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10 Reasons Why Your Alpha Personality Will Bring You Success

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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Here we explain the traits of an Alpha male and Alpha female.

How your Alpha personality type will give you an advantage in your business and life and how you can become successful by channeling your alpha traits.

 

The Alpha Male

Well, hello there, Mr. Popularity. How is life as the leader of the pack? Do you find yourself always deciding where your office crew will enjoy happy hour? Or are you constantly determining the best way for your team to get those long-term work projects done? Those roles you seem to always fall into are natural predilections of your alpha personality. You probably find it easy to take charge in a multitude of situations because you have always been so outgoing. To you, choosing a happy hour locale is no different than when you used to pick the pizza place where your little league would celebrate after you scored the winning homerun. You have always been programmed for success. You are an enterprising individual who is practically destined for a lifetime of fulfillment  If you have not been realizing your potential lately, it could be because that same charm and charisma that has worked wonders on your many lady friends is not working as well on your colleagues. Read on to see how you can adjust your machismo meter to ‘just right’ for a lifetime of reaping the rewards.

 

The Alpha Female

And you, Miss Confidence, how does it feel to dominate an entire office full of women? Probably, pretty similar to the feeling you had in college when you quickly rose to the top of your sorority’s who’s who list. Yes, your alpha personality has led you to the apex of nearly every social circle you ever obliged with your friendship. Your competitive spirit has landed you a career position some women can only ever dream to attain and you want to know how to make the best of it. Like your alpha male counterpart, though, you are wondering why not every one of your superiors is as taken with your ambitious, can-do attitude. After all, you excel in every task they designate to you. Beware of the potential setbacks that can come from your alpha personality. You will sometimes have to remind yourself that you are not necessarily the boss in every situation. Maybe the best thing you can do to win the promotion that will lead to a lifetime of financial security is to just relax a bit. Try to show your superiors that you can be nurturing and understanding, two traits that can be necessary in higher-level management positions. They often don’t see this side of you when you are acting as the social chair and competing to turn in the best work, solo. Below, we have the key to ensuring your alpha personality will bring you success.

So, now you know who you are, Mr. Popularity and Miss Confidence. Your only question should be how do you channel your alpha personality traits in order to take control of your life and continue to be hugely successful. In knowing those personality traits of yours that help you achieve success and those that others may be slightly turned off by, you are miles ahead of your alpha competitors. Take a look at the ten reasons why your alpha personality will bring you success that we have listed below and then use them to take control of your future success.

 

10 Reasons Why Your Alpha Personality Will Bring You Success

 

1. You are Popular

Your family, friends and colleagues actually like you so, you can expect that they will hope for your success as much as you do. It is as if you have your own personal cheering squad and when things are not going your way, you can expect these people to jump in and help.

 

2. You are a Leader

People naturally want to follow others with alpha personalities. Because others are following your lead, they will work harder to contribute to your success knowing that their own success is dependent on you and your plan.

 

3. You are Enterprising

Since childhood you have been one of those people that seek solutions to whatever problems arise. You have practiced this skill so often that any problems you may run into seem simple.

 

4. You Possess Charm and Charisma

Part of being successful relies on your ability to share your success and the rewards of it with others. People want to be a part of your success because you are just so appealing, warm and welcoming.

 

5. You are Confident

New opportunities are constantly presenting themselves and you have enough confidence to make yourself available for all of them.

 

6. You Dominate in Social Circles

A key to success in business is networking and you are naturally inclined to be good at this. In terms of success in life, large and varied social circles will allow you more opportunities to find hobbies that you love.

 

7. You Have a Can-Do Attitude

You can handle anything that is thrown your way. New tasks are easily tackled and, because you’re you, they are completed with poise.

 

8. You are Ambitious

There is not much worth to being enterprising if you don’t have the ambition to make progress. Your alpha personality makes you want to do more in every aspect of life.

 

9. You are Competitive

You turn everything into a competition. And you have to come out the winner. Turn your ambition for success in business and life into a competition and you will surely end up on top.

