Life
6 Crucial Elements You Should Create Your Lifestyle Around

When you hear the word lifestyle, the first thing that comes to most people’s mind is a lavish, luxurious palace, with more financial freedom than ever imagined. While there is nothing inherently wrong with this view or even living that life, the people that are the happiest and healthiest live by a lifestyle that creates the foundation for the enjoyment of whatever physical lifestyle one lives.
A healthy lifestyle has six crucial elements that when fused together, create a foundation where anything built on it will stand.
Those six elements are:
Listen
Learn
Laugh
Let Go
Love
Legacy
Creating a legacy for your life that transcends the self is one of the highest reaches anyone can set their sights on. Legacy is the cumulation of everything we do, everything we are, everything we desire, talk about, dream about, or share.
The best legacies are created while we are yet still living and are talked about for generations after we have passed. Legacy is about living the life you love and loving the life you live.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw
Building Without
Before we build with, we need to put ourselves into a place where we are ready to build. This means removing the aspects that tend to hold us down.
We need to live without pretending
Love without depending
Listen without defending
Learn without misunderstanding
Laugh without offending
Let go without forgetting
Creating With
Awareness of the without creates an ability of the with. Fresh awareness is like a freshly cut lawn or a new blossoming flower; the scent invigorates the soul. When our souls are aligned with our mind, our heart has the capacity to create gracefully, thereby increasing our wellbeing. We are each responsible for our own thoughts and actions even though outside forces (people, places, products) may push us towards certain reactions or responses.
Love without depending allows for each of us to take ownership of ourselves. Love is something that should always be given and never expected. When love is given only when received, it is not real love and as strong of an emotion as love is, depending on it from others results in depression if it doesn’t come. Giving love to others will universally produce love back into your life, which reduces depression.
Listen without defending is so vitally important. The point of listening is to receive information. Most times in conversations we are thinking of a response to what a person says rather than listening entirely before responding. Mastering the art of listening will help you create boundaries as well as help you be tuned in more to whoever you are talking to. Having clarity of thought will reduce your stress and as such increase your health.
Learn without misunderstanding is to search for clarity. When we receive knowledge, we should also ask questions to ensure there is no misunderstanding the meaning or the message. Understanding leads to wise decisions. The better decisions we make, the better we feel. When we feel good, our body releases hormones and enzymes which increase our happiness levels.
Laugh without offending. Everyone likes to laugh. In fact, the old saying that ‘laughter is the best medicine’ is still relevant today. The more we laugh, the happier we feel. We should laugh every day. We should find something to laugh at, someone to laugh with, and make others laugh too. Humor that doesn’t offend anybody is universally funny. Offensive humor results in nothing more than negative energy.
Let go without forgetting is the essence of forgiveness. Many people believe that forgiving equals forgetting, which it so far from the truth. Forgiving is allowing yourself to let go of the negative emotions and feelings that hold you to a situation, person, or circumstance. Letting go does not remove any consequences of the other person it removes you from the feelings.
“To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone.” – Reba McEntire
Take Charge And Live Free
Now is your time. Creating a lifestyle around these six elements will increase your health and wellbeing quicker and will sustain you longer than almost anything else. Your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing are all interconnected. When one is out of alignment it will not be long until the others will begin to weaken. It’s time for a check-up. This check-up will cost you nothing more than time
Spend time with yourself. Take a few hours to a few days to allow yourself to walk through these six components. Evaluate where you are, what is working, what needs to change, make a list, and then go do. Your health depends upon it.
Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
Life
3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning
we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)
Life
Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness
Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)
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