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12 Blessings From Having A Severe Health Challenge

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A few weeks ago I was diagnosed with a health challenge called Fructose Malabsorption and at first, I was quite worried of the change in the quality of life that I was told to expect. Friends started telling me all the things I would no longer be able to eat and the experience shocked me.

Since I have a positive mindset from years of self-development, I thought long and hard about how I could reframe this scenario to be a benefit. It turns out I didn’t need to because the universe gave the answer to me.

Below are the twelve blessings I have discovered from having health challenge:

 

1. I am now forced to be healthy

Most people try their entire life to be healthy, and it takes a lot of discipline. I have the blessing of having a food intolerance so it means that I can’t eat any junk food what so ever. I don’t know about you, but I think this is an amazing gift I have been given.

I don’t have to worry like most people about peer pressure or fitting in because I have a genuine reason why I can’t consume toxic, processed foods anymore, and I am kind of proud of it. I suspect that my fructose intolerance was caused by years of eating unhealthy food and consuming a ridiculous amount of sugar.

I watched the movie “That Sugar Film” recently and learnt that sugar is actually the main issue with the western diet and that it’s in everything. From yoghurt to tomato sauce, to our favourite breakfast cereal, almost anything we buy that is pre-packaged is likely to contain sugar.

What the movie points out is that often the label doesn’t tell you there is sugar, and the ingredients are given other names so you won’t always know if there is sugar present. By removing fructose foods from my diet, I am forced to not consume these foods anymore.

 

2. I won’t age as quickly

In today’s society, so many of us care so deeply about our vanity and the way we look. I stopped caring about vanity a long time ago, but I still have the pleasure from my new fructose intolerance to know that the aging process will slow down for me.

So often we think that we inherit baldness, gray hair and poor skin conditions, all the research I have read says that genes play a small part, but the number one factor that actually influences these conditions is our diet.

I am not joking when I say that I have friends (both male and female) that are in their twenties and already have some or lots of gray hair. Some of those same friends are also going bald or completely bald already. I am so happy to know that I am at least slowing this process down without having to do anything at all.

It’s never too late to start to be healthy; I am just lucky that I am being forced.

 

3. The universe is conspiring in my favour

For some reason, since I have started on this journey of self-development and massive success, the universe has conspired in my favour to bring me this health problem. It’s almost as if the universe wants me to stay on this path and so it’s throwing gifts disguised as challenges, to help me along the way.

I don’t say this to get all spiritual on you, I say this because the actions that we take every day determine our success and things will start to go your way as long as you have the skills and knowledge to understand what’s happening to you.

Had I have not done any personal development at all, I would have never been able to take the point of you that I take on most things today. To summarise this point, everything that looks like a problem is an opportunity – period.

 

4. I am more patient

Eating healthier foods and knowing what is going into your mouth allows you to become more patient over time. The reason most people are impatient and have to walk around like robots drinking coffee is because their diet doesn’t allow them to operate at a high level of energy.

On your way to the city next time, notice how many people are driving their cars in an angry way and are in a rush. The reason for this is because they have no energy, can’t sleep properly and are tired because their body is exhausted from processing all the fatty food they eat the day before.

When your body has to constantly work hard to process unhealthy food and remove the waste from your system, it uses up all your energy. The body is very clever, though, when there isn’t enough energy available; you’re put to sleep so that while you rest your body can work on breaking down the food.

Low energy levels are one of the main factors to being impatient and thanks to my fructose intolerance I am seeing a decreased level of this phenomenon.

 

5. I don’t need willpower to be healthy

One of the hardest parts of being healthy is to maintain the habit over a long period of time and not succumb to temptation. I have to admit that I have very good will power and can maintain a habit that is giving me value, but like everyone, even I have my moments.

It can be very tempting when walking past a nice cake store or smelling a fresh pizza that has just been cooked, to give in, and go and stuff our faces with food that we shouldn’t. One of the times we can be most at risk is when we are feeling an extreme emotion like sadness, where food scientifically can make us feel better in the short term.

Think of your body like being a year seven high school science experiment. When you mix different chemicals together in a test tube, you get both positive and negative results. For the human body, when you mix plant-based foods together with a well balanced diet, as opposed to mixing plant-based food with lots of junk food, the end result is completely different.

