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This Is the Year You Move Into Your More

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Do you have a big bold goal you have been wanting to accomplish? On the heels of the year we had in 2020, it may seem insurmountable. In the 25+ years, I have been coaching my clients to bankroll their brilliance, I have learned that so many people want more but are scared to get it!

I am talking about people who are ALREADY successful. You already have the career you always wanted. Matter of fact, you have the corner office, the title, and the expense account. You have it all and yet you feel like something is missing. However, because you are already successful, you feel guilty for wanting more. Does that sound familiar? 

Well, can I tell you that the reason you have that rumble in your belly is because you’re done with where you are. Your bio or resume is complete and so it’s time to permit yourself to stop settling for what you’ve already accomplished!  Yes, there is MORE for you to do!

The sad truth is that most people believe that going after that rumble in your belly, which is tied to your purpose by the way, is only for a select few. They spend their days in a career that is good enough, focus on climbing the corporate ladder or going after a larger paycheck instead of actually going after the rumble inside their belly which is their heart desire! Well, if you are ready for 2021 to be the year you go after your big bold dream, here are the three steps that will help you achieve it.

1. Be Willing To Do It Afraid!

What I hear from most people about going after what’s next is that they are scared. They are scared that they won’t reach the same success they have already obtained as they transition to this new way of exercising their gift. Well to that, I say ANYTHING you do that is great WILL BE SCARY! Ask Ava DuVernay, a little black girl from Compton who accomplished one insurmountable goal of being a publicist in Hollywood. To leave that career to go after her MORE and follow her REAL passion of becoming a director.

Let me tell you that when you are already successful, often times, it is THAT success that’s in your way. You see, the ranks you climbed to get to where you are can keep you in ‘‘good enough,’’ if you let it. Understand that feeling afraid is a normal part of the process. Your MORE is a new place you have never been before, so because of that, it’s going to be scary.

Just don’t let that fear paralyze you from moving toward your goals. Your comfort zone can keep you in very predictable spaces. Matter of fact, your comfort zone is where dreams go to die! So, don’t stay where you are choosing comfort and what may seem the easiest or most convenient thing to do. Let go of fear and your expectations of having to know and understand it all; accept that you may need to do #2.

“Life is from the inside out. When you shift on the inside, life shifts on the outside.” – Kamal Ravikant

2. Find Help!

When you are setting out on a path you have never been on before, there are some things that you just aren’t going to know how to do, no matter how brilliant you already are! So, stop trying to figure everything out yourself and find someone to help you move your vision forward.

Yes, you may be gifted enough to do this new thing but do you know the strategy you need to use or even how to grow it effectively? One of my favorite quotes by Bishop A.R. Bernard is “The Tools You Used on This Level Are Not Sufficient For Your Next,” so you must invest in a coach, a class etc… that will give you the strategy you need to move your dream forward.

3. Create A Winning Strategy

Often, overwhelm and/or fear sets in because you are working without a plan. And when you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Instead, creating a strategy will assure you are on a path toward success. A strategy is a long-term plan of action designed to achieve a particular goal or a set of objectives. When you have a plan and something goes different than expected, as it always will, you can make needed adjustments. Instead of being totally thrown off altogether. So YES, having an expert who understands this NEW lane you are walking into and helps you create a winning strategy is a MUST!

You may also wish to create your strategy into a vision board. A vision board is a collage of pictures, images, statements and/or affirmations of your dreams or all the things that you believe in your life. Vision boards became popular years ago with the introduction of the Law of Attraction, which is the belief that “like attracts like” and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, one can bring about positive or negative results.

The idea is that by creating a vision board, you are surrounding yourself with images of what you want and therefore, your life changes to attract those things that you desire to come to you as you focus on it by making a Vision Board. It also is a reminder of what you are working toward and keeps you inspired to stay in action to obtain it.

If 2021 is the year for you to successfully MOVE into your MORE, stop looking for the shortcut toward the success that is yours; instead, put into practice 1, 2 or all 3 of these steps I have laid out for you. I know for sure that if you read this far down in this article, it’s because you know that you want more. So now, all you need to do is take positive action to go and get it!

Nicole Roberts Jones is the CEO of NRJ Enterprises, a premier training and talent development company that works with women entrepreneurs and executives dedicated to do work that allows them to align their God-given purpose with their paycheck. Nicole is uniquely gifted at one thing – drawing out what’s best in YOU and helping you take your Brilliance to The Bank. With over 25+ years’ experience working with entrepreneurs, corporate executives, heads of states, celebrities, and nonprofit directors in talent and program development, her clients have included: the Steve Harvey World Group, Dell/EMC, McDonald’s, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Lisa Nichols and Motivating the Masses, Coach Diversity Institute, the BOSS Network to name a few plus she has coached thousands to Bankroll Their Brilliance. Learn more about Nicole at www.NicoleRobertsJones.com  and take her free Brilliance Roadmap Quiz that will assess where you are and give you the strategy to move forward NOW at www.BrillianceRoadmapQuiz.com.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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