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If your weeks flat and you think you got it bad, you don’t. Imagine paddling 3318km from start to finish or skiing for 89 days to the South Pole and back – most of us would be lucky to last a day. It’s time to get off your couch and listen to one of the world’s most inspiring stories with a ton of life lessons for you to take in and apply in your own life.

The story of Cas and Jonesy, two Aussie explorers, has everything from human courage, mateship, camaraderie, to sportsmanship. The two of them spend their days making the impossible, possible and then sharing how they did it with the world.

Cas and Jonesy are most famous for completing two phenomenal outdoor expeditions:

– The first successful kayak crossing of the Tasman Sea (Australia to New Zealand) taking 62 days to complete. This makes them the Guinness World Record Holder for the longest trans-oceanic kayak trip.

– Being the first to ski from the coast of Antarctica to the South Pole and back unsupported, and unassisted (alongside Norwegian Aleksander Gamme).

The pair is also well known for the two documentaries they made about their expeditions that have now won a combined seventeen International Film Festival Awards

When I sat down with Jonesy, I was humbled by the way he lives his life’s and the lessons that he teaches without often realising that he is changing the way people think, through something as simple as sport.

Below are the twelve lessons you can learn from their expeditions.

 

1. Having a sense of purpose, even for a moment, is bliss

The reason Jonesy decided to do these daring adventures was because he didn’t want to have regret in his life and he wanted to feel like he had really lived. He says that when you escape to the outdoors it allows you to dream, have a vision and it makes you think about things from a different perspective – it provides an amazing crucible to find a lot out about yourself.

There is a certain clarity and purpose about being on an expedition that is slightly addictive Jonesy says. “Everything is so simple; for that moment in time all you need to do is eat, sleep, paddle, survive.”

As Jonesy headed off on the kayak trip, he told me that the purpose and focus he experienced was amazing, and his life had never felt more complete.

One night, as Jonesy was paddling through the sea, he realised that he was doing what he was supposed to be doing at that point in his life. He described the feeling as something that has stuck with him forever.

The moment when you feel a sense of purpose that you have been longing for is a true moment of pure bliss, and the feeling is hard to beat. We all should try and find a moment like this. It’s what makes us happy and fulfilled in life.

“It’s only at the very edge does the view become crystal clear” – Unknown

 

2. Do what you have always wanted to do

I asked Jonesy what the message is that he is trying to deliver to the world. His response was that too often in life you are told you can’t do things, or you shouldn’t do things. He believes there was an issue with education when he went to school where he was told to take the safe path in life and there were a lot of naysayers.

So Jonesy says that taking responsible risks is a good thing. Kids should be able to go out there and dream and chase their goals. He says that if he can get people to do one thing it’s to go out there and do something you have always wanted to do – in other words, follow your passion.

 

3. Life is about taking educated risks

So when you have completed the goal that you have set out to do which may be crazy (like kayaking the Tasman), you need to be mindful not to try and take even more risk and continually feel the need to outdo yourself. For Jonesy, this was a big part of staying alive in his adventures.

What I found bizarre was that Jonesy is actually quite a risk adverse person and so is his partner Cas. What I learnt from this is that doing dangerous things is safer if you do everything you can to have solutions to the potential risks.

Jonesy said that when doing a risky activity you need to decide what a comfortable level of risk is – this is different for everyone. He says that the more you plan, the more you can diminish the risk.

 

4. Learn a new skill (it’s addictive)

Jonesy managed to surprise me multiple times in our interview, but the biggest surprise was that he and Cas had never skied before preparing for the Antarctica trip, and had never kayaked offshore before preparing for the trans-tasman trip.

Kayak Tasman Sea - Cas And JonesyMost people that do what they have achieved have done these sports as their hobby, their whole life. I asked Jonesy what made him and Cas want to take these bold risks, and his response was that they found it oddly addictive to learn a skill for the first time.

Cas and Jonesy are not the kind of guys that will let a lack of skill get in the way of a dream. For them, it’s about taking progressive steps and having the belief that you can do something amazing. It’s about isolating the path you will need to take in order to have the skills that you will require by a certain point, and then reverse engineering that and working out what you need to do to get there.

Imagine we were all kids again and went out of our way to learn new skills. Too many adults don’t take the time to go off and learn new skills. They do the same things over and over again that they are good at rather than taking the time to learn a new passion – no wonder we get bored and watch TV.

 

5. Get motivated and be in it for the long haul

Before doing the trans-tasman kayak adventure, it took the guys two years from having the original idea to doing anything about it. Jonesy remembers writing out a big list of pros and cons to doing the expedition – the con’s far outweighed the pro’s.

Jonesy asked himself, “could I live with myself if I just sat on the sidelines and didn’t even give this a go?” That’s what really motivated him to do the first adventure. He decided to go out there and do all the research and find out if it was even possible.

Twelve months later Cas & Jonesy came up with a seventy-page risk management document.  Once they had this document, they realised that their goal was possible and that they would have to commit to it straight away.

 

6. Learn to deal with adversity

Andrew McAuley went missing nine months before Cas & Jonesy headed out doing the exact same kayak trip that they were about to embark on. They had been planning the expedition for three and a half years and when they commenced planning they even knew that Andrew was contemplating the idea.

“The peril was there, and we knew what the consequences were, but, unfortunately, Andrew going missing really made it real”

People said to them “you can’t honestly be doing this expedition still, someone’s gone missing and died.”

Emotionally this hit them hard but at the same token they looked at the risk management work they had done and thought if they stuck to their strategy, and took emotions out of it then they could still do the expedition.

 

7. Prepare yourself and bring in world experts

At first, Cas & Jonesy asked all the questions that they had about the expedition and answered those. They realised pretty quickly that they were not the best at any of the tasks that needed to be done. The key for the guys was to work out who had the world’s best practices in different facets of the expedition and then get them on board to mentor them through the issues they had.

The team they put together ended up spanning seventeen different countries. Jonesy explained to me that they found it empowering to approach someone about their expedition, and then have that person give them a bunch of reasons why they were idiots.

When they were able to address these reasons and turn the naysayers into advocates, they found it to be very motivating, and it helped them keep going.

These world experts were attracted to take part in the expedition because of Cas and Jonesy’s passion. Jonesy remembers calling up experts and sponsors in the beginning and not taking ownership for what they were doing and pretending to talk about themselves in the third person.

It was only when they started saying to people, “this is what we are doing, and we are not going to let anything stop us,” that people began being attracted to their journey. “It’s the conviction that people get attracted too,” says Jonesy.

“If you’re that passionate about something there is a certain energy and chemistry that happens and draws people closer”

Looking back at the video’s they shot of themselves pitching their idea, Jonesy says, “it was obvious that we didn’t know what we were doing, but it was the passion that got us over the line.”

The seventy-page risk management document was a key component to their success in attracting world experts to their cause. To have people say they were worried about something, and then Jonesy be able to point out the solution in their document, was very helpful. The risk document showed they were prepared for the journey they were about to embark on.

In preparing for their kayak trip, the guys realised that the weakest point in their expedition was going to be themselves. Thinking outside of the box, they approached the Australian Army and got soldiers to put them through sleep and food deprivation.

During this process, they were forced to learn new skills like morse code in a tired state. Jonesy found this experience very beneficial because it allowed him to see how he would act under stress. It was also important for him to experience sensations like hallucinations so that if it happened on the expedition it wouldn’t be for the first time – again, preparation is key to achieving the impossible.

