Life
5 Ways to Start Shaping Your Life Into a Fairytale

What if one morning you got out of bed and found that you were sick of the life you had? You felt tired of the stress, you felt tired of dreading work, you felt tired of skimping on buying things to save money, you felt tired of not being able to travel. What if you chose to alter everything but didn’t know how?
Here are 5 steps you can take to change your lifestyle in one where you tap dance out of bed:
1. Make A Decision to Start
Write out a contract to commit to start. A quick note to decide you will begin will force the idea out of your mind and into action. You don’t want to be the person who is still hoping years later.
Here’s a sample:
I, [your name here], have decided to start changing my life so that I jump out of work enjoying every moment. I have no time for negativity or complaining because I will have a life full of travel, beach, tropical locations, great work-life balance, and a job I love.
Starting this second, I have made up my mind to stop blaming others for my problems. I will let go of toxic relationships and move towards people who can symbiotically help me achieve the infinite potential I have inside of me.
I have decided to keep looking for ways of improving myself and my life on a daily basis and taking action on it. -[your name here]
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe
2. Don’t Dwell on the Past
You should forgive and forget. Many people have no love in their heart, which lets their past mistakes haunt and negatively affect their present. Do this for yourself so that you can stop wasting time. Life is short.
In the book Erroneous Zones, Wayne Dyer says that guilt is a chain to the past, while anxiety is a chain from the future.
Let go of all the excuses, assumptions, complaints, and negative energy inside of you. Start with a baby step and trust that you can begin anew. Don’t let your “wasted time of the past” waste more time in the present.
3. Do It Now
Brian Tracy, a business legend, says that you need to focus on beginning today. He gives an analogy of eating a frog. Staring at it won’t make it any worse. By doing the most important task at the beginning of your day, you can live the rest of the day knowing you’ve gotten the worst out of the way. Plus, you’ve done the most productive thing first.
4. Visualize Your Dreams In Detail Frequently
If there was nothing holding you back in life, what would your dream life be? What if you had infinite money, opportunities, connections, and resources? Think big. What would life look like?
Of course, I am hoping to talk to positive people with good dreams. There are negative people with twisted dreams that shouldn’t come true. But I know you aren’t one of them. Studies show that we tend to underestimate what we can accomplish in 10+ years but overestimate what we can do in the short term.
Napoleon Hill is a man who studied 500 of the wealthiest people in the world for over 25 years in person. One of the main principles he discovered is that high achievers always visualize their goal before they achieve it. Make sure you visualize your dreams in detail daily as if you’ve already achieved them. This will help program you in the right direction through your subconscious.
“Dare to visualize a world in which your most treasured dreams have become true.” – Ralph Marston
5. Your Goals Won’t Be Accomplished Until You Fix Your Mindset
What ties successful people together? It’s their mindset. Some of them have lost all their money and got it back because they had the right inner perspective to make money. Some poor people luck out and win the lottery, but they quickly lose it again.
Adopt wealth mindsets. Learn how wealthy people think of money. Read books on financial independence from billionaires. Choose a role model you can meet with to learn from.
How have you shaped your life into a fairytale? Please leave your thoughts below!
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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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