide a solution that is needed.

Your prospect will be very appreciative for your honesty and will trust your judgement. You get a lot of brownie points when you have the integrity to say that you are not the right fit, but let me introduce you to someone who is.

“People influence people. Nothing influences people more than a recommendation from a trusted friend. A trusted referral influences people more than the best broadcast message. A trusted referral is the Holy Grail of advertising.” – Mark Zuckerberg

Duplicate

Rinse and repeat this process. Having conversations in this way will enable you to work with the top 20% of people you speak with, and still provide value to the other 80%. In this way, every conversation opens up the opportunity for new business.

SOLD is business growth through asking great questions, active listening, and leveraging referral partners. Start to capitalize on the 80% of business that you are missing out on by referring these people to other service providers in your network.

If you think about providing value in service of others first, then you can leverage the SOLD framework for increased revenue in your business by simply being a connector and receiving commissions of 10%-25%.

Do you have referral partners in your business? Would love to hear your experience in the comment section below!

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A 5 Step Morning Routine That Leads to Explosive Growth and Success

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Have you ever noticed that how your day starts can dictate how the rest of your day goes? If you start your day on a positive and productive note, you feel a sense of excitement, pride, and accomplishment. And then those feelings power you through the rest of your day. You knock things off your to do list and find yourself in a great mood. Yet, when you wake up later than you were planning on, it can throw your entire day off. So make a decision to take control of your mornings and come up with a routine that will set you up for success.

When trying to construct a morning routine that fits your life, one thing to take into consideration is how important the night before is. Most people with winning morning routines, also take nighttime rituals into consideration. Before going to bed each night, plan your next day out in a journal, so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Nothing is worse than going into a day without a plan, and that’s a great way to lose control of the day.

Here’s a list of some of the most important things you can start each morning with to get off to a good start:

Step 1: Hydration: The elixir of life

One of the most important things you can do each morning is start your day off by drinking at least one glass of water. After 6-8 hours without any water, it’s essential to hydrate your body when you wake up and get it ready for the day. Your body is composed of mostly water and a lot of times, the importance of water is overlooked. Dehydration can lead to fatigue and headaches, so starting the day with water can help prevent dehydration. Because of that, staying hydrated means more energy and a lot of times, clearer thinking. There are a lot of health benefits to staying hydrated.

“Your day is pretty much formed by how you spend your first hour. Check your thoughts, attitude and heart.”

Step 2: Priming: The key to self transformation

Anthony (Tony) Robbins, one of the biggest motivational speakers, always talks about the importance of starting your day with priming. His priming exercise combines two important elements; gratitude and visualization. The priming exercise is about 15 minutes and the purpose is to get you into a good mental and physical state before you start your day. First, Tony asks you to think about 3 things that you are grateful for, and to step into those memories like you are there.

Next, he asks you to think of three things that you want to accomplish (short or long term). The purpose of these exercises is simple; start your day with gratitude and visualizing yourself accomplishing what you want to accomplish, whether it’s a short term goal or a long term goal.

If you don’t want to do that exact exercise, you can also do a combination of meditation and visualization. There are a lot of guided audios that you can use to help you get the most out of meditation and visualization.

Step 3: Exercise/Movement – Jumpstart your brain and your body

Exercise has massive benefits, both physical and mental. Starting your day with even 30 minutes of movement can give you increased energy and endorphins. It’s also a great way to start your day on a positive note. Think of how amazing you feel after you finish a good workout.

Step 4: Journaling – Create your future and write your goals into existence

Everyone has their own way of journaling; you need to find what works best for you. Some things you can do while journaling are making a list of 3-5 things you are grateful for, writing your goals down (daily or long term goals), or setting your intention for the day. Journaling can make you more productive as well as remind you what your goals/ targets are so that you stay focused on what you need to get done.

“Your morning routine generates a 10x return for good or for bad. Make it good.” – Todd Stocker

Step 5: Attack the day- conquer your biggest task that you have to do first thing

A lot of people tend to procrastinate on their most important task of the day. They’ll find any excuse to push it off. “Later” becomes “tomorrow.” And then somehow, the end of the week rolls around and the task still isn’t complete. However, if you prioritize your most important task and get it accomplished first thing in the morning, it gives you a sense of discipline and accomplishment.

