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5 Ways To Live Life On Purpose

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7 years ago

Aug 4, 2015

Living in a fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in a vicious cycle of life’s distractions.

From chasing the next dollar, to dropping kids off to school, and racing between personal and professional obligations, while making it all look easy.

Sometimes, you are moving so quickly that you don’t take the time to slow down and “smell the roses” or take inventory of what’s happening in your life. In order to remain loving, happy and healthy, there needs to be a balance. Choose to live your life on purpose and not just simply drift through daily tasks and routines.

Here are 5 way to live your life on purpose:

1. Learn to say no!

There are many of you who may feel like you are letting people down if you say ”no” and assert yourself. Perhaps you are the person in your family or at work that everyone relies on. With this type of expectation, it can create pressure on you to overextend yourself. Learning to stand in your truth and honoring your feelings is your right and choice to do what is best for yourself.

“The best way to predict the future is to create it.” – Peter Drucker

2. Make time for YOU!

Taking care of others can be a very rewarding experience. The self-less act of giving is remarkable. However, there are times when that same care must be provided and given to you. It is acceptable to admit that you need a break or need help. This doesn’t mean you are selfish, but that you include self-care in your daily health and wellness plan. Whether it’s getting up early to meditate, going for a walk or heading to the gym, this quality time will re-energize you and prepare you for the day ahead. It is very important to make yourself a priority, as when you feel better, you will be better to those around you.

3. Set the clock

You may be thinking of an alarm clock that is set to wake you up for work or other activities. But, I am referring to a “mental clock”. Too often, we are putting too much time and energy where it isn’t deserved or surrounding ourselves around those who are mentally draining. Start deciding to put a time limit on those situations or people who are not adding value to your life. It is acceptable to recognize that there will be times when you will have to re-assess relationships in order to grow. Pay attention to life’s signals and decide when it’s time to move the clock forward.

4. Choose happy

Life is what you make it. You can either let it steer you in any direction or you will choose to live it the way you want. Now, there are moments where this may seem impossible or very difficult. It is all about your perspective. You can decide to let life’s setbacks keep you down or you can take each day as an opportunity to learn new things. It will not be easy, but you can decide at any time which way you want to go.

5. Getting past GO!

You now have the confidence to set boundaries and say “no” when it’s necessary. As you learn to make time for yourself, you will begin to re-evaluate all situations and things in your life and set the clock on those that don’t bring out the best in you. The choice to be happy becomes easier, while you develop guidelines to move your life to where you want to be.

Take each day as it comes and decide how you will handle it, don’t let it handle you. You can achieve great things, but only if you believe that it is possible. Go forward with excitement, energy and passion, and you will see amazing results. This new direction leads up to you going after what you want and living your life on purpose.

Thank you for reading my article! I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below!

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

1. Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.

Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.

Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.

Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.

These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.

This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.

It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.

These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.

If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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