“The expeditions were a logistical nightmare to put together and like a phenomenal puzzle”

 

8. Control the fear

Not only did Cas and Jonesy have limited skills during their expeditions, but Cas suffers from sea sickness, and Jonesy get’s claustrophobic (these guys are the true definition of greatness). To top it off, they had a well-publicised encounter with two very large sharks on their kayak trip.

Surprisingly, while they slept and the sharks made contact with the side of their kayak cabin, the two felt quite comfortable. The time that sharks made them feel a bit more afraid was when they were paddling out in the ocean with their hands touching the top of the water, and there were sharks around.

Jonesy explained to me that fear is not a rational thing and in situations like the shark encounters it can take a hold of you. They learned on their expedition that to break through fear they needed to rationalise it.

Justin Jones Fear Quote - Addicted2Success Interview
 

For Cas, to overcome the sea sickness he experienced he had to take drugs that they give chemotherapy patients, acupuncture himself, and use self-hypnosis to be able to complete the kayak expedition.

Cas used a self-hypnosis track on his iPod to anchor the cabin as a safe environment for him. Jonesy said It’s about accepting the situation. The biggest thing that needs to run through your head is “it’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is.”

While discussing fear with Jonesy, he gave me a great example of a Qantas pilot Richard de Crespigny. Richard was piloting a plane a few years back when everything started to go horribly wrong. In mid air, he began getting computer readouts of all the things that were broken.

In normal situations, a pilot would go through each of the issues and attempt to fix each one. By doing a basic calculation, Richard figured out that he would run out of fuel if he went through every single warning light one by one.

Instead, ignoring all his training, he reframed the situation to “what actually is working.” This personal development technique allowed him to win his battle and land the plane safely – what a great way to deal with a fearful situation.

 

9. Failure happens when you least expect it

A year before Cas & Jonesy started their Kayak journey they put the kayak in the water for the very first time and it flopped over on its side. At this point, they had both put in two and a half years of their lives, spent every dollar they had, and given up their jobs.

Again, showing incredible willpower, Cas & Jonesy delayed the expedition by a year and redesigned their kayak. Getting Jonesy to describe this moment brought back the powerful emotions of frustration, but he tried not to dwell on it.

As if their kayak not floating wasn’t enough, during this expedition they managed to get stuck in strong winds and currents that forced them in circles for two extra weeks. While not ideal, the guys managed to stay strong and push through the failure so that they could complete their trip.

Jonesy says, “you can’t force a situation to work, you have to come down to the crux of it and work out what you need to do”– willpower alone and force is just not enough.

“Failure is never quite so frightening as regret”

 

10. Success can be lonely (but it doesn’t have to be)

As Jonesy explained his definition of success he told me that the journey is the more important thing rather than the sole outcome at the end. Jonesy says, “if you blindly go out there, and you want to win regardless of anything else, chances are you will, but what costs are you willing to pay on the way?”

On Cas & Jonesy’s kayak expedition, they pushed away a lot of people that were close to them because they had to have such a singular drive and focus.

The key for guys was to try and work out how to take those close to them along the journey and not alienate everyone around them. Success can be a very lonely thing, but you don’t have to make it that way.

 

11. Come down from a major high with another goal

So, like the Kieren Perkins interview, the question I wanted to know from Jonesy was how he came down from such a major high. I asked Jonesy, and he told me that after their first expedition he was on a buzz for about a week.

Then he told me that it hits you all of a sudden and for Cas & Jonesy, they realised that they had spent three and a half years of their life working on a goal with a singled minded focus. In the meantime, other parts of their life like their career and relationships hadn’t progressed at all.

Once you achieve a major goal, it’s easy to wonder what you do with your life afterwards. Jonesy says the best way to come down from a major high is to follow it up with another goal of some type. Idle time can really cripple you and make it harder to move; it’s easier to bounce from one thing to another rather than sit in stagnancy and try and get yourself going again.

 

12. You have the power to inspire others

Back at school Jonesy says they were just “two fat kids” and for them it was about taking those progressive steps, following their passion, which allowed them to do their expeditions. Jonesy says everyone has got this capability inside them, and it’s about building that mental strength.

Once you have found that mental strength inside yourself, you have the power to unlock it in others. Jonesy told me that he loves it when he gives a corporate speech, and he starts to see that spark in people’s eyes.

After his speech, people will come up to him to chat, and he can tell that they are going to go away and do something about their dream. This is usually a direct result of him sharing his amazing stories with them, and he knows they have taken away something that they can use.

Jonesy explained to me that it’s often just a little bit of belief that these audience members lack and he feels that he is helping to enable them to find it through his presentations.

On the other hand, it can be frustrating when people don’t believe in something, and they are just happy to drift by in life, but that’s their choice, and all you can do is try and help them on their journey.

Surround yourself with the right people and the one’s who are going to push you even harder. If people are self-motivated, then they will want to learn the skills and tasks required to get the job done.

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***Final Note***

Belief has got to come from inside. By setting yourself a big goal like climbing a mountain against adverse conditions, you can empower yourself a lot more than someone telling you how to do things. Knowing how to do things will give you the tools, but you can have all the tools in the world, what you really need is to have the belief in yourself to want to go out there and do something.

Jonesy’s favourite quotes:

“Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go”

“A ship in harbour is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for”

If you are keen to hear more about Jonesy’s adventures then support him by going to justinjonesyspeaking.com.au and follow his next adventure where he walks from the Geographical Centre of Australia down toThe Great Australian Bight.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim’s content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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9 Comments

  1. Stephen Osoko

    Jan 10, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    Great Post Tim,
    I loved this “Belief has got to come from inside.”
    This was a really awesome post man keep it up.

  2. Tim Hirtle

    Dec 15, 2015 at 11:57 am

    A very inspiring post, and an interesting way to present the lessons. I enjoyed reading about these adventures.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 18, 2015 at 8:48 pm

      Thanks Tim. Jonesy was a very inspiring man and he had lots of great advice to offer. I only wish I had the courage to complete some of his adventures…lol

  3. Evan

    Dec 5, 2015 at 1:50 am

    Tim,

    I always like seeing your articles here on A2S.

    This one was a great one, and I believe it’s very important to do whatever you want since you’re only here for under 100 years.

    Many people are caught up in doing things they don’t want, while others are achieving exactly what they do want. Why is this? It’s just a simple choice to decide that you will get whatever you choose and focus on daily.

    Keep up the good work

    – Evan

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 7, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Thanks Evan and I totally echo your thoughts. Don’t just do something though, do something great that people will remember you for like the impossible expeditions mentioned in this article.

  4. Lawrence Berry

    Dec 3, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    This is a very inspiring article. Reading about these two went after what they wanted in life and let nothing get in their way is very inspiring. Living their lives through this expedition is the true definition of living your life on your own terms. I have not completed any major seemingly impossible expeditions in my life, but I can relate to alot of the points here by choosing to go down the career path that I ultimately wanted to go down, instead of letting the fear of failing control my life. As said in the article, I truly believe that the journey is the most important part and the character that you build. Great post!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 3, 2015 at 8:42 pm

      Thanks Larence. I fell like I have achieved nothing compared to these guys. I have never put myself so far out of my comfort zone that I have the possibility to achieve a similar greatness. Their story really makes me want to push harder.

  5. Toño

    Dec 3, 2015 at 2:43 am

    I am very grateful for your effort and passion, Tim, it was a great read! Thank you very much, I’ve always liked your articles and for some reason, once I saw the title, waking up in the morning, I somehow knew it gonna be your post!