Starting your morning with a routine can help transform your day. It can help you build new habits but even if you start with 2 or 3 of these, you will begin to see a big difference in how your days go. If you already have a morning routine but you are missing some of these steps, test them out and see what kind of an impact they have on your days.

What is your morning routine like? Comment below!

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Here’s Why Goals Are for Losers

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If you enter the word “goals” into your browser, more than 1.6 BILLION search results pop up. Safe to say, there’s no shortage of goal setting advice as a stepping-stone on your path to success. Yet, there’s a contrarian willing to risk criticism, challenge the status quo, and debunk goals at face value.

In his book “How To Fail At Almost Everything And Still Win Big,” Scott Adams is an author, cartoonist and Periscope streamer, who sees goals differently than most everyone else. Adams observes that if you study people who succeed, you’ll see most of them follow systems, not goals.

Goals vs. Systems

Adams defines goals as “reach it and be done objectives.” Whereas systems, is what you do on a regular basis with an expectation that you’ll build on and improve your chances of success.

In Adams book, he says he didn’t have a goal to write it by a specific date. He had a “process” that included blogging daily (for practice) believing this consistency would lead him down a path to where he wanted to be.

Other examples:

  • dieting to lose 10 lbs. is a goal. Learning to eat right, and doing so on a regular basis, is a system.
  • making a million dollars is a goal. Being a serial entrepreneur, is system.
  • running a marathon in under 3 hours is a goal. Exercising daily, is a system (forming a habit).

Could goals create tunnel vision? The problem with goals, says Adams, is that they’re laser-focused and could block awareness of other opportunities around you. If you have your head down pursuing a goal, you may miss better opportunities that could potentially advance you, perhaps even faster.

In contrast, says Adams, systems are flexible, leaving you wide open for new and better ways of doing things. “A system, performed daily, is moving you from a place with low odds to a place with better odds.”

Adams concedes, goals aren’t completely off the table. Goals are useful in “simple” situations that are “narrow, simplistic and have predictable pursuits.” They’re ok for short tasks with a clear purpose.

Two examples of different goals would be an “ok goal,” which would be entering a contest, while a “great goal” is to win. “It’s simple, it’s near term, it’s manageable.” Nonetheless, for success, goals are terrible for long-term endeavors like personal health and career success goals.

So are goals for losers? Adams says goals are psychological. If you haven’t reached your goal, you could be in a perpetual state of frustration and disappointment, possibly feeling like a failure.

Goals proceed with blinders on, expecting certain results at the end of weeks, months or years. Then once you’ve achieved that goal, what are you prepared for? Whereas systems are skill-based that add up, and can serve you on future projects.

“Never settle for average.” – Steve Jobs

Talent Stacking for Success

Talent stacking is the process of increasing your personal value by “layering together several mediocre skills” until you have something unique.

Although Adams says most of his undertakings can be considered failures from the standpoint of goals, they’re actually successes from the standpoint of systems. Gaining transferable skills has allowed him to achieve success in the long run.

In a Wall Street Journal interview, Adams shares how he stacked his talents of “mediocre artist, an ok writer, somewhat humorous, and some business knowledge” to create the wildly successful comic strip Dilbert (seen online in 2,000 newspapers, 65 countries in 25 languages) and substantial economic value.

Previously we outlined the four principles of success. Here, we add talent stacking, allowing you to capitalize on the array of opportunities that come your way. Adams recommends choosing to acquire ‘talents’ that build assets you can apply to future projects.

The assets you build will lead you down the path of eventual success over time. In today’s fast-paced world, Adams feels we’d all benefit from adding t­he following skills to your main talent:

  • public speaking
  • persuasion (to understand psychology)
  • some business sense
  • some technology sense

Adams recommends to not worry about the end result. Focus on daily execution and over time, there will be a payday.

Passion will follow

Ask a billionaire what’s the most important element to success and he’ll likely say “passion.” Adams disagrees. He says someone’s passion may not be realistic. In addition, he feels you can develop passion with success.

Adams’ observation is that people who have a good business plan probably do well. As things start working, and you start making money, suddenly passion appears!

The crossroads of luck

Adams believes the flexibility of systems increases your odds of luck finding you. By adding to your talent stack, more opportunities cross your path, with success following close behind.

