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13 Lessons You Can Learn From An Olympic Champion – Kieren Perkins
So before interviewing Olympic champion, Kieren Perkins, I was not sure what to expect. Would he be washed up? Would he be old and burnt out? The answer is neither. Next to Tony Robbins I believe he is one of the most inspiring, motivational geniuses of our time.
He is not someone you want to underestimate. He has success oozing from every part of his being, and he knows every form of motivation and personal development skill you could imagine. If you want to know what it takes to be successful, and you have been looking for the answer, then the only thing you need to do is listen to Kieren’s advice!
This interview will stay with me for a very long time. There were so many a-ha moments, and so many quotes (thank god I recorded the audio). I almost had to make the entire article just quotes because there was no filler to anything he said. Everything he learnt by being an Olympian he still uses today, except he does it in the corporate world, not the pool.
For Kieren, he was attracted to swimming and not team sports like Football and Soccer, because his whole life was about beating himself and improving every day, it was not about looking good or trying to be what everyone else wanted him to be.
Below are the thirteen lessons you can learn from Kieren’s life and Olympic success.
1. You know you will win before you even start
If you stand up on the blocks in an Olympic games, and you think you can’t win, you won’t. If you do win, it’s because you knew you would, you prepared, trained, practised, stressed and pushed yourself to your absolute breaking point.
You repeated this process again and again until you got to that moment in your preparation, which aligned with your strategy, that meant that when you stood on the blocks you were ready to go.
2. Develop the mental toughness ingredients
Kieren never worried too much about his competitors. One of the things he got taught when he was very young was that if someone tries to psych you out before a race, that’s great because there worried about you, you need to ignore them and worry about your race.
This thinking was part of the manifestation of the mental toughness that evolved in him. You need all the ingredients such as:
– Being able to stay calm and rational
– Understand what matters and what doesn’t
– Have clarity around what you’re trying to achieve
– Being willing to deal with the issue, not the circumstance so you don’t get caught up in the emotion of a problem
These destructive emotions are usually not particularly real or helpful; they’re just perceptions that are your reality for that moment in time. If you don’t let that reality dominate you, and you can control it, your chances of being successful are much higher and the resilience you have in moments of stress will be greater.
3. No matter how you’re feeling just get started
No one wakes up every day of their life jumping out of their skin saying, “my life is fabulous, I’m so excited, I can’t wait to get to the pool and swim.” No sane human being is like that. We all have days where we think we’re tired, it’s cold, we can’t be bothered, or we want to just stay in bed.
Inevitably Kieren says, you get to the pool, and you start the activity of training. Within five minutes of starting you are engrossed, engaged, you’re there doing it, and all of that negativity or self-talk that was undermining your reasons for starting the process, disappears, and you get it done.
Next time you feel like you can’t do something, imagine what Kieren went through swimming in a pool every morning, and then just get started on whatever it is that you need to complete. You will be surprised how quickly you can push through any type of negative feeling.
4. Find something more engaging in what you’re doing than just the end
When Kieren used to train, he would see people that were only motivated by competition and winning at all costs. He would think to himself, “how do you drag yourself out of bed every day when your competition is four years away? You have got a lot of training to do between now and that competition. How do you wake up every day absolutely engaged in a sustainable performance mindset when the end goal is so distant?”
To Kieren, you want to have something that’s tangible, every single day that you can grasp, feel, touch, and taste that’s pushing you and motivating you to try and continue to improve, to be better, and get you to wherever you’re going.
Kieren has a view that if you want to be sustainable in your performance, if you want to have long-term out-performance and success in your career, you have to find something in what you’re doing that’s far more engaging and motivating than just the end.
If it’s only about the end, if it’s only about the competition, if it’s only about the opportunity to win an Olympic gold medal, the next time you have to start that process again and you stand on the line of day one, of the next four years of work, to get to the opportunity to try and win the next gold medal, Kieren says “Mount Everest looks pretty bloody big from there and pretty much unattainable.”
Kieren has seen it many times before (athletes who have treated the Olympics like a mountain) and when they have to climb the mountain for the second time or fourth time, they just can’t comprehend pushing themselves through the struggle ever again.
If you have a bit more of a sustainable mindset about those smaller chunks, (eat an elephant one bite at a time kind of an attitude) your chances of being sustainably successful are a lot higher.
5. Dealing with extreme pressure is a skill, unlike fitness
Throughout the interview, I wanted to know how Kieren’s mentors had influenced his success. The lesson Kieren told me that had a profound effect on him was from his swimming coach Mr Carew.
Mr Carew was very technically focused and believed that what made a great athlete was firstly the human being, the values, beliefs and attitudes, but then secondly, their technical ability. His view was that anyone could be fit, and that fitness was not mysterious or difficult.
