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How To Stay Resilient In The Face Of Adversity

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How To Stay Resilient In The Face Of Adversity

The average person would rather be comfortable than be challenged. They have big dreams and big wishes, but are reluctant to sacrifice their comfort in order to make those dreams come true.

They might put in a little effort here and there, but when they’re faced with an obstacle, a setback, or a challenging situation, they pull back instead of push forward. Consequently, their dreams remain dreams, and their reality remains unchanged.

Resilience is required for success

Resilience is an essential quality to succeeding in any industry or endeavor. For every goal that you have, there are likely thousands of other people who have that same goal. Do you want your music to be played on the radio? Great. Thousands of other artists are also trying to get their music played on the radio as well. Is your goal to become a professional speaker? Great. Thousands of others are also trying to succeed as professional speakers. Is your goal to become a professional athlete? Fantastic. So are thousands of other people. The point is that no matter what you do, you will have competition. Often it is those who are the most resilient who surpass their competition and achieve their goals.

“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” – Albert Einstein

Don’t let challenges stop you from moving forward

So what is resilience? Resilience is your ability to keep moving forward in spite of challenges, rejection, setbacks, obstacles, and disappointments. Resilience is your ability to maintain a positive attitude and remain optimistic when you have every reason not to be. Resilience means you don’t give up on your goals when they become difficult to achieve (and the bigger the goal, the greater the difficulty). Successful people are resilient. The average person is not.

The way to become more resilient is to have strong internal motivators. Motivators are reasons why you want to accomplish what you have set out to accomplish. Most people who say they want something –a new house, a luxury car, or a promotion, for example – are not clear on why they want it. Because they’re not clear, and because worthwhile goals are seldom achieved easily, they are unable to convince themselves why they should persist when the journey becomes difficult.

“Don’t wish it were easier. Wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

Take control of the thoughts in your mind

Successful people understand the power of the mind. They know that when we are faced with a challenge, our mind demands an explanation. The human mind is hardwired to protect the body from harm and discomfort. This is why we instinctively pull our arm back when we touch a hot stove or cover our face when someone unexpectedly throws a ball at us. Our instincts tell us to protect ourselves.

Unfortunately those instincts can work against us when we are facing challenges. Challenges make us uncomfortable, which triggers our mind’s desire to avoid that discomfort. Unless we have a clear explanation for our discomfort (a motivator or a reason why), our mind will try to convince us to quit so that we can go back to being comfortable.

 

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Comfort is the enemy of success

Whether your goal is to buy a house, become a professional athlete, earn a promotion, start a business, become financially free, raise a family, or perhaps finish a university degree, you will undoubtedly experience setbacks, roadblocks, detours, and obstacles along the way. You must be prepared for the challenges that will come your way.

No one becomes successful because they find an easy path. They become successful because they decide what they want, they go after it, and when obstacles arise they don’t quit or change directions. They find a way to overcome those obstacles and keep going. In order to master your craft and become one of the best in your field, you must be prepared to endure challenges. You must be resilient.

How has being resilient helped you succeed?

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The 3 Types of Confidence You Need to Know and Understand

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We’ve all heard it before, confidence is everything. Those that seem to have it, have it all. They, themselves, are not necessarily perfect human beings, but they seemingly have the charisma to attract whatever they want in life. (more…)

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Relationships are challenging. They make you examine yourself from all angles, and that can be triggering. For example, have you ever had a friend or significant other say something that sparked an argument instantly—only to find out you misheard what they said in the first place? (more…)

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If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

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You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it. (more…)

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3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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