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10 Simple Steps To Be Productive And Kill The Procrastination Beast

Have you ever experienced this? You are so tired and worn out after a long workday that some of your primary body functions have temporarily shut down.You are not able to think, speak or walk properly. Heck, let`s be honest. If your mother watched you limping towards the bathroom to brush your teeth, she would seriously be wondering about if she had given birth to a Quasimodo (hunchback).

The Problem? Even though you are putting in more hours at work, you somehow can`t seem to catch up. Your never-ending growing to do list is not the real problem. The real problem is what lurks behind it – the big and dreadful procrastination beast, which is growing more each day.

You feel that you are awfully close to the breaking-point…where you either will be drowned by your to do list or eaten alive by the procrastination beast. Can you relate? If so, it`s okay. I`ve been there too…Relax. Breathe. There is still hope.

Here’s the 10 Simple Steps To Be Productive And Kill The Procrastination Beast:

1. Setting a correct goal

It`s important that you have clarity, so you will be able to set a correct goal. Something that might be worse than failing to reach a correct goal, is to actually reach a wrong goal. Let`s say that you were going to learn to play ice hockey. That was your ultimate goal, and you knew that it was the path you wanted to take.

A good first step would for instance be learning how to skate. Instead of aiming for that goal, you somehow, don’t ask me why, found out you wanted to learn how to run faster. Even though, learning how to run faster might be a cool goal to reach, it will bring you nowhere closer to learning how to skate. You get the point.

Then over to one of the most underestimated steps…

 

2. Your BIG why

This will actually be the real make it or break it factor. It`s within our human nature to resist going out of our comfort zone. Why? Because we think it`s uncomfortable.

If your ´why´ is not big enough, you won`t be able to fend off the excuses when you have to push yourself doing the necessary tasks, whether you feel like it or not. The bigger your why, the greater your chance of actually sticking to plan and reaching your goal.

You should have a burning desire, which will make you unstoppable on your way to your goal. Have you found your real why?

Good, let`s move on.

“People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it.” – Simon Sinek

3. How?

Knowing how to reach your goal is crucial. If you don`t know how, then you could do research and google the topic. A good tip is to find someone who has already accomplished what you want to accomplish, and replicate the method. It can either be finding a mentor or just paying an expert to show you the way.

In the end you basically need to find out how to reach your big hairy goal, and then break it down into smaller manageable steps.

We got the how covered, then over to the…

 

4. When?

It`s essential that you set a deadline for your big hairy goal, and for your smaller goals. A deadline will make you push yourself out of the comfort zone in order to get cranking. And the most important thing?

If you set a deadline, you MUST do whatever is in your power to actually meet that deadline. If not, you are conditioning your mind to expect to fail the deadlines you set. The worst part? Setting a deadline will lose it`s effect. So how do we keep track of all the activities? Let`s answer that in the next step.

“A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline.” – Harvey McKay

5. The master to do list

You should have a master to do list. What does that mean? It means that you should have only ONE to do list, which contains all the tasks that need to be done.

When I was working for one of the biggest companies in Norway, some of the people who were perceived as the most valuable and productive employees by the company had several to do lists. I asked them two simple questions: how many to do lists they had and if they had full control of all their to do tasks.

The answers were always the same, they were never 100% sure how many lists they actually had nor if they had full control of all the tasks. If you don`t know how many to do lists you actually have, you certainly don`t have full control of all your to do tasks.

How many to do lists should you have? If you answered one, a high five to you.

 

6. Support

They say that when it comes to a fight, there is strength in numbers. That is also the case when it comes to reaching our goal. And let`s face it, you are really preparing for a fight against the procrastination beast.
When you have mapped out the necessary tasks in order to reach your goal, sticking to the plan can be hard.

That is why it can be a good idea to share your goal with people you trust, and which you know will support you. If your goal was to start with mixed martial arts and to compete in the UFC, your mother would probably not be the biggest supporter. And it`s understandable. Who wants to see their child being beaten into a pulp?

It is important to actually pick the right supporters. Nothing is worse than having people who don`t really support you, being a part of your cheerleading crew. That negative person might poison and demotivate the rest of the cheerleading crew, and last but not least, you.

The next point is also very important. By mastering that skill, you can truly become unstoppable.

 

7. Laser focus

They say that the person who has the ability to focus on only one single thought for 2 minutes straight, will have the ability to accomplish anything. You want to be that person, right? It`s okay. Just start practicing.

So the real key to focusing is really to remove ALL distractions.

A crash course on how to laser focus:

  1. Mute or turn off your cellphone. If it`s muted, put it away and don`t look at it until you are finished completing your task at hand.
  2. Turn-off the Internet connection. You think that you are doing research by googling stuff, but what you are really doing, is ruining your own focus.
  3. Let people around you know that you are busy, so you won`t get interrupted

The next step might be the hardest part…

 

8. Self-discipline

Self-discipline is about doing the necessary tasks no matter what, whether your feel like or not. You have to brainwash yourself. You have to put your feelings aside, program your mind and become an unstoppable machine.

The good news? It will become a little bit easier, the more you practice it. However, be prepared that it will be a constant battle. Do you want to know a little secret? By learning the skill of self-discipline it will become a catalyst for all other activities you need to do in order to stop procrastinating and become more productive.

Kop Kopmeyer wrote about 1000 success principles (4 books). At the end of the last book he wrote that the most important principle for success is self-discipline, without that none of the other principles will work. Yeah, you know the importance of self-discipline by now.

Then it`s time to…

Conquer-Self

9. Grow some courage

In order to achieve your goals and get the success you dream of in your life and business, you need to be able to move out of the comfort zone. You need to stop worrying about what everyone else will think about you. It`s scary, right? Yeah, I know.

What if you make a fool out of yourself and what if people will be talking about you? You have probably heard the cliché “It`s better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.” It`s a cliché, we can all agree on that, nevertheless, it`s still true.

I will let you in on one more secret. People will be talking about you no matter what. Whatever you do, you can`t stop it. So if people are going to talk about you anyway, you might as well build the future you want. Stop whining and stop trying to think about excuses.

Just grow some courage. Okay, so you are all pumped up now? And your self-esteem is on it`s peak? Awesome. What`s next?

Use your good self-esteem and…

 

10Take action now!

When you have done all the steps above, there is no need for more analyzing or thinking. You have already done that. Enough talk. It`s time to do the actual walk and kill the procrastination beast once and for all!

You can do it. Just remove your butt from your chair and just do it! Take action now!

 

Now is the time to kill the procrastination beast before it kills you. Please leave your comments below!

Tor decided to leave his six-figure job in order to follow his passion - to help online entrepreneurs free up more time, so they can do what they love. Want to become more productive? Download his free eBook and learn how to double your productivity in 7 days.

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40 Comments

40 Comments

  1. Apeh Kelvin Chibueze

    Jul 3, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    Your writings inspire one and lift off the burden of past regrets on procrastination. I’ve dwelled on procrastination for long and it has really eaten Me up. I’ve that potential to accomplish my vision but how to go about it considering the task involved has really tied Me down all because of procrastination. Yes, I’ve gotten the light! Thanks Man.

  2. Connie

    Jul 30, 2015 at 2:39 am

    TOR, this article will be very helpful. I’m changing careers, even though I am staying in the medical field. This will be of great help in planning things out. I look forward to reading more of your articles. Thank you.

    • Tor Refsland

      Jul 30, 2015 at 9:13 am

      Hi Connie,

      thanks for your comment.

      I`m glad that you found my article useful 🙂

      Feel send me an email if you need any sparring regarding planning or productivity 😉

      Have a great day.

      Best,

      Tor

  3. Brent Jones

    Jun 22, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    Awesome Post, Tor! Shared it on all my networks. 🙂

    I like the point about WHY.

    One of my mentors once told me, “Figure out why and how will reveal itself.”

    Seriously, when we can mentally envision what success will look like, it’s 1000x easier to accomplish great things!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 11:52 am

      Thanks, Brent.

      I really appreciate your support and you sharing the post.

      You are AWESOME 😉

      Yup, one of my mentors actually told me the same line…(true story).

      A strong WHY will make you be able to endure all the challenges, the hardship, go outside your comfort zone and do A LOT of things you REALLY don`t WANT to do…

      …but you will do it, because the big PRIZE at the end of the journey is so WORTH it!

      Have a great day,

      Tor

  4. Sonia Thompson

    Jun 22, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    Hey Tor!

    Killing procrastination is so super important for entrepreneurs, so I’m glad you covered this topic.

    My favorite step is the one about 1 to-do list. I generally only work with one, but as I’ve started working on some bigger projects, I see the importance of writing down ALL the steps that need to happen, and then that then allows me to figure out what’s on the critical path and what’s not – which then helps me create a proper daily task list.

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 11:56 am

      Hi Sonia,

      great to see you here.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      Having ONE to do list will totally change your day, your way of working and yes…increase your productivity tremendously.

      By ONLY having 1 to do list, using the 80/20 rules prioritising the most important tasks at any given time, and sorting the priority of the tasks using the ABCDE method, helped me to increase my productivity with 200% in my previous six-figure income job.

      The result was that I was actually able to do in 2 hours what I normally spent 8 hours of doing.

      Side note – this is how the ABCDE method works:

      I Prioritize the tasks using the ABCDE method:

      A :Tasks I must do – serious consequences if it doesn`t get done
      B: Tasks I should do – mild consequences if it doesn`t get done
      C: Tasks I could do – no consequences if it doesn`t get done
      D: Tasks I delegate
      E: Tasks I never do

      You never do a B task before you have done alle the A tasks, and you never do a C task before you have done all the B tasks, etc.