 

10. You Can Control You

We noted above some alpha personality traits that may not be perceived as well by others as your charm, charisma and social popularity is. Take control of your tendencies of being bossy and non-supportive and ultimate success will be yours.

 

 

10 Confident Quotes That Alpha Personalities Live By

 

“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Bernard M. Baruch

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

“Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.” ― Bertrand Russell

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ― Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

“When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.” ― Karen E. Quinones Miller

“Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” ― Coco Chanel

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ― Carlos Castaneda

“If you dont have any shadows, you’re not standing in the light.” – Lady Gaga

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” – Marie Curie 

“All you need is ignorance and confidence and the success is sure.” – Mark Twain

 

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 200 million lives in the last 10 years.

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17 Comments

  1. Legendary Kitten

    Mar 7, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    People who run around calling themselves ‘alpha male’ or ‘alpha female’ are in fact, very far from it.

  2. santhosh paul

    Jul 29, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    very useful to develop my alpha level….

  3. rosarian65Ana

    Jul 10, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    My Mom is an Alpha female. She is 80 years old today. Due to the times, lack of education and social situation, all she could do was be a super Mom and wife.. She ran a house of 8 children and a husband like a pro. She was always on top of things, from bills, cleaning, cooking, checking homework, settling arguments. She just always had a go get it attitude. And she also worked and all this while always looking awesome even to this day. She never wore anything that wasn’t ironed first. Her house and her garden was the nicest in the neighborhood just because. I always said that if she had been born under different circumstances, she would had been a CEO or something big. On the other hand, I have a masters degree, and I am kind of lame in so many ways. Sigh. I always wished I had inherited her personality type.

  4. Loriot

    Jul 1, 2013 at 12:23 am

    There are many alpha females throughout history. Cleopatra, Catherine the Great, Margaret Thatcher, to name just a few. To think that alphas have to be male because males are physically stronger is ignorant and shallow. More than that, people of this opinion clearly don’t understand what the expression alpha means. Even a physically weak person is perfectly able to lead.

    • olix

      Sep 10, 2013 at 4:47 pm

      Exactly. The level of shallowness demonstrated in some of the comments is too high. The only explanation I can think of is people who don’t have enough life experience or haven’t been particularly curious about the world & its history.

  5. Kayumochi

    Mar 6, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    Eleanor Roosevelt was included in the quotes section. She certainly was not *alpha* in any sense of the word. Instead, she was an introvert who used her innate traits to make change in the world. One doesn’t have to be *alpha* or an *extrovert* to be *successful.* What a shallow article.

  6. Dan

    Jan 9, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    There certainly are Alpha Females. Largely due to the decline of the Alpha Male. I am an Alpha male and I see it all the time. Alpha women seem increasingly abundant. I love the article and the site thanks.

    • Veritas

      Jan 11, 2013 at 4:51 am

      You clearly don’t grasp the concept of an alpha personality. It is one who will dominate those around him without requiring law or structured society. An alpha personality will rise to the top in a condition of total anarchy. No female, not even a three hundred pound butch Lesbian will be capable of such a thing. It requires physical strength, endurance, intelligence, determination. When woman can compete on an equally basic in something like an iron man competition you might find an alpha female.

      Many woman are strong, intelligent, capable. I admire such women, but to call them alpha females is pointless – they aren’t.

      • Kude

        Jan 15, 2013 at 6:13 pm

        And what about Oprah? Hillary Clinton? Lady Gaga? Angelina Jolie? J.K Rowling?

        If they’re not Alphas, do u think they’ll be where they are today?

        With all the Alpha male’s physical strength, endurance, intelligence, determination to compete with them, do you think that an alpha woman would thrive in this “iron man competition world”

        Just look within your family and who controls everyone? Your mom.

        • r3rnfi

          Apr 8, 2013 at 8:15 pm

          maybe your Mom rules the house
          I have noticed that homes run by the Woman are 99 percent of the time are poorly run homes. Not that homes run by Men are perfect, but the natural order of things is Men run things best. “let us not be drawn into your next response on how men start wars or whatever .”