“Your body is really just a never-ending chemical reaction and you can choose to make the reaction be beneficial or a hindrance in your life”

 

6. I am now grateful for the past foods I experienced

Before I had this fructose intolerance, I was able to eat absolutely anything I wanted and for a long time I was never grateful for this. It’s amazing how when something is taken away from you, you realise how lucky you were to have it in the first place.

Had this event not happened in my life I would still be going along eating whatever I want and not being grateful for this privilege. There are millions of people that starve every day and have never had the opportunity to eat some of the fine foods that western culture allows us to experience.

While I have eaten my last scoop of ice cream and last slice of pizza, I am grateful that I got to experience them in the first place.

 

7. Tea has become my new vice

Drinking Tea Is A Great Vice - Tim DenningEverybody tends to have a vice, which is a bad habit that they regularly do. A typical vice for most people is coffee or eating junk food. A vice is a way for us to reward ourselves after a busy workweek. Junk food used to be my vice, but this new fructose intolerance has forced me to find a new one.

The new vice I have taken up is tea, which is not really a bad habit and is quite healthy if you drink the right one. I would never have found this healthy vice if I hadn’t had to deal with this food issue. Again, I am blessed to be forced to change my life and form a new healthy habit.

After a long week of work, there is nothing I like more than relaxing over some fresh tea and taking my mind off work. Having something that is a temptation is fine as long as it’s good for you, and tea has been that for me.

 

8. I now need to look at what’s in my food

Many of us eat foods every day, and we have no idea what the ingredients are. When you have a fructose intolerance, you are forced to question everything you eat and understand what’s in the food you are consuming.

Having a fructose intolerance means that when I’m at the supermarket I look at the ingredients tab of everything, and I have started to become more aware. The result of all of this is that you make better decisions about what you eat which can affect your health for the long term.

It also makes you realise how much processed food you are eating and you start to eat more natural foods. The reason you want to eat more natural food when you have a fructose intolerance is that you know exactly what’s in whole foods like vegetables so there an easier choice.

Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com/Andrea Danti

Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com/Andrea Danti

 

9. I get to see a dietician

The first thing your doctor does after you are diagnosed with a fructose intolerance issue is send you to a dietician. Let’s be honest with ourselves for a second, most of us are probably not going to go and see a dietician of our own accord because we tell ourselves we’re healthy, and we don’t want to know if the little chocolate indulgences we love are harming us.

The blessing here is that I now have to go and see one and I have someone who I am accountable too. I can’t lie to myself or those around me about what I am eating because I will get found out. The tests I now have to do will reveal everything I am consuming, and whether I am eating what I say I am, so I have the benefit of being able to stay on track.

 

10. I get to maintain a food diary

After seeing the dietician, I now have to keep a daily food diary. This is another task that most of us don’t have the willpower to do and avoid like the plague. Again, I am accountable now and have to keep track of everything I eat.

It’s great to see after a few weeks what I am actually consuming as opposed to what I tell myself I am consuming every day – there is a big difference….haha.

 

11. I get reduced medical bills forever

We all spend lots of money over the course of our lifetime on healthcare. Imagine being able to cut those bills down drastically? The blessing I have from this fructose intolerance is that by being forced to be healthy I won’t develop the sicknesses that most people live with on a daily basis.

Being healthier means you don’t need to go and see the doctor as much or spend money on expensive specialists trying to figure out what’s wrong. This translates to less time worrying about what’s wrong with you, less of your time being wasted in medical waiting rooms and more time doing the things you love.

 

12. I don’t have to take time off work

I have already seen since I have been on a healthy streak for the last two years that I haven’t contracted the flu and I very rarely get colds. The last time I had a cold it lasted for two days. The beauty of my new fructose intolerance is that by cutting out unhealthy foods, my body will be functioning much more efficiently, and my insides will be much less acidic.

When I am working on work-related tasks, I will now be able to think clearer and won’t have the brain fog that most people deal with. This means that the quality of work I produce will be of a much higher standard, and I will become more patient with people because I am feeling good.

The blessing of my fructose intolerance is that I can function a lot longer than most and will have more energy. By not getting sick as much, I will be able to get more work done, take fewer days off work and achieve things that others are not able to do.

