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6 Ways to Crush Your Inner Demons and Create Explosive Growth in Your Life

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Powerful people are known for their ambition and desire to chase the impossible making it a reality. What sets them apart from the rest is their determination to play big and slay their inner demons. Powerful and successful people didn’t get to where they are today because they made excuses. They achieved their success because they eliminated anything that didn’t serve their big picture vision. Take control back of your life today to step into your fullest potential.

Here are the 6 demons holding you back from taking action and claiming the life you deserve:

1. Slay Your Big Picture Goals and Step into Greatness

Your lust for instant gratification is holding you back from achieving long-term goals. Tap into a powerful mindset by mapping out your goals starting with the end in mind. Create milestones as you work backwards to your starting point and acknowledge the milestones you hit along the way to keep tabs on your progress.

2. Get Control of Your Thoughts and Change Your Life

Thoughts of negativity and doubt are leading your life and holding you back from leaping into greatness. It’s the angel and devil on your shoulder scenario but you’re letting the devil win. Gain control of your thoughts and change your life by replacing the negativity with words of empowerment and motivation. This simple and effective exercise will do the trick:

  1. Identify self-sabotaging thoughts
  2. Write out all of the accompanying beliefs that make that thought true
  3. Reframe your perspective by writing out why you’re capable and deserving of your desires
  4. Read from start to finish

The most powerful leaders practice this as soon as the devil starts to creep back in. The key is recognizing these thoughts immediately and destroying them before they hinder progress.

“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” – Chris Grosser

3. Plunge into Powerful Opportunities by Taking Messy Action

The most successful people in life didn’t get to where they are today because they waited for the perfect moment, they took the plunge and figured it out along the way. If you’re waiting to do something because you want it to be ‘perfect’, you’re never going to achieve it. Powerful people recognize opportunity and destroy fears by facing perfectionism head on and taking action.

4. Fuel Your Inner-Self and Create Habits That Serve Your Success

Success is about choosing between what you want right now and what you want the most. If it isn’t serving your big picture vision, eliminate it. Ditch the junk food and addictive habits. Powerful leaders all have one thing in common: their focus on their mind, body and health. They’ve replaced social media and tv dependencies, with reading, meditation and healthy eating habits.

5. Control Your Environment and Invest in Your Mindset

You will never grow to your fullest potential by keeping toxic people in your life. They’re known as vampires that suck the energy from you and do anything to keep you small. If you can’t eliminate them, detach yourself and minimize contact with them. Surround yourself with quality not quantity.

“If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn

6. Level Up Your Confidence to Live to Your Greatest Potential

If you’re never going after opportunities, you’ll never know what you’re fully capable of. People who play small, settle for unfulfilling lives because complacency sets in. Level up your confidence by taking a leap and unleashing your power to achieve something great.

Stop letting these demons hold you hostage from living out the life you desperately desire. You’re meant for a life so much greater than you’re living. Take action today to crush these soul-sucking limitations and achieve massive growth.

How you do find confidence in yourself? Comment below!

Heidi Kurter is a world traveler currently living in Ulsan, South Korea. She left her corporate Human Resources position 14 months ago to pursue a life of entrepreneurship and travel. She is now an HR, Leadership & Development Coach and Corporate Consultant providing leadership and development strategies for entrepreneurs and organizations across the globe. Heidi combines her passion for HR and Leadership & Development to empower stuck, struggling and overwhelmed individuals into empowered leaders for their life and business. You can find her on Facebook or www.heidilynneco.com

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  1. millionaire

    Jun 6, 2018 at 3:10 am

    How you do find confidence in yourself?
    – i just give it a try, do the thing i want to do and then massive confidence appear

  2. meenakshi jha

    May 2, 2018 at 6:46 am

    inner demons are own weakness which is the result of ignorance and lack of awareness on ourself. collectively our set of weaknesses are our negativity which should be root out to grow exponentially.

  3. Bernz JP

    Apr 28, 2018 at 1:47 pm

    These are all powerful. Wish I’ve known all of these when I was in my 20’s. I would call this the ultimate guide to successful living. Short but on point. Will be sharing this.

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Why Do We Have An Unconscious Bias and How Can We Manage It?

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.  

Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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The Problem Is Not Actually the Problem: Here’s Why

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With my understanding of the Three Principles, which is deepening month-by-month, I’m becoming more curious about whether the ‘problem’ that we think we have, is really a problem. Not for one second am I dismissing a persons’ experience; I’m human after all and I encounter challenges and what I think are ‘problems’ just like the next person. (more…)

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5 Things You Can Do to Fend off Boredom and Stay Focused

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Curiosity is human nature and it’s only natural that humans will lose interest in a topic after a while. This has been a topic that has been extensively explored among children, teenagers and adults by a psychologist with similar results being reported from each of the categories. Human’s minds are therefore prone to boredom, making it important for each professional to spend some time to understand the factors that drive boredom and strategies the individuals needs to use to overcome boredom and focus on their profession and development. (more…)

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Decision and Failure: Deciding That Failure is Not an Option

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Nobody likes wasting time, money or opportunities by making a bad business decision. We can certainly identify what “bad” looks and feels like, however we should be identifying what the “win” looks like too. Too often we focus on the bad, which puts us in victim mode that perpetuates a scarcity mindset which leads us directly into becoming frozen or stuck. (more…)

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