    I love this line: ‘Too many adults don’t take the time to go off and learn new skills. They do the same things over and over again that they are good at rather than taking the time to learn a new passion – no wonder we get bored and watch TV.’
    This is inevitable truth, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting something new and exciting will happen.. (unless you are grinding for your goal on purpose). New habbits, skills, actions and changes are always the most scariest things in our life and usually it is exactly what stops us from chasing the dream!

    Thank you once again, I was needed this! Take care and stay well!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 3, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      Hey Toño glad you like the articles. The points about adults trying a new skill is powerful. When we are children we always want to try new things but for some reason when we get older we stop trying new things. Thanks for reading!

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All I Want Is For You To Give It Everything You Got.

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It’s the simplest ask I’ve ever put out into the world. It’s my one wish for everyone reading.

All I want is for you to give your life everything you’ve got. Seeing what you are capable of is my one goal. Seeing how you lived instead of how you feared your challenges is beautiful. I know it’s easier said than done but I know you have more in the tank.

I know it seems like there’s always another email, another person to influence, another competitor, another threat that could tear down everything you’ve built.

I get that there are risks and you’re scared (whether you admit it or not). That doesn’t change a thing in my book. I still want you to give it everything you’ve got.

 

I want to see your raw emotion.

When I watch you do your thing, I want to see you display raw emotion. I want you to be vulnerable and show me all of the beauty you have to offer through your wide range of emotions.

I don’t want you to cover up what you’re thinking and feeling out of fear that you’ll be judged. Those who judge you are only making up for their own inadequacies, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.

 

I want to see your raw passion.

Passion equals commitment. It’s that look in your eye. It’s how you take your first step. It’s how you stare fear in the face and say “I’m going to win today no matter what. Nothing will stop me!”

It’s the way your shoulders are slightly back and you stare into everyone’s eyes. It’s the way you look fearless even though you’re as scared as the rest of us watching. It’s the way you commit to the outcome even though you don’t know the exact strategy.

Showing us your raw passion by doing what you love is one of the best gifts you have to offer. Don’t hold back on your level of passion. Commit to what it is you love and don’t spend a waking moment not coming up with your next move. Through your passion, we get to see the potential we have in our own passion.

Seeing you fulfill your passion inspires us all to do the same. You can be a guiding light and you know you can. Make your move!

 

I want to feel what it is that you do.

Don’t show me, make me feel it. Show us all what courage looks like and what you’ve had to overcome to get to this point, right here, right now. I want your actions to show us why we all chase feelings. I want you to show us the power of feelings and why they drive us to create human life and fall in love.

 

I want you to take the long road.

Not the shortcut. Not by using that one life hack. Not by bringing down others. Not by stomping over your competition and showing us that you have a higher power. I want you to take the long road and put in the work. I want you to reach mastery instead of a basic understanding.

“When everybody else thinks that you’ve given all you’ve got, I want you to keep walking down that long, windy road in your jocks while freezing your tits off!”

The idea of a shortcut is a myth. No one that is going to do what you’re capable of got there by putting in less or looking for a way to be lazy. Laziness is not the answer.

Commitment and an endless pursuit to find a path and walk down it with your own two feet is where you’ll find the energy you need.

 

I want you to be kind along the way.

Yes, going into overdrive is about you and your capability, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it by being nasty to everyone watching. How you treat people is more important than anything else. It’s what you’ll be remembered for and not the outcome.

Treating people with kindness is how you discover your true self and find that extra something that you didn’t know you had. Kindness will be returned with more kindness. Sometimes it will go unnoticed and that’s cool as well.

 

I want you to be the greatest in your field.

Not second best. Not top ten, but the greatest. Even if you don’t reach the top, you’ll still end up pushing beyond what you ever thought was possible. You’ll be glad you went for the top position rather than settling for the bottom where you know you had more to give.

 

I want you to push through the pain.

Pain hurts like hell. It’s that one ingredient that none of us can avoid. Pain is guaranteed whether you decide to listen to my advice or not.

“So if you’re going to get pain no matter what, you may as well learn to push through it and use it for good, not evil”

 

Pain is the red light indicator that says you’re pushing your limits and you’re creating momentum. Pain doesn’t mean stop. Pain means you’re just getting started. You’ve avoided pain until this point and now it’s time to discover what pain can do for you.

“Pain can either be the devil on your shoulder or the angel that guides you from darkness into the light”

 

I want you to bring others on the journey.

It’s not just about you. I say this all the time because I mean it. A journey on your own is boring and you’ll give up at some point because you’re a social being. Helping others while helping yourself is how you give more. If it’s all about you and your big fat dream, then you’re not giving it all you’ve got.

Just meeting your own needs is never going to be enough. You will never be enough if all you do is sit down and focus on your own selfish desires. Even if you feel no one is listening, keep going. People may not listen at the start, but they’ll eventually listen if you stay committed.

We all need to see you’re dedicated to your vision first before we decide to join you on your journey.

 

I want you to inspire us.

Make us all feel like we can achieve the impossible through your actions. Don’t tell us, show us. We’re inspired by your actions and your commitment to them, not your words. Take the lessons you learn and use them to show us how we can do immensely difficult things in our life.

The leaders you are obsessed with are that way in your head because at some point they inspired you. They questioned your idea of the world and made you think differently. They inspired you to consider or to commit to a new decision.

They broke the pattern in your head and made you see what to focus on. That’s what inspiration has done for you and now you must inspire us and give us everything you have in the process.

 

I want you to remember who you were before.

When you do finally arrive at that position you’ve worked so hard to get to, I never want you to forget who you started off as. Seeing the transformation from your former self to your current self will ensure you don’t get complacent.

Your former self will remind your current self just how far you can push. Your former self will remind you what can help when you give it everything you’ve got. I don’t ever want to see you settle for less than who you can be.

 

If I achieved all of that, then I’ve succeeded.

Everything I’ve just told you is me giving you everything I have. If you follow these guiding principles, suggestions (whatever you want to call them, I don’t care), then I have succeeded. I will no longer need to look for success because you will have shown it to me through your example.

My vision for success is helping you find yours. So if you achieve nothing else, then you’ve helped me fulfill a major goal in my life.

 

The world needs more people like you.

Not only that. Society needs more people who are willing to think bigger, go bigger and be bigger. We all need more people like you. People who are going to act, which is why you’re reading this. You didn’t read these words for nothing so get back to work and be the best you can be.

Give it everything you’ve got.
Don’t let your current challenges stop you.
Kick ass and go all out.
Demonstrate emotion, passion and kindness.

Most of all, never let your circumstances or negative people think you can’t go all out. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Make a decision and then act.

Go all out.

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Focus On One Thing At A Time: Here’s Why.

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The problem you have, above all, is you’re trying to do too much all at once.

I should no because I have a cluster bomb of goals I’m trying to achieve right now. What ends up happening is you achieve nothing. You go to narrow and so wide that nothing gets done. Nothing gets traction. Then you get pissed off and give up.

Giving up is not the answer. Focusing on one thing is.

I’d love to be the worlds best blogger, speaker, author and lover all at once. It’s not going to happen like that. That’s not how the game of life works.

Here’s why you should focus on one thing at a time:

 

Your memory sucks.

We now have so much information to store in our mind that we end up forgetting most things whether we want to admit that or not. Focusing on one thing frees up space in your mind to store all the knowledge associated with your one goal.

Get used to ignoring information that you don’t feel is needed. I do this all the time. When I check emails, most of them are deleted before they are even read. If an email is not aligned with my two-line purpose or my current goal, then it’s gone. Never to be seen again.