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I don’t know about you, but I think this new health challenge is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I am starting to wish it had happened sooner so I could enjoy the benefits I’m now seeing.

If you have dealt with a health problem recently and found some real benefits from it, then please leave a comment below or post on my Facebook Page.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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10 Comments

  1. KAUSTAV GHOSH

    Jan 19, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    The best article to look forward the health challenge, thanks for sharing

  2. Jay

    Jul 25, 2018 at 11:44 am

    Thanks a lot, Tim.
    you have made me see my life from a whole new angle. i have ulcerative colitis and have a lot of food restrictions. but now i can see how they are a blessing and keeping me on track for a longer, healthier life.
    hope you are in best of health.
    thanks

  3. Lawrence Berry

    Aug 1, 2015 at 7:28 pm

    This was a great article Tim. It’s funny because I was recently just talking to someone very close to me about eating healthy, but because we both are still very young, they think we dont have to eat healthy. Eating healthy gives you energy and I feel the difference every time I go on a junk food spree from eating healthy for months. I feel the difference in energy levels and it is really amazing. Eating healthy really does allow you to be more productive, and stay and feel young longer.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 2, 2015 at 2:55 am

      Couldn’t agree more Lawrence. I am just lucky because I have no excuse and am being forced. It’s great that you and I have been able to come to this realization at a young age. Some people don’t realise until it’s too late.

  4. stemcellbuddy

    Jul 30, 2015 at 8:44 pm

    Tim, What an inspiring blog – thanks.
    I too have had health challenges, in fact i have had them for almost 50 years now, but it is only within past 10 years that I have been FORCED to seriously consider finding a better way.
    After being diagnosed in 2006 with a degenerative condition and being advised that nothing could stop the degeneration in my left eye except for laser treatment which may possibly slow down the degeneration – NOT stop it. Problem was that there was a 50% chance laser could immediately blind me due to difficult position of the condition. I was told that I could expect to completely lose sight by 3 to 4 years with the possibility my right eye could indeed go the same way. I did not go ahead with the laser treatment. Within the following year I was guided towards new natural supplements. Took a new look at what I eat and I now presently live FREE of my degenerative condition. I also train myself daily to look at problems “as you do” by making them a challenge instead of a problem. – Everything will have a positive outcome if I work at it in the right way.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 2, 2015 at 2:53 am

      Wow amazing story Stemcellbuddy! The decisions you had to make were tough but like me, you realised that the natural way is always better and I love your mindset. Send me your details on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/tim.denning I would love to chat further with you.

  5. Tim Denning

    Jul 29, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Dotchamou thanks for your two inspiring quotes. Nothing is ever an issue as long as you know how to reframe it and get the message from the situation. If you learn the art of this technique then you will find you have very little struggles to deal with in your life and you will be much happier.

  6. Seth

    Jul 29, 2015 at 6:53 pm

    I actually feel the same way Tim. I had my first seizure 6 years ago and have had them sporadically ever since. I have had to change a lot in my life because of it but I think it was for the best. Going through a health related challenge really opened up my eyes and changed my life around completely. I not take very good care of myself and try to learn/absorb as much as possible in my fields of interest. Thanks for writing this piece.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 2, 2015 at 2:51 am

      Hey Seth, dealing with seizures must be ten times harder than my health challenge. I respect you for being able to have a positive outlook and realising that you need to take care of yourself. Thanks for sharing your story.

  7. Dotchamou Zakari

    Jul 29, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    Hello, I hope your health will be better than before since your are positive. Most people will say that you are insane, but that doesn’t matter for somebody who is strong in his mind. In fact nothing is wasted in our life if we use it in our favor but most people curse everything that is not going in their ways instead of blessing it. Our life will be better if we can use the power of our life challenges in our favor.
    Here are two citations to lift up the mind of people who doesn’t want to be tested by life.
    “Don’t give up! It’s not over. The universe is balanced. Every set-back bears with it the seeds of a come-back.”
    ― Steve Maraboli

    “A challenge only becomes an obstacle when you bow to it.”
    ― Ray A. Davis

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3 Ways You Can Track Your Habits to Make Significant Improvements in Life

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Do you feel sick and tired of all the generic advice on success out there? It’s always the same things. Read more, write more, believe in yourself, eat healthy, go to the gym, love your life and your wife. From time to time, all of the articles seemed like they were written by someone who has never experienced real life or any of the struggles they tend to write about.