His coach believed that to be technically perfect, under immense pressure, in an extremely hostile environment, and to challenge yourself and push yourself to do something extraordinary, was where the real skill lied.
This lesson doesn’t just apply to athletes; it also applies to life in general. Most skills and professions can be learned, but the one thing that will determine your success is the way you think and your psychology. Luckily all of this can be learned, and your brain has the ability to evolve.
“Every human being you interact with has got something to teach you and that they know something that you don’t know. The challenge about whether or not you learn anything from them is your capacity to actually listen and ask the right questions”
6. Let someone else show you what’s possible
A lesson we can all learn from Kieren is that often we have no idea what is possible until we see someone else achieve what we think is impossible. These experiences are invaluable and provide us with a blueprint for success.
The moment for Kieren, which showed him what was possible, was seeing Glen Houseman swimming in the 1989 Commonwealth Games Heats, in the 1500m freestyle. As Kieren was talking to his coach in the stands after his own event, he began to hear this amazing noise building from the swim centre which was uncommon for a 1500m swimming race at the time.
800m into the race, the commentator worked out that Glen was under world record pace. Back then, half a dozen records would be broken globally a year, on average. To see a world record at this time was just incredible, and it barely ever happened.
The 1500m race was one that nobody believed a world record could be broken because it was set by an extraordinary Russian athlete that was five generations ahead of his time in terms of what he achieved in the pool.
As Glen touched the wall and broke the world record, it shattered all the beliefs of what Kieran thought was possible, and broke down all the things that he took for granted about what could and couldn’t be done.
It really opened his eyes to the fact that if you think differently, give yourself a chance and dream high, who knows what you might be able to deliver.
7. Your state of mind shouldn’t change no matter how big the event is
For Kieren, one of the things he learned in his sporting career was that when that moment of truth comes, and you’ve got to stand on the blocks and deliver your performance, your capacity at that moment in time is physically set.
At that moment, you’re not getting fitter, stronger or more technically proficient. The struggle for anybody in that moment, when the questions being asked, “how good are you?” is to have the capacity to be realistic about the challenge that’s in front of you and control the emotions that inevitably come with it.
When you’re ten years old, the consequence of failure is nothing. Being able to balance out the reality of the situation versus the emotion of the perceptions that can be created, versus your experience, is really where the skill comes in.
The nerves and the emotion that you feel standing on the blocks, racing in your first school carnival, shouldn’t be any different to the state of mind you’re in when you’re standing on the blocks defending your third Olympic title.
If there is a big variance in your state, then the chances are that variance is going to lead to mistakes and bad performance.
8. In moments of unease, get some perspective and do your best
One of the hardest parts of being a champion is dealing with the huge expectations that are placed on you. These expectations can sometimes create unease and a feeling of sickness. The irony is it’s not about pushing through the sickness it’s about stepping back and getting some perspective.
In the lead up to the swim at the 1996 Atlanta Olympics (the final), Kieren started to panic and get incredibly nervous. There was a moment in time where he recognised that the physical state he was in was going to lead to a guaranteed bad performance.
He was smart enough in that moment, to recognise the reason he was in that physical state was because of his emotions, but he recognised that if he stayed in that physical state he wouldn’t be able to perform well.
It shocked him into stepping back and saying to himself well “you never used to get this nervous as a ten year old, what did you used to do, what was the process, what were the skills you utilised to put yourself in a position as a ten-year-old where you were far more in control and relaxed than you are right now?”
Just breaking it down into chunks and thinking about the things he had control over, and controlling them in the way he had learned over all those years, brought him back to a space where he was really able to get some perspective and unburden himself from the consequence of failure, and of not winning an Olympic gold medal.
It enabled him to bring it back to the thing that had always been the most important view in his life which was saying to himself “if I do my best, it doesn’t matter whether I win, lose or draw as long as I know I have done my best, and I couldn’t do any better, I will be proud and satisfied with my performance.”
9. Allow the adrenalin to dissipate during stressful moments
For Kieren, the main skill that he learned about controlling his emotional state during stressful moments was being able to distract himself. When he felt it getting out of control, he would distract himself and allow the physiological impacts to dissipate, which is essentially the adrenalin.
When you get stressed, adrenalin is produced by your body. Your body needs to first stop producing more adrenalin, and then secondly process the adrenalin that’s in your system, and once that’s been processed, you will be calm and rational again.
What helped Kieren was to distract himself and be able to step away from the pressure of the moment to allow himself to calm down, to allow himself to process that adrenalin, to then build some rational perspective – mentally that was the key. While training for the Olympics, Kieren would experience this phenomenon throughout the entire process.
