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Read This if You’re Always Busy

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Do these phrases sound familiar? I don’t have time. I’m too busy. Sorry, I’m slammed. I wish I could, but I really can’t. You’ve probably said at least one of these phrases in the last week or two. I get it. We all have jobs to do, responsibilities to handle, errands to run, and chores to complete. We’re busy at work, we’re busy at home, and so our time is very precious to us. I’m sure that you’re actually busy and don’t have time to do certain things, but I’m here to tell you that you might have more time than you actually think.

Time as an excuse

I bet you’ve used the phrase ‘Sorry, but I’m so busy‘ when you didn’t want to do something: take on a project, meet up with someone, or participate in some kind of an event. Saying that we’re too busy has become our go-to excuse when we don’t want to do something. It’s our easy way out.

It’s almost like when you were a kid, and your friend asked you; ‘Hey, wanna go play outside?’ If you didn’t feel like it, you responded with ‘Sorry, my parents said no.’ Sweet! You just got out of an unwanted situation, and you didn’t hurt anyone’s feelings in the process!

You’re lying to yourself

Now that we’re responsible adults, we can’t use our parents as an excuse. However, we’ve begun using time as an excuse. I understand that saying ‘no’ to someone is harder than saying ‘I simply don’t want to go to your birthday party, Karen!” but because of this conditioned habit, we’re beginning to lie to ourselves too. If you’re constantly using the excuse ‘Sorry, I have no time’ when dealing with other people and situations, no wonder you’ve begun to believe that lie yourself!

“Too busy is a myth. People make time for the things that are really important to them.” – Mandy Hale

You have time

Is there a side project that you really want to start? Is there a side hustle you want to build? Are you really passionate about books but you haven’t read anything in the last year? If you said yes, but you haven’t gotten around to doing it just yet, it’s probably because you, ahem, don’t have time. But let me ask you this… If somebody were to give you $1,000,000 dollars in order for you to start that side hustle ALONGSIDE your 9-5 job, would you do it? If somebody paid you to finally start making those videos that you really want to make, would you do it?

I know your answer is YES, and I know you would do everything in your power to hustle your butt off so you can get that $1,000,000 dollars. The funny thing is… suddenly you’ve found some time! The amount of hours in a day didn’t change.

The amount of hours you spend at work didn’t change. ALL the circumstances stayed the same, but what changed were your PRIORITIES. Suddenly, working on your side hustle (in hopes of receiving the $1MILL) became more important than wasting time on the web, or watching that new TV show on Netflix.

It’s all about priorities

The point that I’m making here is – it’s not about TIME, it’s about our priorities. If meditating was your priority, you would simply find the time to do it. (I mean… how hard really is it to find 15 minutes?) If exercising was your priority, you would wake up an hour earlier and go to the gym. If building your side hustle was a priority, you’d work on it after you’re back from your 9-5.

We’re all busy. We all have jobs to do and bills to pay. However, if you start using this as your constant excuse as to why you can’t do something, you’re only shooting yourself in the foot. You’re only stopping yourself from doing something that you really want.

“In order to say yes to your priorities you have to be willing to say no to something else.”

Get off your phone

To top it all off, I just want to make you aware of how much time we spend on our phones. A few days ago I watched a video where a woman explained that if you use your phone for 80 years, 4-6 hours a day, it would mean that 20 out of those 80 years would be spent starring at your phone. (If that isn’t terrifying, I don’t know what is!)

Now, add another 20-25 years of sleeping, and you’ve just lost half of your life. 80 years might seem like a long time, but how many of those years do we actually put to good use? We spend hours scrolling on our phones, we binge watch an entire season of a new TV show in 2 days, and we forget how precious and limited our time is. So, I want to ask you, how are you going to spend your time?

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I'm Gabie Rudyte, a Lithuanian content creator and blogger living in New York City. I’m incredibly passionate about personal development and growth, creating motivational content and inspiring others to be the best version of themselves. You can find me on my blog www.gabierudyte.com or Instagram www.instagram.com/instagabie.

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

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These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

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