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How to Get Rid of 7 Roadblocks that Kill Your Motivation

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How to Get Rid of 7 Roadblocks that Kill Your Motivation

Have you ever dreaded doing what used to bring excitement and hope into your life? You’re not alone.

I remember waking up one day and wishing I could just go back to sleep, where I wouldn’t have to deal with my humongous to-do list. I felt guilty about my apparent laziness. Don’t I love what I do for a living? I asked myself. Is it time to change careers—again?

Instead of heading to my computer, I went for a long walk in the woods to mull over my feelings. The fresh air helped me clear my mind enough to realize the roadblocks that were killing my motivation.

Here are 7 motivation killers and how you can get rid of them so that you can regain the passion you thought was lost forever:

 

1. Being in a rut

If you can accurately predict what you’ll be doing every hour of every day, you’ve fallen into a rutAs master motivator Tony Robbins says, “one of the 6 basic human needs that make us tick is uncertainty/variety.” To bring variety into your life, you can brainstorm new projects or try different activities where you’ll meet new people.

In my case, I joined a couple of networking groups. As an entrepreneur who works in isolation, it was refreshing to interact with new business contacts who had a different take on what I could do to grow my business.

 

2. Seeing no results

Discouragement is a sure motivation killer. What to do? Instead of focusing on what is not working, focus on a solution to make things work.

To change my perspective, I remembered Einsteins famous quote: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” So, instead of continuing to complain about my failing advertising campaigns, I focused on the changes I needed to make to create successful ads.

Finding possible solutions to your problems will energize you and motivate you to keep going. Also, switching to solution-oriented mode will instantly bring variety to your days, which will further boost your motivation.

 

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3. Comparing yourself to others

People tend to brag on Facebook. And while it’s nice to see your friends display their wins, it isn’t nice to feel that everyone you know seems to be doing better than youFacebook envy is real, and it makes you feel that there must be something wrong with you.

But this isn’t a phenomenon exclusively related to social media. Negative emotions will arise every time we insist in comparing ourselves to others.

What did I do? I decided to compare my present achievements to what I had accomplished in the past. That’s when I realized I had made such amazing progress! Take an inventory of how much you’ve grown and learned throughout the years. This exercise will reignite your motivation!

 

4. Feeling overwhelmed

What do you do when you feel you have so much to do that you don’t even know where to start? You lose the desire to start in the first place. If you’re working on a large project or managing several responsibilities simultaneously, you’ll be susceptible to losing your motivation. In my case, my gigantic and never-ending to-do list was the culprit.

What to do? Break large projects into small chunks, and only focus on one task at a time. Lao-Tzu’s famous quote “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a simple step” has become common wisdom for a reason. If you feel as though your goal is manageable, your motivation will return.

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

5. Seeking constant approval

Doing something to meet someone else’s expectation is another motivation killer. That’s why most people who lose weight before a wedding, gain it right back. Also why you’ll tend to hate a career you’ve chosen to please your family or impress your friends.

I proclaimed my independence from the good opinion of other people and decided to just be myself. I felt free and much more motivated. Will you proclaim your independence as well? Take a few moments to think about the reason you’re doing what you’re doing, and make sure the only person you aim to please is you.

 

6. Receiving negative criticism

Nothing worse than hearing your hard work isn’t good enough. After posting what I thought was an epic blog article, I received social media comments that were less than nice. But instead of feeling demoralized, I told myself that I couldn’t let someone’s negative opinion stop me from pursuing my passion.

Move your attention away from the negative comments someone might have shared about you and your work. Instead, determine whether there is something you can learn from the negative feedback, and then choose to view negative criticism as proof that you had the courage to put yourself out there. You’re a hero, and heroes quickly regain their motivation, regardless of what others think or do.

 

7. Fearing failure

Anticipating failure is the strongest motivation killer. Why start if we’re going to fail anyway? Taking action feels like a waste of time. Besides switching your focus away from negative thinking, the best solution to overcome fear of failure is to achieve a small success. If you have tangible proof that you can be successful, your fear will slowly disappear.

For example, when I feel fearful thoughts creep in, I take quick action to do something that has a high probability of success within a short period of time. I’ll design a new webpage, create a new image for social media, or write a new blog article.

When I see the product of my efforts, I feel reenergized. Decide to eliminate the fear of failure from your life, and think of something small you can achieve today.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

You will encounter roadblocks that threaten to kill your motivation, but if you remain vigilant and focused on your ultimate goal, you’ll be able to overcome every challenge. Next time one of these roadblocks appears in your life, remember that in the end, your level of motivation depends on only one person; you.

Thank you for reading my article! What motivation killer is stopping you and what are you going to do to become empowered to succeed?

Cloris Kylie, Marketing MBA, helps coaches, consultants, and service-based professionals to attract the right clients so that they skyrocket their impact and revenue. A sought-after speaker, trainer, and author, Cloris has been featured on various television and radio shows, including the #1 podcast for entrepreneurs, "Entrepreneur On Fire." Cloris's articles have been published on websites with millions of followers. Visit her website here https://www.cloriskylie.com and get her free eBook to build authority and grow your audience here: https://myplatform.info/free-pdf-ebook.