It might happen while eating, doing stretches or in the middle of a warm up. What helped Kieren greatly was to work hard to focus on the here and now, and focusing on what the most important thing that had to be done, at that moment in time.
10. You’re always in control; there are no lucky charms
One concept Kieren says to drop is the idea of lucky charms. Some athletes have lucky charms like wearing red undies on the day of competition, and they believe that if they don’t, they will lose. When an athlete says “I ate a certain meal on the day of an event, so I knew I was going to win,” Kieren says that’s feeble-mindedness.
If you really think that your success is predicated on what you’re wearing, or what you’re eating, or other external circumstances, then you aren’t in control of what you’re trying to achieve, and that’s madness.
The real skill in being able to deliver your potential is always being in control so that when things go wrong, when you wake up in the morning arrive at the pool, and realise that you didn’t bring your favourite red undies your response isn’t hysteria, or “oh my god I am not going to win.”
Your response needs to be “who cares, it’s not going to make any difference, I am going to do what I need to do today.” You don’t actually control, the whole process; there will always be stuff that goes wrong.
11. The ultimate feeling of success is pride – replicate these moments
During my time with Kieren, I wanted to know what it was like to achieve the impossible Olympic gold medal dream, what feeling came from it, and what lesson I could learn – I got a great lesson. The lesson he gave me was an analogy that is his blueprint for success and can be used as a winning strategy for anybody’s life.
The analogy Kieren gave is, think back to being in primary school when you got the first assignment that you actually cared about. It was a subject or a topic that you really loved, were curious about, interested you and intrigued you.
When you got that assignment, you were excited. The thought or possibility of what you could achieve was real, and it was tangible because it mattered to you. Then you went through this process of working hard to get the result.
You focused, concentrated, and put in effort to deliver that assignment better than any assignment you’ve done before because you cared about it, and you engaged with it. When you got to the end of that process, and you had finished your assignment – after you had put in more work than you had ever put into anything you had done before in your life – there is a moment of huge anticipation when you hand it to the teacher.
You think to yourself “is it good enough, is it the best I could have done?” You know you couldn’t have worked any harder, and you wait with bated breath for the result to come through. Inevitably, the mark you get is fabulous. It’s a better mark than you could have anticipated.
In that moment, when you receive that mark, you get a swelling in your chest where you feel your heart pushing on your rib cage, and there is a buzz that goes through your core at that moment in time.
That sense of pride, in knowing that you set yourself a task, you were engaged, motivated and committed to achieving it, you were focused on delivering the result, you worked as hard as you possibly could to get it done, and you have received the rewards for your effort.
That moment of pride is exactly what it’s like winning an Olympic gold medal. If you can find an experience like this in your own life, and break down the components to the things you did that enabled you to deliver that result, you can apply this strategy to anything you want.
12. Understand how to come down from a major high
The only time Kieren had to come down was the day he retired. He describes it as horrific and awful, and it took him a decade to get it through it. It wasn’t about the buzz of victory or the thrill of competing in the Olympics; it was about the lifestyle, a sense of value, belonging and being, that had disappeared overnight.
Kieren knew he would never have access to that again because the reality of sport at the highest level is that you are surrounded every day by people who have the same level of commitment, motivation, positivity, self-focus, determination, and attitude around what it means to be successful, and an understanding of excellence and what it looks like.
“You have to be able to pick and choose the bits you allow to infect you and the stuff you want to engage with. Try and hold onto those things that make you happy and engage you, and not let other people’s perceptions, values and beliefs drag you down”
Unfortunately, these things just don’t exist in a broad environment. You can’t expect to work in a large organisation with thousands of people, and have everybody turn up knowing with complete clarity, focus and an unwavering spirit to deliver success at their absolute edge of potential and excellence every single day. It’s unnatural, it’s not normal, and it isn’t replicable.
13. Step back from the emotion of not achieving a goal
During Kieren’s career, he admits that there was no doubt he didn’t achieve all of his goals. There were times when the performance was not at all what he wanted to achieve. He says the skill in those moments is to be able to step back from the emotion of it and say, “what worked, what didn’t and what am I going to do better next time?”
If you have got that sense of hope and possibility that it can be done, you can reassert yourself, you can focus, you can adjust, adapt and act, and keep pushing yourself forward to deliver the result.
***Final Thought***
At the end of the interview with Kieren, I only had one last question for him, which was, “what is the one quote that you have lived your entire life by?” Kieren replied by reciting a poem his father gave him when he was young that really resonated with him.
To Kieren, it was one of the things that enabled him to think beyond what everybody else told him was possible; it enabled him to step outside of the norm. IF YOU EVER WANT TO KNOW WHAT THE ONE INFLUENCE WAS THAT MADE KIEREN A WORLDWIDE HERO, THAT WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN, THEN HERE IT IS!