      Have a great day!

      Tor

  5. Hanna

    Jun 22, 2015 at 3:10 am

    Good useful article Tor – my biggest challenge is the WHY, seems it’s just not BIG enough so any tips on finding your WHY would be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you for the share.

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 12:01 pm

      Hi Hanna,

      first of all, regarding finding your WHY. Since I don`t know what type of project you are talking about, it`s hard for me to give a specific feedback.

      THAT being said…

      if you have a challenge to find your big WHY…

      well, most likely you just don`t have a strong WHY for that project / journey.

      Having a PASSION and a strong WHY is like chemistry with someone when you are on a first date.

      Either you have it, or you don`t.

      However, there might be a few exceptions to this.

      Let me tell you this…

      Visit my website and contact me. Shoot me an email with more details, and I can probably give you a much more detailed answer to your specific situation 😉

      Best,

      Tor

  6. Daniela Uslan

    Jun 22, 2015 at 1:25 am

    Hi Tor,

    What a great list of suggestions! One of the tips that I struggle with the most is self discipline. Even when I have a clear goal, a clear WHY, and support, I find myself getting off track and going on Facebook or wasting time. Also having one master list. That sounds so daunting, but yet so simple. I will have to try it! Thanks for the tips!

    Daniela

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 11:49 am

      Hi Daniela,

      thanks for stopping by to comment 🙂

      You have the clear goal, a clear WHY and support?

      That`s great! 🙂

      What you should do is to focus on FOCUSING (yeah, I wrote that sentence on purpose).

      The key about focusing is to remove all distractions; turn off or mute your cellphone, be unavailable to people and TURN OFF your internet connection.

      Yup, you read correct 😉

      When you remove all distractions, and only FOCUS on ONE task at a time, you should be able to get your stuff done 😉

      Have an awesome day!

      Tor

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      Hi Daniela,

      thanks for stopping by.

      You found your clear goal, a clear WHY and support, right?

      That is GREAT!

      Your next step should be focus on FOCUSING (yeah, I wrote that sentence on purpose 😉 )

      You should remove ALL distractions; mute or turn off your cellphone, make yourself unavailable for other people, and turn off your internet connection.

      Yes, you read correct.

      When you are able to focus on ONE single task at hand, and not being distracted, you will instantly become more productive!

      You can do it 🙂

      Best,

      Tor

  7. Joanna

    Jun 20, 2015 at 8:02 pm

    Great post, Tor

    I agree, realising that for the past (insert your number) weeks/months/years you’ve been hitting the wrong goals and ticking off your to-do lists things that don’t really take you where you truly want to go takes a lot of courage and is painful, if not devastating. But if you can take it and turn the learning into a new course of action, then the reward is awesome!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 21, 2015 at 12:17 pm

      Thanks for commenting, Joanna.

      Yes, heading in the wrong direction can be crippling for your journey.

      However, the good thing is to stop…and take a breath. Get an overview, and see where you are located compared to your target destination.

      It`s important to not beat yourself up if you took the wrong path, but just change the course and find the silver lining in the experience.

      There is nothing that is called good or bad experience. It`s just experience.

      What you do with it is up to you 🙂

      Have a great day.

      Tor

  8. Carol Amato

    Jun 20, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    What an excellent article! Loved each and every point you made – extremely helpful.

    Especially the ‘When’ and ‘Self-Discipline’ sections. Deadlines are great, but if we don’t have the self-discipline to carry them out, we’re lost. LOL Plain old kitchen timer works for me as well as accountability partner.

    Loved the quote you included by Napoleon Hill, so apt here!

    Thanks for sharing, and have a great weekend.

    Carol Amato

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 21, 2015 at 12:19 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to comment, Carol.

      Yes, self-discipline is perhaps the hardest factor when it comes to reaching your goal and succeed.

      However, the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

      A kitchen timer sounds indeed like a great accountability partner 😉

      Have a great day!

      Tor

  9. Andrea Beltrami

    Jun 20, 2015 at 5:30 pm

    Epic list, Tor! These seem easy enough but oh how looks can be deceiving. Each one of these has taken a LOT of time for me to wrap my mentality around but I’ve gotten pretty decent at most. Now if I could just implement them all at the same time. Hahaha

    There’s still a nagging need to procrastinate when I’m afraid or when it’s a task I don’t enjoy doing. What can I say, I’m a work in progress…but aren’t we all! 😉

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 21, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to share your thoughts, Andrea.

      I was struggling a long time with these tips as well. However, when I became good at them, it totally changed my life.

      The difference between successful people and people who are not, is that successful people are willing to improve their most important skills ALL the time, and never be satisfied and procrastinate.

      When we are faced with insecurity or fear, procrastination has a tendency to appear.

      But the more we practice to go outside our comfort zone, do sparring with mentors and get used to handle uncomfortable situations, we will become better at it, and we will procrastinate less when we are faced with a new unknown situation 😉

      Tor

  10. Jenna Dalton

    Jun 19, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    Great article, Tor. I love what you said to Sue too – in the comment above – about procrastinating by setting realistic goals that you’ll hit every time.

    I never thought of that being procrastination before but you’re right, it absolutely is!

    Time to go set some bigger goals 🙂

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:30 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Jenna.

      It means a lot 🙂

      In a nutshell; when you don`t perform at your best ability to reach your peak potential, you are actually procrastinating.

      It`s a lot like with the “slight edge” principle.

      Person A trains 1 times in the gym per week and just does the bare minimum workout, while person B trains 3 times a week and pushes himself/herself to the limit every single minute of the workout.

      You will probably not see a big difference between those two people when it comes to health and fitness after 1 week, after 1 month, perhaps not after 3 months.

      But after 6 months and more, the difference in their training is starting to show on the outside.

      After 1-2 years, person B will a lightyear ahead.

      How was it accomplished?

      By person B pushing himself to the limit, and doing it consistently.

      THAT is how you reach your peak potential FAST.

      At the end, your success is the sum of all the correct small activities you have completed every single day in order to bring you closer to your peak potential 😉

      Have a great weekend, Jenna.

      Best,

      Tor

      • Jenna Dalton

        Jun 22, 2015 at 3:30 pm

        That absolutely makes sense, Tor. I love that way of thinking and have always thought that to be the case myself – it’s not necessarily one big action that gets you results, it’s a bunch of smaller actions put together over time. Smart strategy, my friend. Keep up the great work!

        • Tor Refsland

          Jun 24, 2015 at 11:45 am

          Thanks, Jenna.

          The clue is to take a big hairy goal(DUMB goal) and break it down into smaller manageable goals (SMART goal).

          The same to you, my friend 🙂

          Tor

  11. Dennis Seymour

    Jun 19, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    Cool post Tor. Goal setting has been a problem for me over the years. I made it a point to address that this year.

    I’m getting things done, though it feels slow, but I am creeping towards accomplishing goals which is the important part!

    You know what would complete this? Tools! Haha 😀 Obsessed with productivity tools.

    Enjoy the weekend!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:20 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Dennis.

      The most important thing is that you are improving 🙂

      Rome wasn`t built in one day 😉

      Productivity can be of great assistance, but at the end of the day, it really comes down to how focused you can work on your most important tasks…every single hour of your workday 😉

      In my experience, too many tools can be counterproductive.

      Have a great weekend 🙂

      Tor

  12. Jane Gordon

    Jun 19, 2015 at 2:22 pm

    I have the biggest problem with the “procrastination beast”! Thanks for the tips! 🙂

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:17 am

      Thanks a lot for commenting, Jane.

      I hope that you will start to implement a few of the tips here, so you can handle the beast once and for all 😉

      Have a great weekend.

      Tor

  13. Andrew M. Warner

    Jun 19, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    Hey Tor,

    Good stuff here.

    The big hairy goal concept is something that I try to do all the time. It makes it much easier when you actually get to break it down into steps you can take to move forward. I made the mistake before of just trying to do it all at once, which didn’t work.

    You did a great job with this post.

    – Andrew

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:16 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Andrew.

      I really appreciate it 🙂

      Handling a big hairy goal is like handling a 7 course meal. You don`t eat all the courses at once.
      You take ONE course at a time .

      Another big advantage when it comes to handling the smaller goals, is that once you complete a small goal, your confidence increases 😉

      Then you will have more confidence to tackle the next small goal, and when you are about to complete the last small goal (that completes the big hairy goal) your confidence is sky high, you have momentum and you are unstoppable 😉

      Have a great weekend.

      Best,

      Tor

  14. Kevin Duncan

    Jun 19, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Hi Tor,

    Congrats on getting published at Addicted 2 Success! This site is big time. Congratulations, my friend. 🙂

    Procrastination is definitely a killer. It can be such a difficult habit for people to break, but once they do… well, suddenly their lives are ten times less stressful.

    No need staying up until 4am cramming for an exam (because you started studying weeks ago). No need trying to lose 20 pounds in 7 days for your high school reunion (because you started your diet three months ago). No need stressing and worrying over the things you wish hadn’t waited until the last minute to tackle.

    It’s freeing!

    Great steps you’ve shared with all of us, Tor. I’ll be tweeting this shortly.

    Congrats again! Hope you have an awesome Friday and weekend.

    -Kevin

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:09 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Kevin.

      I really appreciate it, buddy.

      Yes, I totally agree with what you are saying. The difference between suffering from procrastination and being able to live a productive life is like night and day.

      If you don`t kill the procrastination beast and building your dream, you will be building someone else`s.

      Thanks a lot for your great comment.

      Have a great weekend.