It’s like getting advice from an alien. But nobody ever writes on the details of the struggle. Because they don’t know it. To be able to know and understand the struggle, you need to experience it. To live something day in and day out and experience it viscerally means to know something and have a grasp of it.

It is as Walt Whitman said it: “I do not ask the wounded person how he feels. . . . I myself become the wounded person.” I went through years of pain to learn how to build habits. I didn’t only read books about it (and yes, books are important), but I lived through it.

Because I know that theory and practice are the same in theory, but they are not the same in practice. I had to live it through to be able to give any advice on it.

I did go through the pain and created my habit building system. What I noticed during the process of building my habits was that it can be challenging to track them. Nobody was telling us how to do it, because that’s something you learn when you go through the process.

Here are the three different ways you can track your habits:

1. Task done

The way you track this type of habit is by marking if you did your task. By that, I mean “I am going to vacuum the room” and you mark it done/not done or 1/0 in your habit tracker. This way of tracking works the best when you don’t know how much time a task will take and you just track if you did or didn’t do the task.

I have the same for my writing habit. My daily habit is “Write 500 words.” So when I do the task, I immediately open my habit tracker and mark it done. I do this by writing in the tracker the number of words I wrote that day (I don’t count social media or texting or things like this- only writing as in pure writing).

This is one of the easiest ways you can track your habit. But if you have a tight schedule, a different way of tracking might be better and this is what I mean.

“It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them.” – Benjamin Franklin

2. Time Allocated

Let’s say that you have only 30 minutes for yourself in the morning before the kids wake up. What you do in those 30 minutes counts and that is the second way of tracking your habits.

A great question to ask yourself is “How much time did I spend today on a certain habit?”

For example, let’s take the habit I’m developing of the writing 500 words daily. I try to make “write for 20 minutes” a daily habit. This way of tracking your habit works the best if you have a tight schedule or you run your life on “manager time,” as Paul Graham would say it.

I use this way of tracking for my daily walking habit where I “walk for 30 minutes” a day, trying to get my 10,000 steps a day count. From July 2018 up to March 2019, my average number of steps per day was 9429 and I did 2,178,120 steps. One kilometer is around 1,250 steps which means I walked 1,742 kilometers in 8 months which is the equivalent of walking from Miami, Florida, to Washington D.C.

There is one more way of tracking your habits, and this one is the best for tasks which are hard to accurately measure.

3. Did I do my best?

How do you measure your habit of being a great dad, husband, boyfriend, or friend? You can’t just say “Phone my girlfriend every day and talk to her for 15 minutes” and call it a day. It doesn’t work like that. You can talk to your girlfriend for 2 hours straight and it won’t make you a great boyfriend. Time isn’t the issue here. It’s how we use that time.

And that’s where the third way of tracking your habits comes into play. “Did I do my best to be an awesome boyfriend, husband, father, or friend today?” And you rank yourself from 1 to 10, 1 meaning that today, you were really lousy, and 10 meaning you were an amazing boyfriend, husband, father, or friend in the world.

“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” – John C. Maxwell

This makes a massive difference in the lives of not just you, but people around you. It’s what Brendon Burchard would call social habits. You can’t count love, but sure as hell can you count the effort for love.

You don’t have to pick just one way or another. You can combine these different ways of tracking your habits. And yes, even though some habits work better with a particular type of tracking, that doesn’t mean that you need to adapt to it.

Experiment and try and see which one works the best for you. Use all three tracking methods if you want to. Just remember to track your habits. Because the Walt Whitman quotes, which I modified a little bit, tells us “I don’t ask a successful person how he did it…. I myself become a successful person.”

How do you track your habits to make sure you’re on the path towards succeeding? Share your advice below!

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Why Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone May Be a Bad Idea

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Donald Trump famously said, “Avoid your comfort zone – it’s probably outdated anyway.” It is very good advice for people who are exceptional, but what if you are not exceptional? You probably learned in college that no matter how good you are at something, there are always other people who are better than you.

