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3 Ways You Can Become Addicted to Personal Growth

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It’s 5am and your alarm is ringing. Over a period of three hours, you’ve reset it 8 times. It’s 9am and you are waking up, already discouraged and upset with yourself that you are waking up late; 58th day in a row. Yes, I am exaggerating a bit, but many of us deal with this nonsense. You start to question yourself and your purpose. Why are others driven more than you? How do they become obsessed with progress and personal growth?

Just recently I received an email from one of my readers. He seemed pretty upset and demotivated at the same time. He is trying to work hard, he wants to wake up early every morning to study his tail off and build his career, but his blueprint of what he should do doesn’t match what he is actually doing (waking up late without getting things done).

Being pumped up every morning and feeling driven is a state of mind we all need to develop. No one here is a loser, all we need to do is create a particular set of habits and activities.

Here are 3 ways you can become addicted to your personal growth and create what I call a “hunger drive”:

1. Always look beyond impossible

The true belief comes from seeing things which you can’t physically see. Stop limiting yourself to what you think is possible because you are wasting your time. There is more than enough proof that there are no limits when it comes to human potential.

Let’s say you are broke, and you just ended a relationship which wasn’t right for you. If you believe what you see, how can you ever get excited? It may suck now but remember that your present doesn’t define your future.

Believing that things are impossible isn’t real. It is a state of mind and a feeling; a delusion which you can merely change by changing your perspective. Instead of seeing blocks, ask yourself, “what if it’s possible?” With this simple question, you will begin to see opportunities which allow you to grow and move forward. By switching to this simple question, you will direct your subconscious mind to focus on achievements instead of failures.

“No one gets very far unless he accomplishes the impossible at least once a day.” – Elbert Hubbard

2. Focus on your progress

One of the best lessons I’ve learned from Tony Robbins was that progress equals happiness. It didn’t just stick with me because Tony said it. You can feel fulfilled and excited the most when you take action and see results, no matter how small they may be.

This is a perfect answer to any of you asking why some people are happier and more driven than others. It is progress. It is the beauty of moving forward that fires you up. If you sit in your room, daydreaming all day long but don’t take the required action, you will lose motivation.

Let’s say you want to lose weight. If you are trying to find the best gym, buy cool fitness clothing, waiting for your direct deposit to hit your bank so you can buy an expensive gym membership for VIP (so you feel more committed), forget about it. Put your sneakers on, get out and run for 30 minutes. It means you’ve started. It means you are making progress.

3. Continually ask yourself “what can I lose?”

If you aren’t satisfied with life, what can you possibly lose by changing your life and putting in the extra work to embrace your personal growth? Time will always be the same, whether you are sitting in the corner, complaining about your situation or doing something about it. Same time, same effort.

We fear change. But I must tell you, once you get hungry and are driven by your goals and you discover the power of personal growth, this state of mind will become the best and the most rewarded addiction in your life. It will make you question everything. It will change your beliefs entirely on what life is truly about.

“Love bravely, live bravely, be courageous, there’s really nothing to lose.” – Jewel

You can make your life a masterpiece but all you need is a proper mindset. Healthy personal growth is one of the happiest journeys you can set yourself on, and it is up to you whether you take it or leave it. Become obsessed with yourself, who you are and what you want. Only by becoming more can you give more to others which after all, is the purpose of life.

What are some ways you make sure you are growing everyday? Leave your thoughts below!

Silvia committed her life to many things but one of them is helping people in turning their pain into power and teach them how to find benefits in the most difficult events of their lives. She is a motivational speaker and founder of CourageWithinYou platform.  She has written well over 200 articles oriented on personal development, success, and healthy mental growth. You can connect with her on Facebook or on her personal website www.silviaturon.com.

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11 Comments

  1. BK

    Jun 11, 2018 at 5:50 am

    Great and useful tips, thanks so much for the article.

    Although I believe that the fear of success itself is also an obstacle for many people on their way to personal growth. People are scared to leave their comfort zone and anxious about how their life might change if they do achieve personal growth.

    So sometimes additionally to asking oneself “what can I lose?” it is, in my opinion, also important to ask “what can I gain?” to remind oneself that there is so much you can achieve in your lifetime than where you are right now.

    But thank you again for this great article, always great to discover new inspirational texts like this one.

  2. Silvia Turonova

    Feb 6, 2017 at 9:34 pm

    Hello, Kate, Your comment made me smile because I can picture myself going to bed frustrated and upset when I haven’t done all the things I planned. And to be honest, it was painful so I find your way of motivation pretty useful and effective. Pain always causes change so if we feel pain from not making a progress, all we can do is to work toward that progress. gGreat advice. Thanks for sharing, I believe it helped many people who read it, including myself.

  3. Silvia Turonova

    Feb 6, 2017 at 9:28 pm

    Hello, Joel. Life would be much easier and better if more people ask themselves this question. I agree that it is an exciting idea to just think about and I hope we all are going to spread the word and show others that there aren’t limits. It isn’t only this one question but compelling questions, in general, can help resolve many problems and we become more open-minded. I appreciate you taking time and sharing your point of view.

  4. Joel

    Feb 3, 2017 at 2:32 am

    Silvia,

    Can you imagine how different the world would be if each of us asked “What can I lose?” or “What do I have to lose?”

    We have come so far in our existence but if more would push the boundaries, I can’t help but think of what could be.

    Joel

  5. Joel

    Feb 2, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    Silvia,

    Can you imagine a world that continually asked the questions, “What can I lose?” Just thinking about it gives me the chills.

    Not that I discredit how far we as human beings have come, but how much farther could we be if we all thought that way?

  6. Kate

    Feb 1, 2017 at 6:55 pm

    Great advice. When I need to motivate myself, I just do a side by side comparison of the icky way I feel when I go to bed, knowing that I didn’t work toward making progress on my goals, versus the satisfied feeling I get when I did make progress, however small. Palpable reminders of why you do what you do are usually more effective than abstract ones.

  7. Silvia Turonova

    Jan 31, 2017 at 9:12 pm

    Hello, Nick. I agree. We should focus more on what we do well in life. Every progress is progress, the size doesn’t matter. I am happy you liked this article and thank you for a compliment.

  8. Nick Grimshawe

    Jan 30, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    I love these three simple tips, especially the one about focusing on your progress no matter how small. Too often the focus is on the progress we are not making.

    Nick

  9. Pospi O Otuson

    Jan 28, 2017 at 9:32 pm

    Thanks Alot

  10. Silvia Turonova

    Jan 28, 2017 at 12:33 am

    Hello Pospi, thanks a lot for such generous words. You just made my day with your comment. You know, it’s not only the entrepreneurial world but life in general. If you master personal growth, you basically master life. I am very glad you enjoyed these few little tips and wish you all the best in life.

  11. Pospi O Otuson

    Jan 27, 2017 at 2:16 pm

    This are some great tips that will help motivated young entrepreneur to be addicted to their personal growth. Thanks for sharing. Its indeed helpful

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  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

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A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

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You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

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