      Tor

  15. Peter Banerjea

    Jun 19, 2015 at 10:48 am

    Hey Tor!
    Excellent post as usual. Reading your posts is a quick way to get a shot of adrenaline! Keep writing mate!
    Peter

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:18 pm

      Hi Peter,

      thanks for stopping by to comment and for your kind words.

      It`s comments like those that makes it worth all the hard work 😉

      Have an awesome day!

      Tor

  16. Anthony Metivier

    Jun 19, 2015 at 10:25 am

    All good points, Tor!

    I too like the “big hairy goals,” concept. It begs another metaphor: the big strong comb (or brush).

    But what do you do with the hydra-effect? I mean, what do you do when tackling one item on your to-do lists means creating another to-do list?

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:25 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to comment, Anthony.

      Here is how i deal with the “Hydra-effect”.

      If you have a task A on your to do list, it spawns into several subtasks, I use a technique I call the Dependant Subtask principle.

      It works like this:

      Task A spawns into 5 subtasks.

      Task A – subtask A1
      – subtask A2
      – subtask A3
      – subtask A4
      – subtask A5

      You need to complete all 5 subtasks in order to complete task A. If there are dependencies among the subtasks, you range them from A1 to A5, where A1 is the subtask you have to complete first, then A2, A3, etc.

      In other words, I don`t create another to do list, I just take a big task and split it into several subtasks.

      I hope that helps.

      Best,

      Tor

      • Anthony Metivier

        Jun 27, 2015 at 7:51 am

        I like the Dependent Subtask principle. I’m going to put it to work – thank!

        • Tor Refsland

          Jun 27, 2015 at 9:49 am

          Great, Anthony.

          Good luck.

          And let me know how that goes 🙂

          Tor

  17. Sue Anne Dunlevie

    Jun 19, 2015 at 10:03 am

    Hi, Tor,

    Great article! I like setting “big hairy goals” – I don’t always hit them but it’s amazing how many happen.

    “Focus” is my word this year – after consulting with you, I check email much less now.

    Thanks for the info,
    Sue

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:29 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to comment, Sue.

      The secret with “big hairy goals” is actually not necessarily to reach them, but that you will push yourself to achieve a BETTER results than if you didn`t set a high goal.

      Nothing is worse than to procrastinate by always setting realistic goals, which you will hit every single time.

      Setting goals is like training in the gym. If you never increase the amount of weights you lift, you will not progress according to your true potential 😉

      Focus is indeed an important ingredient when it comes to increasing your productivity, reaching your goals, being present and more happy.

      Best,

      Tor

  18. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 19, 2015 at 2:58 am

    The three things that I like here that have proved to be the most beneficial for me is having a why, having a plan, and taking action. When you have a why for what you want to do in life and you wake up to your why and a dream, you have motivation. After you have motivation, you need a plan of action, and after you have a plan, you need to take action. This are the true keys to success for me and you nailed it in detail in this article. Thanks for sharing!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:35 pm

      Thanks for commenting and for your kind words, Lawrence.

      Yes, reaching your goals isn`t really that complicated.

      It`s actually SIMPLE (but not easy).

      If you were going to go skiing for 10 kilometers the first time in your life, and you had never done it before, you would probably suck at it.

      The weather might be bad, your technique would be probably be far from perfect, and your skis might not be prepared in the best way.

      However, the only thing standing between you and the 10 kilometers finish line, is if you decide to QUIT.

      It doesn`t matter how bad the weather is, how tired and fed up you are, or how much you suck at skiing.

      If you have a strong enough WHY and you continue to move forward, you WILL reach the finish line eventually.

      That is basically how reaching your goals work 😉

      Have an awesome day.

      Best,

      Tor

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How To Make The Next Big Decision In Your Life.

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At regular intervals in your life, you have to make that challenging next big decision.

Life goes along just fine until one day you instinctively know that you have to make a giant change. This change comes about because we need to keep growing. Otherwise we die inside.

Making that next big decision has been something I’ve had to become an expert in over the last 12 months. I had to make the following big decisions:

– Am I always going to be a salesperson or can I go back to being a leader again?
– Is it possible to overcome my fear of public speaking so I can inspire people?
– Is traveling the world something I’m always going to be stopped from doing?
– Where is my love life going? Will I always be single or with someone who’s not right?

These have been very tough decisions to make.

I’ve had some epic failures trying to answer these questions. Here are some examples:

– I tried becoming more technical in my career. I hated it. I only enjoy high-level technical info.
– I gave a few speeches and sucked big time. My face was as red as a tomato.
– I went on a few overseas trips and fear nearly got the best of me.
– I made a bold move to go on lots of dates and find a girl that was right for me. Most of my attempts failed – except one.

Right now, the reason I’m writing this blog post is because I need to change my career. I’ve stopped learning. I’m starting to think I know everything in my field of expertise. I’ve become comfortable. I’m experiencing frustration because I’m surrounded by the wrong people.

These are all warning signs that it’s time to make the next big decision in your life.

 

Making the next big decision is playing on the offense.

Playing on the offense means that you are being proactive. It means you are skating to where the puck in Ice Hockey is going, not where it is right at this point in time.

The moment you start playing defense and protecting your position, you stop growing.

“Standing still is like being in the middle of a battlefield with no gun and no ammo and hoping not to get shot”

To stay on the offense, you have to recognize the signs I mentioned above and then make that big decision. When you’re forced to make that next big decision, that’s when you’re screwed. Being forced to make the decision means that you no longer have time on your side.

You end up settling for second best because you are in a hurry to make that big decision and you can’t proactively figure out what’s right for you. You don’t get the chance to speak with your network or your mentors and sense check what your next move is going to be.

 

Become comfortable with not having all the answers.

Making the next big decision will require you to be okay with not having all the answers. While you can do your research and speak to people who you trust about the decision, you won’t know the outcome until you try.

Maybe you’ll hate your next career move.
Maybe starting a business is the worst idea for you.
Maybe marrying that person will end in divorce.

It’s impossible to know the answers beforehand so you have to understand that things could go your way or they could end in disaster. This is a positive.

“You either get what you want, or you get to learn one of those life lessons that will help you become more self-aware and make you more resilient”

 

Not making that big decision is far worse.

You’ll know when you’ve reached the crossroad. Deep down you’ll know when it’s time to make that next gigantic step. Ignoring the signs is far worse than making that big decision and then having it all blow up in your face.

Failing to make that big decision ends up in regret.

“Regret slowly eats away at your confidence and your ability to be courageous”

Your head becomes full of white noise that drowns out the good ideas and clear thinking that will make you successful.

Go and meet people who are seventy years of age and older at a retirement village. Listen to their regrets and the decisions they wish they made. This will give you perspective. Continually dreaming about where that next big decision could lead is a waste of your energy.

Try something new for three months and then if it doesn’t work out it’s cool. There are thousands of opportunities and there is no one thing, no one person, no one idea, no one business that will give you everything you want.

 

Prepare and execute.

Big decisions creep up on you like a snake ready to bite you in the ass for disrupting its sunbaking session with your loud ass walking. If you don’t prepare, then you’ll get taken by surprise. Get good at writing lists on your phone.

Be prepared for the possible outcomes of your big decision and work out if there are more positives than negatives.

Once you are prepared, face into the decision and execute. Take the island and burn the boats behind you. Rip up your Plan B and execute like your life depends on it (well it does actually).

 

Be prepared to be blindsided.

That’s right. Surprises are going to happen. You can plan and still have the whole decision blow up in your face. Be prepared for stuff to come out of nowhere and risk everything you’ve put on the line.

I’m about to make my next career move and there are going to be things I can’t see. People are always going to tell you that working with them in their business is going to be amazing. They sell you the dream work-life balance, how great the people are, how you’re going to change the world.

It’s near impossible to know if they’re full of the brown stuff, but that’s okay. Trust your gut. If it all falls apart, then you get to make the next big decision far quicker than you expected.

In my case, I’ve had so many big decisions go wrong that I’ve become an expert in making big decisions and preparing for the myriad of outcomes that could transpire.

 

When would now be a good time?

That’s what I tell myself when I’m faced with a big decision. The best time to decide is right now. It will never be the right time. You’ll never have enough knowledge, you’ll never be perfect, you’ll never be ready, the economy will never be right.

So if there’s never a good time, then the best time has to be now. You can’t predict the future so you may as well focus on right now and take the wild bull that is your life by the horns.

Act with courage and now will always be a good time. Keep jumping at pretend shadows and you’ll never make a decision.

 

Failing to make decisions is what’s stopping you from moving forward.

If you feel you’re not where you want to be or you’re unhappy with any part of your life, it’s because you haven’t made the big decisions.

You’re fat? Change your diet and go to the gym.
You’re broke? Learn to control your spending.
You’re unhappy? Decide to stop focusing on yourself and focus on others.
You’re poor? Go on the Internet and find ways to make extra money.

There’s always an answer to your problems. The answer is always to make the next big decision with courage. The answer is always to believe in yourself. Everything will work out for the best. Trust me.

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5 Ways to Tap Into Your Intuitive Wisdom as You Design a Successful Life

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Success, true success, can only be experienced when you are living life based on your particular design. The best way to know and design a life based on this is to be in constant connection with the wisdom present within you. Wisdom that goes beyond yourself and that, very possibly, put you together originally. People call it different names and intuition is a great way to describe it.

As a spiritual person, you know the power of the intuition. Being able to live from a place of wisdom beyond yourself allows you to find solutions that surprise and delight. These solutions also give you a sense of quiet power as well as you know you are never alone and always completely guided.

For me, intuition changed my life. It took me from working my pharmacist job with no hope for a respite to being a business owner and spiritual teacher living a purpose-driven life.