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How to Stay Motivated to Achieve Your Goals

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Time is the raw material of our lives. How we choose to spend it, shapes our life accordingly. So having the motivation to spend it on achieving goals is crucial to creating a life we want.

What is Motivation?

The Oxford dictionary defines motivation as the desire or willingness to do something – our drive to take action.

Scientifically, motivation has its roots in the dopamine pathways of our brains. When we do something that feels good, that’s dopamine kicking in. Our actions are driven by the desire for that reward (the good feeling).

Author Steven Pressfield describes motivation more practically. He says we hit a point where the pain of not doing something becomes greater than the pain of doing it. He sees motivation as crossing the threshold where it’s easier to take action than it is to be idle. Like choosing to feel awkward while making sales calls over feeling disappointed about a diminishing bank account.

However you choose to think about it, we all want to harness motivation to achieve our goals. 

How to Get Motivated

James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, says that most people misunderstand motivation. They think that motivation is what gets us to take action. In reality, motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. Once we start a task, it’s easier to continue making progress. Like Isaac Newton’s first law: objects in motion stay in motion.

This means most of the resistance when working on your goals comes right before we start. Since motivation naturally occurs after we start, we need to focus on making starting easier.

4 Ways to Make Starting Easier

1. Schedule it

One reason people can’t get started on things is that they haven’t planned when to do it. 

When things aren’t scheduled it’s easier for them to fall by the wayside. You’ll end up hoping motivation falls in your lap or hoping that you’ll muster enough willpower to get it done.

An article in the Guardian said, “If you waste resources trying to decide when or where to work, you’ll impede your capacity to do the work.”

2. Measure something

It’s easy to feel uninspired when you don’t know if you’re making progress or what you’re even working towards. That’s why you need to make your success measurable in some way. Starting is easy when you know exactly how much closer your current actions will bring you to achieving your goal.

3. Extrinsic motivation

This type of motivation is from external factors. It can be either positive or negative. Positive motivation consists of incentives like money, prizes, and grades. Negative motivation consists of deterrents like being fired, having a fight, or being fined. Extrinsic motivation doesn’t work effectively long-term, but it can work well in the short term to get you started on something.

4. Make it public

Keep yourself accountable by telling friends and family your goals, or even sharing them on social media. This makes it easier to start something because you’re pressured to not let others down.

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar

How to Stay Motivated Long Term

When we say we want to feel motivated to do something, we don’t want to be pushed or guilted into doing a task. We want to be so attracted and drawn to the idea that we can’t resist not taking action. That’s why it’s important to build a foundation that will set you up for consistency.

These are 5 techniques that will help you do just that:

1. Stay in your goldilocks zone

The goldilocks zone is when a task is the perfect level of difficulty—not too hard and not too easy. In this zone, we reach peak motivation and focus.

For example, let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against a 4-year-old. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become bored and not want to play. Now let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against Serena Williams. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become demotivated because the match is too challenging. 

The Goldilocks zone is in the middle of that spectrum. You want to face someone with equal skill as you. That way you have a chance to win, but you have to focus and try for it. Adjusting your workload and goals over time to stay within your Goldilocks zone keeps you engaged and motivated long-term.

2. Pursue intrinsically motivated goals

Being intrinsically motivated to achieve a goal is when you want to achieve it for what it is. There are no external factors like a reward or the risk of being fired. The drive behind your actions is coming from within. 

For most intrinsic goals we pursue them because they will enrich our lives or bring us closer to fulfillment. That makes these goals extremely sustainable long-term because they directly affect our quality of life and the things we care about.

3. Use “chunking”

Chunking is the technique of breaking down a goal into smaller short-term targets. By doing this you achieve multiple successes in your pursuit of the main goal. This triggers the brain’s reward system and drives you to keep going.

Traditionally, you may set a goal that you expect to achieve in one year. That’s a long time to commit without seeing any results along the way. By chunking your goals into monthly or quarterly targets, you get the consistent positive reinforcement you need to stay motivated long-term.

For example, instead of trying to lose 50 pounds in one year, try to lose 4 pounds every month for 12 months.

4. Be flexible

We’re all victims of circumstance. Things happen along our journey that we can either adjust to or quit because of. That’s why it’s important to have leeway and flexibility when you’re pursuing a goal. If you expect everything to go perfectly, the inevitable failure can make you disengaged and desireless. When you plan for things to go wrong, you make sure you can keep up for the long haul.

5. Pursue your goals in a sustainable fashion

Don’t lose hope when you’re not an overnight success. Overnight successes are the 1%—for the most part, they don’t exist. What we see as an “overnight success” is actually countless hours of work behind the scenes finally hitting a tipping point. Pursuing goals is a story of patience, persistence, and unseen effort.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is a recipe for a drop in self-confidence and satisfaction. It also cultivates a mindset where you think you haven’t done enough. As a result, you may raise your expectations and put more pressure on yourself.

This is pointless because things worth achieving take time. So we obviously won’t compare to the things around us when starting.

Mastering motivation is a superpower. With that ability at your fingertips, you can accomplish your goals and shape a life you want to live in.

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