What you want to do instead is use the virtual memory in your mind to do the same habits associated with your goal over and over. This carves a deep path in your mind for the tasks and habits you need to be awesome at to hit your current goal.

 

Go for one big goal.

Instead of having lots of small goals that are mostly meaningless, go for the big goals. Try knocking off one every few months or even one a year if you have to. My current goal is to pivot my career in a new direction. Then straight after that, I’m going to knock off some big speeches to up my public speaking game. Other than those two items, that’s about it.

Nice and easy to remember. This strategy puts large amounts of focus on only one or two goals meaning you get results faster. I find that as I gain momentum and see results quickly, my one big goal doesn’t require motivation. Your results should become your motivation and that requires all your energy and focus.

I had another big goal this year to sort out my love life. People laughed at how crazy and deep I went on this goal. Within five months and after more than fifty dates, I got my goal. There’s a lot that you can get from focusing on one big goal. Try it for yourself.

 

Keeps fear from destroying your action.

Fear is a constant battle – even for me. Having too many goals means that you’ll get a small slice of fear with each one. Once you add up all of that fear, you can easily become crippled by it. By focusing on one big goal, you only have one slice of fear to deal with.

For me, changing career and nailing public speaking at the same time is just too much fear. It’s way easier to tackle one at a time. You can’t just block fear out and pretend it doesn’t exist. You have to work through the fear that comes with your goals and this requires smaller doses.

 

Your conversations become simpler.

We all get asked to join 101 meetings and do lots of coffee catch ups. These two things already annoy me enough. What having one goal has done for me is make my conversations simpler. If someone wants to talk about something, if it doesn’t align with my current big goal, I decline.

I explain that I’m working towards one big goal and anything that’s not part of that goal is on hold for the moment. By saying it in this manner, you avoid sounding like a smart ass and your no is delivered in a respectful way.

 

To-Do lists become a thing of the past.

These problematic lists become near irrelevant because when you have one big goal, you don’t have as many tasks to manage. Right now, when I wake up, I work on my career goal and then get to work. I don’t need a to-do list because there’s only one goal to think about.

 

Deep thinking sessions deliver more value.

I tell everybody to spend a bit of time every day doing some deep thinking. When you have too many goals, these sessions are wasted. By having one big goal, I’ve been able to use my deep thinking time to really reflect on what it’s going to take to achieve my goal.

The progress I get from these deep thinking sessions has tripled. I’m no longer trying to fix all of the world’s problems every time I go into deep thinking. I’ve found that I’m becoming much better at solving my own problems because I can deeply think about what’s standing in my way.

 

Answers are much less challenging to find.

My mind has become a beacon for the information I need to achieve my one big goal. When you have lots of goals, all the information you consume get’s lost. Having one big goal makes your mind focused on what bits of knowledge you need.

“All the answers you seek have already been presented to you in one form or another. The problem is that you can’t hear the answers because there are too many goals which have created a lack of focus for your very busy mind”

For example, my public speaking goal is something I always thought would be near impossible to solve. As I practice my habit of listening to podcasts, I’ve found that all the good tips for crushing fear when it comes to public speaking have been there all along.

People like Tim Ferriss and Gary Vee have been sharing the wisdom needed for good public speaking for a long time. The problem was I had too many goals, so I didn’t hear their golden nuggets of advice. With more focus, I do not only hear their tips, I’m meditating and doing deep thinking on their ideas.

 

You can’t be known for everything.

Ever been to someone’s LinkedIn page and it says something like this:

“Kimbo is an entrepreneur, blogger, speaker, coach, finance professional, investor, advisor, avid reader, professional hockey player and lover of cars.”

I mean you can’t be known for all of that. When all of us see profiles of people like this, we end up switching off. Focus on being a world-class blogger, or an accomplished author.

“There’s no point trying to be A-grade at everything because you never will be, and your personal message will get lost”

 

Simple is always better.

Whether it’s your goals, fitness routine, business, etc, simpler is always better. Simpler equals focus. Focus equals power. Power equals energy and motivation towards your one big goal that will make you unstoppable.

Stop trying to do so much because you’re not fooling anyone, least of all yourself. Chunk things down, go for simple and be incredible at fewer goals.

You can be a standout person when you go for one big goal rather than a huge lists of goals that never get actioned.

What do you really want more than anything? That’s your big goal.

Now go execute on your goal.

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Raw Emotion Is The Only Thing That Matters: Here’s What To Do.

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I’ve been on the road this week talking about the power of creating content and sharing your story with the world.

I’ve been consistently asked how I am able to reach millions of people every single month. I’ve seen my audience triple this year.

It all comes down to this:

It’s raw emotion.

That’s it.

People go crazy for what I do because I express my raw emotion about life and about business. I don’t allow anyone to tell me what to say or how to behave. No matter what the feedback is on my content, I always treat people with respect.

 

Respecting the game is crucial.

We all take success and online engagement for granted. As soon as people get a few thousand followers, their success goes to their head.

They stop responding to comments.
They stop responding to emails.
They stop answering phone calls.

Not me – ever! Replying to comments, emails and taking a phone call here and there, is how you respect the people who have given you their time (their most valuable asset).

“Respect combined with putting raw emotion into everything you do will see your life transform”

 

How do you unleash raw emotion?

Simple: you have to get into state.

You have to get yourself into a frame of mind where you come face to face with the fact that your life is short. Tim Ferriss introduced me to a cool tool for your internet browser called the Death Clock.

Every time you open a new tab, it shows you on average, based on your age, how long you have left to live.

 

Don’t hold back any longer.

Once you come face to face with your mortality, you stop holding back. People’s opinions go out the window and all you focus on is giving everything you have. From this place, you can deliver raw emotion.

I walked out of the gym yesterday and someone died right in front of me. That could have been me if I left just a few seconds earlier. So if I wasn’t here to type these words, would I be satisfied? The answer is no freaking way.

I still have so much more to give and that’s what motivates me to go all in and deliver raw emotion with everything I do.

12 months ago, a leader I used to work with asked me to give a motivational speech to her team and share my story. I said no because my public speaking skills sucked. Now I’ve started to get much better at speaking. On Monday morning, I’m emailing her to say that I will give that speech.

No more holding back. The game of life is real.

 

It takes courage to deliver raw emotion.

Standing up on stage and sharing your story, or writing a blog post about your deepest, darkest fears is tough. Delivering raw emotion requires you to be incredibly vulnerable. You have to be okay with having 50% of people dislike you or ignore what you have to say.

“Delivering raw emotion is not about reaching everyone; it’s about reaching a few people who can then be inspired by what you do”

 

Raw emotion without action is useless.

The only reason you want to deliver raw emotion is so you can inspire people. By inspiring people, you can get them to trust you and take action. Raw emotion allows you to get people to do stuff they never thought was possible.

Tony Robbins got in my face when I went to his seminar four years ago and he did that through raw emotion. He told his very personal family story and then showed me how anyone, from anywhere, can take their life to the next level.

If Tony didn’t share the full story or shared someone else’s story, I’m not sure the message would have stuck in my distracted little brain. It took raw emotion to get me out of my head and help me see my life for what it was. That life, by the way, was garbage and was based on my own selfish desires and an endless pursuit of money.

 

You feel different when you deliver raw emotion.

When I deliver a piece of content in words, video or speech that has raw emotion, I feel different. I feel that I have given it my all and I know I’ve pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. That’s because delivering raw emotion is uncomfortable no matter how many times you do it.

