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How to Have Whatever You Desire in Life Faster Than You Could’ve Imagined



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We’ve all seen ‘The Secret’.  We are all familiar with the Law of Attraction.  And we are all familiar with the method presented for manifesting our desires: Ask. Believe. Receive.    

If you look at that again, it becomes more clear that the biggest obstacle standing between our wishes (ask) and their fulfillment (receive) is Belief.  Most people miss out on the ability to manifest their desires because they lack the belief needed to make it happen. The key to manifesting our goals, then, is in developing a strong sense of belief. But how do we do that?

We do that by using our conscious to influence our subconscious, convincing ourselves that we already have the results that we seek.  In order to achieve this, we have been taught to use affirmations, NLP, hypnosis, and other forms to program ourselves for success. These methods are great, and I highly encourage you to use them.  However, I would like to focus on a method that has been utilized since before electricity.

The Miracle Of Display Advertising

Jim Carrey once wrote himself a check for $10 Million, even though he was broke and desperate.  It was simply his way of advertising his desires back to himself. Remember Jack Canfield’s story from ‘The Secret’ about his $100,000 bill?  Again, we are looking at someone who found a way to create a symbol to represent his goals, and then broadcast those goals to himself until it changed his sense of belief, allowing him to attract his success.  

In each case (as well as countless others), the method being employed is simply a form of advertising: They were selling their goals to themselves in a way that fostered the belief of “having it now.”  

Here’s The Formula For Self-Advertising:

  1. Create a Master Goal – This goal should be huge, outlandish, and it should inspire a certain amount of fear.  Grant Cardone speaks at length about how bigger goals inspire us to really fight harder and have more fun doing it.  
  2. Turn That Goal Into Some Form of Symbol – Think about billboard advertising. What we want to do here is create a symbol that our mind can understand at a subconscious level.  This could be something like photoshopping your face onto a fitter body, or perhaps superimposing yourself onto the summit of K2. In fact, it’s a lot of fun to Google search for examples of great display ads and billboards in order to get some creative help.  Ultimately you need to make this symbol something from your heart and mind.  The more creativity that you apply, the better the end results will be.
  3. Finish Your Ad With a Killer Slogan – The secret to advertising is to reach the subconscious.  The subconscious is ruled by symbols.  We can use some words, but we want to keep it as simple as possible.  Again, think of how a good billboard only uses words to underline the statement made by the image on display.  Keep it to 10 words or less. Pro Tip: This is a great place to utilize short, direct suggestions and/or affirmations. Things like, “I deserve it” or “Do it NOW” work wonderfully for this method.
  4. Create Lots of Copies – Once you’ve settled on a final look for your billboard, I would suggest making a minimum of a dozen copies.

“Dare to visualize a world in which your most treasured dreams have become true.” – Ralph Marston

It’s Time To Advertise

Now that we’ve gotten our display ads created, we want to place them everywhere.  The idea is to create a ‘surround sound’ effect so that there is never a time when our field of vision is missing out on the image of our desire.  Does that make sense? Just like any good retailer would utilize his or her walls, shelves, and counters to build confidence in a product or service, we are going to turn our walls into billboard ad spaces.

Begin by thinking of where you spend the most time, and where your vision is fixated during that time.  Now, slightly off to either side of your primary focal point, go ahead and place 2 of your ads, one on either side.  

Ideal Places For Self-Advertisements:

  • Each side of your computer screen, towards the edges of your field of vision.  
  • Either side of your TV
  • The back of your bathroom door, since you look in the mirror everyday
  • The back of your front door (most of us leave the house every day)
  • Each side of your bedroom door, since you go in and out several times per day
  • Your living room, one per wall
  • Set it as your phone’s Lock Screen

“I probably visualize myself, the shots I’m going to get in the game, how I’m going to play defense, what we have to do to stop the other team’s best player, what it’s going to take out of me, the whole aspect of the game.” – Paul Pierce

There are many other possibilities, but I think the point has been made.  We want to turn our homes and our office spaces into an enormous billboard.  This will reach our subconscious as quickly as possible, and will result in a requisite shift in our minds.  

The purpose of display advertising is to build people’s confidence in a brand, product, or service.  This confidence is what causes people to buy.  Utilizing this same method, we build confidence in ourselves and our goals; effectively selling our goals to ourselves until we begin to believe that we already have the desired outcome.   

Give this method a try, and then leave a comment below to share your experiences.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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