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4 Strategies for You to Achieve Greatness in Every Area of Your Life




Everywhere I go these days I hear so many discussions on greatness. We all have dreams and visions of grandeur. In fact, I have not met a person yet that does not have a deep longing and desire for greatness and success.

Unfortunately, what I have discovered over the years is that most people live their lives in hope but never make it to manifestation. I’ve been privileged to work with people all over the world and empower them to live greater lives.

While we all come from different backgrounds and experiences, the strategies are the same for reaching your greatest potential in life. The journey to greatness will not be an easy journey. However, it will be the greatest adventure of your life and it will bring you the most satisfaction.

Here are a four strategies for pursuing greatness in every area of your life:

1. You have to be willing to walk alone.

I’m sure that you may be a little confused at why I would put this as the first step. However, I want to warn you that the journey to greatness is unconventional. What I have discovered over the years is that everybody wants greatness.

However, not many are willing to walk the path that will produce greatness. When I made the decision many years ago to pursue greatness, I realized that my decision immediately separated me from others.

Some people are great for your present reality but they are not good for your destiny. The moment you take a step toward greatness you will have to take steps away from familiarity. You will learn quickly not everybody wants the same things in life. Also, you will discover that some people are not willing to leave the path of convenience to get on the path to change.

If you are not willing to walk alone, you will abort all the possibilities of what your life can be. You must have the audacity to break away from the status quo if you want to birth significance through your life.

“The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

2. You have to develop an uncommon belief system.

So many people have asked me for the key to my success. Ultimately, I believe that the development of my mind has been the greatest key to my success. My willingness to uproot toxic thoughts, break negative cycles, confront limitations and reprogram my mind has all been major keys to my success.

More importantly, I had to develop an unshakeable belief system. How did I do that? I learned how to reimagine my world. In other words, I stopped being ruled by the conditions around me and I started ruling through my convictions.

My future became bigger than all my fears. One day I decided that I was going to stop living in the prison of the past and I was going to start living in the possibilities of the promise. That decision shifted me and changed the entire trajectory of my life.

I discovered that you have to believe in yourself even when nobody else believes in you. You can sit around and feel sorry for yourself or you can unleash the force of significance that has been placed on the inside of you. When you unleash the power of your mind you propel manifestation in your world.

3. You must be fueled by an uncommon vision.

What separates the average from the great? Great men are consumed with an uncommon vision. I have been blessed to achieve success in my life. What intrigues me is that nobody is really interested in the process. However, everyone is interested in the product of success.

At one season of my life all I had was a dream. That dream was the driving force in some of the darkest moments in my life. I had an uncommon vision and I was thinking of the day when all that sacrifice would culminate in success and extraordinary achievements. Now my work is recognized around the world and I am a highly respected thought leader.

You may feel like you are in the fight of your life. It may seem like the adversity is greater than you can bear. However, when you are fueled by an uncommon vision there is no valley that can defeat you.

Your destination has to become greater than your discomfort. Never forget that there’s an expected end for your life. Never allow adversity to extinguish the dream that is in your heart. Your destiny is always worth fighting for.

“Have a vision. It is the ability to see the invisible. If you can see the invisible, you can achieve the impossible.” – Shiv Khera

4. You have to be committed to excellence.

It seems excellence has become a buzzword in this era. While many are familiar with the word, few people really know what it takes to produce a life of excellence. Many people hear me speak and read my books and they are immediately fascinated. However, what they do not know is that excellence does not happen in a moment.

Excellence is produced through a decision to bring your best to every moment. Mediocrity may provide you with a comfortable life. However, excellence will produce a world-class life.

My goal was never to be good. After all, nobody remembers the good. I set an intention years ago to be the best in the world at what I do. The price has been greater than you would ever know. However, the reward of uncommon disciplines is unrivaled excellence.

Many people in the world today are fascinated with a future they are unwilling to pay the price for. You do not have to dream about a better life. You can commit to excellence and create a life beyond anything you could have ever imagined. Be willing to do what others won’t and live your wildest dreams!

How do you make sure you achieve greatness in your life? Please leave a comment below and let us know!

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Jamelle Sanders is the CEO of Jamelle Sanders International. Jamelle is committed to empowering leaders and entrepreneurs around the world to live up to their true potential and to profit wildly in their businesses. Jamelle is a life coach, business strategist, author, leading empowerment specialist and highly respected thought leader. Jamelle has been featured on CBS, NBC, Huff Post Live and contributed to numerous media outlets such as Thrive, Inspiyr, Young Upstarts, Elite Daily and numerous others.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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