Are you humble enough to say you are not exceptional? And if so, isn’t it possible that your comfort zone is where you belong? Just because you are in your comfort zone, it doesn’t mean you don’t crave success. Champion boxers never leave their comfort zone to take part-time jobs as a typist. Consider the fact that your comfort zone is the place where you will enjoy the most success.

Why “Comfort Zone” Advice Seems So Correct

Once again, breaking out of your comfort zone may be the right thing to do if you are exceptional. It is especially true for exceptional people because breaking out of their comfort zone is often the only place where they can grow. Yet, that is not the only reason why breaking out of your comfort zone seems like good advice.

The truth is that most people confuse being in a rut with being in their comfort zone. For example, the middle-aged executive who stays in his dead-end job because it is safe, rather than starting a new business selling parachute lessons, is not staying in his comfort zone, he is sticking with his rut. If people tell the middle-aged executive to get out of his comfort zone, they actually mean he should get out of his rut.

However, take the same middle-aged executive who is well respected at work, whose job is not a dead-end one, whose social life thrives because of his job, who’s bringing up children, investing, and who is healthy because of his job. If this same person were to leave his job to start a parachute training company, he would be leaving his comfort zone and most probably be making a great mistake.

Isn’t the Grass Always Greener On The Other Side?

Taking the previous example, what if the middle-aged executive left his job and his parachute training company offered him all the same things his old job offered him except better? Isn’t it always a good idea to try and fail rather than to never try at all?

The question and sentiment is fine, but it is not real life. Ask a person who has tried everything and ask a person who tried a bunch of stuff and then found something he/she enjoyed, and ask which person is happiest. Just because you “Didn’t” try something doesn’t mean you are missing out.

“The grass isn’t always greener on the other side!” – Ricky Gervais

What About People Who Broke Out of Their Comfort Zone?

There is an old “Will & Grace” episode from 2002 called, “Went to a Garden Potty.” In it an old man says a line that goes, “I’m Stan’s old partner. We started the mattress store together, then he wanted to branch out into other businesses but I said, no I’ll just not take any chances, so now I’ve got the one little store and he’s worth hundreds of millions of dollars.

The mattress store story sounds familiar doesn’t it? You have read about similar stories in motivational books, but what you rarely read about are people who didn’t take risks and still became successful millionaires. A book called, “The Millionaire Next Door” addresses this discrepancy by featuring people who became millionaires by selling caravans and by being dentists. It shows how people who work the same job their entire lives are not schmucks, and that their unexciting success stories are still success stories.

Do not confuse taking risks with being outside of your comfort zone. In the “Will & Grace” example, the character Stan felt outside of his comfort zone with just one store. Stan’s comfort zone was taking risks. Stan didn’t leave his comfort zone when he went off making millions of dollars, he entered his comfort zone in order to do it.

The people who risk it all on a penny-share company are not doing it to break out of their comfort zone, they are doing it because they feel uncomfortable if they are not taking risks.

“Unexceptional” People Can Be “Exceptionally” Successful in Their Comfort Zone

I don’t like to be out of my comfort zone, which is about a half an inch wide.” That line is a quote from Larry David, the guy who wrote “Curb your Enthusiasm” and “Seinfeld” and he is worth $400 million.

Stephen King was 27 when he sold his first book, and he was writing long before that. King hasn’t left his comfort zone since he was out of college, and he is worth $400 million. One could even say that Stephen King rarely leaves his comfort zone creatively since his stories almost always feature a middle aged man, and many times the middle-aged man has a creative career such as being a writer, painter, etc.

Danica Patrick, when asked how she became the best female racer in the world responded with, “I never do anything out of my comfort zone.” Does that mean this woman, who is worth $60 million, never takes risks? You would know the answer if you had ever watched her race.

Do not forget the psychological damage that repeated failure can do to a person. People who say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” have clearly never gone through a terrible time because terrible times often make you weaker.

Repeatedly trying to break out of your comfort zone, only to be kicked back and stomped into the ground (metaphorically speaking) takes its toll and will often sap your enthusiasm to keep going forwards.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

Conclusion – He Will Be Back

Have you considered that exceptional people do not have a comfort zone? Take Arnold Schwarzenegger, whose last name has found its way into every spell checker program on the planet. He was a world-class bodybuilder, a record breaking actor, married a Kennedy, and became a US governor.

