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How to Achieve Success – The Best Tip for Massive Growth



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People never seem to change, do they? They always seem to stay the same. Doesn’t it seem like some people hit a spot somewhere in their young adult life and get stuck where they are? You’ve seen these people, they’re family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and year after year they seem exactly the same. Dressing the same, talking the same, complaining about the same things. They’ve just been that one person ever since you’ve known them.

What happened to growth?

We gradually trap ourselves in a rut. It doesn’t happen overnight, could take years in fact, but by the time you realize you’re trapped, it’s near impossible to free yourself. Most of us follow the footsteps of our parents and oftentimes make the same exact mistakes they did. For most, they get stuck in their ways and go on to live a mediocre life. For others, it takes a very dark turn into drugs, alcohol, bad relationships. And for a select few, they realize they’re walking in their parent’s footsteps and decide “This ends with me”! For many who will go on to live a mediocre life, change will happen all around them, but it will be all external and they will accept it as a part of their identity. But more or less, they will remain the same exact people for the rest of their lives.

My parents are Indian immigrants. Dad was a military brat and mom grew up in a middle-class household who was always afraid to lose it all. This made for an interesting childhood. Although both parents worked steady jobs and we lived comfortably, we never got past comfortable. It’s been years now and my parents are still the exact same people they were since I have been able to think for myself. Still, hard working people, living in comfort, but sometimes comfort is what’ll kill your dreams.

As I got older and started experiencing life for myself, I tried my hand in college, dropped out, and started working in a warehouse. This was supposed to be temporary, but I got comfortable with a steady paycheck. Before long, years had passed and I went from this 18-year-old kid picking boxes on a conveyor line to a 30-year-old office manager. Between those years, many things happened, some good, some bad, but somewhere in those years I got stuck in a rut. Before long, every year started feeling exactly like the last. Years started passing by like weeks, I was getting older, but nothing around me was changing. Although I had promoted in my career and gotten married, I was still the same person on the inside.

“We can’t become what we need to be by remaining what we are.” – Oprah Winfrey

We all have great things we want to accomplish

It wasn’t that I didn’t have any ambition, there were all these great things I wanted to do. When I began working in the warehouse, people would come up to me and ask me my life plans and if I was going to college. Foolishly I’d tell them everything that I wanted to do and see their impressed faces and get showered in compliments. There was this feeling of motivation and accomplishment I got when in fact I had done nothing and would do nothing. It just felt great filling my ears up with compliments. Again, I did none of those things I said I would.

It wasn’t until recently I discovered a secret in achieving your goals…keep your mouth shut. Telling people about your future and goals feels great, but that’s about all you get from it, a feeling. You’ll get this almost high feeling talking about all the great things you’re going to do and the people listening often inflate your ego. Why wouldn’t they when you’re telling them such impressive things? They’ll tell you how great you are, how smart you are and walk away thinking you’re a genius. 

You’ll walk away feeling excited, motivated, even accomplished after receiving all those compliments. All those feelings you’re feeling are false and what will ultimately keep you from making any progress towards your goals. Your brain just checked off this goal in your mental checklist and is telling your body that you no longer need to worry about this task. Your brain thinks you’ve done all these great things and all those “happy chemicals” it’s releasing, is tricking you into thinking that you’ve achieved your goals and you no longer need to concern yourself with this.

What if you just began working and told no one?

Imagine for a second that you just button your lip and get to working on your goals without making a peep to anyone. Then one day in a casual conversation someone asks you what you have been up to and you tell them that you’ve spent the last few weeks creating an online business and got stuck on web design so you are researching some solutions. Now you’re telling them about a goal you’re making progress on. People like that and will praise you for progress, not inflate your head over talk. People will see you’re actually taking action and become curious bystanders to see where it goes, and you are likely to continue to progress and achieve your goal. I am sure you’ve heard it’s about the journey, not the destination. This applies here, in the beginning just begin.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown

But people aren’t always kind to pay compliments

People will not always praise and compliment you. Sometimes they may completely shit all over dreams with their own opinions and insecurities. Sometimes on purpose, they don’t even realize it. In the beginning of your journey, your focus is to just begin, be consistent, eventually leading to the right people to notice. As you advance in whatever you choose to do, you will want to get better at it and improve your work, which is when you’ll seek out feedback and critique.

Let’s say you would like to write screenplays, your first step to beginning is to start writing. You do not need to tell anyone what you’re doing or why you’re doing it, this only matters to you. As you progress, you will pick up books, read articles, follow blogs and people all helping you grow as a writer. You will work daily, you will run into failures, life will happen, but you will keep your mouth shut and carry on

Eventually you’ll have a few screenplays written and you’re wanting to see your next one turned into a feature film, and that is when you seek critical feedback. By that time, you’ll be surrounded by the right people to give you that feedback and help you grow. You wouldn’t seek that feedback on day 1 would you? You’d get discouraged and give up on the spot.

We all have dreams and ambitions, no matter how big or small. Somewhere in our early adult years we get stuck and let the external define our identity. You want change, you want growth, you want out of this trap of a rut. Unfortunately, very few will go out and seek it, but if you’re a part of this few and want to see true success in your life over the next year. Just begin, and KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.

Founder of Through life experience, I help people begin achieving their goals and live a life according to their terms. We all have dreams but often times let the external suppress them. It's my job to help you realize your true identity and get you to live a life of fulfillment and meaning.

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How to Ignite the Spark Within for Future Success

All of us come to this world with our own reserve of magic unfortunately, not everyone can unleash it



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How Your Beliefs Can Supercharge or Sabotage Your Success

Your life is dictated by beliefs and biases that drive your thinking, behaviors, and decisions



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How to Break the Cycles of Mediocrity and Manifest Your Greatness

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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Here’s a Young Man’s Antidote for the Uncertainty of the Modern World

Why do a lot of young guys lack confidence in today’s world? 



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