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Tips, Tools, and Techniques to Create Your Curiosity



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Curiosity is a great characteristic that people rarely sustain in their lifetimes. Some people struggle to sustain curiosity because of their internal and external challenges. They cannot encourage curiosity to come to the fore as they condition their mindsets with their learning, experience, and environment. However, there are very few individuals who sustain their curiosity levels throughout their lives to excel as extraordinary achievers. 

Are People Born with Curiosity?

Undoubtedly, we all are born with curiosity. Children are more curious and observe when they were born. They question a lot when they are kids. As they reach the next stages such as adolescence, young age, middle age, and old age, the curiosity level drops as they are conditioned to think as per their observations, environment, and education. That means they get into a box mentality. Only extraordinary achievers maintain their curiosity levels by continuous reading, learning, and leading. They keep upgrading their knowledge, skills, and abilities to sustain their curiosity levels. It makes them relevant, acceptable, and honorable to lead a complete and meaningful life.  

Curiosity and Technology 

Technology is both a boon and a bane. With the advent of technology, children are used to gadgets, and they get everything on a platter without applying much thinking. It kills their creativity and imagination. It is great to hear that children are used to technology but it is also a challenge because they get readymade answers to their questions through their smartphones. 

“To be curious about that which is not one’s concern while still in ignorance of oneself is ridiculous.” —Plato

Tips, Tools, and Techniques to Create Your Curiosity 

Authors are curious and creative because they must be curious to learn various perspectives to create their perspectives. Here are some tips to create your curiosity. 

  • Focus on your art and craft. 
  • Don’t conform unless substantiated with facts and figures. Question rationally. Be rebellious, if required. 
  • Observe people around you. 
  • Identify your biological clock to unlock your creativity. Find out the time at which you are most productive to leverage it effectively. 
  • Journal regularly for a few minutes every day to capture your ideas. 
  • Synthesize your ideas. Mix and match them to apply practically.  
  • See the big picture.
  • Experiment and explore the world unbiasedly. 
  • Read books regularly. 
  • Be prepared to learn from your experiences, especially from your failures. 
  • Above all, lead by example. 

Every child is curious to know things. Children observe a lot and learn from others’ behavior and environment. They emulate their parents and the people around them. In educational institutions, they emulate educators because they spend the most time in the educational institutions. Succinctly, if you want to sustain your childlike curiosity, you must travel widely, read regularly, learn continuously and lead by example.

Educators create curiosity while teaching to invite and sustain the attention of their students. They often ask questions to their students to involve them in teaching and engage them effectively for a longer time. It helps students discover, analyze and understand themselves. It helps students apply the acquired knowledge, ideas, and insights in their real lives to excel as healthy citizens. 

Curiosity in my Professional Life

I read books from different genres regularly. I explore new things and experiment with new areas. I don’t mind when I fail. I failed many times because I explored immensely and learned many lessons. I know that I am a morning man and I leverage that time which is the most productive to author books and write articles. I am aware that I am highly curious after I wake up from sleep. Hence, I deliberately sleep in the afternoon for some time so that I can concentrate and be curious to explore and write. 

I am curious to learn. Hence, I talk to people around me when I am traveling or in the gym to understand different perspectives from people on various topics because everyone is unique in the world. I often throw a question to someone and listen attentively to capture their perspectives on various topics. The diversified experiences in my life including military, business, teaching, training, research, and consultancy sustained my curiosity levels. Hence, everyone must learn from multiple sources including from their observations, education, experience, teaching, and training to sustain their childlike curiosity. 

Lots of inventions have occurred because of curiosity. Advanced technology and comforts are the outcomes of curiosity. We have grown as a civilization because of curiosity. To conclude, curiosity is inborn in all humans. Everyone must hone and sustain it.

Professor M.S. Rao, Ph.D. is the Father of “Soft Leadership” and the Founder of MSR Leadership Consultants, India. He is an International Leadership Guru with forty years of experience and the author of fifty books including the award-winning ‘See the Light in You’ URL: He is a C-Suite advisor and global keynote speaker. He brings a strategic eye and long-range vision given his multifaceted professional experience including military, teaching, training, research, consultancy, and philosophy. He is passionate about serving and making a difference in the lives of others. He is a regular contributor to Entrepreneur Magazine. He trains a new generation of leaders through leadership education and publications.

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.



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Balance…it requires an equal distribution of value between two or more subjects to maintain steady composure and equitable proportionality. (more…)

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How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.



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It’s 2023, a new year, new you, right? But how do we start over? How do we make the changes in our lives that we crave so much to see?  (more…)

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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