          • olix

            Sep 10, 2013 at 4:45 pm

            You might think that but statistics says otherwise. Even in developing countries homes where women call the shots are more successful. Women pay more attention to education, health, finances & general well-being. You’d better do some reading on the matter, and not just rely on anecdotal evidence.

      • Ash

        Jan 22, 2013 at 5:11 am

        I think you are mixing up alpha male and alpha female by sizing the alpha female to the alpha male. A man who dominates men is a alpha male and a woman who dominates women is a alpha female. Your saying because a woman is not a male or doesn’t dominate males she isn’t an alpha female. When clearly if you read, an alpha female dominates mainly females, we’re not talking about males.

        • Aaron

          Jun 8, 2013 at 8:10 am

          I don’t think it’s a gender thing at all. Just a personality type. Why try go make it a gender thing? Just because you run a household, doesnt mean you’re alpha. An alpha could run a household and an alpha child may not follow orders and never get along, because they too are alpha. Being alpha doesn’t mean you’re always on control, but you have the need to be. Alphas can become very irritated or depressed when they cannot dominate, influence, and succeed.

  7. Veritas

    Jan 7, 2013 at 11:31 pm

    There is no such thing as an Alpha female. So much for this nonsesne.

  8. Martin

    Jan 5, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    I’m an alpha male and I think this is a stupid article, I don’t know who wrote it but I suspect It was a gay man. Just a hunch.

  9. The Money Man

    Jan 5, 2013 at 2:53 am

    Absolutely love this post, I certainly like to think I’m an Alpha Male haha!!

    Good Job!!!

  10. curtis c

    Jan 3, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    failure is certain if we give up and dont try but sucess is never a certainty in the same manner if we dont so therefor sucsess can only be defined by not failing e.g. never quitting. you can never fail to achieave a dream if your always trailing behind it.

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3 Steps to Overcome Your Brain Biases and Become a Better Leader

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If I asked you what time it was, you would likely look at your watch or a clock and read the time out to me. And if I were to ask you where you were, you would likely tell me the exact place, city, or state. If I were to then ask you who you were, you would likely identify yourself by your name, demographics, and perhaps a work description. On the surface, answering these questions correctly would indicate that you were not delirious. But are these answers technically correct?

Biological research indicates that superficial orientation to time, place, or person is actually far from accurate. Rather, leaders might benefit from tending toward a non-dual awareness of the world, or at least offer themselves the opportunity to see the world this way. For time, place, and person, the biological realities differ from what we might initially think.

1. Don’t let the past dictate the future

We are not ever-present in the moment, nor should we be. In the human brain, the past, present, and future are all represented at the same time. Although we consciously organize our experiences using this segmentation of time, each of these networks can intrude upon the other. In fact, what you remember can influence what you can imagine for yourself in the future as well.

As a leader, ensure that you frequently examine your memory for positive reminders and biases, take advantage of your presence circuits by incorporating mindfulness practices into your day, and use your “possibility” circuits to imagine or simulate future scenarios. In fact, in the brain, imagination is a lot like reality.

Using all three components at all times will help you to become aware of biases and could also help you escape traps or an impasse. For instance, when a possible solution for product development is vague, thinking in terms of what you want and then reverse-engineering this process to make what you imagine could be helpful.

Walt Disney saw great success after building Disneyland in Anaheim, California, but outside interests began crowding his theme park. When he decided to build another park in Florida, Disney didn’t let the experience of California dissuade him. He expanded his vision to something greater — a city of tomorrow. He created fake companies to secretly purchase acres upon acres of land near where Interstate 4 intersected with the Florida turnpike so his company could develop the area around the theme park.

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” – Walt Disney

2. Think beyond your reach

We are not where we think we are. The notion of “place” has become increasingly irrelevant in a globalized world. With the increasing interconnectedness of societies, cultures, and economies, leaders need to be careful not to think of themselves too locally. When leaders are global in their thinking, they are likely to elicit more widespread cooperation from international markets.

