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6 Ways to Crush Your Inner Demons and Create Explosive Growth in Your Life

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Powerful people are known for their ambition and desire to chase the impossible making it a reality. What sets them apart from the rest is their determination to play big and slay their inner demons. Powerful and successful people didn’t get to where they are today because they made excuses. They achieved their success because they eliminated anything that didn’t serve their big picture vision. Take control back of your life today to step into your fullest potential.

Here are the 6 demons holding you back from taking action and claiming the life you deserve:

1. Slay Your Big Picture Goals and Step into Greatness

Your lust for instant gratification is holding you back from achieving long-term goals. Tap into a powerful mindset by mapping out your goals starting with the end in mind. Create milestones as you work backwards to your starting point and acknowledge the milestones you hit along the way to keep tabs on your progress.

2. Get Control of Your Thoughts and Change Your Life

Thoughts of negativity and doubt are leading your life and holding you back from leaping into greatness. It’s the angel and devil on your shoulder scenario but you’re letting the devil win. Gain control of your thoughts and change your life by replacing the negativity with words of empowerment and motivation. This simple and effective exercise will do the trick:

  1. Identify self-sabotaging thoughts
  2. Write out all of the accompanying beliefs that make that thought true
  3. Reframe your perspective by writing out why you’re capable and deserving of your desires
  4. Read from start to finish

The most powerful leaders practice this as soon as the devil starts to creep back in. The key is recognizing these thoughts immediately and destroying them before they hinder progress.

“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” – Chris Grosser

3. Plunge into Powerful Opportunities by Taking Messy Action

The most successful people in life didn’t get to where they are today because they waited for the perfect moment, they took the plunge and figured it out along the way. If you’re waiting to do something because you want it to be ‘perfect’, you’re never going to achieve it. Powerful people recognize opportunity and destroy fears by facing perfectionism head on and taking action.

4. Fuel Your Inner-Self and Create Habits That Serve Your Success

Success is about choosing between what you want right now and what you want the most. If it isn’t serving your big picture vision, eliminate it. Ditch the junk food and addictive habits. Powerful leaders all have one thing in common: their focus on their mind, body and health. They’ve replaced social media and tv dependencies, with reading, meditation and healthy eating habits.

5. Control Your Environment and Invest in Your Mindset

You will never grow to your fullest potential by keeping toxic people in your life. They’re known as vampires that suck the energy from you and do anything to keep you small. If you can’t eliminate them, detach yourself and minimize contact with them. Surround yourself with quality not quantity.

“If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn

6. Level Up Your Confidence to Live to Your Greatest Potential

If you’re never going after opportunities, you’ll never know what you’re fully capable of. People who play small, settle for unfulfilling lives because complacency sets in. Level up your confidence by taking a leap and unleashing your power to achieve something great.

Stop letting these demons hold you hostage from living out the life you desperately desire. You’re meant for a life so much greater than you’re living. Take action today to crush these soul-sucking limitations and achieve massive growth.

How you do find confidence in yourself? Comment below!

Heidi Kurter is a world traveler currently living in Ulsan, South Korea. She left her corporate Human Resources position 14 months ago to pursue a life of entrepreneurship and travel. She is now an HR, Leadership & Development Coach and Corporate Consultant providing leadership and development strategies for entrepreneurs and organizations across the globe. Heidi combines her passion for HR and Leadership & Development to empower stuck, struggling and overwhelmed individuals into empowered leaders for their life and business. You can find her on Facebook or www.heidilynneco.com

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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