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What If You Could Get Drunk On Life Instead?

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Getting drunk is to experience a high and be around people who are doing the same thing. You feel invincible and like anything is possible. You forget to think about the decisions you are about to make, and everybody is your best friend.

So why can’t we live this way and do all these things without alcohol? This is the question I have been pondering. It’s hit me several times in the last year, and I have literally experienced the drunken feeling without the alcohol.

By manufacturing a high through drinking rather than doing it through your passion, you’re forcing yourself to experience struggle during the in-between moments of your escapades.

The three things you need to be drunk on life are:

1. Phenomenal people

Positive feelings can be amplified when you mix the right bunch of people together. The type of people who don’t winge about what’s on the local news and just get on with life.

The type of people who dream big and don’t care if their idea get’s shot down. We’ve all had glimpses of being around the right people but what if you made it your mission to be around them constantly? For me, I’ve found that those chills you get down your spine happen more often.

It’s because of the people (and those chills) that I have been sober for nineteen months. Being around the right people doesn’t always happen by accident, though. You need to focus on being in proximity to them.

It’s for this reason why I’m going to start hanging out at the beach more often and going to places like Sydney on the weekends. Finding the right crowd can help you bring on the drunken feeling of life much quicker.

“It’s an absolute nirvana to have game changers around you”

2. A passion for something

Living through our passion is another key component of being drunk on life. Being around situations where you’re close to things you are passionate about helps raise the drunkenness levels. Passion becomes like a magnet to us once we have a vague idea what it is.

For me, I can’t always pinpoint my passion, but I know when I’m close to it. States of flow come much easier when you’re close to your passion, and this is very close to being drunk on life. Seeing a DJ on a stage in front of thousands of people is one of those moments.

Someone like Steve Aoki is not on that stage because he’s escaping his problems he’s on that stage because music is his passion and it oozes out of his body. He’s so drunk on life that you’d think for a minute that he might need drugs to feel like that. The good news is he is just like me: a sober, green juice drinking, life junkie.

3. The right atmosphere

Certain places will help us get drunk on life. Pick locations that inspire you and spend as much time in these places as you can. Atmosphere can do wonders for bringing out that drunken feeling. Maybe it’s at the beach or on stage performing.

You’ll know when you’re at the right spot because you will find that you do your best thinking there. Making decisions in these locations will be far easier. I like to do my best decision-making at seminars or in foreign countries like the USA.

In these spots, I’m out of my comfort zone and away from the typical people that might influence me. I have far less certainty, and chances are I’m doing things that I didn’t think were possible. It’s in this atmosphere that I do my best work and am able to get drunk on life.

Water drinking club night

You become a Jedi Master though when you don’t even need these three things. I’m not there yet, but that’s my goal.

The other night I went to a high-end club for entrepreneurs. It’s not normally not my thing, but I thought it was worth experiencing. The whole night I didn’t drink a drop and had a bottle of water in my hand. I had some amazing conversations and was on autopilot in the sense that I just forgot alcohol was even present.

At the very end of the night, someone asked me why I wasn’t drinking, and I had to remind myself because I honestly didn’t realise it. I was so high on life and quality conversations that the need to numb any pain in my life just wasn’t there.

I then explained my usual near miss with cancer story as the reason for my non-drinking. While that forms part of it, I think the reason I gave up drinking to be high on life is a little bit more than that.

“The reason I gave up drinking I think was more about following my dream than anything else”

It’s about being different and not living up to societies expectation of what fun is or how to have a good time. Not drinking makes me stand out and I’ve noticed lots of influential people do the same (not saying I’m one of them).

Drinking water helps me feel hydrated, and it gives me the energy I need to let out raw emotion. It helps me to deliver stories that emphasise my passion and create a connection that social media can never do.

We have so much potential, yet we leave so much on the table because we haven’t learned to get high on life. By changing our focus towards acknowledging positive feelings, and putting aside the negative ones for that moment when we need motivation, we allow ourselves to get drunk on life.

Everything starts to feel surreal and our success compounds. People that are normally out of reach suddenly become so much more accessible without even realising it. The key to having more money and being more successful is being drunk on life.

People that get drunk on life play the game differently, and that’s something that everyone wants to be a part of. We’re starving to feel more emotion and our addictions come about because of our boredom.

I’ve realised that when I get bored, I do all the stupid things like drinking. A sense of direction and purpose is what stops us from getting stuck in the lifestyle that makes our existence be wasted. There is only one opportunity for us to be fantastic at life and that’s right now.

Growth

Being drunk on life requires us to get addicted to growth. Growth is where we try at least one new thing each day rather than only have a set routine of habits that cause us to get caught in a whirlwind of predictable circumstances.

The art of growth doesn’t only occur in new situations; it also occurs when we try to do the same thing we once failed at again, using a different strategy. An example for me is business. I tried once before and failed, but that was because I lacked the mindset to succeed.

Now I’m having another go and trying to put people first. I now understand that it’s teams of great people that build businesses and not some get rich quick scheme. It takes a significant amount of growth to change from the old mindset you’ve had to a new one that allows you to get drunk on life.

It’s not an easy journey but it’s one that will give you all the feelings that you’ve felt you have missed out on up until now. What you’re missing out on is life if you’re not drunk on it. Consume and enjoy life the way you would have ten Coroners in a row at a concert.

The concept of getting drunk is the same; you just need to apply the same toolkit to a different vehicle called life.

Imagine

Think about for a minute what it would be like to have that drunk feel every day without the abuse to your body. To have those bursts of energy that make you do crazy things and maybe even ask out the man or woman of your dreams (I should probably take action on this one).

When you’re drunk on life, you’re not scared. You imagine something and then you do it and think about the consequences later. Imagine how influential you could be to a new generation of people if you only mastered the art of being drunk on life.

Do you think you could get drunk on life? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.
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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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