Ask yourself, “What communities beyond my local community do I want to impact?” and “What communities am I impacting?” When you take this approach, it can help your advertising strategies, for example, become more congruous with specific or global markets. Also, leaders who think globally will be more aware of competition from afar and opportunities for collaboration, too.

Jack Ma can be credited with being a global thinker for founding Alibaba, allowing Chinese consumers to access domestic and international markets that they could not previously access. By moving into e-commerce, online banking, and cloud computing, Alibaba has expanded into India and Southeast Asia. Alibaba’s Electronic World Trade Platform has even enabled farmers in Rwanda to sell coffee in China. This is a perfect example of thinking beyond your reach.

3. Connect the body and mind

We are not what we think we are. We are made up of 50% human and 50% bacterial cells. And water comprises 60% of our body weight. So we are basically bags of water and bacteria — with a dash of human cells thrown in for good measure.

Also, though we might think of ourselves as being separate from other people and things, many people or things you encounter in your life are stored in your brain’s memory centers. Our brain tissue contains images, voices, and other attributes of people and things, too. We are not actually as separate as we think.

Take care of your bacteria, and they will take care of you. Having the right balance of bacteria is of paramount importance to effective functioning because the wrong balance can make you depressed or anxious. Taking a probiotic can help restore this balance. Understanding that you are part human, part bacteria can change the way you take care of your moods by essentially reminding you to take care of your gut.

Mindy Grossman, the CEO of WW International — formerly Weight Watchers — is a good example of someone who understands the mind-body connection. Grossman has led the company’s focus from strictly weight loss to wellness through healthy habits. Part of the transformation includes a partnership with meditation app Headspace to help members maintain a positive mindset.

“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” – Mahatma Gandhi

When you engage in non-dual awareness by recognizing that your brain fuses and connects time, places, and people, your leadership capacities might also be enhanced. As Warren Bennis, founding chairman of the Leadership Institute at the University of Southern California, suggests, “Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself.” And your “self” is more intriguing and mysterious than you might first imagine.

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3 Ways to Optimize Your Life for Success

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Welcome to the 21st Century! The era of the Internet and computers, lack of focus and superficiality. I know it sounds scary, maybe a little more exaggerated, but it’s true. We live in a world of short posts and 3-minute videos. We barely engage in deep learning, deep thinking, and deep focus to produce iPhone-level products or services. So, the majority of us are actually a failure, thousands of miles away from achieving our life goals and business visions. How do we turn things around? We need to optimize our lives.

Here are 3 tried and tested tips that will help optimize your life for success:

1. Upgrade your sleep

When I started my freelance writing career—about seven years ago—I was passionate and excited at the beginning. I’d fill my To-Do list with 6-10 items, worked until 12 am, set my alarm to go off at 3 am, and had my running shoes close to my bed before I went to sleep. However, I barely accomplished anything. I usually became weak and bored before noon.

I noticed that I was putting a huge strain on myself. I was sleep deprived, which is the primary reason why I didn’t have the energy and the drive to accomplish my tasks. Many studies have shown that sleep-deprivation affects productivity.

As soon as I began increasing my sleeping time from 4 hours to 7 hours, my whole life changed. I started producing a lot and earning a lot more than before while also improving my health. With more sleep, I get the emotional energy and willpower I need to read, learn, and optimize my career.

“By helping us keep the world in perspective, sleep gives us a chance to refocus on the essence of who we are. And in that place of connection, it is easier for the fears and concerns of the world to drop away.” – Arianna Huffington

2. Read every day

I get it. You’re in the middle-class struggling to survive. You simply have enough to deal with. Reading? That’s not included on your to-do list. Well, if that’s you, then you’re not alone. The global literacy rates are at an all-time high at 84 percent, which means people don’t read as much anymore.

We already have enough on our plates. In fact, a study by the National Endowment for the Arts has found that the reading culture among American adults has drastically declined. That’s a big issue in our world.

Nothing can prevent you from reading, not even your plate that’s chock-full of other life’s priorities. If you want to produce more and impact the world around you, you’ve got to read more and learn more.

