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6 Personal Growth Challenges to Transform Your Life



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If you are looking to improve yourself, it is up to you to make changes that will change your everyday life. Putting in hard work is necessary if you wish to grow yourself and pave the way to a more successful future. This might be the sign you were waiting for in order to start challenging yourself in order to improve certain areas in your life. The personal growth challenges you choose to follow can be bigger or smaller. Regardless of that, they are always a great place to start and can help you discover a lot of things about yourself. If you need help finding the right challenges to get started, here are some ideas you can use.

1. Set a morning routine for yourself

One of the biggest challenges you can set for yourself is following a certain routine every single morning. Many people struggle to find a way to start their day that will make them feel awake and motivated. This might be a good chance for you to start such a routine and enjoy its benefits. A simple and measurable goal is to start eating a nourishing breakfast every single day.

The important thing to remember is to start slow. You do not need to start waking up earlier and doing more things immediately. Take it one step at a time and only add new things after you are able to easily keep up with each day’s schedule. This way, the morning routine won’t become a chore and you will enjoy every part of the process.

“If you win the morning, you win the day.” – Tim Ferriss

2. Make little notes with positive affirmations

A great way to challenge yourself to grow is connected to the way you talk to yourself on a daily basis. Change comes through positive situations and using positive affirmations can help you feel happier and more confident. You can start this challenge by putting your favorite affirmations on post-it notes and placing them around your house. Some great affirmations you can learn and challenge yourself to repeat daily are the following:

  • I am worthy.
  • I am enough.
  • I don’t sweat the small stuff
  • I am capable of change.
  • I can do anything I set my mind to.

Repeating these affirmations on a daily basis can help you remind yourself of how worthy you are of good things to come your way. Change might not happen overnight, but believing you are capable and worthy of it will make things a lot easier.

3. Declutter your house and working space

If you tend to let things clutter around your house and working space, this is the perfect challenge for you. Keeping your house clean and tidy surely requires energy and time but leaving it cluttered will impact your productivity. You can break this challenge into smaller goals and make it a lot easier for yourself to keep up.

For example, you can start by setting up a system to take out the trash every day. Along with that, you can try to always return things to their spot after using them. These simple steps can help you set up new habits and ace this challenge without any issue. At the end of the day, the more organized your personal space is, the more productive and positive you will be.

4. Read a book every month

Something that can truly change your life for the better is reading more books. Books have so much to give you and it is very sad that fewer people seem to devote time to reading. Books can help you find a productive way to spend your time, offer you the knowledge and help you expand your vocabulary and way of thinking.

Thankfully, technology has helped us make this challenge a lot easier. Services such as Scribd and Audible give us access to thousands of audiobooks. If you have a hectic schedule and can never seem to find the team to read, you can switch to audiobooks instead. By listening to a chapter while you drive to work or do the laundry you will be able to easily reach your goal every month.

5. Limit the time you spend on social media

While phones might be necessary for our day-to-day life they can also become quite addictive. Making sure to get enough off-screen time is essential and can help you change your life for the better. This challenge is an easy one on paper but can be rather challenging. You should start by turning your phone off an hour before you sleep. 

Getting some time away from the screen will help you spend more time doing other things you enjoy. Along with that, it can help you improve the quality of your sleep and make you feel less nervous. Instead of spending time looking at what others are doing online, spend this time for yourself. Cook a meal you enjoy or practice some yoga before bed and spend your time doing something good for you.

6. Try to take a walk every single day

If you live a hectic lifestyle, you might find that you never have enough time to exercise on the daily. Going to the gym might not be an option for many reasons, but going on a daily walk can be the next best thing. Apart from exercising, walking can offer you more benefits than you can imagine.

Taking a walk can help you find some time with yourself and your thoughts. It can allow you to rethink certain situations and things that bother you and allow you to see them with a clear mind.  Some fresh air and a change of scenery are necessary on a daily basis. Spending more time with yourself can prove very useful when it comes to your personal growth and walking can greatly contribute to that.

“A walk in nature walks the soul back home.” – Mary Davis

The point of the personal growth challenges is to motivate you to try new things and lead a better life. It is only normal that you will not be able to complete every challenge you set for yourself. Instead of being upset over that, try and find ways to make them work in your favor and unlock new skills. Which of these challenges are you looking forward to trying the most?

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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