There are many kids today with better programming skills than Bill Gates had. Yet, Gates was born in a time in history where he had access to computers when other people didn’t, and that luck has made him billions and billions of dollars. Adams says go where the luck is, tune yourself into the vibration of luck and increase the chances you’ll get it.

“Success is luck multiplied by the skills you obtain” – Scott Adams

So there you have it, systems are better if you have a complicated situation and a long time frame. Goals are fine if you have a simple situation and a short time frame.

The thread that ties this highly recommended book together is that if you develop good systems and follow them daily, then your efforts eventually overlap with luck.

What do you think about goals now? Looking forward to hearing from you in the comments area below.

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How You Can Effectively Achieve Your Goals by Using the Puzzle Analogy

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I was building a 500 piece puzzle the other day with many tiny little pieces. When I opened the box, I was completely overwhelmed. There were so many pieces and many of them were very similar in color. I took a breath and thought “just do one piece at a time”. I knew that I had to come up with a plan and organize the pieces into groups before I got started. This helped me to focus and take away some of the overwhelming feelings that were coming up. I came up with a plan and executed that plan. (more…)

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  1. Legendary Kitten

    Mar 7, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    People who run around calling themselves ‘alpha male’ or ‘alpha female’ are in fact, very far from it.

  2. santhosh paul

    Jul 29, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    very useful to develop my alpha level….

  3. rosarian65Ana

    Jul 10, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    My Mom is an Alpha female. She is 80 years old today. Due to the times, lack of education and social situation, all she could do was be a super Mom and wife.. She ran a house of 8 children and a husband like a pro. She was always on top of things, from bills, cleaning, cooking, checking homework, settling arguments. She just always had a go get it attitude. And she also worked and all this while always looking awesome even to this day. She never wore anything that wasn’t ironed first. Her house and her garden was the nicest in the neighborhood just because. I always said that if she had been born under different circumstances, she would had been a CEO or something big. On the other hand, I have a masters degree, and I am kind of lame in so many ways. Sigh. I always wished I had inherited her personality type.

  4. Loriot

    Jul 1, 2013 at 12:23 am

    There are many alpha females throughout history. Cleopatra, Catherine the Great, Margaret Thatcher, to name just a few. To think that alphas have to be male because males are physically stronger is ignorant and shallow. More than that, people of this opinion clearly don’t understand what the expression alpha means. Even a physically weak person is perfectly able to lead.

    • olix

      Sep 10, 2013 at 4:47 pm

      Exactly. The level of shallowness demonstrated in some of the comments is too high. The only explanation I can think of is people who don’t have enough life experience or haven’t been particularly curious about the world & its history.

  5. Kayumochi

    Mar 6, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    Eleanor Roosevelt was included in the quotes section. She certainly was not *alpha* in any sense of the word. Instead, she was an introvert who used her innate traits to make change in the world. One doesn’t have to be *alpha* or an *extrovert* to be *successful.* What a shallow article.

  6. Dan

    Jan 9, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    There certainly are Alpha Females. Largely due to the decline of the Alpha Male. I am an Alpha male and I see it all the time. Alpha women seem increasingly abundant. I love the article and the site thanks.

    • Veritas

      Jan 11, 2013 at 4:51 am

      You clearly don’t grasp the concept of an alpha personality. It is one who will dominate those around him without requiring law or structured society. An alpha personality will rise to the top in a condition of total anarchy. No female, not even a three hundred pound butch Lesbian will be capable of such a thing. It requires physical strength, endurance, intelligence, determination. When woman can compete on an equally basic in something like an iron man competition you might find an alpha female.

      Many woman are strong, intelligent, capable. I admire such women, but to call them alpha females is pointless – they aren’t.

      • Kude

        Jan 15, 2013 at 6:13 pm

        And what about Oprah? Hillary Clinton? Lady Gaga? Angelina Jolie? J.K Rowling?

        If they’re not Alphas, do u think they’ll be where they are today?

        With all the Alpha male’s physical strength, endurance, intelligence, determination to compete with them, do you think that an alpha woman would thrive in this “iron man competition world”

        Just look within your family and who controls everyone? Your mom.

        • r3rnfi

          Apr 8, 2013 at 8:15 pm

          maybe your Mom rules the house
          I have noticed that homes run by the Woman are 99 percent of the time are poorly run homes. Not that homes run by Men are perfect, but the natural order of things is Men run things best. “let us not be drawn into your next response on how men start wars or whatever .”