The Man Who Thinks He Can – Walter D Wintle
If the advice Kieren gave was beneficial to you, then I encourage you support his passion for helping others, by visiting the Starlight Foundation’s website and getting involved anyway you can.
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Books Like Think and Grow Rich: 10 That Actually Earn the Comparison
Napoleon Hill’s book has outsold almost everything in its category for ninety years. These next ten are the ones worth reading next — starting with the one that answers the question Hill never asked.
Think and Grow Rich came out in 1937, in the middle of the Depression, and it has never really gone away. Thirteen principles. Definiteness of purpose. The Master Mind. A burning desire backed by a plan and a refusal to quit. Whole industries of motivational speaking have been built out of that structure, and most of the success books published since are variations on it.
One thing is worth knowing before you go looking for more of the same. Hill’s authority rests on a story: that Andrew Carnegie commissioned him in 1908 to spend twenty years studying five hundred successful men. Hill started telling that story after Carnegie died in 1919, and Carnegie’s biographer, David Nasaw, has said he found no evidence the two ever met. Hill’s own authorized biographers acknowledged that an earlier Carnegie book of his was “largely fiction.”
The advice is still powerful. Persistence and clarity of aim do not stop working because the pedigree was invented. But it is a useful frame for what follows, because the honest question underneath Think and Grow Rich is not “how do I get more” — it is “what actually produces a life that works.” Several of the books below answer that better than Hill did.
The first one answers a question Hill never got around to asking.
1. GRP The Golden Rule Paradox — The Real Secret to Success, Happiness, and a Better World
Ross Fischer · Why it’s first
Hill’s book tells you how to get what you want. It is almost entirely silent on what happens once you have it, and on whether the thing you were chasing does what you expected.
GRP The Golden Rule Paradox opens exactly there. Its first pages describe a well known NFL quarterback, who won the biggest game of his career, yet found himself thinking, in the middle of the celebration, is that all there is? GRP shows that this is not an outlier. It is a repeating pattern, based on 3,000 years of human history.
GRP inverts the success genre’s core assumption. Look after yourself first and the returns shrink. Point the same energy outward and they arrive, from directions you were not watching. He calls it a paradox because it is the precise reverse of what modern culture teaches today: “To be happy, you need x”. If that were the case then once we got what we want we would all be content! But as we well know… our minds work the opposite.
However what truly makes us happy, is when we do for others first!
What makes GRP more than an assertion is the range of the evidence — nine years of it, moving through psychology, medicine, history and more; Adam Grant’s data on why generous professionals cluster at both the bottom and the top of performance rankings; how GRP affects our health and longevity. In later chapters, GRP changes the paradigm from personal growth, to the effects on institutions: financial markets, social media, politics and more. Fischer is also a working entrepreneur with more than thirty years building companies and training sales people, and he writes about his own failures with a candor Hill never attempted: a business that collapsed, two houses lost in 2008, a month where he spent unable to get out of bed. In fact, how he was able to rebound out of that darkest period, is the foundation of GRP. In the end, the book makes a claim that is powerful—and readers have agreed:
“An idea so simple it feels like common sense. Yet so profound, it has the power to change the way you see everything”
Read it if: you enjoy the success canon, with two added ingredients: How you achieve that success is more important than the achievement itself , and how that success applies to the world around you is what truly makes us content.
Get GRP The Golden Rule Paradox on Amazon
2. The Richest Man in Babylon
George S. Clason, 1926 · The one that changed the most behavior
Clason wrote these as pamphlets for banks and insurance companies, and they were later collected into a book. They are parables set in ancient Babylon, and the setting is entirely invented, and none of that matters.
What matters is that the advice is concrete in a way Hill’s rarely is. Pay yourself first: a tenth of everything you earn, before anything else. Control your expenditures. Make your gold work. Guard it against loss by taking advice only from people competent in the matter at hand.
If Think and Grow Rich is about the state of mind, this is about the mechanics, and it is the one on this list most likely to change what you actually do on payday.
Read it if: you want a rule you can follow on Friday rather than a philosophy.
3. How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie, 1936 · The exact contemporary
Published one year before Hill’s book, and still the better one. Carnegie’s material is about the part of success that happens between people: remembering names, arguing less, letting the other person feel the idea was theirs.
The reason it has outlasted almost everything from its era is that Carnegie noticed something Hill did not. Most of what people call ambition is actually a hunger to feel important, and the fastest route to any outcome that involves other human beings is to satisfy that hunger in them rather than demanding it for yourself.