Here are 5 ideas for you to support your journey to living a more intuitive life:

1. Daily Practice

There can sometime be the assumption that unless something comes to one naturally, then it is not theirs to develop. That is nonsense. Most, if not all, good habits have to be developed. A consistent practice is needed, if you are to experience the benefits of a new skill.

Success is a habit. Each morning, I wake up earlier than my household (Usually 4am) and I sit in silence. I connect with source. I seek guidance for the day ahead. This is a habit I’ve developed.

Each day, the things you make time for are designing or destroying your life. Could you find an extra 20 minutes each day to practice quieting yourself down and connecting with the wisdom within you? Be consistent with the timing each day for long enough to build a habit. Some say 21 days, others say 40 days. For this habit, I would suggest that you make a decision to do it daily and at some point, it becomes a normal and natural part of your life whatever else is going on.

“At any moment, the decision you make can change the course of your life for the better.” – Tony Robbins

2. Quiet Yourself

We live in a very busy world – There is always something happening around you. Always some stimulation to distract you. You have to consciously choose to create space to be quiet. As mentioned earlier, you want to take 20 minutes or so a day to develop a practice and in that time, learn to still your thinking as much as possible, learn to tune into flow.

I use breathing and sometimes, candles to do this. I sit in silence staring at a candle and allowing intuitive flashes to come through or I simply pay attention to my breathing until I feel a stillness come over me. Any errant thoughts that try desperately to get my attention, are written in my journal with the intention of dealing with them later. This calms me down as the thoughts feel as though they are being acknowledged.

3. Suspend Judgement & Disbelief

As you begin working your intuition muscle, you will wonder if you are just talking to yourself or if you are making things up. In the session, refuse to humour that thinking. Instead, make a note of what you are feeling, seeing and hearing. You can have an intuition buddy and you can run things by them after the session to see what they intuitively feel but while you are choosing to tap into source within, suspend all judgement and allow what comes through to come through. It is a very tentative thing to sense your intuition and if you keep rejecting what tries to come through you, the flow will feel stuck.

“Failure is not a single cataclysmic event. You don’t fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgement repeated every day.” – Jim Rohn

4. Come with Intent

This is something I teach clients because having a question you are seeking an answer to, can help with the calming of the mind. Sometimes, the intention is simply to develop my relationship with the source and so my intent is to listen. I generally then start with ‘Please speak to me’. Other times, there is something I specifically want to know the answer to and so I lead with that question. Having an intention keeps you focused.

5. No Desperation

Unfortunately, if you are too desperate about getting a specific answer, you will find it hard to still your mind. It is best to be in an open and receptive mood. How can you do that when you are actually desperate for an answer?  

Something I would do then, is to let calmness be my intention. I would seek guidance on how to still myself and reduce the feeling of desperation which also then has the effect of allowing me to think more clearly anyway. The other thing I do is write out my vision and goals first and keep my mind on those. If you focus on the need, you remain in the need and you remain reactive to the need. If you focus on the vision and the goal, then you become creator which is your true nature anyway.

Which of these 5 things will you implement today?

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4 Essentials to Keep You From Staying Satisfied in Life

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It may sound morally objectionable to not want to stay satisfied in life; however, truth be told, it is actually unethical and morally wrong to not pursue what you really want in life and realize your maximum potential.

The people around us in life, whether it’s family, friends, business associates, people under our leadership, or people in our communities, look at our lives and are impacted. They see how we live out our dreams, and how we overcome the obstacles of life and business. This inspires them to do more, better, or different in their own lives. The reality is, many people’s inspiration and reason to excel is resting on us.

With this great responsibility on our shoulders, that is the first reason we must always strive for more and never be satisfied: someone’s success is depending on your success.

In the tough times or even the times we have reaped the harvest of our hard work, always know we must keep going. Yes, savor the victory, but know that this is not the end. We must keep going. If you don’t do it for you at least think of the people that are watching you and observing your life and do it for them.

Here are some practical tips on how to be continually motivated and not easily satisfied with our successes:

1. Frequently Self-Reflect

Socrates famously stated that an unexamined life is not worth living. We should ask ourselves if THIS (certain point in our lives) is our best that we have to offer. If we are being honest with ourselves, we will truthfully answer, NO. Nonetheless, we must not beat ourselves up nor constantly criticize ourselves but always remind ourselves that there is always room for growth.

Life is all about growth and development, and the goal of all development is to realize our true potential. All organisms grow and when they stop growing, you can be pretty sure that their stage for destruction has set in. Humans are probably the only creatures that do not stop growing. While we have stopped growing physically, our other aspects such as psychology, social standing, ambitions and other areas do not stop growing at all.

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.” – Wayne Dyer

2. Explore The World

You’ve probably heard of people who’ve stayed their entire lives in their birthplace. These types of people sometimes cannot believe the stories they hear from others that have travelled or lived in various places.

To truly see other people and parts of the world, other than where you come from is a must. Not only does it allow one to appreciate what you do have, but it challenges you to want to do more with your life and not settle. Some of the biggest moments of growth for many people happen when they attend missionary trips, participate in community service, business conferences, and even vacationing in other cities or even countries.

This occurs because your everyday existence and routine of life is challenged. You meet other people who may not be where you are in life or are doing exceptionally more than you. Either way, the first can remind you to always be hungry, and the other can remind you that you are not there yet and there is still more to success and growth; we still have room to grow.

So, travel, meet new people, and stretch your understanding of what life looks like and  what is attainable.

3. Be Curious

Most have heard the old saying when you were young, that “curiosity killed the cat.” Take that saying as a caution not a rule. We should be like children in the level of our curiosity. Curious children ask a lot of questions, and sometimes some of these questions even surprise adults. Because of their powerful curiosity, children think differently compared to adults and therein lies the power of having curiosity as a child.

Some very smart children are not satisfied with some answers adults give them at times, because they intuitively know that either the adult didn’t know the answer or they didn’t understand the topic at all. Don’t be satisfied, and always be eternally curious. Research topics that you know little to nothing about, and be open-minded to topics you are familiar with.

4. Be A Perfectionist

Don’t be satisfied with the present way of doing things. Progress would not happen if we did not tinker with doing things better. Consider textile weaving. People of long ago made textile for clothes using traditional weaving. If we had been satisfied with this way of making textile, we would not have discovered modern technologies of spinning and weaving to produce textiles to clothe billions of people across the world.

So never adopt a mindset that anything is ever perfect with no room for improvement. Systems and processes can always be improved.  

It is hard to work with a perfectionist, but without the perfectionist, we would not have the comfort of modern life. Machines are designed for perfection. An imperfect machine would not work, and even if it could be made to work, it would be hazardous to operate. Perfectionists are not satisfied with mediocre output. They always want the best.

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” – Michael Jordan

A study published in the “Journal of Personality” entitled “On the Development of Perfectionism: The Longitudinal Role of Academic Achievement and Academic Efficacy,” by Lavinia E. Damian and colleagues showed that academic achievement predicted relative increases in both perfectionistic strivings and perfectionistic concerns. This is an important development because it suggests that as people become better and better, their level of perfectionistic pursuit also increases.

Never succumb to the mindset of people who achieve some level of success and say “I have arrived” and “I have made it.” For when we accept this, we have placed a ceiling over our potential and a limit on the truly limitless opportunities that await us. Always strive to be, do, achieve, reach, see, and grow more.

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3 Necessities That Will Help You Think Big and Stay Positive

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To think big and keep hope during difficult times is not easy. When you can’t afford to pay your bills, you haven’t had more than two hours of sleep in a few nights, and you are experiencing some relationship challenges, it can be tough to believe that things will ultimately work out. The ability to see beyond your current circumstances and understand that everything will eventually come together is the life of an entrepreneur.

When you think of a business owner, you frequently also picture the status symbols of success such as money, cars, homes, and other material possessions. However, there is another side to the entrepreneurial lifestyle that deserves attention. Gary Vaynerchuk talks about the 7pm -2 am dream shift, where you dedicate time to work on your business outside of other work and family responsibilities. Committing to a schedule like this is extremely hard.

According to a Fast Company article, businesses that survive past the first year have dropped from 569,419 in 1994 to 106,789 in 2016.  The challenges that often accompany the triumphs of working for yourself can feel insurmountable.

What are three necessities for you to think big and remain positive?

1. Surround yourself with good people

For many of us, it is common to hear and read about the importance of surrounding yourself with positive and productive people. My mother has stressed the importance of this trait since I was at least in kindergarten. When it comes to business, this is extremely important because others can expose you to different levels and types of success. Good people can push you to perform at your best and confirm your sanity when you are at your worst.  

“Choose your friends wisely, and also choose friends that you can trust.” –Elyn Saks

2. Commit to lifelong learning

In this competitive age, you must be willing to grow through a consistent effort of learning new talents and developing skills. As Tim Denning states “without willpower, your mind will take the road of least resistance. Practice teaching your mind discipline.” Reading books, learning new skills and techniques are essential habits of the entrepreneur. They can enable you to develop the ability to think beyond your current personal or business position.  

3. Go within to discover what’s out there

As an entrepreneur, you will need to have a reason for your business that digs deep into your soul. That’s a massive concept, and it is true. In the introduction, I mentioned that the lifestyle of an entrepreneur is not easy. Often times, a daily dosage of meditation or prayer is necessary to make it to the end of the day.

Without something within you like a burning desire to make an impact or the feeling that you work is part of a higher calling, the temptation to quit will be too strong. My recommendation is prayer and meditation to identify your purpose for business and to empower you through the difficult times.