          • olix

            Sep 10, 2013 at 4:45 pm

            You might think that but statistics says otherwise. Even in developing countries homes where women call the shots are more successful. Women pay more attention to education, health, finances & general well-being. You’d better do some reading on the matter, and not just rely on anecdotal evidence.

      • Ash

        Jan 22, 2013 at 5:11 am

        I think you are mixing up alpha male and alpha female by sizing the alpha female to the alpha male. A man who dominates men is a alpha male and a woman who dominates women is a alpha female. Your saying because a woman is not a male or doesn’t dominate males she isn’t an alpha female. When clearly if you read, an alpha female dominates mainly females, we’re not talking about males.

        • Aaron

          Jun 8, 2013 at 8:10 am

          I don’t think it’s a gender thing at all. Just a personality type. Why try go make it a gender thing? Just because you run a household, doesnt mean you’re alpha. An alpha could run a household and an alpha child may not follow orders and never get along, because they too are alpha. Being alpha doesn’t mean you’re always on control, but you have the need to be. Alphas can become very irritated or depressed when they cannot dominate, influence, and succeed.

  7. Veritas

    Jan 7, 2013 at 11:31 pm

    There is no such thing as an Alpha female. So much for this nonsesne.

  8. Martin

    Jan 5, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    I’m an alpha male and I think this is a stupid article, I don’t know who wrote it but I suspect It was a gay man. Just a hunch.

  9. The Money Man

    Jan 5, 2013 at 2:53 am

    Absolutely love this post, I certainly like to think I’m an Alpha Male haha!!

    Good Job!!!

  10. curtis c

    Jan 3, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    failure is certain if we give up and dont try but sucess is never a certainty in the same manner if we dont so therefor sucsess can only be defined by not failing e.g. never quitting. you can never fail to achieave a dream if your always trailing behind it.

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Are You Really a Leader? 3 Questions That Will Help You Find the Answer

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Being a leader is a lot of responsibility. People look to you to make decisions, direct them, provide support, and get results. A true leader is an amazing presence: a humble yet confident person who inspires those around them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think they’re leaders, but really aren’t. In fact, according to talent scientist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, 80% of people believe they are better-than-average leaders, which is objectively impossible. I see people claiming to be leaders all the time, but they’re all talk and no substance.

What is Leadership?

A lot of the people I talk to seem to think that you become a leader just by having a job managing people. That’s simply not true. Leadership is a balancing act that would make a master juggler impressed.

True leadership involves making sure that there is a happy balance between employees’ needs and the company’s needs. If only the employees’ needs are prioritized, the company won’t be profitable. Likewise, if only the company’s needs are considered, employees will leave.

True leaders have the self-awareness and strategic skills to understand this delicate balance and understand their role in creating those key compromises.

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” – Ken Blanchard

Can You Be a True Leader?

Although there are a number of different leadership styles and theories out there, leadership boils down to a few essentials. Leaders need the emotional intelligence to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations while being able to inspire others to take action. There’s a big difference between saying you’re a leader and acting like one.

If you want to increase your self-awareness and find out if you’re a leader others can rely on, start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Do you want to be a leader?

It may seem unfair, but in my experience, the people who make the best leaders don’t necessarily want to be. You only want what you don’t have, and same rings true here. If you want to be a leader then you probably aren’t focusing on the right aspects of leadership.

True leaders are natural trail-blazers, but they don’t set out to lead anyone. People just happen to take note of their talents and confidence and look to the person for advice and guidance.

2. Do you have an original vision, or are you just power-hungry?

Why do you want to be a leader? Is it so you have the final say, or do you have actual goals you want to accomplish with a team? True leaders don’t feel threatened by others—they’re too busy getting stuff done. Leaders typically don’t need to test or confirm their power.

If you think good leaders give directions and just want others to listen, you’ve got it wrong. The best leaders often don’t need to speak a whole lot—they listen and observe, they think deeply, and when they do speak, it’s meaningful.

A true leader acts and others follow those actions because they trust and respect the leader. It isn’t about a power battle or an ego trip. Leaders have a true vision.  