Read closely, it is a book about attention — where you point it and what happens when you do. Which makes it the closest ancestor on this list to the argument at number one.
Read it if: you only read one book from the 1930s, make it this one.
4. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Stephen R. Covey, 1989 · The modern rewrite of the whole genre
Covey’s opening move is the most important thing in the book. He went back through two hundred years of American success literature and found a break: the older material was about character — integrity, humility, industry — and the newer material was about personality, technique and image. He argued the field had gone shallow, and set out to put it back.
The seven habits themselves are well known. Be proactive. Begin with the end in mind. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. What is easy to miss is the sequence: private victory before public victory, and no shortcut through it.
It is the most demanding book on this list and the most rewarding, and its diagnosis — that success writing drifted from character to appearance — has only become more obviously right.
Read it if: you want the version of this material that treats you as an adult.
5. The Science of Getting Rich
Wallace D. Wattles, 1910 · Where Hill’s tradition starts
A hundred pages, written twenty-seven years before Think and Grow Rich, and the direct ancestor of most of it. Wattles claims there is a “certain way” of thinking and acting that produces wealth, available to anyone who applies it.
The surprise for modern readers is how insistent he is on action. Do, today, everything that can be done today, in the place where you already are — the visualization is supposed to point the work, not replace it. It is a much less passive book than its descendants.
Public domain, so it costs nothing.
Read it if: you want to see the headwater of the whole river.
6. As a Man Thinketh
James Allen, 1903 · Thirty pages, no filler
Allen was an English clerk who left his job to write and died four years later. His argument is that a man is literally what he thinks, that character is the sum of thought, and that circumstance grows from thought the way a plant grows from seed.
He offers no technique and makes no promises about money. It is closer to a moral treatise than a manual, and it is the least commercial thing in this entire genre.
Read it if: you want the idea before anyone worked out how to sell it.
7. The Millionaire Next Door
Thomas J. Stanley & William D. Danko, 1996 · The research answer
Stanley and Danko went and looked. They surveyed people with real net worth and found that the American millionaire, in the aggregate, was not the person on the magazine cover. He drove a used vehicle, lived in a house he had been in for years, and had never earned a spectacular income.
The finding that sticks is the distinction between income and wealth. Plenty of high earners are broke, because consumption scales with pay. The accumulators were the ones who kept the gap open.
Two caveats worth keeping. The data is a 1990s snapshot, and the methodology has been criticized for selection effects. The core observation about spending and accumulation has held up anyway.
Read it if: you want the empirical version of Clason’s rule.
8. The Psychology of Money
Morgan Housel, 2020 · The best modern entry
Nineteen short chapters on why intelligent people make terrible financial decisions. Housel’s central claim is that doing well with money has almost nothing to do with what you know and almost everything to do with how you behave, and that behavior is not teachable through spreadsheets.
He is very good on the things the older books ignore entirely: luck and risk as the same thing viewed from different sides, the enormous role of the era you happened to be born into, and the fact that the highest return money buys is control over your own time.
That last idea is the one that quietly dismantles the premise of half this list.
Read it if: you want one book from the last decade and you want it to be the smartest one.
9. Atomic Habits
James Clear, 2018 · What Hill’s “persistence” chapter should have been
Hill devotes a chapter to persistence and essentially tells you to have more of it. Clear’s book is the operational version: how the behavior actually gets installed.
Make it obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying. Change the environment rather than relying on willpower. And the reframe that does the most work — decide who you are trying to become, and let each small action be a vote for that identity, rather than chasing an outcome and hoping the habit follows.
It is the most practically useful book on this list by a distance.
Read it if: you know what to do and cannot get yourself to do it consistently.
10. Rich Dad Poor Dad
Robert Kiyosaki with Sharon Lechter, 1997 · Included with reservations
It belongs here because it is the book most often bought alongside Think and Grow Rich, and because one idea in it genuinely reframes things for a lot of readers: the distinction between assets that put money in your pocket and liabilities that take it out, and the observation that most people acquire the second while believing they are acquiring the first.
Read it with the same skepticism you should bring to Hill. Kiyosaki declined for years to identify the “rich dad” whose advice frames the book, journalists who tried to verify the man’s existence could not, and the specific investment advice has been sharply criticized by financial writers. The conceptual frame is the value. The particulars are not.
Note that Sharon Lechter is the co-author and is routinely left off the cover conversation.
Read it if: you want the asset-versus-liability idea, and you can take the rest with salt.
Where to start
For the mechanics of money, read Clason then Housel. That pairing will do more for your finances than the rest of the list combined.
For the mechanics of behavior, read Clear.