Take a look at the visionaries and business titans in our world. All of them are avid readers and avid learners. Bill Gates is a bibliophile and Phil Knight, the founder of Nike, reveres books. In fact, Knight customized his library to the extent that, before you enter into his library, you have to take off your shoes and bow.

So, what would you do next? Take Roald Dahl’s advice, captured in this beautiful line of the poem: “So please, oh please, we beg, we pray / go throw your TV set away / and in its place, you can install / a lovely bookshelf on the wall.”

3. Use Pomodoro to time yourself

You can’t go far in life if you can’t stay totally focused on a task. If you want to achieve your goals, you have got to stay laser-focused on a single task before jumping on to another. Why? Because goals are not achieved in one session, they’re achieved in a series of tasks, one after the other.

To install the focus habit in your system; therefore, you need to use a time-management kind of “system” that will keep you firm and attentive on a specific project. Pomodoro is that time-management tool that will help you stay focused.

It’s an excellent app that lets you set a timer for a particular task. You can set it for 30, 60, or 90 minutes and stop working when it goes off. I use it all the time, and I can’t imagine my work life without it.

“I know when I stay focused, good things will undoubtedly happen.” – Marc Trestman

Optimizing your life for more power, passion, and productivity is not about working hard late at night or running multiple projects at a time. It’s about maintaining your health and recharging your energy (having a deep, quality sleep), updating your knowledge (by reading every day), and staying focused on a project—until you accomplished it (by using Pomodoro technique to boost your concentration).

Of course, developing these sets of habits is not easy. You’ll fail and get frustrated, but as the productivity guru Robin Sharma beautifully puts it, “all changes are hard at first, messy at the middle, and beautiful at the end.”

Which one of these three ways to optimize your life resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts below!

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If You Want Your Business to Grow, You Need to Increase Your Capacity in the Following 4 Areas

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Every entrepreneur must come face to face with the reality that there is only a limited amount of time, money, and people that you can use within your current position. The question is how do we increase or maximize the things that we find limiting?

As we walk through our hectic and often over packed ten, twelve, or fourteen hour work days, one of the questions that we should be asking is “What can I do to get more, to do more?” Instead, we just put our heads down and plow through the ever growing mountain of work. We are limited by capacity.

Webster’s dictionary defines capacity as “the maximum amount that something can contain.” As an entrepreneur, we have to be a little more creative than the average person and find ways to increase our capacity.

Below, we’ll identify the four areas where we need more capacity and ways to get more with less:

1. Time

Every human on this planet is granted twenty-four hours a day. That is it. Your capacity is a total of twenty-four hours. Within that amount of time you must manage several different demands. Our goal is to buy back our time, when we can, and operate at peak performance when we are accomplishing our daily task list.

First, without staying in performance shape, you will lose the ability to stay at optimal performance levels. Our bodies are truly a machine with an amazing capacity, but when it is abused by lack of sleep, improper nutrition, and lack of exercise, you are reducing the capacity at which you are able to work and function. The closer you are to peak performance, the more you are able to accomplish in a shorter amount of time.

Second is our mental condition. Here is what my experience has taught me. If I am mentally rested, I can think and make decisions faster because I can reason more quickly in addition to understanding the circumstances and information at an extremely fast pace. 

When your brain is healthy, it becomes easier to absorb and process information at a lightning fast rate. Taking the time to allow your brain to rest will give it the ability to function at peak performance.

Third is our ability to train and delegate. So often, entrepreneurs are control freaks. No one can do it as good, as fast, or with the same passion as they can. While that may be true in most cases, you are only one person with twenty-four hours in a day. 

You’ve got to delegate and accept people’s help. If you add one person that’s willing to give you eight hours of work a day, you have now bought back hours in your day to focus on activities that will generate more income and grow your business. Why wouldn’t you want to add more hours to your day by delegating out the appropriate task to qualified individuals?