“Discipline is the bridge between goal and accomplishment” – Jim Rohn

So, what are the practical steps to big thinking and positivity? The details of the process will be different for everyone, but universally it begins with the creation of daily goals and ends with consistent execution. The small steps lead to larger victories.

Once you have the right people in your circle, the self-discipline to continue learning, and a profound reason to succeed, the next step is to make things happen. You can have all the resources and mindsets in place, but if you are not willing to take action, it is useless. Use today as an opportunity to make progress on transforming your dream into a reality.

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How To Make The Next Big Decision In Your Life.

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At regular intervals in your life, you have to make that challenging next big decision.

Life goes along just fine until one day you instinctively know that you have to make a giant change. This change comes about because we need to keep growing. Otherwise we die inside.

Making that next big decision has been something I’ve had to become an expert in over the last 12 months. I had to make the following big decisions:

– Am I always going to be a salesperson or can I go back to being a leader again?
– Is it possible to overcome my fear of public speaking so I can inspire people?
– Is traveling the world something I’m always going to be stopped from doing?
– Where is my love life going? Will I always be single or with someone who’s not right?

These have been very tough decisions to make.

I’ve had some epic failures trying to answer these questions. Here are some examples:

– I tried becoming more technical in my career. I hated it. I only enjoy high-level technical info.
– I gave a few speeches and sucked big time. My face was as red as a tomato.
– I went on a few overseas trips and fear nearly got the best of me.
– I made a bold move to go on lots of dates and find a girl that was right for me. Most of my attempts failed – except one.

Right now, the reason I’m writing this blog post is because I need to change my career. I’ve stopped learning. I’m starting to think I know everything in my field of expertise. I’ve become comfortable. I’m experiencing frustration because I’m surrounded by the wrong people.

These are all warning signs that it’s time to make the next big decision in your life.

 

Making the next big decision is playing on the offense.

Playing on the offense means that you are being proactive. It means you are skating to where the puck in Ice Hockey is going, not where it is right at this point in time.

The moment you start playing defense and protecting your position, you stop growing.

“Standing still is like being in the middle of a battlefield with no gun and no ammo and hoping not to get shot”

To stay on the offense, you have to recognize the signs I mentioned above and then make that big decision. When you’re forced to make that next big decision, that’s when you’re screwed. Being forced to make the decision means that you no longer have time on your side.

You end up settling for second best because you are in a hurry to make that big decision and you can’t proactively figure out what’s right for you. You don’t get the chance to speak with your network or your mentors and sense check what your next move is going to be.

 

Become comfortable with not having all the answers.

Making the next big decision will require you to be okay with not having all the answers. While you can do your research and speak to people who you trust about the decision, you won’t know the outcome until you try.

Maybe you’ll hate your next career move.
Maybe starting a business is the worst idea for you.
Maybe marrying that person will end in divorce.

It’s impossible to know the answers beforehand so you have to understand that things could go your way or they could end in disaster. This is a positive.

“You either get what you want, or you get to learn one of those life lessons that will help you become more self-aware and make you more resilient”

 

Not making that big decision is far worse.

You’ll know when you’ve reached the crossroad. Deep down you’ll know when it’s time to make that next gigantic step. Ignoring the signs is far worse than making that big decision and then having it all blow up in your face.

Failing to make that big decision ends up in regret.

“Regret slowly eats away at your confidence and your ability to be courageous”

Your head becomes full of white noise that drowns out the good ideas and clear thinking that will make you successful.

Go and meet people who are seventy years of age and older at a retirement village. Listen to their regrets and the decisions they wish they made. This will give you perspective. Continually dreaming about where that next big decision could lead is a waste of your energy.

Try something new for three months and then if it doesn’t work out it’s cool. There are thousands of opportunities and there is no one thing, no one person, no one idea, no one business that will give you everything you want.

 

Prepare and execute.

Big decisions creep up on you like a snake ready to bite you in the ass for disrupting its sunbaking session with your loud ass walking. If you don’t prepare, then you’ll get taken by surprise. Get good at writing lists on your phone.

Be prepared for the possible outcomes of your big decision and work out if there are more positives than negatives.

Once you are prepared, face into the decision and execute. Take the island and burn the boats behind you. Rip up your Plan B and execute like your life depends on it (well it does actually).

 

Be prepared to be blindsided.

That’s right. Surprises are going to happen. You can plan and still have the whole decision blow up in your face. Be prepared for stuff to come out of nowhere and risk everything you’ve put on the line.

I’m about to make my next career move and there are going to be things I can’t see. People are always going to tell you that working with them in their business is going to be amazing. They sell you the dream work-life balance, how great the people are, how you’re going to change the world.

It’s near impossible to know if they’re full of the brown stuff, but that’s okay. Trust your gut. If it all falls apart, then you get to make the next big decision far quicker than you expected.

In my case, I’ve had so many big decisions go wrong that I’ve become an expert in making big decisions and preparing for the myriad of outcomes that could transpire.

 

When would now be a good time?

That’s what I tell myself when I’m faced with a big decision. The best time to decide is right now. It will never be the right time. You’ll never have enough knowledge, you’ll never be perfect, you’ll never be ready, the economy will never be right.

So if there’s never a good time, then the best time has to be now. You can’t predict the future so you may as well focus on right now and take the wild bull that is your life by the horns.

Act with courage and now will always be a good time. Keep jumping at pretend shadows and you’ll never make a decision.

 

Failing to make decisions is what’s stopping you from moving forward.

If you feel you’re not where you want to be or you’re unhappy with any part of your life, it’s because you haven’t made the big decisions.

You’re fat? Change your diet and go to the gym.
You’re broke? Learn to control your spending.
You’re unhappy? Decide to stop focusing on yourself and focus on others.
You’re poor? Go on the Internet and find ways to make extra money.

There’s always an answer to your problems. The answer is always to make the next big decision with courage. The answer is always to believe in yourself. Everything will work out for the best. Trust me.

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  1. Apeh Kelvin Chibueze

    Jul 3, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    Your writings inspire one and lift off the burden of past regrets on procrastination. I’ve dwelled on procrastination for long and it has really eaten Me up. I’ve that potential to accomplish my vision but how to go about it considering the task involved has really tied Me down all because of procrastination. Yes, I’ve gotten the light! Thanks Man.

  2. Connie

    Jul 30, 2015 at 2:39 am

    TOR, this article will be very helpful. I’m changing careers, even though I am staying in the medical field. This will be of great help in planning things out. I look forward to reading more of your articles. Thank you.

    • Tor Refsland

      Jul 30, 2015 at 9:13 am

      Hi Connie,

      thanks for your comment.

      I`m glad that you found my article useful 🙂

      Feel send me an email if you need any sparring regarding planning or productivity 😉

      Have a great day.

      Best,

      Tor

  3. Brent Jones

    Jun 22, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    Awesome Post, Tor! Shared it on all my networks. 🙂

    I like the point about WHY.

    One of my mentors once told me, “Figure out why and how will reveal itself.”

    Seriously, when we can mentally envision what success will look like, it’s 1000x easier to accomplish great things!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 11:52 am

      Thanks, Brent.

      I really appreciate your support and you sharing the post.

      You are AWESOME 😉

      Yup, one of my mentors actually told me the same line…(true story).

      A strong WHY will make you be able to endure all the challenges, the hardship, go outside your comfort zone and do A LOT of things you REALLY don`t WANT to do…

      …but you will do it, because the big PRIZE at the end of the journey is so WORTH it!

      Have a great day,

      Tor

  4. Sonia Thompson

    Jun 22, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    Hey Tor!

    Killing procrastination is so super important for entrepreneurs, so I’m glad you covered this topic.

    My favorite step is the one about 1 to-do list. I generally only work with one, but as I’ve started working on some bigger projects, I see the importance of writing down ALL the steps that need to happen, and then that then allows me to figure out what’s on the critical path and what’s not – which then helps me create a proper daily task list.

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 11:56 am

      Hi Sonia,

      great to see you here.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      Having ONE to do list will totally change your day, your way of working and yes…increase your productivity tremendously.

      By ONLY having 1 to do list, using the 80/20 rules prioritising the most important tasks at any given time, and sorting the priority of the tasks using the ABCDE method, helped me to increase my productivity with 200% in my previous six-figure income job.

      The result was that I was actually able to do in 2 hours what I normally spent 8 hours of doing.

      Side note – this is how the ABCDE method works:

      I Prioritize the tasks using the ABCDE method:

      A :Tasks I must do – serious consequences if it doesn`t get done
      B: Tasks I should do – mild consequences if it doesn`t get done
      C: Tasks I could do – no consequences if it doesn`t get done
      D: Tasks I delegate
      E: Tasks I never do

      You never do a B task before you have done alle the A tasks, and you never do a C task before you have done all the B tasks, etc.

      Have a great day!

      Tor

  5. Hanna

    Jun 22, 2015 at 3:10 am

    Good useful article Tor – my biggest challenge is the WHY, seems it’s just not BIG enough so any tips on finding your WHY would be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you for the share.

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 12:01 pm

      Hi Hanna,

      first of all, regarding finding your WHY. Since I don`t know what type of project you are talking about, it`s hard for me to give a specific feedback.

      THAT being said…

      if you have a challenge to find your big WHY…

      well, most likely you just don`t have a strong WHY for that project / journey.

      Having a PASSION and a strong WHY is like chemistry with someone when you are on a first date.

      Either you have it, or you don`t.

      However, there might be a few exceptions to this.

