Connect with us

Life

3 Decision-Making Mistakes You Should Avoid

Published

on

Decision Making

A moment of poor judgment can lead to a lifetime of regret. And who hasn’t made a few undeniably bad decisions? Poor decisions, especially in our youth, seem to be part of the deal.

Yet, some of us march right into adulthood without learning more effective decision-making skills.

In our NLP practitioner course, we routinely ask students to analyze their bad decisions and decipher the pattern behind them.

We train around 350 students every year, so we’ve had lots of opportunities to discover common patterns. Here are three decision-making mistakes that you simply must avoid if you want to make solid decisions.

 

1. Impulsivity

See it. Buy it!

Feels good? Do it!

She says jump. How high?

Impulsive decisions aren’t inherently bad. You can order lunch impulsively and if it turns out to be a bad decision, you’ll get through it.

Marrying someone impulsively, on the other hand, can be a disaster that haunts you forever. Amazingly, the decision to marry is one of the more common impulsive decisions that people report.

Decisions in general, are made through imagery, sounds, and feelings. We see options, discuss them internally (or with someone else) and feel positively or negatively about moving ahead.

Thorough decisions combine all three senses – seeing, hearing and feeling. Impulsive decisions always lack one of these elements. We don’t review all the options. We don’t discuss or we don’t search our feelings.

So, be thorough in your processing and DON’T make impulsive decisions when it counts!

 “One of the most important things that I have learned in my 57 years is that life is all about choices. On every journey you take, you face choices. At every fork in the road, you make a choice. And it is those decisions that shape our lives.” – Mark DeWine

2. Allowing yourself to be persuaded against your better judgment

One lady reported that she came to a very solid decision about purchasing a new car. It looked nice (imagery), but after she drove the car (feeling) she realized that it was too big for her. She didn’t fit in the seats very well and was uncomfortable maneuvering the vehicle. She gave herself a good talking to (sounds) and decided to pass on the vehicle.

Then the salesman joined into her little discussion. An hour later she drove off the lot in her brand new car! Three years later, she has two years left on the loan and regrets the decision every time she gets behind the wheel.

Sometimes we allow the judgment of others to interfere with our own. This isn’t always a bad thing, but when the other has a selfish agenda, it usually is bad!

Don’t allow others with an agenda to hijack your good decisions.

 “Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.” – Keri Russell

3. Cerebral spinning

Or analysis paralysis. In this case, you spin on your thoughts (the images and sounds flowing through your mind) without arriving at the feeling that prompts you to act one way or another.

Our students often describe cerebral spinning as form of inner conflict. On the one hand, this. On the other hand, that. Round and round we go!

Decision Making
 

How do you counter cerebral spinning? Here are three ideas (implement at your own risk):
  • Assume that spinning on thoughts and remaining in conflict means ‘no’. Inner conflict is certainly not a yes. Consider your decision to be no and move on to other things. 
  • Put off your decision for a while. Allow your subconscious processes to do their job. Vow to avoid thinking about it until a certain date and then see where you’re at.
  • Make an assessment of the risks involved in making the decision. What’s at stake? If there is a lot at stake, then pat yourself on the back for taking this decision so seriously. If there is little at stake, then take a small risk!


Imagine making solid, congruent and healthy decisions 99% of the time. What difference would it make in your success?

Advertisement
6 Comments

6 Comments

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Life

Imposter Syndrome Is Rooted in Your Past But Here’s How You Can Rewire It

Imposter syndrome is most prevalent in highly successful women

Published

on

how to heal imposter syndrome
Image Credit: Midjourney

Imposter syndrome is “the persistent inability to believe that one’s success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one’s own efforts or skills.” (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

The Surprising Mental Health Tool You Probably Haven’t Tried

Through journaling, I arrived at a more balanced perspective, it reinstated my sense of gratitude and led me to accept my disability

Published

on

The power of journaling
Image Credit: Midjourney

In two particularly difficult times in my adult life, my journaling practice is helping me heal emotionally. It has been a vital tool for helping me see the bigger picture and land in a place of gratitude. (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Find True Happiness

Comparison is the thief of joy; it robs us of our happiness, self-esteem, and peace of mind

Published

on

How to stop comparing yourself to others
Image Credit: Midjourney

In today’s hyperconnected world, it’s easier than ever to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others. Social media platforms like Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn constantly bombard us with curated highlights of other people’s lives, making it seem like everyone else is happier, more successful, and more fulfilled than we are. (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

Harness the ‘Battery Effect’ to Transform Life’s Tensions into Your Greatest Strength

Recharge your life batteries by shifting your mindset today

Published

on

Battery effect in life
Image Credit: Midjourney

I believe our life capacity is determined by the skillsets we develop on this spinning rock we call Earth. By “life capacity,” I mean our ability to embrace and sustain joy. (more…)

Continue Reading

Trending