3. Are you willing to do the dirty work?

You don’t get to be a leader if all you do is sit around, give orders, and let other people do the dirty work. Real leaders are humble, and no work is “beneath” them.

They want to know what’s going on at the ground level, and they want to help their people when they’re struggling. If you’re not willing to talk to a customer or back your employee up in a bad situation, you don’t get to call yourself a leader.

“Leadership is a choice, not a position.” – Stephen Covey

Becoming a Self-Aware Leader

How did you do? Maybe you’re not cut out to be a leader. Maybe you are. Maybe you need to work on a few things first.

Real talk: being a good leader isn’t easy. However, becoming a true leader benefits everyone around you and can be extremely fulfilling. If you’re more determined than ever to become the best, most self-aware leader you can be, that’s great news: we need more leaders out there.

What are the characteristics of a great leader in your opinion? Share with us below!

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Capitalize on the 80% of Business That You Are Missing Out on Right Now With This Method

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Most of us are aware of Pareto’s Principle, the 80/20 rule. This principle states that 20% of the input gives us 80% of the output. The top 20% of your salespeople account for 80% of your business. The top 20% skills you have, account for 80% of your success. The top 20% of our customers will give us 80% of business. When we use this principle it allows us to narrow in and focus on the most important clients who are in our target market.

You’ll find that most people tell you to focus on your top 20%. Here’s the big question: What do you do with the other 80% of people who you do not work with?

Most of us let this 80% of potential business fall to the wayside because they are not our target market and we have no system set up to still do some form of business with them. However, this is not the case for Tim Johnson.

Just last year, he generated $11 million dollars from REFERRALS! He is the master of building a referral based business. By sending clients that he cannot work with to his friends and referral partners, he is able to receive commission for the introduction and new business.

Imagine having the potential to make money from EVERY business conversation! Tim speaks to about 3,000 people per year, and if he cannot help them personally, he knows someone in his Global Renegade network who can.

The thing is, we can all do this if we are intentional about it. As Tim puts it, “We need to date our referral partners. We put so much time and effort into people that do nothing for our business, yet we do not build strong relationships and invest time into our referral partners.”

Tim is a speaker, author, real estate developer, and business coach who is well known around the world. He starts each business conversation by saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during this conversation I realize that I am not the right fit for you, I introduce you to someone in my network who is?”

Each time he is met with a resounding YES! Who would say no to this offer? This strong referral network has built Tim a net worth of over $4 million dollars. Tim uses a framework called SOLD and if you use this framework you can build a strong referral network as well.

Below, is the exact SOLD framework Tim uses:

Strategy

According to Tim, everything is mathematical. He approaches each conversation looking to learn and serve. When you approach conversations in this way, you focus on relationship building instead of feeling like you have an agenda to do business.

Ask great questions here and give the person you’re speaking with an opportunity to share their situation and what they are going through. Tim always asks, “What do you need and how can I serve you?” This is a powerful question that most people neglect and it’s the reason they are not experiencing as much sales success as Tim.

“Here is a powerful yet simple rule. Always give people more than they expect to get.” – Nelson Boswell

Objections = Opportunities

As the old wise quote states, “We were given two ears and one mouth for a reason.” This means we need to speak less and listen more.

Too often, people pitch and become salesy instead of being human and having a conversation where they are listening to the person they are sitting with. When you are listening, you give yourself the opportunity to learn their problems, obstacles, and needs in order to identify new opportunities.

Leverage referral partners

As you are gathering information you will identify if you are able to provide the solution that your prospect needs. If you cannot, it is time to leverage your referral partners and make the introduction.

By starting out the conversation saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during our conversation I realize that I am not the right fit that I introduce you to someone who is?” you have already pre-framed yourself appropriately to leverage your referral network if you cannot provide a solution that is needed.

Your prospect will be very appreciative for your honesty and will trust your judgement. You get a lot of brownie points when you have the integrity to say that you are not the right fit, but let me introduce you to someone who is.

“People influence people. Nothing influences people more than a recommendation from a trusted friend. A trusted referral influences people more than the best broadcast message. A trusted referral is the Holy Grail of advertising.” – Mark Zuckerberg

Duplicate

Rinse and repeat this process. Having conversations in this way will enable you to work with the top 20% of people you speak with, and still provide value to the other 80%. In this way, every conversation opens up the opportunity for new business.