      Let me tell you this…

      Visit my website and contact me. Shoot me an email with more details, and I can probably give you a much more detailed answer to your specific situation 😉

      Best,

      Tor

  6. Daniela Uslan

    Jun 22, 2015 at 1:25 am

    Hi Tor,

    What a great list of suggestions! One of the tips that I struggle with the most is self discipline. Even when I have a clear goal, a clear WHY, and support, I find myself getting off track and going on Facebook or wasting time. Also having one master list. That sounds so daunting, but yet so simple. I will have to try it! Thanks for the tips!

    Daniela

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 11:49 am

      Hi Daniela,

      thanks for stopping by to comment 🙂

      You have the clear goal, a clear WHY and support?

      That`s great! 🙂

      What you should do is to focus on FOCUSING (yeah, I wrote that sentence on purpose).

      The key about focusing is to remove all distractions; turn off or mute your cellphone, be unavailable to people and TURN OFF your internet connection.

      Yup, you read correct 😉

      When you remove all distractions, and only FOCUS on ONE task at a time, you should be able to get your stuff done 😉

      Have an awesome day!

      Tor

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 24, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      Hi Daniela,

      thanks for stopping by.

      You found your clear goal, a clear WHY and support, right?

      That is GREAT!

      Your next step should be focus on FOCUSING (yeah, I wrote that sentence on purpose 😉 )

      You should remove ALL distractions; mute or turn off your cellphone, make yourself unavailable for other people, and turn off your internet connection.

      Yes, you read correct.

      When you are able to focus on ONE single task at hand, and not being distracted, you will instantly become more productive!

      You can do it 🙂

      Best,

      Tor

  7. Joanna

    Jun 20, 2015 at 8:02 pm

    Great post, Tor

    I agree, realising that for the past (insert your number) weeks/months/years you’ve been hitting the wrong goals and ticking off your to-do lists things that don’t really take you where you truly want to go takes a lot of courage and is painful, if not devastating. But if you can take it and turn the learning into a new course of action, then the reward is awesome!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 21, 2015 at 12:17 pm

      Thanks for commenting, Joanna.

      Yes, heading in the wrong direction can be crippling for your journey.

      However, the good thing is to stop…and take a breath. Get an overview, and see where you are located compared to your target destination.

      It`s important to not beat yourself up if you took the wrong path, but just change the course and find the silver lining in the experience.

      There is nothing that is called good or bad experience. It`s just experience.

      What you do with it is up to you 🙂

      Have a great day.

      Tor

  8. Carol Amato

    Jun 20, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    What an excellent article! Loved each and every point you made – extremely helpful.

    Especially the ‘When’ and ‘Self-Discipline’ sections. Deadlines are great, but if we don’t have the self-discipline to carry them out, we’re lost. LOL Plain old kitchen timer works for me as well as accountability partner.

    Loved the quote you included by Napoleon Hill, so apt here!

    Thanks for sharing, and have a great weekend.

    Carol Amato

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 21, 2015 at 12:19 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to comment, Carol.

      Yes, self-discipline is perhaps the hardest factor when it comes to reaching your goal and succeed.

      However, the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

      A kitchen timer sounds indeed like a great accountability partner 😉

      Have a great day!

      Tor

  9. Andrea Beltrami

    Jun 20, 2015 at 5:30 pm

    Epic list, Tor! These seem easy enough but oh how looks can be deceiving. Each one of these has taken a LOT of time for me to wrap my mentality around but I’ve gotten pretty decent at most. Now if I could just implement them all at the same time. Hahaha

    There’s still a nagging need to procrastinate when I’m afraid or when it’s a task I don’t enjoy doing. What can I say, I’m a work in progress…but aren’t we all! 😉

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 21, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to share your thoughts, Andrea.

      I was struggling a long time with these tips as well. However, when I became good at them, it totally changed my life.

      The difference between successful people and people who are not, is that successful people are willing to improve their most important skills ALL the time, and never be satisfied and procrastinate.

      When we are faced with insecurity or fear, procrastination has a tendency to appear.

      But the more we practice to go outside our comfort zone, do sparring with mentors and get used to handle uncomfortable situations, we will become better at it, and we will procrastinate less when we are faced with a new unknown situation 😉

      Tor

  10. Jenna Dalton

    Jun 19, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    Great article, Tor. I love what you said to Sue too – in the comment above – about procrastinating by setting realistic goals that you’ll hit every time.

    I never thought of that being procrastination before but you’re right, it absolutely is!

    Time to go set some bigger goals 🙂

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:30 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Jenna.

      It means a lot 🙂

      In a nutshell; when you don`t perform at your best ability to reach your peak potential, you are actually procrastinating.

      It`s a lot like with the “slight edge” principle.

      Person A trains 1 times in the gym per week and just does the bare minimum workout, while person B trains 3 times a week and pushes himself/herself to the limit every single minute of the workout.

      You will probably not see a big difference between those two people when it comes to health and fitness after 1 week, after 1 month, perhaps not after 3 months.

      But after 6 months and more, the difference in their training is starting to show on the outside.

      After 1-2 years, person B will a lightyear ahead.

      How was it accomplished?

      By person B pushing himself to the limit, and doing it consistently.

      THAT is how you reach your peak potential FAST.

      At the end, your success is the sum of all the correct small activities you have completed every single day in order to bring you closer to your peak potential 😉

      Have a great weekend, Jenna.

      Best,

      Tor

      • Jenna Dalton

        Jun 22, 2015 at 3:30 pm

        That absolutely makes sense, Tor. I love that way of thinking and have always thought that to be the case myself – it’s not necessarily one big action that gets you results, it’s a bunch of smaller actions put together over time. Smart strategy, my friend. Keep up the great work!

        • Tor Refsland

          Jun 24, 2015 at 11:45 am

          Thanks, Jenna.

          The clue is to take a big hairy goal(DUMB goal) and break it down into smaller manageable goals (SMART goal).

          The same to you, my friend 🙂

          Tor

  11. Dennis Seymour

    Jun 19, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    Cool post Tor. Goal setting has been a problem for me over the years. I made it a point to address that this year.

    I’m getting things done, though it feels slow, but I am creeping towards accomplishing goals which is the important part!

    You know what would complete this? Tools! Haha 😀 Obsessed with productivity tools.

    Enjoy the weekend!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:20 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Dennis.

      The most important thing is that you are improving 🙂

      Rome wasn`t built in one day 😉

      Productivity can be of great assistance, but at the end of the day, it really comes down to how focused you can work on your most important tasks…every single hour of your workday 😉

      In my experience, too many tools can be counterproductive.

      Have a great weekend 🙂

      Tor

  12. Jane Gordon

    Jun 19, 2015 at 2:22 pm

    I have the biggest problem with the “procrastination beast”! Thanks for the tips! 🙂

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:17 am

      Thanks a lot for commenting, Jane.

      I hope that you will start to implement a few of the tips here, so you can handle the beast once and for all 😉

      Have a great weekend.

      Tor

  13. Andrew M. Warner

    Jun 19, 2015 at 1:34 pm

    Hey Tor,

    Good stuff here.

    The big hairy goal concept is something that I try to do all the time. It makes it much easier when you actually get to break it down into steps you can take to move forward. I made the mistake before of just trying to do it all at once, which didn’t work.

    You did a great job with this post.

    – Andrew

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:16 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Andrew.

      I really appreciate it 🙂

      Handling a big hairy goal is like handling a 7 course meal. You don`t eat all the courses at once.
      You take ONE course at a time .

      Another big advantage when it comes to handling the smaller goals, is that once you complete a small goal, your confidence increases 😉

      Then you will have more confidence to tackle the next small goal, and when you are about to complete the last small goal (that completes the big hairy goal) your confidence is sky high, you have momentum and you are unstoppable 😉

      Have a great weekend.

      Best,

      Tor

  14. Kevin Duncan

    Jun 19, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Hi Tor,

    Congrats on getting published at Addicted 2 Success! This site is big time. Congratulations, my friend. 🙂

    Procrastination is definitely a killer. It can be such a difficult habit for people to break, but once they do… well, suddenly their lives are ten times less stressful.

    No need staying up until 4am cramming for an exam (because you started studying weeks ago). No need trying to lose 20 pounds in 7 days for your high school reunion (because you started your diet three months ago). No need stressing and worrying over the things you wish hadn’t waited until the last minute to tackle.

    It’s freeing!

    Great steps you’ve shared with all of us, Tor. I’ll be tweeting this shortly.

    Congrats again! Hope you have an awesome Friday and weekend.

    -Kevin

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 20, 2015 at 8:09 am

      Thanks a lot for stopping by to comment, Kevin.

      I really appreciate it, buddy.

      Yes, I totally agree with what you are saying. The difference between suffering from procrastination and being able to live a productive life is like night and day.

      If you don`t kill the procrastination beast and building your dream, you will be building someone else`s.

      Thanks a lot for your great comment.

      Have a great weekend.

      Tor

  15. Peter Banerjea

    Jun 19, 2015 at 10:48 am

    Hey Tor!
    Excellent post as usual. Reading your posts is a quick way to get a shot of adrenaline! Keep writing mate!
    Peter

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:18 pm

      Hi Peter,

      thanks for stopping by to comment and for your kind words.

      It`s comments like those that makes it worth all the hard work 😉

      Have an awesome day!

      Tor

  16. Anthony Metivier

    Jun 19, 2015 at 10:25 am

    All good points, Tor!

    I too like the “big hairy goals,” concept. It begs another metaphor: the big strong comb (or brush).

    But what do you do with the hydra-effect? I mean, what do you do when tackling one item on your to-do lists means creating another to-do list?

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:25 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to comment, Anthony.