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” – Zig Ziglar

2. Money

Money tends to be a sensitive topic. We all have beliefs that were formed through our childhood on the concept of money. With many different views and beliefs on this topic, let’s just focus on the fact that money is a tool that will either help grow the company or a tool that limits a company’s growth.

It is always amazing that the faster a company grows, the greater the challenge of money becomes, and this could potentially cause the company to implode on its own success. How do we then increase the capacity and have more money available to keep the company healthy?

Here are a couple of things to watch out for: 

  • Keep an eye on your budget and get accurate figures. 
  • Look at your Accounts Receivables. If they get too long, they could cause significant cash flow issues. 
  • Find investment opportunities. There are many private investors that are often willing to invest in companies that have true growth with solid foundations. 
  • Look at additional profit generators, products, or services that fit within your current business model. 

Each of these are ways to increase the capacity that money contributes to the growth of your business.

3. Space and Supply

I will never forget exactly where I was standing when I had a manufacture call and tell me they were unable to supply anymore products. They had sold us everything they had, and they weren’t going to have anything available to sell for at least another six months. At that time, we were selling customer printed t-shirts and had tens of thousands of orders that we needed to fulfill within the next thirty days.

Space and Supply are tied closely together. Space is often associated with the production. Do you have a space large enough to meet the demands of the supply? If production can only create 1,000 products a day and buyers need 5,000 a day, there is a conflict. 

A business needs to understand that challenge, and there are only 3 solutions to this problem: The business figures out how to increase production within the current workable hours, adds more workable hours with the equipment and space, or adds more equipment and space to increase production.

Space and supplies are assets that can be used towards the business advantage. Here are a few questions to ask when making decisions based on space and supply. 

  • Evaluate your supply channel. Are they able to maintain a solid supply of your raw product materials to match your growth as a company? 
  • Are there back up supply manufactures that can create a safety net for your raw products? 
  • Evaluate the amount of space you have available along with the time the space is usable. Can you run a second or third shift with the current space and equipment?

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. People

Your employees are likely going to be the most important way to create more capacity. We talked briefly about delegating to qualified individuals to increase capacity around your own personal time. The next phase is to create more capacity by adding additional, trained people. 

You need to create leaders of leaders instead of you being the leader of followers. Don’t miss this because the greatest of all companies focuses on increasing their capacity by training leaders of leaders and not just a loyal following.

Entrepreneurs tend to be a lonely bunch of souls. Too often, we are misunderstood and looked at with slight amount of annoyance. Others just don’t always know how to take someone that is passionately thinking outside the box. 

People skills are a must in order to have more than just yourself work to achieve that dream. As an entrepreneur, develop the social skills to work with individuals that are different than yourself.  

Here is a 3 step plan to have great capacity with people as your allies:

  1. Start by learning how to delegate your own tasks to buy back your time. Identify the tasks that are easiest to delegate and document how you do them. This will give you a specific job description, set achievable goals, and create a daily action plan that is now something that is teachable. 
  2. Use this system and apply it to the other things you are currently doing. I would suggest building out an organization chart and dividing the different tasks you do within the company. Then create a plan that will allow you to hire the right person and move you onto the next area in the organization that you will systematize. 
  3. Finally, create the culture. Culture is like a child, it will grow whether or not you pay attention to it. So be intentional. Learn what it takes to build a culture that attracts the employees that want to be there and grow with the company. 

Each of these four areas has an incredible amount of potential to increase your capacity, and allow your business to grow. Don’t attempt to tackle everything at once. Identify just one area that you will commit to grow within the next three to six months. Take action and implement. 

What is your next step? Share with us below!

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The Importance of Failure: Why We Should Fail Forward

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What Is failing forward? Will Smith said it best in a viral Instagram video that engaged the world. “You’ve gotta take a shot, you have to live at the edge of your capabilities. You gotta live where you’re almost certain you’re going to fail. Failure actually helps you to recognize the areas where you need to evolve. So fail early, fail often, fail forward.”