Some people say he was so successful because he never became comfortable being the best at just one thing. Maybe that is the reason for his success, maybe he wasn’t trying to break from his comfort zone…maybe he was trying to find it.

What are your thoughts on being able to succeed while staying your comfort zone? Share your opinions and stories below!

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Do These 3 Things Today to Live in the Moment and Have a Better Tomorrow

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People always say that life is short, but they fail to remember that while life is short compared to eternity, living is the longest task that we as humans will ever perform.

Some of us take each day as it comes and some of us carefully plan out what we desire each day to bring us. No matter how you go about it, if you’re not careful, having an unbalanced point of view as it pertains to life and how to make it better for yourself can bring more pain than it will joy.

Life is filled with decisions and the decisions you make today have the power to shift the course of your tomorrow. Life can sometimes move so quickly that it’s hard to think and act while simultaneously balancing all the roles you possess and completing all the tasks you need to complete. Nonetheless, there are ways to navigate the trenches of life so that you’re able to enjoy each day as it comes, embrace the possibilities of tomorrow and be present to experience all the moments that make you smile.

If you have a hard time slowing your mind down long enough to pause and breathe, try these three tips:

1. Before you make a decision, ask yourself “why.”

According to Psychology experts, one of the easiest steps you can take right now on your journey of de-stressing is to ask yourself hard questions. Sometimes you think, act and speak before you have time to process what is happening inside of you and around you. Knowing this. It could be your lack of intention that’s the problem.

As a part of your self-awareness journey, start asking yourself why you are the way you are, why you think the things you think and why you do the things you do before you take action. While an adrenaline rush helps kick you into gear to take action, you want to make sure any action you take aligns with your personal goals.

Self-awareness allows people to recognize what things they do best so they can then go hard on those aspects of their life. It also helps you accept your weaknesses. – Gary Vaynerchuk

2. Instead of planning for the long game, just plan for tomorrow

Worry is the thief of time and joy. If you look at your track record of life events, you may notice that many of the things that caused you the most stress and worry never came to pass. When you think about the direction you want your life to go in, don’t stress yourself out wondering what the next five years will look like. Take a moment to breathe, look around you and relax.

When you focus on taking life one day at a time, you’ll have more energy to think logically and make the decisions that lead to both short and long-term gains. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you live a happy life? One moment at a time.

3. Fight the urge to prove yourself

We live in a society that forces us to try to convince others of our happiness. According to studies, phones are necessary evils. It seems like you can’t live with them and you can’t live without them. And for most of us, our phones play such a large role in our day to day that we start and end the day looking at the small screen.

The last time you enjoyed a moment of peace and tranquility, it’s likely that you snapped a picture of your surroundings so you could show the world just how much you enjoyed that moment.

Here is the good news, you don’t have to prove to anyone that you are happy or that you enjoy your life. Keep some moments to yourself. Protect your peace and your space. Don’t let the urge of sharing your journey cause you to be distracted from living in the moment. Don’t miss a moment in an attempt to capture the moment. Just be.

“It’s the moments that I stopped just to be, rather than do, that have given me true happiness.” – Richard Branson

Life is what you make of it. You have more control than you know. Life gets so much better when you acknowledge the opportunities instead of the obstacles that come your way. Before you feel an ounce of anxiety as a result of a stressor coming your way, ask yourself “why” you feel the way you do, think for the moment and not for your life and remember that you have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself.

How do you relax with so many distractions in the world? Share your ideas with everyone below!

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Follow These 5 Steps to Radically Transform Your Negative Mindset

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Struggling with a negative mindset is a very real and common problem, one that often hinders a person’s ability to grow and achieve the things in life they want. Oftentimes, it is someone’s mindset that determines their level of happiness.

What is a mindset? A mindset is the beliefs about yourself and your most basic qualities. Think about your intelligence, talents, and personality, these are the basic traits of oneselves. A mindset determines how we deal with challenges and obstacles. Which frame the running accounts in our heads and guide us on our life journey.