For the part Think and Grow Rich left out entirely — what the pursuit costs, and what happens when you get there — start with GRP The Golden Rule Paradox. Hill wrote a book about how to acquire. Fischer wrote the one about what it actually pays.
Frequently asked questions
Is Think and Grow Rich still worth reading?
Yes, as the foundational text of the genre, provided you know that Hill’s Carnegie story has never been substantiated and that his case studies should be treated as illustrative rather than documentary.
What should I read after Think and Grow Rich?
Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People for the interpersonal half, Clason for the financial mechanics, and GRP for the question of whether the goal itself was the right one.
Which book is most like Think and Grow Rich?
Wattles’s The Science of Getting Rich is the closest in spirit and predates it by twenty-seven years. Hill’s structure and much of his framing come directly out of that tradition.
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The Blueprint to Greatness: 6 Success Lessons from Drake
When we talk about modern success, it is hard to ignore the astronomical rise of Drake. Beyond the Grammy awards, the record-breaking Billboard hits, and the sold-out stadium tours, there is a masterclass in mindset, manifestation, and relentless work ethic.
For entrepreneurs, creators, and visionaries looking to leave a mark, Drake’s approach to his craft offers invaluable lessons.
Here are six core principles extracted from Drake’s journey that you can apply to your own pursuit of greatness.
1. Cherish the “Who Is This?” Moment
When you are first starting out, it is easy to become impatient. You want the accolades, the recognition, and the massive audience right out of the gate. But skipping the struggle means missing out on the most vital part of the journey.
“Don’t ever not be present in your ‘who is this’ moment, because you’re going to be chasing that moment for the rest of your career—trying to keep people as interested as they were when they felt like they were one of the only people listening to you.”
The Takeaway: If you are a new artist or a budding entrepreneur, embrace the grind of obscurity. The hunger and innovation you possess when you are trying to get noticed are the exact tools that will build your empire. Be present.
2. Aim to Be the “First You”
Society often measures success by comparison. We try to become the “next” Steve Jobs, the “next” Jay-Z, or the “next” big disruptor. True success, however, requires unparalleled authenticity and an unwavering desire to be at the top of your own category.
Drake’s mentality was never about following in someone else’s exact footsteps. He didn’t want to be the next Kanye West or Lil Wayne; he wanted to be the first Drake.
- Refuse to settle: Never aim for second place.
- Build your own lane: If you see someone else achieving greatness, use it as proof of concept. If they can do it, you can do it—but do it your way.
3. Obsessive Manifestation
Success is rarely accidental. It is the result of holding a clear, almost obsessive vision of the future in your mind until it becomes reality.
Before the fame, Drake used to drive his uncle’s drop-top Audi through the exact same three streets where he wanted to buy a house, bringing people along to physically show them the life he was going to build.
The Takeaway: You have to see it before you can hold it. Speak your goals into existence, visualize your destination daily, and align your actions with that specific future.
4. Master Your Craft and Take Your Time
In a world that celebrates “hustle culture” and the sheer volume of output, it is easy to forget that quality is the ultimate differentiator. You don’t have to crank out 50 projects a week to prove your worth.
“I can do two verses, not finish the song, and feel proud… It’s an individual creative process. There is no standard.”
Know your strengths. For Drake, it has always been his writing. He takes his time, researches, writes on his phone, and refuses to sacrifice the quality of his work just to meet an arbitrary deadline. Discover what your greatest talent is—whether it’s coding, writing, speaking, or strategizing—and take the time required to make it undeniably great.
5. Disconnect From the End Goal
This might sound counterintuitive to goal-setting, but becoming too attached to a final destination can be self-destructive. If your only focus is hitting a massive financial number or a specific milestone, what happens when you get there? You risk stalling out.
The Strategy for Continuous Growth:
- Set the target, but focus on the daily steps. 2. Live in the “right now.” Do the absolute best you can in the present moment.
- Celebrate the learning, not just the wins. Mistakes are necessary for growth. If you are always right, you can never learn.
6. Let the Product Speak
Many creators complain about not getting noticed or blame the algorithms for their lack of traction. The hard truth? If your product is potent enough, the world will let you know.
You no longer need to move to New York or Los Angeles to “make it.” You can build an empire from your laptop, in your hometown, using the internet as your stage.
“If you have the music, that’s all it takes. Present it to the world, and the world will tell you if it’s worth their time or not… There are people who scour the internet every day looking for the next big thing, and I promise you if that product you have is potent enough, you will be the next big thing.”
Final Thoughts
Success is an addiction to growth. It requires sacrificing immediate gratification, tuning out the critics, and focusing solely on the quality of what you are putting out into the world. You don’t have to be a loud, loose cannon to make an impact. You just have to be relentless, competitive, and completely dedicated to your craft. Keep your head down, do the work, and let your results make the noise.