      Here is how i deal with the “Hydra-effect”.

      If you have a task A on your to do list, it spawns into several subtasks, I use a technique I call the Dependant Subtask principle.

      It works like this:

      Task A spawns into 5 subtasks.

      Task A – subtask A1
      – subtask A2
      – subtask A3
      – subtask A4
      – subtask A5

      You need to complete all 5 subtasks in order to complete task A. If there are dependencies among the subtasks, you range them from A1 to A5, where A1 is the subtask you have to complete first, then A2, A3, etc.

      In other words, I don`t create another to do list, I just take a big task and split it into several subtasks.

      I hope that helps.

      Best,

      Tor

      • Anthony Metivier

        Jun 27, 2015 at 7:51 am

        I like the Dependent Subtask principle. I’m going to put it to work – thank!

        • Tor Refsland

          Jun 27, 2015 at 9:49 am

          Great, Anthony.

          Good luck.

          And let me know how that goes 🙂

          Tor

  17. Sue Anne Dunlevie

    Jun 19, 2015 at 10:03 am

    Hi, Tor,

    Great article! I like setting “big hairy goals” – I don’t always hit them but it’s amazing how many happen.

    “Focus” is my word this year – after consulting with you, I check email much less now.

    Thanks for the info,
    Sue

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:29 pm

      Thanks for stopping by to comment, Sue.

      The secret with “big hairy goals” is actually not necessarily to reach them, but that you will push yourself to achieve a BETTER results than if you didn`t set a high goal.

      Nothing is worse than to procrastinate by always setting realistic goals, which you will hit every single time.

      Setting goals is like training in the gym. If you never increase the amount of weights you lift, you will not progress according to your true potential 😉

      Focus is indeed an important ingredient when it comes to increasing your productivity, reaching your goals, being present and more happy.

      Best,

      Tor

  18. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 19, 2015 at 2:58 am

    The three things that I like here that have proved to be the most beneficial for me is having a why, having a plan, and taking action. When you have a why for what you want to do in life and you wake up to your why and a dream, you have motivation. After you have motivation, you need a plan of action, and after you have a plan, you need to take action. This are the true keys to success for me and you nailed it in detail in this article. Thanks for sharing!

    • Tor Refsland

      Jun 19, 2015 at 1:35 pm

      Thanks for commenting and for your kind words, Lawrence.

      Yes, reaching your goals isn`t really that complicated.

      It`s actually SIMPLE (but not easy).

      If you were going to go skiing for 10 kilometers the first time in your life, and you had never done it before, you would probably suck at it.

      The weather might be bad, your technique would be probably be far from perfect, and your skis might not be prepared in the best way.

      However, the only thing standing between you and the 10 kilometers finish line, is if you decide to QUIT.

      It doesn`t matter how bad the weather is, how tired and fed up you are, or how much you suck at skiing.

      If you have a strong enough WHY and you continue to move forward, you WILL reach the finish line eventually.

      That is basically how reaching your goals work 😉

      Have an awesome day.

      Best,

      Tor

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How To Make The Next Big Decision In Your Life.

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At regular intervals in your life, you have to make that challenging next big decision.

Life goes along just fine until one day you instinctively know that you have to make a giant change. This change comes about because we need to keep growing. Otherwise we die inside.

Making that next big decision has been something I’ve had to become an expert in over the last 12 months. I had to make the following big decisions:

– Am I always going to be a salesperson or can I go back to being a leader again?
– Is it possible to overcome my fear of public speaking so I can inspire people?
– Is traveling the world something I’m always going to be stopped from doing?
– Where is my love life going? Will I always be single or with someone who’s not right?

These have been very tough decisions to make.

I’ve had some epic failures trying to answer these questions. Here are some examples:

– I tried becoming more technical in my career. I hated it. I only enjoy high-level technical info.
– I gave a few speeches and sucked big time. My face was as red as a tomato.
– I went on a few overseas trips and fear nearly got the best of me.
– I made a bold move to go on lots of dates and find a girl that was right for me. Most of my attempts failed – except one.

Right now, the reason I’m writing this blog post is because I need to change my career. I’ve stopped learning. I’m starting to think I know everything in my field of expertise. I’ve become comfortable. I’m experiencing frustration because I’m surrounded by the wrong people.

These are all warning signs that it’s time to make the next big decision in your life.

 

Making the next big decision is playing on the offense.

Playing on the offense means that you are being proactive. It means you are skating to where the puck in Ice Hockey is going, not where it is right at this point in time.

The moment you start playing defense and protecting your position, you stop growing.

“Standing still is like being in the middle of a battlefield with no gun and no ammo and hoping not to get shot”

To stay on the offense, you have to recognize the signs I mentioned above and then make that big decision. When you’re forced to make that next big decision, that’s when you’re screwed. Being forced to make the decision means that you no longer have time on your side.

You end up settling for second best because you are in a hurry to make that big decision and you can’t proactively figure out what’s right for you. You don’t get the chance to speak with your network or your mentors and sense check what your next move is going to be.

 

Become comfortable with not having all the answers.

Making the next big decision will require you to be okay with not having all the answers. While you can do your research and speak to people who you trust about the decision, you won’t know the outcome until you try.

Maybe you’ll hate your next career move.
Maybe starting a business is the worst idea for you.
Maybe marrying that person will end in divorce.

It’s impossible to know the answers beforehand so you have to understand that things could go your way or they could end in disaster. This is a positive.

“You either get what you want, or you get to learn one of those life lessons that will help you become more self-aware and make you more resilient”

 

Not making that big decision is far worse.

You’ll know when you’ve reached the crossroad. Deep down you’ll know when it’s time to make that next gigantic step. Ignoring the signs is far worse than making that big decision and then having it all blow up in your face.

Failing to make that big decision ends up in regret.

“Regret slowly eats away at your confidence and your ability to be courageous”

Your head becomes full of white noise that drowns out the good ideas and clear thinking that will make you successful.

Go and meet people who are seventy years of age and older at a retirement village. Listen to their regrets and the decisions they wish they made. This will give you perspective. Continually dreaming about where that next big decision could lead is a waste of your energy.

Try something new for three months and then if it doesn’t work out it’s cool. There are thousands of opportunities and there is no one thing, no one person, no one idea, no one business that will give you everything you want.

 

Prepare and execute.

Big decisions creep up on you like a snake ready to bite you in the ass for disrupting its sunbaking session with your loud ass walking. If you don’t prepare, then you’ll get taken by surprise. Get good at writing lists on your phone.

Be prepared for the possible outcomes of your big decision and work out if there are more positives than negatives.

Once you are prepared, face into the decision and execute. Take the island and burn the boats behind you. Rip up your Plan B and execute like your life depends on it (well it does actually).

 

Be prepared to be blindsided.

That’s right. Surprises are going to happen. You can plan and still have the whole decision blow up in your face. Be prepared for stuff to come out of nowhere and risk everything you’ve put on the line.

I’m about to make my next career move and there are going to be things I can’t see. People are always going to tell you that working with them in their business is going to be amazing. They sell you the dream work-life balance, how great the people are, how you’re going to change the world.

It’s near impossible to know if they’re full of the brown stuff, but that’s okay. Trust your gut. If it all falls apart, then you get to make the next big decision far quicker than you expected.

In my case, I’ve had so many big decisions go wrong that I’ve become an expert in making big decisions and preparing for the myriad of outcomes that could transpire.

 

When would now be a good time?

That’s what I tell myself when I’m faced with a big decision. The best time to decide is right now. It will never be the right time. You’ll never have enough knowledge, you’ll never be perfect, you’ll never be ready, the economy will never be right.

So if there’s never a good time, then the best time has to be now. You can’t predict the future so you may as well focus on right now and take the wild bull that is your life by the horns.

Act with courage and now will always be a good time. Keep jumping at pretend shadows and you’ll never make a decision.

 

Failing to make decisions is what’s stopping you from moving forward.

If you feel you’re not where you want to be or you’re unhappy with any part of your life, it’s because you haven’t made the big decisions.

You’re fat? Change your diet and go to the gym.
You’re broke? Learn to control your spending.
You’re unhappy? Decide to stop focusing on yourself and focus on others.
You’re poor? Go on the Internet and find ways to make extra money.

There’s always an answer to your problems. The answer is always to make the next big decision with courage. The answer is always to believe in yourself. Everything will work out for the best. Trust me.

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5 Ways to Tap Into Your Intuitive Wisdom as You Design a Successful Life

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Success, true success, can only be experienced when you are living life based on your particular design. The best way to know and design a life based on this is to be in constant connection with the wisdom present within you. Wisdom that goes beyond yourself and that, very possibly, put you together originally. People call it different names and intuition is a great way to describe it.

As a spiritual person, you know the power of the intuition. Being able to live from a place of wisdom beyond yourself allows you to find solutions that surprise and delight. These solutions also give you a sense of quiet power as well as you know you are never alone and always completely guided.

For me, intuition changed my life. It took me from working my pharmacist job with no hope for a respite to being a business owner and spiritual teacher living a purpose-driven life.

Here are 5 ideas for you to support your journey to living a more intuitive life:

1. Daily Practice

There can sometime be the assumption that unless something comes to one naturally, then it is not theirs to develop. That is nonsense. Most, if not all, good habits have to be developed. A consistent practice is needed, if you are to experience the benefits of a new skill.

Success is a habit. Each morning, I wake up earlier than my household (Usually 4am) and I sit in silence. I connect with source. I seek guidance for the day ahead. This is a habit I’ve developed.