Failing forward is about using leverage on your mistakes and making a realistic assessment of the risks involved. It’s your ability to live with the downside, control your emotions and experiment with new approaches. When we fail forward, we need to look at the reason why we fail and understand that it’s all part of the process of achievement.

Here are 4 Reasons Why We Fail:

1. We Are Too Distracted

Distractions are everywhere. They can take us off course and could make it impossible to keep our mind on our goal or purpose. It’s important to be selective, strategic and supportive in our distractions. We all control certain aspects of our day, so be selective and prioritise tasks that are in line with your goals.

We should be strategic by understanding when we work best. Personally, I write more efficiently in the early mornings and late evenings. So that’s what I stick to. Try different things and see when you are least distracted. You’ll then be able to be supportive and generous with your time. Being supportive of others costs us little and drives our own success whilst boosting our health and happiness.

2. Lack of Self Belief

Lack of self belief runs differently from person to person. Our experiences, childhood history, genes, culture and life circumstances play a part in our self confidence. The truth is, we can’t alter the experiences that our past has given us. What we can do though, is change our thoughts to gain more belief in ourselves. Ways to increase our self-belief is to find out more about ourselves. We can do this by taking care of ourselves physically and emotionally. Giving ourselves a healthy support system and understanding our emotions are just a couple of ways to practice self-belief.

3. Fear of Failure

Failure often induces fear. When we fear failure, we allow ourselves to stop doing the things that can help us achieve our goals, help us move forward and open up possibilities we never thought were possible. We should have faith in ourselves and start to shift our inner dialogue from ‘not good enough’ to ‘more than enough’. If our inner critic takes the lead on self talk, then it’s more than likely we aren’t feeling good enough. It’s important to surround ourselves with positive people and positive thoughts.

4. Procrastination

Procrastination is a common reason for failure. It’s delaying or putting off a task or action to attend to at a later time. Procrastination is essentially giving in, to feel good. We prefer avoiding negative emotions and stressful tasks, which are the very things we procrastinate about. The first step to overcoming procrastination is recognising we do it.

We then need to understand why we do it and use appropriate strategies to prevent it from happening. We may not know that we are procrastinating and this can be damaging to reaching our full potential. With a solid understanding, we can get to the core of our reasons and make positive changes to fail forward.

Now that you know why we fail, here are the 3 ways you can fail forward:

1. Take Risks

When risks are taken, we generally overestimate the chances of something going wrong. What we focus on tends to magnify in our imagination and in return, causes us to misjudge an outcome of a situation. The reality is, the likelihood is often a far better return than we imagine it out to be. To take risks, we should not be afraid of failure.

2. Understanding Failure Should Be Your Motivation

It may sound comical but, be happy when you fail. We’ve been taught to believe that when we fail it’s because of bad attempts, bad judgment and bad luck at improving our lives. For example, we link failure with the colour red (to stop) and success with the colour green (to keep going). In reality, we are stronger and more courageous when we fail. It’s a sign of improvement, so we should recognise that failure is growth and if we’re not making mistakes, we are not really trying. Use failure as motivation and keep going.

3. Perseverance

Perseverance is the ability to recover from failure. Your chances of success is also dependent on your persistence and your willingness to persevere. You have two options when you fail: Become self-defeated or become resilient and encouraged. Perseverance requires a goal, a passion and patience. It’s important to set your own pace when persevering and not comparing your failures to others. In doing this, when we fail forward, we are more in tune with ourselves and more controlled with new approaches.

“Recognize that you will spend much of your life making mistakes. If you can take action and keep making mistakes, you gain experience.” – John C. Maxwell

Think of it this way. When we’re at the gym pushing ourselves in the weight room, the trainer would yell “One more rep!”. Our trainer wants us to succeed, but also wants us to fail. They want us to be uncomfortable to the point where our muscles fatigue. Why? Because of muscle adaptation. That’s where our muscle growth comes from. It’s the ability to learn how to get comfortable being uncomfortable. This concept doesn’t just apply physically within our muscles, it applies mentally and in our minds. In understanding this perspective, we can fail forward with more awareness and are in a better position to achieve success.

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