The thing is that when you don’t deliver raw emotion, you fall for one of the following:

– Copying someone else
– Holding back
– Being overcome by fear
– Feeling you didn’t give 110%

These feelings suck big time. You may as well do nothing if you aren’t going to give your pursuits in life a good crack. Go big, or stay home and think about your life properly.

 

Raw emotion is infectious. Stop working so damn hard!

I feel like right now, for the first time in my life, I’ve become a magnet for all the people I want to have in my life. I no longer have to work my ass off to influence people or pitch them my ideas. People come to me.

Not because I’m so special but because I deliver raw emotion. I tell the whole story and I don’t hold back. I used to have to reach out to people a lot and have these big paragraphs in my emails about all my achievements and the people I know.

Now I just link to my work that has raw emotion and what I say does the convincing / selling for me.

“This is me, and if you like it, then we should talk.”

That’s what I say in my head. There’s no BS sales pages or template emails. You can’t grab another one of me off the shelf and then copy and paste me.

The raw emotion I deliver is inside of me. You can see it in my eyes. You can see it in the way I stand. You can even see it in the words I type.

 

So what now Mr. Tim?

Well, I’ve told you the power of raw emotion. I’ve made it clear what it’s done to my life. I’ve explained how you can do the same.

Now it comes down to action. Action is the thing that people always tell themselves they will do but often never do. If you like the sound of what I’ve said about raw emotion sailor, then you need to try it for yourself. Test it out for a week and see what I mean.

Watch people look at you as an authority figure. See people’s reactions. Most of all, notice how you feel differently. Your whole life is put into perspective when you stop holding back and deliver the value you have inside of you with raw emotion.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, then build up the courage inside of you to deliver raw emotion.

Raw emotion is where it’s at. It’s the secret to how all of the people you are inspired by get to do what they love and reach lots of people.

Now it’s action time.

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10 Simple Steps for Self-Motivation

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Renowned American motivational speaker and author, Dr. Stephen R. Covey once remarked: “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” How do you define motivation?

There are two distinct types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic: Motivation that comes from within ourselves.
  • Extrinsic: Motivation that is derived from outside source such as a friend, colleagues, seniors at workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids and lots more.

Briefly, motivation can be described as a reason or cause by which a person or a group of people behave in a certain manner. The cause or the reason has to be extremely strong, and it often involves self interest.

Considering you have good and healthy plans that do not conflict with any laws, rules and regulations, staying motivated is quite easy. Basically, motivation is merely a state of mind. Utilized properly, it can take you to heights you may have never dreamed of.

However, our simple steps below will guide you on how to remain motivated at all times, despite any adversities you may encounter:

1. Goal Setting

Setting a goal for yourself is a time-tested and proven method to remain motivated. However, it is important to set realistic and achievable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you intend to achieve these goals.

There are three types of goals:

  • Short term goals: These may be achieved in a few weeks or a couple of months.
  • Mid-term goals: These usually take a year or two to achieve.
  • Long-term goals: Here you can include your career options, plans for marriage, buying a home or anything that takes a longer span of time.

2. Money matters

Regardless whether we like it or not, money does matter in remaining motivated. Here, we are not speaking about millions of dollars. We are saying that having sufficient funds to lead a decent life is a great motivator by itself. You can start by saving a healthy portion of your income daily or monthly.

3. Shun any loans

Undoubtedly, people encumbered with loans exhibit a tendency to lose motivation. The reason is simple:  A considerable portion of your earnings will go towards servicing whatever loans or credit card dues you have. Avoid getting into loans as much as possible, unless it is for some genuine and strong reason such as buying a home.

4. Stay with positive people

Generally, people with a positive mindset and attitude are the best motivators. Regardless of your situation, they will always try and uplift your state of mind. Such positive minded people will motivate you even if you are feeling low and beaten. Further, whenever you encounter negative thoughts, speak with such people by either meeting them or on phone.

5. Appreciate yourself first

Whenever you lose motivation, think of all the positive stuff you have done in the past and reflect on great experiences you have had. Also, remember all the adverse times you have been through and how you sailed out of them unharmed. Appreciating yourself for your achievements is a great motivational tool.

“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” – Alice Domar

6. Use mistakes as experiences

This means learning from your past mistakes, because as humans we are all prone to mistakes due to inherent defects or flaws in our character. Remember, mistakes are not final. They hold vital lessons for us. Most people tend to lose motivation when things go awry and desired results are not forthcoming.

7. Examine your motive

Once again, as Dr. Stephen R. Covey puts it, the key to motivation lies in the motive itself. Should your motives be good and in conformity with laws, motivation follows automatically. But beware, wrong motives can lead to misplaced motivation which can land even the most stable and sober person into deep trouble. Once your motives are positive and clear, motivation follows automatically.

8. Avoid getting over-stressed

Stress can be divided into two different categories:

  1. Negative stress: That arises out of negative actions, interacting with obnoxious people and lethargy or laziness, continuing exposure to painful or unpleasant situations and loneliness.
  2. Positive stress: Accrues by solving work related or domestic problems. Positive stress usually leaves you satisfied and happy once the issue has been resolved or after a hard day’s work.

Stress in daily life is imminent. Staying motivated helps you to remain motivated.

9. Choose to be happy

Now this may sound like a tall order for anyone encountering adverse situations. However, it is worthwhile to note, every bad situation always passes. Be aware that every bad circumstance will eventually vanish. Losing motivation will not help solve any problem and neither will worrying about something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer thought that every problem is temporary.

10. Chart your map

Sadly, most people embark on a project or endeavor without much heed to the end result. Instead, you can chart your own roadmap. Take an inventory about how you want to begin and why. This in itself is a great motivational factor. Simultaneously, bear in mind what is the exact objective or the end where your endeavor should culminate. Be fearless in your pursuit of your dreams and goals.

“I am happy because I’m grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.” – Will Arnett

It is worthwhile to remember, we all lose motivation at some point of life. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. Analyzing cause of losing motivation, understanding and finding ways and means to counter it, works miracles indeed. Lack of motivation, left untreated, can lead to mental ailments.

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Up until about 3 years ago, I honestly had no idea what a freelancer even was. It sounded like a cool job title and I secretly envied people who could call themselves one. Didn’t they get to travel the world with a laptop and go sailing and sip margaritas beside some of the most beautiful beaches on the planet? Yup, I wanted to be a freelancer. (more…)

Iva Ursano is a retired hairstylist turned freelancer from Northern Ontario Canada living a life of freedom, peace and joy in sunny Guatemala. Her two main goals in life are to inspire people around the world with her blogs and to feed hungry little bellies in the poor town she now calls home. Follow her on her fast growing FB page Amazing Me Movement or head on over to her website and sign up for weekly in your face inspiration!

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  1. Stephen Osoko

    Jan 10, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    Great Post Tim,
    I loved this “Belief has got to come from inside.”
    This was a really awesome post man keep it up.

  2. Tim Hirtle

    Dec 15, 2015 at 11:57 am

    A very inspiring post, and an interesting way to present the lessons. I enjoyed reading about these adventures.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 18, 2015 at 8:48 pm

      Thanks Tim. Jonesy was a very inspiring man and he had lots of great advice to offer. I only wish I had the courage to complete some of his adventures…lol

  3. Evan

    Dec 5, 2015 at 1:50 am

    Tim,

    I always like seeing your articles here on A2S.

    This one was a great one, and I believe it’s very important to do whatever you want since you’re only here for under 100 years.