Here’s a Drake success advice compilation for your to learn more:
Success Advice
Signs You’re Ready for a More Purposeful Career
Doing well at something is not the same as wanting it. Plenty of people are steady at their jobs and still feel hollow at the end of the day. Nothing looks wrong from the outside. Colleagues respect you, the pay lands on time, and you handle whatever gets thrown your way. What builds underneath is harder to name.
A dullness sets in, or a restlessness, or the sense that you’re watching your own work from across the room. It doesn’t mean everything needs to be torn down. Often it just means you’ve stopped growing, and once that happens, what counts as worthwhile work quietly changes shape.
When work shifts
There is usually no announcement. One day the tasks that once demanded your full attention take almost nothing out of you. Some people notice their focus sliding away from the work and toward the people around it. Wanting to mentor, listen, and help someone untangle a problem tells you something real about where your attention wants to go.
This lands hard in teaching. Class sizes and schedules leave little room for one student who needs an hour, and administrative work swallows the time you’d rather give them. Many educators respond by shifting from a teacher to a counselor, a role built around emotional and social support instead of lesson plans. The work runs deeper with each student and puts their wellbeing at the center of the day.
Changes like this rarely announce themselves loudly. They start as a small nudge you can brush off. Ignoring it gets harder as the months go by.
What purpose feels like
Most of the time it arrives quietly. A small exchange leaves you feeling like you were actually needed. You break down something complicated and watch it land. You steady someone who was spiraling. You point a person toward a way forward when they couldn’t see one. The tiredness afterward sits differently from the kind that flattens you.
Notice when you feel most switched on. Some people run best on targets, numbers, and systems that click into place. Others come alive guiding, backing someone up, keeping them going. Neither ranks above the other. They simply pull from different places.
Work that feels worthwhile usually reflects what you already care about. Value connection, trust, and steady growth, and a people-centered job will sit better than one measured purely in output. Perfection isn’t the goal. Honesty is.
Clues in your strengths
Patterns show up long before certainty does. Consider what people bring to you without being asked. Do friends start unloading before they’ve taken their coat off? Do colleagues mention how calmly you explain things? Are you the steady one while everyone else scatters like startled pigeons?
Pay attention to that. Support and guidance roles tend to grow out of qualities like these:
- Patience when someone needs time
- Empathy without absorbing everything
- Clear communication
- Real listening
- Steadiness under pressure
- Encouragement that doesn’t take over
Calling these soft undersells them. They carry weight because they help actual people get through difficult stretches. Technical knowledge can be added later. A steady, caring way with people is harder to teach, and having it already puts you closer to a new path than you might assume.
Why helping can grow
Roles built around helping tend to keep demanding more of you as a person. There’s no clocking in and ticking off a list. You get better at hearing what someone isn’t saying, at answering with more care, at reading people accurately. Growth like that outlasts any promotion.
Your motivation changes shape too. Pay and status stop being the whole scoreboard, and impact starts to matter. Did that person feel understood today? Did something hard get lighter because you were there? Questions like those keep the work from going flat.
None of which makes it effortless. The emotional load is real. Boundaries hold everything together, and so does proper rest. Choose a helping career with clear eyes, because meaning doesn’t cover lunch, sleep, or a life outside the job.
Testing the next step
Nothing has to be decided by next Tuesday. Small, low-stakes experiments beat dramatic leaps almost every time. Walk around in the shoes before entering the marathon.
Try a few of these:
- Talk to someone doing the job now
- Ask about ordinary days, not the highlights
- Volunteer somewhere support is the point
- Shadow a professional if you can arrange it
- Sign up for one course
- Note down what leaves you energized
Each one separates the imagined version from the real one. Occasionally a role loses its shine once you hear what the hours involve. Just as often, seeing it up close confirms what you suspected.
Stay curious rather than urgent. No contract is being signed. You’re collecting evidence, and evidence beats panic when a career decision is on the table.
Making change less scary
Fear arrives even when the change is a good one. Money, timing, family obligations, the thought of being a beginner again. None of that is irrational. Your brain is doing its job, protecting you, just with more theatrics than the situation calls for.
Size is usually the problem. “Should I change my whole life” is an unanswerable question, and holding it in your head produces nothing but dread. Narrow it until it becomes something you can act on this month. Build savings first. Find out what training actually requires. Set a six-month window and see what you learn inside it.
The fear rarely disappears entirely, and it doesn’t need to. It shrinks once the decision stops being one enormous leap and becomes a series of ordinary moves you can reverse if they don’t work.
