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The Boundaries of Your Manifestations Are Limited by the Boundaries of Your Imagination



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For the vast majority of my life I lived about an 90 minutes due west of New York City. Consequently, I spent a great deal of time in business, management training and consulting. It is very easy to become desensitized to the vertical summits of the city when you are there so much. However, I have always noted with detached amusement the newcomers to the city who stand at the verge of the sidewalk on their tiptoes looking up trying to see the very top of the skyscrapers.

Once, during a very lengthy traffic jam, and observing many of the tourists in the city, it occurred to me that their wide-eyed wonder at the cityscape was caused by the building that they were looking at, but, at one point, those buildings were nothing more than a thought!

Everything is created three times

70 or 80 years ago someone had an idea. That idea was to take an empty lot in downtown Manhattan and turn it into a building using current architectural techniques and to create a skyscraper. The notion of the skyscraper existed mentally and that was all.

Apparently, this real estate entrepreneur secured financing and the construction of the project could begin. During that time, I am sure that the entrepreneur spent much time at the site being emotionally involved as well as logically invested in every decision. Finally, the building was complete and ready for occupancy which created cash flow, allowing the banks and investors to be repaid, and a profit to be earned.

Below is how you create your masterpiece starting with an idea then going to an emotion followed by making it a reality:

1. Starts with an Idea

Everything that has ever existed physically, existed mentally prior. This is your imagination! All of us have ideas. The question is whether we act on them and bring them to physical reality, or simply say to ourselves that that was an interesting thought and do nothing about it.

Let me repeat, anything that exists physically first began as an idea. That idea must propel us into action! Imagination is the starting point.

“When you’re curious, you find lots of interesting things to do.” – Walt Disney

2. Then comes emotion

Think of that real estate entrepreneur a century ago building the building in New York City. He was at the construction site every day speaking to the general contractor along with reporting back to the bank and the investors on the progress that was made.

This person was emotionally involved in the projection of turning his idea into a physical reality. Each time that any of us take an idea and move it forward, the momentum of that idea to fruition is accelerated by emotion. Emotion is the gas pedal that takes our thoughts and creates them for real.

3. Bring your idea into reality

Now it exists. I would bet that after that building was ready for occupancy that the entrepreneur didn’t simply think that that was a job well done and stop working. He now spent the time marketing, selling space, and filling the building with profitable tenants. Once you have manifested your idea into life, the real work begins.

Please think about that process in your own life. See if you can answer the question of what is the big idea that you would like to move forward. Perhaps it is something physical like a new home or new business. Perhaps it’s something mental like becoming a better executive or salesperson. Perhaps it is something more spiritual. Whatever it is, if your mind can conceive it, you can bring it about.

“There’s a way to do it better—find it.” – Thomas Edison

The very notion of desire means that there is something within you that wants to be created. Use that desire as a way of generating ideas to begin the process of manifestation. Then become emotionally involved in the implementation of your ideas.

Look around you. Everything that you see has existed three times. Once in the form of an idea followed by the emotional involvement of moving that idea into physical reality. Finally, the last step was actually receiving what you asked for and thought of.

Let me end by asking you a question: what big ideas do you have that you want to become emotionally involved with, move to fruition, and engage with for an extended period of time? Got it? Cool! Now, go do it!

Comment on your big ideas below, let other readers assist you with the emotion and implementation!

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Biagio Sciacca, known to his friends as Bill, was a lifelong resident of Pittston, PA. He is the owner of Intelligent Motivation, Inc. a global consulting and training firm specializing in management and leadership training as well as psychological assessment for hiring and staff development. He is the author of several books relating to goal setting, and his third book, Provocative Leadership, is publishing soon. Now residing in Tamarindo, Costa Rica, he divides his time between his international coaching and training clients, writing his next book and wandering aimlessly on the beach. Feel free to contact Bill at or schedule a call with him by going to and clicking on the “set up a call” tab.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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