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How to Become Limitless in Everything You Do

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Kobe Bryant. Warren Buffett. LeBron James. Tom Brady. Cristiano Ronaldo. Lionel Messi. Serena Williams. Beyonce. You could probably think of even more names of people who fit amongst the category of the people I just mentioned. The greats. There are people who are the best at what they do and then, there are these guys who are just a level above everyone else and not only those that are in their field.

A lot of us dream of being as great, if not better than some of those names I just mentioned. As a kid, you dream of hitting game-winning shots like Kobe did and winning 5 championships. You dream of performing in front of huge crowds whilst they sing along to your greatest hits as Beyonce does. You dream of never having to work again a day in your life because you’ve found a way to make loads of money in your sleep, like Warren Buffett. 

As a kid, you dream without boundaries. Without limits. Without fear. Then, we start to grow up. We start to learn about some of the realities of life and we start to realise the dreams we had as kids are going to be much harder to manifest than we thought. With that, at times comes a self-imposed mental barrier that prevents us from even going after the dreams we once had because we become scared

What if I fail? What if everything goes wrong? What if I lose my friends along the way? What if I become lonely? All of these thoughts prevent us from achieving the level of greatness that God placed inside us when He created us. In Genesis 1:27 it states, “So God created man in his own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them.”

We were made in his image and his likeness, including his greatness. So the greatness that we hold, comes from the man above. Those negative thoughts that you have limit you in ways you can’t imagine. Not because they’re big, but quite the opposite. You’re scared of how the grind is going to feel. How you’re going to mentally cope. So you don’t wake up early to get started on your work. You’ve limited yourself. 

You’re worried about how it’s going to look if you fail, so instead of getting out of your comfort zone, you stay put. You’ve limited yourself. 

“You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.” – Walter Hagen

You have one life. One chance. You don’t know how many years you’re going to have left. You don’t even know if tomorrow will come. So how much longer are you going to limit yourself? How many more days are you going to throw away? How many more times are you going to come back to pieces like this for a repeated boost of motivation when these types of pieces are here to propel you to the next level, not keep you at the same one?

I’m not a person who has reached the ultimate level of success, nor am I one of those ‘gurus’ or ‘self-made millionaires’ with that romantic struggle story. I’m just a 23-year-old highly-ambitious individual with big dreams, who is probably on a similar journey to you. The only difference is now, I’ve come to the realisation that life isn’t something that I can take for granted.

I’ve started to become limitless. I’ve started trying my hand in different things, never fearing the result. I’ve started pursuing my passions with much greater intensity and thankfully, it has presented me with opportunities to do what I love to do at a higher level in places that I couldn’t even have imagined as a kid. All because I started to be limitless. So what’s stopping you? 

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Every day you get given is a blessing, a gift and an opportunity from God to take another step in the right direction. Once that day is gone, it’s gone. There’s no getting it back. It’s time for you to be limitless. That means the following things: 

  1. No More Barriers. 
  2. No More Comfort Zones.
  3. No More ‘I Can’t.’ 

Any frame of thinking that stops you from reaching your goal has to be eliminated, for your own good. Look at barriers and being uncomfortable, as opportunities. Turn ‘I can’t’ into ‘I can’. 

Kobe gave it his all. Not 50%. Not 75%. Not even 99%. He gave it 120%. He understood that every day, every hour, every minute, every second counted and we all saw the results. We all saw the Mamba. In everything he did. From the basketball court to the Oscars. Kobe gave everything his all. That’s why he was limitless. 

So now’s your chance. Your opportunity. Right now whilst you’re reading this post. That’s why you’re here. It’s not by chance or some great fortune. You needed to read this. You’re here because you’re capable of greatness. Greatness requires you to be limitless. Make your commitment to it now, today and get ready to experience the next level of your life. 

How are you making sure you’re living the best life possible? Share your ideas with us below!

Although relatively new to the writing industry, Lore Adekeye is a young, vibrant and ambitious individual who in his short time as a writer has been ranked amongst the Top 100 Personal Development Bloggers on the internet by FeedSpot with multiple short to medium pieces published on his blog and Medium. As well as being a writer, Lore is also an aspiring basketball player and entrepreneur. So if he’s not writing he’ll definitely be either working on his basketball skills or building his brand.

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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