Life
Here’s What You Should Do When You’re Overloaded With Work

You’ve been busy all your life. Every day, you show up to work in haste with a big to-do list in your hand. You want to write that business proposal, make those phone calls, engage with your employees, and attend that business conference in Paris. So, you begin to feel tired, exhausted even. In fact, you begin to lose interest in your career—because you’re always overloaded with too much work.
How do you resolve that? How do you love your work back again? What should you do to make your life better when you’re overloaded with work? This article will walk you through three practical tips. Let’s jump right in.
1. Pause and reflect
We all get overwhelmed with work at some point. So, when you’re stressed with work, you don’t instantly try to change your career, switch to another trade, or quit your job entirely. Try to do the following instead: Take a deep breath. Quit working for an hour. It’s time for some reflection. Analyze your workday, assess your workload and examine your to-do list.
As you go through all these, you don’t have to do anything, just reflect on your workloads and the nature and process of your work. Why? So you know where the problem lies and you can see how you can ease things. It’s important to understand what’s going wrong in the way you plan your tasks; what makes your workday bloated? And as you reflect, it’s time to take action: Simplify your tasks.
2. Start simplifying
It’s all about changing the way you work. You’re overloaded because you’re piling more work on yourself, which won’t make you productive. It will only deplete your energy and willpower. So, you must change the way you work. You must simplify. And to simplify is to do less. Do 1-3 tasks a day instead of 10.
It’s not about how many tasks you have on your plate, it’s about how many projects you can execute in a day. In fact, you need to create a not-to-do list, where you’ll itemize the things that you’ll not do in a day.
That will help you become more focused on doing and completing your day’s tasks, which will move you closer to achieving your goals. In addition to creating a not-to-do list, you should also go through your calendar and reminders and cancel some of your commitments. You need to take things off your plate so you stay laser-focused doing the things that matter.
3. Cancel commitments
We inflate our lives with too much commitment by accepting anything that comes our way. We fill up our day with lots of meetings, speaking engagements, business conferences, etc. We commit to too many activities, bloating our schedules with too much work.
The result? Work overload and burnout. But here’s the solution to that: Cancel commitments. Cancel all those meetings and seminars that are less essential. To do that, you need to be bold; you need to sharpen your leadership skill and become more confident.
No matter how lucrative a deal may seem, no matter how influential a person is, if their offer will overwhelm you or affect your long-term goal, you’ve got to say no to them. Remember, you want to simplify your life, not complicate it with too much commitment.
In the end, it’s about what you’ve accomplished. It’s about the joyful feeling that fills your heart with excitement when you have accomplished those important tasks, not the guilt of not getting too much work done.
Life
The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance
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Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
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People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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