SOLD is business growth through asking great questions, active listening, and leveraging referral partners. Start to capitalize on the 80% of business that you are missing out on by referring these people to other service providers in your network.

If you think about providing value in service of others first, then you can leverage the SOLD framework for increased revenue in your business by simply being a connector and receiving commissions of 10%-25%.

Do you have referral partners in your business? Would love to hear your experience in the comment section below!

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A 5 Step Morning Routine That Leads to Explosive Growth and Success

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Have you ever noticed that how your day starts can dictate how the rest of your day goes? If you start your day on a positive and productive note, you feel a sense of excitement, pride, and accomplishment. And then those feelings power you through the rest of your day. You knock things off your to do list and find yourself in a great mood. Yet, when you wake up later than you were planning on, it can throw your entire day off. So make a decision to take control of your mornings and come up with a routine that will set you up for success.

When trying to construct a morning routine that fits your life, one thing to take into consideration is how important the night before is. Most people with winning morning routines, also take nighttime rituals into consideration. Before going to bed each night, plan your next day out in a journal, so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Nothing is worse than going into a day without a plan, and that’s a great way to lose control of the day.

Here’s a list of some of the most important things you can start each morning with to get off to a good start:

Step 1: Hydration: The elixir of life

One of the most important things you can do each morning is start your day off by drinking at least one glass of water. After 6-8 hours without any water, it’s essential to hydrate your body when you wake up and get it ready for the day. Your body is composed of mostly water and a lot of times, the importance of water is overlooked. Dehydration can lead to fatigue and headaches, so starting the day with water can help prevent dehydration. Because of that, staying hydrated means more energy and a lot of times, clearer thinking. There are a lot of health benefits to staying hydrated.

“Your day is pretty much formed by how you spend your first hour. Check your thoughts, attitude and heart.”

Step 2: Priming: The key to self transformation

Anthony (Tony) Robbins, one of the biggest motivational speakers, always talks about the importance of starting your day with priming. His priming exercise combines two important elements; gratitude and visualization. The priming exercise is about 15 minutes and the purpose is to get you into a good mental and physical state before you start your day. First, Tony asks you to think about 3 things that you are grateful for, and to step into those memories like you are there.

Next, he asks you to think of three things that you want to accomplish (short or long term). The purpose of these exercises is simple; start your day with gratitude and visualizing yourself accomplishing what you want to accomplish, whether it’s a short term goal or a long term goal.

If you don’t want to do that exact exercise, you can also do a combination of meditation and visualization. There are a lot of guided audios that you can use to help you get the most out of meditation and visualization.

Step 3: Exercise/Movement – Jumpstart your brain and your body

Exercise has massive benefits, both physical and mental. Starting your day with even 30 minutes of movement can give you increased energy and endorphins. It’s also a great way to start your day on a positive note. Think of how amazing you feel after you finish a good workout.

Step 4: Journaling – Create your future and write your goals into existence

Everyone has their own way of journaling; you need to find what works best for you. Some things you can do while journaling are making a list of 3-5 things you are grateful for, writing your goals down (daily or long term goals), or setting your intention for the day. Journaling can make you more productive as well as remind you what your goals/ targets are so that you stay focused on what you need to get done.

“Your morning routine generates a 10x return for good or for bad. Make it good.” – Todd Stocker

Step 5: Attack the day- conquer your biggest task that you have to do first thing

A lot of people tend to procrastinate on their most important task of the day. They’ll find any excuse to push it off. “Later” becomes “tomorrow.” And then somehow, the end of the week rolls around and the task still isn’t complete. However, if you prioritize your most important task and get it accomplished first thing in the morning, it gives you a sense of discipline and accomplishment.

Starting your morning with a routine can help transform your day. It can help you build new habits but even if you start with 2 or 3 of these, you will begin to see a big difference in how your days go. If you already have a morning routine but you are missing some of these steps, test them out and see what kind of an impact they have on your days.

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Here’s Why Goals Are for Losers

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If you enter the word “goals” into your browser, more than 1.6 BILLION search results pop up. Safe to say, there’s no shortage of goal setting advice as a stepping-stone on your path to success. Yet, there’s a contrarian willing to risk criticism, challenge the status quo, and debunk goals at face value.