    Many people are caught up in doing things they don’t want, while others are achieving exactly what they do want. Why is this? It’s just a simple choice to decide that you will get whatever you choose and focus on daily.

    Keep up the good work

    – Evan

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 7, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Thanks Evan and I totally echo your thoughts. Don’t just do something though, do something great that people will remember you for like the impossible expeditions mentioned in this article.

  4. Lawrence Berry

    Dec 3, 2015 at 8:28 pm

    This is a very inspiring article. Reading about these two went after what they wanted in life and let nothing get in their way is very inspiring. Living their lives through this expedition is the true definition of living your life on your own terms. I have not completed any major seemingly impossible expeditions in my life, but I can relate to alot of the points here by choosing to go down the career path that I ultimately wanted to go down, instead of letting the fear of failing control my life. As said in the article, I truly believe that the journey is the most important part and the character that you build. Great post!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 3, 2015 at 8:42 pm

      Thanks Larence. I fell like I have achieved nothing compared to these guys. I have never put myself so far out of my comfort zone that I have the possibility to achieve a similar greatness. Their story really makes me want to push harder.

  5. Toño

    Dec 3, 2015 at 2:43 am

    I am very grateful for your effort and passion, Tim, it was a great read! Thank you very much, I’ve always liked your articles and for some reason, once I saw the title, waking up in the morning, I somehow knew it gonna be your post!

    I love this line: ‘Too many adults don’t take the time to go off and learn new skills. They do the same things over and over again that they are good at rather than taking the time to learn a new passion – no wonder we get bored and watch TV.’
    This is inevitable truth, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting something new and exciting will happen.. (unless you are grinding for your goal on purpose). New habbits, skills, actions and changes are always the most scariest things in our life and usually it is exactly what stops us from chasing the dream!

    Thank you once again, I was needed this! Take care and stay well!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 3, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      Hey Toño glad you like the articles. The points about adults trying a new skill is powerful. When we are children we always want to try new things but for some reason when we get older we stop trying new things. Thanks for reading!

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All I Want Is For You To Give It Everything You Got.

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It’s the simplest ask I’ve ever put out into the world. It’s my one wish for everyone reading.

All I want is for you to give your life everything you’ve got. Seeing what you are capable of is my one goal. Seeing how you lived instead of how you feared your challenges is beautiful. I know it’s easier said than done but I know you have more in the tank.

I know it seems like there’s always another email, another person to influence, another competitor, another threat that could tear down everything you’ve built.

I get that there are risks and you’re scared (whether you admit it or not). That doesn’t change a thing in my book. I still want you to give it everything you’ve got.

 

I want to see your raw emotion.

When I watch you do your thing, I want to see you display raw emotion. I want you to be vulnerable and show me all of the beauty you have to offer through your wide range of emotions.

I don’t want you to cover up what you’re thinking and feeling out of fear that you’ll be judged. Those who judge you are only making up for their own inadequacies, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.

 

I want to see your raw passion.

Passion equals commitment. It’s that look in your eye. It’s how you take your first step. It’s how you stare fear in the face and say “I’m going to win today no matter what. Nothing will stop me!”

It’s the way your shoulders are slightly back and you stare into everyone’s eyes. It’s the way you look fearless even though you’re as scared as the rest of us watching. It’s the way you commit to the outcome even though you don’t know the exact strategy.

Showing us your raw passion by doing what you love is one of the best gifts you have to offer. Don’t hold back on your level of passion. Commit to what it is you love and don’t spend a waking moment not coming up with your next move. Through your passion, we get to see the potential we have in our own passion.

Seeing you fulfill your passion inspires us all to do the same. You can be a guiding light and you know you can. Make your move!

 

I want to feel what it is that you do.

Don’t show me, make me feel it. Show us all what courage looks like and what you’ve had to overcome to get to this point, right here, right now. I want your actions to show us why we all chase feelings. I want you to show us the power of feelings and why they drive us to create human life and fall in love.

 

I want you to take the long road.

Not the shortcut. Not by using that one life hack. Not by bringing down others. Not by stomping over your competition and showing us that you have a higher power. I want you to take the long road and put in the work. I want you to reach mastery instead of a basic understanding.

“When everybody else thinks that you’ve given all you’ve got, I want you to keep walking down that long, windy road in your jocks while freezing your tits off!”

The idea of a shortcut is a myth. No one that is going to do what you’re capable of got there by putting in less or looking for a way to be lazy. Laziness is not the answer.

Commitment and an endless pursuit to find a path and walk down it with your own two feet is where you’ll find the energy you need.

 

I want you to be kind along the way.

Yes, going into overdrive is about you and your capability, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it by being nasty to everyone watching. How you treat people is more important than anything else. It’s what you’ll be remembered for and not the outcome.

Treating people with kindness is how you discover your true self and find that extra something that you didn’t know you had. Kindness will be returned with more kindness. Sometimes it will go unnoticed and that’s cool as well.

 

I want you to be the greatest in your field.

Not second best. Not top ten, but the greatest. Even if you don’t reach the top, you’ll still end up pushing beyond what you ever thought was possible. You’ll be glad you went for the top position rather than settling for the bottom where you know you had more to give.

 

I want you to push through the pain.

Pain hurts like hell. It’s that one ingredient that none of us can avoid. Pain is guaranteed whether you decide to listen to my advice or not.

“So if you’re going to get pain no matter what, you may as well learn to push through it and use it for good, not evil”

 

Pain is the red light indicator that says you’re pushing your limits and you’re creating momentum. Pain doesn’t mean stop. Pain means you’re just getting started. You’ve avoided pain until this point and now it’s time to discover what pain can do for you.

“Pain can either be the devil on your shoulder or the angel that guides you from darkness into the light”

 

I want you to bring others on the journey.

It’s not just about you. I say this all the time because I mean it. A journey on your own is boring and you’ll give up at some point because you’re a social being. Helping others while helping yourself is how you give more. If it’s all about you and your big fat dream, then you’re not giving it all you’ve got.

Just meeting your own needs is never going to be enough. You will never be enough if all you do is sit down and focus on your own selfish desires. Even if you feel no one is listening, keep going. People may not listen at the start, but they’ll eventually listen if you stay committed.

We all need to see you’re dedicated to your vision first before we decide to join you on your journey.

 

I want you to inspire us.

Make us all feel like we can achieve the impossible through your actions. Don’t tell us, show us. We’re inspired by your actions and your commitment to them, not your words. Take the lessons you learn and use them to show us how we can do immensely difficult things in our life.

The leaders you are obsessed with are that way in your head because at some point they inspired you. They questioned your idea of the world and made you think differently. They inspired you to consider or to commit to a new decision.

They broke the pattern in your head and made you see what to focus on. That’s what inspiration has done for you and now you must inspire us and give us everything you have in the process.

 

I want you to remember who you were before.

When you do finally arrive at that position you’ve worked so hard to get to, I never want you to forget who you started off as. Seeing the transformation from your former self to your current self will ensure you don’t get complacent.

Your former self will remind your current self just how far you can push. Your former self will remind you what can help when you give it everything you’ve got. I don’t ever want to see you settle for less than who you can be.

 

If I achieved all of that, then I’ve succeeded.

Everything I’ve just told you is me giving you everything I have. If you follow these guiding principles, suggestions (whatever you want to call them, I don’t care), then I have succeeded. I will no longer need to look for success because you will have shown it to me through your example.

My vision for success is helping you find yours. So if you achieve nothing else, then you’ve helped me fulfill a major goal in my life.