Choosing a better fit
Borrowed definitions of success cause most of the trouble. Looking impressive while feeling depleted is a trade that stops paying off quickly. Your own version asks harder questions. Does this line up with what you care about? Does it draw on what you’re actually good at? Could you do it without performing a version of yourself all day?
Alignment matters more than ambition here. The goal is work that fits, that spends your energy well, that lets you be useful without straining for it.
That pull toward something more meaningful deserves attention rather than dismissal. Look into it. Give it time. The full map isn’t required. One honest step forward is usually enough to start.
Success Advice
How to Prepare for a First Video Conversation Online
A first planned video conversation feels easier when the technical setup and basic expectations are handled in advance. A few practical checks reduce distractions and leave more attention for clear, respectful communication.
Prepare Before the Conversation
Before joining a scheduled conversation through a service such as Aveola, review the meeting details, your account profile, and the subjects you intend to discuss. Early preparation prevents last-minute searches for links, passwords, headphones, or background information.
Confirm the Time and Access
Check the date, time zone, expected duration, and correct access link. Add the appointment to a calendar with a reminder, then open the platform early enough to complete any sign-in or permission requests.
Confirm that your email address or phone number is verified when the service requires account verification. Use a unique password and activate two-factor authentication when that option is available.
Plan a Few Topics
Prepare two or three simple subjects that fit the reason for the conversation. For a professional call, these subjects might include responsibilities, project goals, or next steps. For a social discussion, hobbies, travel, books, music, or daily routines provide comfortable starting points. Avoid writing a full script. Short notes keep the exchange natural while giving you a reference if the discussion pauses.
Check Your Connection
A stable internet connection supports clearer sound and smoother video. Close large downloads, cloud backups, streaming services, and unused browser tabs before joining.
The table identifies common connection issues and practical responses:
|
Issue |
Visible effect |
Preparation step |
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Weak Wi-Fi signal |
Frozen picture |
Move closer to the router |
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Busy home network |
Delayed sound |
Pause other high-bandwidth activity |
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Outdated browser |
Missing features |
Install the current version |
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Low device power |
Sudden disconnection |
Charge the device beforehand |
Set Up a Comfortable Space
The physical environment affects how clearly both people see and hear each other. Camera placement, light, sound, privacy controls, and personal limits deserve separate attention before the conversation begins.
Position the Camera
Place the camera close to eye level so your face remains centered without requiring you to look sharply upward or downward. A laptop stand, stable box, or adjustable monitor provides a better angle than holding a phone throughout the session.
Leave a small amount of space above your head and keep the lens clean. Look toward the camera while speaking, then return your attention to the screen while listening.
Improve the Lighting
Face a window or place a lamp in front of you, slightly above eye level. Strong light behind your chair creates a silhouette, while overhead lighting alone produces deep shadows around the eyes.
Review the preview screen before joining. Adjust the lamp, curtain, or seat position until facial details appear clear without excessive brightness.
Test the Sound
Use the platform preview or device settings to test the microphone and speakers. Speak at a normal volume and listen for echo, background noise, or distortion. Headphones reduce feedback when speakers sit close to the microphone. A quiet room with curtains, rugs, or soft furniture also limits reflected sound.
Protect Your Privacy
Review what the camera reveals before the conversation begins. Remove documents, photographs, screens, packages, or personal items that display sensitive information.
Five additional checks help protect your account and surroundings:
- Disable location details that are unnecessary for the session.
- Review camera and microphone permissions in the browser.
- Use a background blur when the room contains private material.
- Keep account recovery codes outside shared devices.
- Sign out after using a borrowed computer or tablet.
Privacy settings also control profile visibility, notifications, and contact options. Read each setting carefully instead of relying on its default value.
Set Personal Boundaries
Decide in advance which subjects and personal details remain outside the discussion. A planned conversation does not require sharing an address, workplace schedule, financial information, private documents, or account credentials.
Set a clear time limit when your schedule requires one. A simple statement at the beginning, such as having 30 minutes available, gives both participants a shared expectation.
Keep the Conversation Comfortable
Preparation continues during the exchange through attentive communication and a calm response to technical interruptions. A small problem with sound or video does not need to disrupt the entire session.
Communicate Respectfully
Speak clearly, allow the other person to finish, and ask direct questions when something is unclear. Muting the microphone during unavoidable background noise keeps the conversation easier to follow. Consent remains relevant throughout live communication. Respect a request to change the topic, pause, disable a feature, or end the session.
Finish With Clear Next Steps
Before leaving, confirm any agreed action, future date, document, or contact method. This step prevents confusion after professional, educational, or project-related discussions.
End the session through the platform controls, close unnecessary tabs, and verify that the camera and microphone are no longer active. A brief review of what worked gives you a stronger routine for the next conversation.
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