In his book “How To Fail At Almost Everything And Still Win Big,” Scott Adams is an author, cartoonist and Periscope streamer, who sees goals differently than most everyone else. Adams observes that if you study people who succeed, you’ll see most of them follow systems, not goals.

Goals vs. Systems

Adams defines goals as “reach it and be done objectives.” Whereas systems, is what you do on a regular basis with an expectation that you’ll build on and improve your chances of success.

In Adams book, he says he didn’t have a goal to write it by a specific date. He had a “process” that included blogging daily (for practice) believing this consistency would lead him down a path to where he wanted to be.

Other examples:

  • dieting to lose 10 lbs. is a goal. Learning to eat right, and doing so on a regular basis, is a system.
  • making a million dollars is a goal. Being a serial entrepreneur, is system.
  • running a marathon in under 3 hours is a goal. Exercising daily, is a system (forming a habit).

Could goals create tunnel vision? The problem with goals, says Adams, is that they’re laser-focused and could block awareness of other opportunities around you. If you have your head down pursuing a goal, you may miss better opportunities that could potentially advance you, perhaps even faster.

In contrast, says Adams, systems are flexible, leaving you wide open for new and better ways of doing things. “A system, performed daily, is moving you from a place with low odds to a place with better odds.”

Adams concedes, goals aren’t completely off the table. Goals are useful in “simple” situations that are “narrow, simplistic and have predictable pursuits.” They’re ok for short tasks with a clear purpose.

Two examples of different goals would be an “ok goal,” which would be entering a contest, while a “great goal” is to win. “It’s simple, it’s near term, it’s manageable.” Nonetheless, for success, goals are terrible for long-term endeavors like personal health and career success goals.

So are goals for losers? Adams says goals are psychological. If you haven’t reached your goal, you could be in a perpetual state of frustration and disappointment, possibly feeling like a failure.

Goals proceed with blinders on, expecting certain results at the end of weeks, months or years. Then once you’ve achieved that goal, what are you prepared for? Whereas systems are skill-based that add up, and can serve you on future projects.

“Never settle for average.” – Steve Jobs

Talent Stacking for Success

Talent stacking is the process of increasing your personal value by “layering together several mediocre skills” until you have something unique.

Although Adams says most of his undertakings can be considered failures from the standpoint of goals, they’re actually successes from the standpoint of systems. Gaining transferable skills has allowed him to achieve success in the long run.

In a Wall Street Journal interview, Adams shares how he stacked his talents of “mediocre artist, an ok writer, somewhat humorous, and some business knowledge” to create the wildly successful comic strip Dilbert (seen online in 2,000 newspapers, 65 countries in 25 languages) and substantial economic value.

Previously we outlined the four principles of success. Here, we add talent stacking, allowing you to capitalize on the array of opportunities that come your way. Adams recommends choosing to acquire ‘talents’ that build assets you can apply to future projects.

The assets you build will lead you down the path of eventual success over time. In today’s fast-paced world, Adams feels we’d all benefit from adding t­he following skills to your main talent:

  • public speaking
  • persuasion (to understand psychology)
  • some business sense
  • some technology sense

Adams recommends to not worry about the end result. Focus on daily execution and over time, there will be a payday.

Passion will follow

Ask a billionaire what’s the most important element to success and he’ll likely say “passion.” Adams disagrees. He says someone’s passion may not be realistic. In addition, he feels you can develop passion with success.

Adams’ observation is that people who have a good business plan probably do well. As things start working, and you start making money, suddenly passion appears!

The crossroads of luck

Adams believes the flexibility of systems increases your odds of luck finding you. By adding to your talent stack, more opportunities cross your path, with success following close behind.

There are many kids today with better programming skills than Bill Gates had. Yet, Gates was born in a time in history where he had access to computers when other people didn’t, and that luck has made him billions and billions of dollars. Adams says go where the luck is, tune yourself into the vibration of luck and increase the chances you’ll get it.

“Success is luck multiplied by the skills you obtain” – Scott Adams

So there you have it, systems are better if you have a complicated situation and a long time frame. Goals are fine if you have a simple situation and a short time frame.

The thread that ties this highly recommended book together is that if you develop good systems and follow them daily, then your efforts eventually overlap with luck.

What do you think about goals now? Looking forward to hearing from you in the comments area below.

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