 

The world needs more people like you.

Not only that. Society needs more people who are willing to think bigger, go bigger and be bigger. We all need more people like you. People who are going to act, which is why you’re reading this. You didn’t read these words for nothing so get back to work and be the best you can be.

Give it everything you’ve got.
Don’t let your current challenges stop you.
Kick ass and go all out.
Demonstrate emotion, passion and kindness.

Most of all, never let your circumstances or negative people think you can’t go all out. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Make a decision and then act.

Go all out.

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Focus On One Thing At A Time: Here’s Why.

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The problem you have, above all, is you’re trying to do too much all at once.

I should no because I have a cluster bomb of goals I’m trying to achieve right now. What ends up happening is you achieve nothing. You go to narrow and so wide that nothing gets done. Nothing gets traction. Then you get pissed off and give up.

Giving up is not the answer. Focusing on one thing is.

I’d love to be the worlds best blogger, speaker, author and lover all at once. It’s not going to happen like that. That’s not how the game of life works.

Here’s why you should focus on one thing at a time:

 

Your memory sucks.

We now have so much information to store in our mind that we end up forgetting most things whether we want to admit that or not. Focusing on one thing frees up space in your mind to store all the knowledge associated with your one goal.

Get used to ignoring information that you don’t feel is needed. I do this all the time. When I check emails, most of them are deleted before they are even read. If an email is not aligned with my two-line purpose or my current goal, then it’s gone. Never to be seen again.

What you want to do instead is use the virtual memory in your mind to do the same habits associated with your goal over and over. This carves a deep path in your mind for the tasks and habits you need to be awesome at to hit your current goal.

 

Go for one big goal.

Instead of having lots of small goals that are mostly meaningless, go for the big goals. Try knocking off one every few months or even one a year if you have to. My current goal is to pivot my career in a new direction. Then straight after that, I’m going to knock off some big speeches to up my public speaking game. Other than those two items, that’s about it.

Nice and easy to remember. This strategy puts large amounts of focus on only one or two goals meaning you get results faster. I find that as I gain momentum and see results quickly, my one big goal doesn’t require motivation. Your results should become your motivation and that requires all your energy and focus.

I had another big goal this year to sort out my love life. People laughed at how crazy and deep I went on this goal. Within five months and after more than fifty dates, I got my goal. There’s a lot that you can get from focusing on one big goal. Try it for yourself.

 

Keeps fear from destroying your action.

Fear is a constant battle – even for me. Having too many goals means that you’ll get a small slice of fear with each one. Once you add up all of that fear, you can easily become crippled by it. By focusing on one big goal, you only have one slice of fear to deal with.

For me, changing career and nailing public speaking at the same time is just too much fear. It’s way easier to tackle one at a time. You can’t just block fear out and pretend it doesn’t exist. You have to work through the fear that comes with your goals and this requires smaller doses.

 

Your conversations become simpler.

We all get asked to join 101 meetings and do lots of coffee catch ups. These two things already annoy me enough. What having one goal has done for me is make my conversations simpler. If someone wants to talk about something, if it doesn’t align with my current big goal, I decline.

I explain that I’m working towards one big goal and anything that’s not part of that goal is on hold for the moment. By saying it in this manner, you avoid sounding like a smart ass and your no is delivered in a respectful way.

 

To-Do lists become a thing of the past.

These problematic lists become near irrelevant because when you have one big goal, you don’t have as many tasks to manage. Right now, when I wake up, I work on my career goal and then get to work. I don’t need a to-do list because there’s only one goal to think about.

 

Deep thinking sessions deliver more value.

I tell everybody to spend a bit of time every day doing some deep thinking. When you have too many goals, these sessions are wasted. By having one big goal, I’ve been able to use my deep thinking time to really reflect on what it’s going to take to achieve my goal.

The progress I get from these deep thinking sessions has tripled. I’m no longer trying to fix all of the world’s problems every time I go into deep thinking. I’ve found that I’m becoming much better at solving my own problems because I can deeply think about what’s standing in my way.

 

Answers are much less challenging to find.

My mind has become a beacon for the information I need to achieve my one big goal. When you have lots of goals, all the information you consume get’s lost. Having one big goal makes your mind focused on what bits of knowledge you need.

“All the answers you seek have already been presented to you in one form or another. The problem is that you can’t hear the answers because there are too many goals which have created a lack of focus for your very busy mind”

For example, my public speaking goal is something I always thought would be near impossible to solve. As I practice my habit of listening to podcasts, I’ve found that all the good tips for crushing fear when it comes to public speaking have been there all along.

People like Tim Ferriss and Gary Vee have been sharing the wisdom needed for good public speaking for a long time. The problem was I had too many goals, so I didn’t hear their golden nuggets of advice. With more focus, I do not only hear their tips, I’m meditating and doing deep thinking on their ideas.

 

You can’t be known for everything.

Ever been to someone’s LinkedIn page and it says something like this:

“Kimbo is an entrepreneur, blogger, speaker, coach, finance professional, investor, advisor, avid reader, professional hockey player and lover of cars.”

I mean you can’t be known for all of that. When all of us see profiles of people like this, we end up switching off. Focus on being a world-class blogger, or an accomplished author.

“There’s no point trying to be A-grade at everything because you never will be, and your personal message will get lost”

 

Simple is always better.

Whether it’s your goals, fitness routine, business, etc, simpler is always better. Simpler equals focus. Focus equals power. Power equals energy and motivation towards your one big goal that will make you unstoppable.

Stop trying to do so much because you’re not fooling anyone, least of all yourself. Chunk things down, go for simple and be incredible at fewer goals.

You can be a standout person when you go for one big goal rather than a huge lists of goals that never get actioned.

What do you really want more than anything? That’s your big goal.

Now go execute on your goal.

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Raw Emotion Is The Only Thing That Matters: Here’s What To Do.

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I’ve been on the road this week talking about the power of creating content and sharing your story with the world.

I’ve been consistently asked how I am able to reach millions of people every single month. I’ve seen my audience triple this year.

It all comes down to this:

It’s raw emotion.

That’s it.

People go crazy for what I do because I express my raw emotion about life and about business. I don’t allow anyone to tell me what to say or how to behave. No matter what the feedback is on my content, I always treat people with respect.

 

Respecting the game is crucial.

We all take success and online engagement for granted. As soon as people get a few thousand followers, their success goes to their head.

They stop responding to comments.
They stop responding to emails.
They stop answering phone calls.

Not me – ever! Replying to comments, emails and taking a phone call here and there, is how you respect the people who have given you their time (their most valuable asset).

“Respect combined with putting raw emotion into everything you do will see your life transform”

 

How do you unleash raw emotion?

Simple: you have to get into state.

You have to get yourself into a frame of mind where you come face to face with the fact that your life is short. Tim Ferriss introduced me to a cool tool for your internet browser called the Death Clock.

Every time you open a new tab, it shows you on average, based on your age, how long you have left to live.

 

Don’t hold back any longer.

Once you come face to face with your mortality, you stop holding back. People’s opinions go out the window and all you focus on is giving everything you have. From this place, you can deliver raw emotion.

I walked out of the gym yesterday and someone died right in front of me. That could have been me if I left just a few seconds earlier. So if I wasn’t here to type these words, would I be satisfied? The answer is no freaking way.

I still have so much more to give and that’s what motivates me to go all in and deliver raw emotion with everything I do.