Experts agree there are two basic types – a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. In a fixed mindset, people believe that their natural traits – intelligence, abilities, and talents are fixed from birth. In a growth mindset, people believe that they can develop their inner traits through learning and determination.

“The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.” – Carol Dweck

Research has shown that 80% of the nearly 60,000 thoughts we have on a daily basis are negative. It also estimated that 98% of those thoughts are a repetition of yesterday. On a subconscious level, people are expecting the worst – almost all of the time. Constant repeated thought patterns turn into beliefs.

These beliefs then combine into a fixed and negative mindset. One where our inner voice is a harsh critic, a worrisome voice, and an anxious being. Luckily – we can employ parts of our brains to change other parts. We can move a fixed mindset into a growth mindset. How?

Here are five steps to radically transform your negative mindset:

Step One – Untangling your thoughts

A very powerful, proven technique for stepping back from the constant flow of thoughts is to look at them with the impartial rational mind. Generally, it is easy to spot these negative thought patterns because they are accompanied by an emotion. Recognizing the emotion tied to anxiety then gives you the power to label it for what it is. The same can be done for many other feeling patterns. These thoughts and feelings start to lose their intensity when repeatedly scrutinized by the rational mind.

Step Two – Examine your beliefs

Using the perspective gained in step one, you can begin to check your belief systems. The fixed mindset creates an internal monologue that is focused on judging: “This means I’m a loser,”  “I am a better person than they are,” “I am not a good wife and mother,” “My partner is selfish.” Etc.

The key is adopting a growth mindset. A growth mindset is one where it is possible to learn and begin to cultivate positive beliefs. For example – when you find yourself being hard on yourself, consciously change it to something more positive – like when you have failed at something and the negative inner voice is yelling “see – you suck. I knew you’d fail” (a fixed view). Changing this tone to one that is more forgiving to yourself – “its ok – you’re only human. Learn from this mistake and you’ll do much better next time” (a growth view).

Step Three – Balance Your Risk-Averse fears

Being overly risk-averse in life leads to focusing on catastrophic possibilities. In a fixed mindset,  these fears are set in place and the belief is that they cannot be changed. Which results in a human being that is unable to experience life because of fearfulness. Fears can be overcome by setting goals and making detailed plans to accomplish them. Write the specific goals and plans down on paper. If you have your plan written down on paper than you know what you have to do and will not negotiate with your fears when making decisions.

Step Four – Adopt the Habit of Daily Mindfulness Meditation Practice

The practice of mindfulness meditation has been around for 2500+ years. It is what Buddha practiced and is at the heart of many religions. Meditation can be used to see the bigger picture and not focus on the implications of now. More so, mindfulness meditation can delve into each piece of it – old fears, habitual self-loathing, shying away from challenges and eliminate these pains.

What is meditation anyway? At the core, it is the mind’s ability to look inward. As discussed above – it can look at the thoughts, emotions, beliefs, fears, hopes, attraction, and avoidance of oneself. It can gradually quiet the negative internal monologue. Research shows that meditation increases a sense of happiness and contentment. Mediation makes space for growth by eliminating underlying stress, depression, and anxiety.

“Your mind is a powerful thing. When you filter it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.” – Buddha

Step Five – Shape Your Mindset With Visions and Goals

Every person has hopes and dreams that they want to accomplish. However, often we feel powerless to do so. By setting specific goals and detailed plans to accomplish them, you can start to break free from negativity. Break down the goals into smaller achievable steps. Allow every achievement along your plan to bring a sense of accomplishment and self worth.

The best way to begin to put it all together is to have faith that you can break out of a negative mindset. Gain an understanding of how your current mindset is fixed and negative through mindful meditation. From this insight and understanding, you can then set achievable goals of positive growth and use the same mindfulness to measure your success.

Adopt these five steps and through determination and consistent practice, you will find your mindset transformed in ways you never thought possible. Remember, there is always space for failure. Without failure there is no growth.

Do not fall back into the trap of negative thinking if you do not achieve what you want in one day. Humans are imperfect beings, and it is not possible to reprogram your brain within a day or a week. Some negativity will linger for awhile and that is totally normal. What matters most is your continued effort to reprogram. Over time your mind will change, just give it time.

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