Each day, the things you make time for are designing or destroying your life. Could you find an extra 20 minutes each day to practice quieting yourself down and connecting with the wisdom within you? Be consistent with the timing each day for long enough to build a habit. Some say 21 days, others say 40 days. For this habit, I would suggest that you make a decision to do it daily and at some point, it becomes a normal and natural part of your life whatever else is going on.

“At any moment, the decision you make can change the course of your life for the better.” – Tony Robbins

2. Quiet Yourself

We live in a very busy world – There is always something happening around you. Always some stimulation to distract you. You have to consciously choose to create space to be quiet. As mentioned earlier, you want to take 20 minutes or so a day to develop a practice and in that time, learn to still your thinking as much as possible, learn to tune into flow.

I use breathing and sometimes, candles to do this. I sit in silence staring at a candle and allowing intuitive flashes to come through or I simply pay attention to my breathing until I feel a stillness come over me. Any errant thoughts that try desperately to get my attention, are written in my journal with the intention of dealing with them later. This calms me down as the thoughts feel as though they are being acknowledged.

3. Suspend Judgement & Disbelief

As you begin working your intuition muscle, you will wonder if you are just talking to yourself or if you are making things up. In the session, refuse to humour that thinking. Instead, make a note of what you are feeling, seeing and hearing. You can have an intuition buddy and you can run things by them after the session to see what they intuitively feel but while you are choosing to tap into source within, suspend all judgement and allow what comes through to come through. It is a very tentative thing to sense your intuition and if you keep rejecting what tries to come through you, the flow will feel stuck.

“Failure is not a single cataclysmic event. You don’t fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgement repeated every day.” – Jim Rohn

4. Come with Intent

This is something I teach clients because having a question you are seeking an answer to, can help with the calming of the mind. Sometimes, the intention is simply to develop my relationship with the source and so my intent is to listen. I generally then start with ‘Please speak to me’. Other times, there is something I specifically want to know the answer to and so I lead with that question. Having an intention keeps you focused.

5. No Desperation

Unfortunately, if you are too desperate about getting a specific answer, you will find it hard to still your mind. It is best to be in an open and receptive mood. How can you do that when you are actually desperate for an answer?  

Something I would do then, is to let calmness be my intention. I would seek guidance on how to still myself and reduce the feeling of desperation which also then has the effect of allowing me to think more clearly anyway. The other thing I do is write out my vision and goals first and keep my mind on those. If you focus on the need, you remain in the need and you remain reactive to the need. If you focus on the vision and the goal, then you become creator which is your true nature anyway.

Which of these 5 things will you implement today?

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4 Essentials to Keep You From Staying Satisfied in Life

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It may sound morally objectionable to not want to stay satisfied in life; however, truth be told, it is actually unethical and morally wrong to not pursue what you really want in life and realize your maximum potential.

The people around us in life, whether it’s family, friends, business associates, people under our leadership, or people in our communities, look at our lives and are impacted. They see how we live out our dreams, and how we overcome the obstacles of life and business. This inspires them to do more, better, or different in their own lives. The reality is, many people’s inspiration and reason to excel is resting on us.

With this great responsibility on our shoulders, that is the first reason we must always strive for more and never be satisfied: someone’s success is depending on your success.

In the tough times or even the times we have reaped the harvest of our hard work, always know we must keep going. Yes, savor the victory, but know that this is not the end. We must keep going. If you don’t do it for you at least think of the people that are watching you and observing your life and do it for them.

Here are some practical tips on how to be continually motivated and not easily satisfied with our successes:

1. Frequently Self-Reflect

Socrates famously stated that an unexamined life is not worth living. We should ask ourselves if THIS (certain point in our lives) is our best that we have to offer. If we are being honest with ourselves, we will truthfully answer, NO. Nonetheless, we must not beat ourselves up nor constantly criticize ourselves but always remind ourselves that there is always room for growth.

Life is all about growth and development, and the goal of all development is to realize our true potential. All organisms grow and when they stop growing, you can be pretty sure that their stage for destruction has set in. Humans are probably the only creatures that do not stop growing. While we have stopped growing physically, our other aspects such as psychology, social standing, ambitions and other areas do not stop growing at all.

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.” – Wayne Dyer

2. Explore The World

You’ve probably heard of people who’ve stayed their entire lives in their birthplace. These types of people sometimes cannot believe the stories they hear from others that have travelled or lived in various places.

To truly see other people and parts of the world, other than where you come from is a must. Not only does it allow one to appreciate what you do have, but it challenges you to want to do more with your life and not settle. Some of the biggest moments of growth for many people happen when they attend missionary trips, participate in community service, business conferences, and even vacationing in other cities or even countries.

This occurs because your everyday existence and routine of life is challenged. You meet other people who may not be where you are in life or are doing exceptionally more than you. Either way, the first can remind you to always be hungry, and the other can remind you that you are not there yet and there is still more to success and growth; we still have room to grow.

So, travel, meet new people, and stretch your understanding of what life looks like and  what is attainable.

3. Be Curious

Most have heard the old saying when you were young, that “curiosity killed the cat.” Take that saying as a caution not a rule. We should be like children in the level of our curiosity. Curious children ask a lot of questions, and sometimes some of these questions even surprise adults. Because of their powerful curiosity, children think differently compared to adults and therein lies the power of having curiosity as a child.

Some very smart children are not satisfied with some answers adults give them at times, because they intuitively know that either the adult didn’t know the answer or they didn’t understand the topic at all. Don’t be satisfied, and always be eternally curious. Research topics that you know little to nothing about, and be open-minded to topics you are familiar with.

4. Be A Perfectionist

Don’t be satisfied with the present way of doing things. Progress would not happen if we did not tinker with doing things better. Consider textile weaving. People of long ago made textile for clothes using traditional weaving. If we had been satisfied with this way of making textile, we would not have discovered modern technologies of spinning and weaving to produce textiles to clothe billions of people across the world.

So never adopt a mindset that anything is ever perfect with no room for improvement. Systems and processes can always be improved.  

It is hard to work with a perfectionist, but without the perfectionist, we would not have the comfort of modern life. Machines are designed for perfection. An imperfect machine would not work, and even if it could be made to work, it would be hazardous to operate. Perfectionists are not satisfied with mediocre output. They always want the best.

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” – Michael Jordan

A study published in the “Journal of Personality” entitled “On the Development of Perfectionism: The Longitudinal Role of Academic Achievement and Academic Efficacy,” by Lavinia E. Damian and colleagues showed that academic achievement predicted relative increases in both perfectionistic strivings and perfectionistic concerns. This is an important development because it suggests that as people become better and better, their level of perfectionistic pursuit also increases.

Never succumb to the mindset of people who achieve some level of success and say “I have arrived” and “I have made it.” For when we accept this, we have placed a ceiling over our potential and a limit on the truly limitless opportunities that await us. Always strive to be, do, achieve, reach, see, and grow more.

How are you making sure you continue to grow daily in order to be great? Share with us some tips in the comments below!

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3 Necessities That Will Help You Think Big and Stay Positive

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To think big and keep hope during difficult times is not easy. When you can’t afford to pay your bills, you haven’t had more than two hours of sleep in a few nights, and you are experiencing some relationship challenges, it can be tough to believe that things will ultimately work out. The ability to see beyond your current circumstances and understand that everything will eventually come together is the life of an entrepreneur.

When you think of a business owner, you frequently also picture the status symbols of success such as money, cars, homes, and other material possessions. However, there is another side to the entrepreneurial lifestyle that deserves attention. Gary Vaynerchuk talks about the 7pm -2 am dream shift, where you dedicate time to work on your business outside of other work and family responsibilities. Committing to a schedule like this is extremely hard.

According to a Fast Company article, businesses that survive past the first year have dropped from 569,419 in 1994 to 106,789 in 2016.  The challenges that often accompany the triumphs of working for yourself can feel insurmountable.

What are three necessities for you to think big and remain positive?

1. Surround yourself with good people

For many of us, it is common to hear and read about the importance of surrounding yourself with positive and productive people. My mother has stressed the importance of this trait since I was at least in kindergarten. When it comes to business, this is extremely important because others can expose you to different levels and types of success. Good people can push you to perform at your best and confirm your sanity when you are at your worst.  

“Choose your friends wisely, and also choose friends that you can trust.” –Elyn Saks

2. Commit to lifelong learning

In this competitive age, you must be willing to grow through a consistent effort of learning new talents and developing skills. As Tim Denning states “without willpower, your mind will take the road of least resistance. Practice teaching your mind discipline.” Reading books, learning new skills and techniques are essential habits of the entrepreneur. They can enable you to develop the ability to think beyond your current personal or business position.  

3. Go within to discover what’s out there

As an entrepreneur, you will need to have a reason for your business that digs deep into your soul. That’s a massive concept, and it is true. In the introduction, I mentioned that the lifestyle of an entrepreneur is not easy. Often times, a daily dosage of meditation or prayer is necessary to make it to the end of the day.

Without something within you like a burning desire to make an impact or the feeling that you work is part of a higher calling, the temptation to quit will be too strong. My recommendation is prayer and meditation to identify your purpose for business and to empower you through the difficult times.

“Discipline is the bridge between goal and accomplishment” – Jim Rohn

So, what are the practical steps to big thinking and positivity? The details of the process will be different for everyone, but universally it begins with the creation of daily goals and ends with consistent execution. The small steps lead to larger victories.

Once you have the right people in your circle, the self-discipline to continue learning, and a profound reason to succeed, the next step is to make things happen. You can have all the resources and mindsets in place, but if you are not willing to take action, it is useless. Use today as an opportunity to make progress on transforming your dream into a reality.

How do you stay positive? Comment below!

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