12 months ago, a leader I used to work with asked me to give a motivational speech to her team and share my story. I said no because my public speaking skills sucked. Now I’ve started to get much better at speaking. On Monday morning, I’m emailing her to say that I will give that speech.

No more holding back. The game of life is real.

 

It takes courage to deliver raw emotion.

Standing up on stage and sharing your story, or writing a blog post about your deepest, darkest fears is tough. Delivering raw emotion requires you to be incredibly vulnerable. You have to be okay with having 50% of people dislike you or ignore what you have to say.

“Delivering raw emotion is not about reaching everyone; it’s about reaching a few people who can then be inspired by what you do”

 

Raw emotion without action is useless.

The only reason you want to deliver raw emotion is so you can inspire people. By inspiring people, you can get them to trust you and take action. Raw emotion allows you to get people to do stuff they never thought was possible.

Tony Robbins got in my face when I went to his seminar four years ago and he did that through raw emotion. He told his very personal family story and then showed me how anyone, from anywhere, can take their life to the next level.

If Tony didn’t share the full story or shared someone else’s story, I’m not sure the message would have stuck in my distracted little brain. It took raw emotion to get me out of my head and help me see my life for what it was. That life, by the way, was garbage and was based on my own selfish desires and an endless pursuit of money.

 

You feel different when you deliver raw emotion.

When I deliver a piece of content in words, video or speech that has raw emotion, I feel different. I feel that I have given it my all and I know I’ve pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. That’s because delivering raw emotion is uncomfortable no matter how many times you do it.

The thing is that when you don’t deliver raw emotion, you fall for one of the following:

– Copying someone else
– Holding back
– Being overcome by fear
– Feeling you didn’t give 110%

These feelings suck big time. You may as well do nothing if you aren’t going to give your pursuits in life a good crack. Go big, or stay home and think about your life properly.

 

Raw emotion is infectious. Stop working so damn hard!

I feel like right now, for the first time in my life, I’ve become a magnet for all the people I want to have in my life. I no longer have to work my ass off to influence people or pitch them my ideas. People come to me.

Not because I’m so special but because I deliver raw emotion. I tell the whole story and I don’t hold back. I used to have to reach out to people a lot and have these big paragraphs in my emails about all my achievements and the people I know.

Now I just link to my work that has raw emotion and what I say does the convincing / selling for me.

“This is me, and if you like it, then we should talk.”

That’s what I say in my head. There’s no BS sales pages or template emails. You can’t grab another one of me off the shelf and then copy and paste me.

The raw emotion I deliver is inside of me. You can see it in my eyes. You can see it in the way I stand. You can even see it in the words I type.

 

So what now Mr. Tim?

Well, I’ve told you the power of raw emotion. I’ve made it clear what it’s done to my life. I’ve explained how you can do the same.

Now it comes down to action. Action is the thing that people always tell themselves they will do but often never do. If you like the sound of what I’ve said about raw emotion sailor, then you need to try it for yourself. Test it out for a week and see what I mean.

Watch people look at you as an authority figure. See people’s reactions. Most of all, notice how you feel differently. Your whole life is put into perspective when you stop holding back and deliver the value you have inside of you with raw emotion.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, then build up the courage inside of you to deliver raw emotion.

Raw emotion is where it’s at. It’s the secret to how all of the people you are inspired by get to do what they love and reach lots of people.

Now it’s action time.

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10 Simple Steps for Self-Motivation

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Renowned American motivational speaker and author, Dr. Stephen R. Covey once remarked: “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” How do you define motivation?

There are two distinct types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic: Motivation that comes from within ourselves.
  • Extrinsic: Motivation that is derived from outside source such as a friend, colleagues, seniors at workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids and lots more.

Briefly, motivation can be described as a reason or cause by which a person or a group of people behave in a certain manner. The cause or the reason has to be extremely strong, and it often involves self interest.

Considering you have good and healthy plans that do not conflict with any laws, rules and regulations, staying motivated is quite easy. Basically, motivation is merely a state of mind. Utilized properly, it can take you to heights you may have never dreamed of.

However, our simple steps below will guide you on how to remain motivated at all times, despite any adversities you may encounter:

1. Goal Setting

Setting a goal for yourself is a time-tested and proven method to remain motivated. However, it is important to set realistic and achievable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you intend to achieve these goals.

There are three types of goals:

  • Short term goals: These may be achieved in a few weeks or a couple of months.
  • Mid-term goals: These usually take a year or two to achieve.
  • Long-term goals: Here you can include your career options, plans for marriage, buying a home or anything that takes a longer span of time.

2. Money matters

Regardless whether we like it or not, money does matter in remaining motivated. Here, we are not speaking about millions of dollars. We are saying that having sufficient funds to lead a decent life is a great motivator by itself. You can start by saving a healthy portion of your income daily or monthly.

3. Shun any loans

Undoubtedly, people encumbered with loans exhibit a tendency to lose motivation. The reason is simple:  A considerable portion of your earnings will go towards servicing whatever loans or credit card dues you have. Avoid getting into loans as much as possible, unless it is for some genuine and strong reason such as buying a home.

4. Stay with positive people

Generally, people with a positive mindset and attitude are the best motivators. Regardless of your situation, they will always try and uplift your state of mind. Such positive minded people will motivate you even if you are feeling low and beaten. Further, whenever you encounter negative thoughts, speak with such people by either meeting them or on phone.

5. Appreciate yourself first

Whenever you lose motivation, think of all the positive stuff you have done in the past and reflect on great experiences you have had. Also, remember all the adverse times you have been through and how you sailed out of them unharmed. Appreciating yourself for your achievements is a great motivational tool.

“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” – Alice Domar

6. Use mistakes as experiences

This means learning from your past mistakes, because as humans we are all prone to mistakes due to inherent defects or flaws in our character. Remember, mistakes are not final. They hold vital lessons for us. Most people tend to lose motivation when things go awry and desired results are not forthcoming.

7. Examine your motive

Once again, as Dr. Stephen R. Covey puts it, the key to motivation lies in the motive itself. Should your motives be good and in conformity with laws, motivation follows automatically. But beware, wrong motives can lead to misplaced motivation which can land even the most stable and sober person into deep trouble. Once your motives are positive and clear, motivation follows automatically.

8. Avoid getting over-stressed

Stress can be divided into two different categories:

  1. Negative stress: That arises out of negative actions, interacting with obnoxious people and lethargy or laziness, continuing exposure to painful or unpleasant situations and loneliness.
  2. Positive stress: Accrues by solving work related or domestic problems. Positive stress usually leaves you satisfied and happy once the issue has been resolved or after a hard day’s work.

Stress in daily life is imminent. Staying motivated helps you to remain motivated.

9. Choose to be happy

Now this may sound like a tall order for anyone encountering adverse situations. However, it is worthwhile to note, every bad situation always passes. Be aware that every bad circumstance will eventually vanish. Losing motivation will not help solve any problem and neither will worrying about something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer thought that every problem is temporary.

10. Chart your map

Sadly, most people embark on a project or endeavor without much heed to the end result. Instead, you can chart your own roadmap. Take an inventory about how you want to begin and why. This in itself is a great motivational factor. Simultaneously, bear in mind what is the exact objective or the end where your endeavor should culminate. Be fearless in your pursuit of your dreams and goals.

“I am happy because I’m grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.” – Will Arnett

It is worthwhile to remember, we all lose motivation at some point of life. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. Analyzing cause of losing motivation, understanding and finding ways and means to counter it, works miracles indeed. Lack of motivation, left untreated, can lead to mental ailments.

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